2 minutes ago, oldhippy said:

Should be in the top3:

"Appearing to be a good buddhist at the local wat."

Or as it was in the 19th century for  christians: a pillar of the church.

Gleaning winning lottery numbers!! Must be included.

 

Marco! Rewrite the list please. Add in these new thoughts.

1 minute ago, owl sees all said:

Gleaning winning lottery numbers!! Must be included.

 

Marco! Rewrite the list please. Add in these new thoughts.

I agree,i knew 11th was far too high ,what the hell was i thinking,i even left out a weekly visit [or more] to the salon and a massage,taking selfies,talking half the day on the phone,never out of hands reach unless i call my God owl i shall have to totally revise it.

2 minutes ago, marko kok prong said:

I agree,i knew 11th was far too high ,what the hell was i thinking,i even left out a weekly visit [or more] to the salon and a massage,taking selfies,talking half the day on the phone,never out of hands reach unless i call my God owl i shall have to totally revise it.

A man needs a purpose in his life.

(and a maid, according to the Neil Young song, hey, my screen name is oldhippy, so allow me to ramble about Neil Young).

Marko, this could be the purpose of your life: the ultimate top 100 (100, not 20 or so, because it would be nice to have farang husband in  the list too).

 

On 7/1/2017 at 10:26 PM, Rc2702 said:

Must be hundreds of cases like this and it seems like an opportunity for some former military honcho to set up a reform school whereby an intervention is performed to turn lazy good for nothing self pitying layabouts into volunteering to work for 6 months with no pay in a harsh labour style camp.

Snobbish, typically colonial, racist rant. You could probably do yourself a favour by keeping your pea-brain family opinions to yourself. Does it make you feel taller when you pull down others around you?

Have revised list 

1;Family

2 ;Money

3;food

4;Friends

5;having sanuk with friends

6; gleaning lotto ticket numbers

7;buying lotto tickets 

8;you building a house/or doing up existing dwelling

9;you buying car/motorsai 

10; weekly [or more] lenghty visit to the beauty salon

11; weekly [or more] massage,my girl goes for at least a two hour full,and i mean full,oil body massage to her friends Alissa's at least once a week

12;taking selfies

13;looking like a good Buddist

14;talking and texting at least half the waking hours on the phone

15;The dog 

16; extended family

17;sleeping

18;the cat

19;buying shit clothes at the weekly market that come apart in about a week

20;cleaning up to eye level

21;possibly you.

So more realistic,21,blimey if that was the English premeir league i would be relegated.

Actually i would not even be in it only 20 teams now.

20.cleaning up to eye level euhhh - what about being selectively blind / closing eyes ?

33 minutes ago, oldhippy said:

20.cleaning up to eye level euhhh - what about being selectively blind / closing eyes ?

Cobwebs do not exist in Thailand.

1 hour ago, marko kok prong said:

Odyesseus,

  Hey Buddy hope your okay,look don't give up on Thai women they can be great,but your have to realise,that the Falang is way down on the list,;

1; Family

2;money

3;food

4; Friends

5;having sanuk with friends

6;you building or doing up their house

7;buying them car/motorsai/gold

8; the dog

9; extended family

10;sleeping

11; possibly you. 

 

^ Sounds quite sophisticated :

1 . Sleeping

2 . Eating

3 . Watching TV or phone

4. Alcohol

5 . Thinking of a scheme which will cost me and she will benefit

Thats about it, really

   

Just now, sanemax said:

^ Sounds quite sophisticated :

1 . Sleeping

2 . Eating

3 . Watching TV or phone

4. Alcohol

5 . Thinking of a scheme which will cost me and she will benefit

Thats about it, really

   

Please see my revised list,i have done extensive research to reach this point,maybe i could apply for a grant at some uni,or other scientific body,it has cost me no small amount of time ,blood ,sweat and no,i have to be honest no tears,but i feel such an in depth study should be rewarded ,i will of course go on to produce a paper explaining each of the numbers i have quoted in some depth,that should at least make this weekend when all bars are closed and all familiar avenue's of pleasure are denied somewhat of an easier burden to bear. Fear not for me good sir,i have plentiful supplies hoarded at my house,and no doubt this research may well keep me up into the small hours,unless i get very drunk,which on present consumption i would say is more than likely.

Missed a few days and man has that brought out the worst.  Good luck to all you guys. Please get out as fast as you can.

 

This thread should be compulsory reading for any farang wanting to get married.

On 05/07/2017 at 1:54 PM, owl sees all said:

These post are quite supportive of each other. A sort of 'all in the same boat' syndrome. 

 

It's easy to accentuate the negative aspect of the farang/Thai relationship. I have a good life here. I'm OK for money (that helps) the BinL - as in OP - has not been in the village for over a year (still owes me 50k Baht though.) Life's generally good. I have a daughter that I'm proud of and have a couple of farang friends visit from time to time.

 

So when I reflect I only really get this nastiness/jealously/ranting about 10 days a month.

 

I guess one has to take the 'rough with the smooth' in life and as the saying goes "you make your bed etc.." 

Owl, 10 out of 30 is just too much mate. 1 in 30 I could go with. Don't waste a third of your life. Said with no malice and in the nicest way possible. I know it's never easy.

2 hours ago, transam said:

Not para's....

Unless you happen to be one of the uppity Irish a few years ago.....

1 hour ago, marko kok prong said:

Please see my revised list,i have done extensive research to reach this point,maybe i could apply for a grant at some uni,or other scientific body,it has cost me no small amount of time ,blood ,sweat and no,i have to be honest no tears,but i feel such an in depth study should be rewarded ,i will of course go on to produce a paper explaining each of the numbers i have quoted in some depth,that should at least make this weekend when all bars are closed and all familiar avenue's of pleasure are denied somewhat of an easier burden to bear. Fear not for me good sir,i have plentiful supplies hoarded at my house,and no doubt this research may well keep me up into the small hours,unless i get very drunk,which on present consumption i would say is more than likely.

Alright guys, it's a party at Marko's pad........

 

28 minutes ago, rhodie said:

Owl, 10 out of 30 is just too much mate. 1 in 30 I could go with. Don't waste a third of your life. Said with no malice and in the nicest way possible. I know it's never easy.

Things have never really changed from the courting days. I was <f------ up> when I got here in the first place (personal reasons) and when I met the wife I mistook her jealously for caring and protectionism. She also used to tell me about her childhood. Constant scoldings, whackings etc. She married a Thai man, from Nan, I think. She told me that he put her in hospital a few time through beatings.

 

After her divorce she knocked around Thailand doing different things; sewing factory, hotel cleaning etc. Then we met. I thought I could really make a difference to her life.

 

After we married we settled down to village life. I liked the life but had run-ins, just as many ex-pats do here, with the 'family' (OP).

 

The problems that I encountered many years ago - but chose to disregard or underestimate - are, if anything, worse now.

 

BUT!! Twenty good days a month is not too bad; considering.

 

1 minute ago, The Dark Lord said:

Alright guys, it's a party at Marko's pad........

 

Can I.........

Ok guys,for those of you still following.

 

warm cooked food outside the door which was ignored was removed this morning and replaced with two loaves of bread (?) 

 

itching to open the bag to see if there is a packet of cigs in there as I just finished my last one but to to so would be a self betrayal.

1 minute ago, transam said:

Can I.........

Yo man you play too? 

4 minutes ago, owl sees all said:

Things have never really changed from the courting days. I was confused when I got her in the first place (personal reasons) and when I met the wife I mistook her jealously for caring and protectionism. She also used to tell me about her childhood. Constant scoldings, whackings etc. She married a Thai man, from Nan, I think. She told me that he put her in hospital a few time through beatings.

 

After her divorce she knocked around Thailand doing different things; sewing factory, hotel cleaning etc. I thought I could really make a difference to her life.

 

After we married we settled settled down to village life. I liked the life but had run-ins, just as many ex-pats do here, with the 'family' (OP).

 

The problems that I encountered many years ago - but chose to disregard or underestimate - are, if anything, worse now.

 

BUT!! Twenty good days a month is not too bad; considering.

 

The most depressing post in this thread so far.

 

11 minutes ago, transam said:

Can I.........

 

9 minutes ago, The Dark Lord said:

Yo man you play too? 

Marco and Transam can play,  you can sing, the other poor downtrodden posters on this thread can harmonise and I'll do a stand up comedy routine on ex-pats living in Thailand.

 

Put it on YouTube!!

Twenty pages, so time for a first intermediate overview.

What do we have so far? 

 

On the positive side:

>>> we have permanently eradicated the " stiff upper lip " nonsense we were brought up with

>>> we all have a smile on our face - or is that rigor mortis?

On the negative side:

>>> we tried, we failed, life is a bitch

 

On 7/2/2017 at 7:20 AM, bannork said:

Recommend to the parents that the idler becomes a monk.you can dress it up as claiming he need to learn actions, or non-actions in his case, have consequences, ie no work , no food.

Alternatively, as others wisely warn, cutting off funds for the parents will result in you being considered heartless. Do your sisters- in - law feel the same way as you, and does your wife? If there is agreement all round, then you could try to get the parents to move out for a while to live with one of the daughters ( if they live far enough away), and explain there is not enough room for brother-in-law to come too. Left at home alone with no funds, he may suddenly feel the urge to get a job.

 

Becoming a monk can also be positioned as gaining status for the family.

20 minutes ago, oldhippy said:

Twenty pages, so time for a first intermediate overview.

What do we have so far? 

 

On the positive side:

>>> we have permanently eradicated the " stiff upper lip " nonsense we were brought up with

>>> we all have a smile on our face - or is that rigor mortis?

On the negative side:

>>> we tried, we failed, life is a bitch

 

Because you hooked up with 1.

42 minutes ago, The Dark Lord said:

Alright guys, it's a party at Marko's pad........

 

My Goodness,you boys are on a roll today.

 

Yeah,it would be a great party.

 

Here's one for Marko's list.

The accumulation of cheap plastic shoes just outside the front door,strategically placed for me to trip over at 5 am in the morning when I let the dog out for his morning check of the perimeter.

Just now, Been there done that said:

Because you hooked up with 1.

Some believe in Rent not Buy.

Some believe in Buy not Rent.

Both choices  can turn out well or bad.

 

4 hours ago, marko kok prong said:

Oh come on Transam,surely you remember his heartrending stories of how he could not see his kids and life was so cruel blah,blah,blah,i don't think he even lives here now,so why he still posts i don't know.I am not picking on the bloke but jeez many of us have similiar stories,just that Ben seemed to go on about it a bit,but i sure hope he is doing okay.

Of what I remember to have read from him, you, and others on this thread, absolutely have no reason to pity yourselves. 

 

1 hour ago, oldhippy said:

Some believe in Rent not Buy.

Some believe in Buy not Rent.

Both choices  can turn out well or bad.

 

I am firmly convinced that one of the causes of the problems is the fantasy right brained world that they inhabit on farcebook/line every day for many hours.

 

Thus they are perfectly entitled to expect to live in a mansion,on their own private island to which they commute by helicopter and/or Gulfstream jet.Their 742 friends tell them so.even tho' such "friends" inhabit the same dogboxes as they came from.

 

We are such total losers in comparison...only a modern house,air conditioning..cars,new motorcycles etc.

 

Every time  my wife has a hissy fit,which is pretty much every day now,I ask "Who have you been talking to on your miscommunication device?"

1 hour ago, oldhippy said:

On the positive side:

>>> we have permanently eradicated the " stiff upper lip " nonsense we were brought up with

>>> we all have a smile on our face - or is that rigor mortis?

On the negative side:

>>> we tried, we failed, life is a bitch

Like it!! Dark humour there.

 

Yes it's time for a stock take after 20 pages.

 

Positive side. We are still alive - we have TvisaForum - UK football starts next month.

Negative side. We are still alive - still married to the wife - been Thainessed - skint.

 

Only joking about still being alive.