First arrived in Thailand in 1962 aged 21, and with little experience of intimacy with women. Left after a month, a changed young man. Was I a 'sexpat' ? I was an expatriate who had sex in Thailand so I suppose I was depending, that is, on how 'sexpat' is defined. It appears to be a term of abuse invented by the gutter press in the UK. It bothers me, given that I live in Thailand and I have been happily married to a Thai lady for 40 years, but not that much.