OK... an xbf of mine is in the neighborhood and he's always calling me, telling me that he is such a good dude and that I can't find someone better, black-mailing me "that he will tell a co-worker of mine that I was seeing him every night and he was paying me all along," threatened me that he'll pay lawyers or street people to revoke my teaching license and work permit and he doesn't care if he pays them 2K$ or 5K$. He even threatened that he works for the US gov't and that somoene like me is NOTHING.

In the last couple of days, he's been hanging out in a restaurant (sitting on the same chair everyday) where my friends go and he talks to them about me and about US. I bumped into him on my way out of work, and this morning he was in the school soi exercising. Is this guy stalking me?

What are Thai laws about stalking? How can we tell if someone is stalking us?

A co-teacher of mine said that I need to start gathering evidences. Keep his text msgs, e-mails and keep my digital camera handy. He said that I should take pics of the guy every time he shows himself up. Then, report him to the police.

Sorry... gotta go. Have a class.

I'd have thought someone so obsessed with attracting attention to herself would have welcomed this.

8 minutes and her usual gang of slobbering bootlicks haven't rushed to defend their queen yet?

8 minutes and her usual gang of slobbering bootlicks haven't rushed to defend their queen yet?

Oh, they will. Just wait. They are probably lurking. Maybe the ex boyfriend is a member of TV?

there seems to be a lot of BEDLAM in your life graceless fawn. Just about every post ive read is about someone stalking you, flashing you or wanting you. Tell me this isn't so.

OK... if you're just here to give me crap then, pls. don't type and reply to this post at all.

I am getting sick and tired of the flaming!

Thanks!

OK... if you're just here to give me crap then, pls. don't type and reply to this post at all.

I am getting sick and tired of the flaming!

Thanks!

OK... an xbf of mine is in the neighborhood and he's always calling me, telling me that he is such a good dude and that I can't find someone better, black-mailing me "that he will tell a co-worker of mine that I was seeing him every night and he was paying me all along," threatened me that he'll pay lawyers or street people to revoke my teaching license and work permit and he doesn't care if he pays them 2K$ or 5K$. He even threatened that he works for the US gov't and that somoene like me is NOTHING.

In the last couple of days, he's been hanging out in a restaurant (sitting on the same chair everyday) where my friends go and he talks to them about me and about US. I bumped into him on my way out of work, and this morning he was in the school soi exercising. Is this guy stalking me?

What are Thai laws about stalking? How can we tell if someone is stalking us?

A co-teacher of mine said that I need to start gathering evidences. Keep his text msgs, e-mails and keep my digital camera handy. He said that I should take pics of the guy every time he shows himself up. Then, report him to the police.

Sorry... gotta go. Have a class.

Do as your friend suggests....you could also approach him and warn him off...take a friend with you as a witness.

I forgot to mention...... He searched for me in My Space and Friendster. (I didn't even tell him that I had accounts there!)

Anyway, last night sucked. The threats he threw at me while we were talking on the phone were very terrible.

And NO........I do not think everybody likes me or anything like that. Incidents do happen in my life..... some happen coz I've messed-up, things I did in the past (decisions, choices, etc.),some are due to wrong choices, some just spontaneous and there are things that happened coz of what others did (whether they are my friends or not, family or not).

I haven't been this freaked-out! I had panic attacks last night!

Anyway, this dude (the x) I'm talking about is older than me. (I know, that was a very wrong choice, but I guess, I saw him as an adult figure at that time.)

I do am not vain and I do not think I am Ms Beautiful or that I am a princess. In fact, I only have 1 real friend here in BKK and she's a Filipino as well.......... Of course, I used to party like crazy, but didn't make any good friends really. (Besides, I've been DRY for 2 weeks. Finally, I'm alcohol-free.) Been here for 6 years and I only have ONE xbf. Dating someone as of the moment though!

Aight.. If you flame me go ahead, but I'd rather if you keep your judgemental thoughts to yourselves. I need help right now coz I'm freaking out!

I forgot to mention...... He searched for me in My Space and Friendster. (I didn't even tell him that I had accounts there!)

Anyway, last night sucked. The threats he threw at me while we were talking on the phone were very terrible.

I do not think everybody likes me or anything like that. Incidents do happen in my life..... some happen coz I've messed-up, things I did in the past (decisions, choices, etc.),some are due to wrong choices, some just spontaneous and there are things that happened coz of what others did (whether they are my friends or not, family or not). I haven't been this freaked-out!

I had panic attacks last night!

Anyway, this dude (the x) I'm talking about is about 15 years older than me. (I know, that was a very wrong choice, but I guess, I saw him as an adult figure at that time.)

I do am not vain and I do not think I am Ms Beautiful or that I am a princess. In fact, I only have 1 real friend here in BKK and she's a Filipino as well.......... Of course, I used to party like crazy, but didn't make any good friends really. (Besides, I've been DRY for 2 weeks. Finally, I'm alcohol-free.) Been here for 6 years and I only have ONE xbf. Dating someone as of the moment!

Aight.. If you flame me go ahead, but I'd rather if you keep your judgemental thoughts to yourselves. I need help right now coz I'm freaking out!

Contact Mills and Boon soonest

OK... an xbf of mine is in the neighborhood and he's always calling me,...

Been here for 6 years and I only have ONE xbf.

You should choose more wisely in the future.

The answer is quite simple......just stalk him back - thats why I stalk Kayo you see, he used to stalk me

No but seriously though, be careful, stay away from him - and most importantly IGNORE the weirdo, it will hopefully just die down eventually. In my experience (yes, people stalk me all the time ) that is the most likely outcome - and I hope it will be the case for you. Take care x

The answer is quite simple......just stalk him back - thats why I stalk Kayo you see, he used to stalk me

No but seriously though, be careful, stay away from him - and most importantly IGNORE the weirdo, it will hopefully just die down eventually. In my experience (yes, people stalk me all the time ) that is the most likely outcome - and I hope it will be the case for you. Take care x

Thanks Soph.

You're very cool!

From my experiences, if a person is mentally ill enough, (s)he can stalk someone for years.

First thing to do is, never, ever, respond to his calls/emails/texts. Ever. By responding to him, he knows he can control you. Ignore all his attempts to contact you. ALL. If you ignore 9 emails/calls from him and answer to the 10th, he knows persistence pays, and all your patience was just a waste.

If he sends enough of abusive emails, collect all evidences and file a complaint to his ISP. I know for a fact that this works.

If he physically stalks you enough, get a witness and file a report to the police.

If he's not a total f*ckwit, he should know that it's not worth it and bugger off.

I've just got mine off my back a couple of weeks ago (cyberstalking, threatening, abusing, insulting me). So, stand up for yourself. I can't explain how I felt when I received "We have dealt with your offender" email. You have to experience it yourself.

Good luck.

From my experiences, if a person is mentally ill enough, (s)he can stalk someone for years.

First thing to do is, never, ever, respond to his calls/emails/texts. Ever. By responding to him, he knows he can control you. Ignore all his attempts to contact you. ALL. If you ignore 9 emails/calls from him and answer to the 10th, he knows persistence pays, and all your patience was just a waste.

If he sends enough of abusive emails, collect all evidences and file a complaint to his ISP. I know for a fact that this works.

If he physically stalks you enough, get a witness and file a report to the police.

If he's not a total f*ckwit, he should know that it's not worth it and bugger off.

I've just got mine off my back a couple of weeks ago (cyberstalking, threatening, abusing, insulting me). So, stand up for yourself. I can't explain how I felt when I received "We have dealt with your offender" email. You have to experience it yourself.

Good luck.

Sounds to me like eminently sensible advice.

I would certainly include the police in this business at the earliest opportunity.

Sorry to hear you have also been having problems, LovelyCutie

Good luck and take care to both of you.

From my experiences, if a person is mentally ill enough, (s)he can stalk someone for years.

First thing to do is, never, ever, respond to his calls/emails/texts. Ever. By responding to him, he knows he can control you. Ignore all his attempts to contact you. ALL. If you ignore 9 emails/calls from him and answer to the 10th, he knows persistence pays, and all your patience was just a waste.

If he sends enough of abusive emails, collect all evidences and file a complaint to his ISP. I know for a fact that this works.

If he physically stalks you enough, get a witness and file a report to the police.

If he's not a total f*ckwit, he should know that it's not worth it and bugger off.

I've just got mine off my back a couple of weeks ago (cyberstalking, threatening, abusing, insulting me). So, stand up for yourself. I can't explain how I felt when I received "We have dealt with your offender" email. You have to experience it yourself.

Good luck.

Thanks for the sensible advice LovelyCutie.

I freaked-out for a bit and was lost for awhile. Tonight, I went grocery shopping and I was too paranoid and very very jumpy. I was turning my head to from side to side, checking my back, checking corners, etc., much too often. I also stopped at corners to check for tails. I ain't dramatic at all, but this guy scares the <deleted> out of me. And I am paranoid right now coz this is my first encounter with a stalker.

I am a bit embarrass for acting that way (too paranoid, too jumpy, too nervous, too panicky), but I just cannot help it. It's hard for me to calm down right now.

Anyhoooo, I'm asking a buddy of mine to talk to him. Hopefully, he gets the point and backs off.

Thanks for wishing me good luck. I need all the luck in the world right now! (Ain't I a wimp????)

Sounds to me like eminently sensible advice.

I would certainly include the police in this business at the earliest opportunity.

Sorry to hear you have also been having problems, LovelyCutie

Good luck and take care to both of you.

Thanks Mobi D' Ark.

Your well wishes and concern is very much appreciated by yours truly.

-GracelessFawn

GF- an idea for you...

Get yourself a really loud police type whistle. Whenever he calls you, let him have it. Blow it really hard into the phone, then hang up.

I'll bet he stops calling!

GF- an idea for you...

Get yourself a really loud police type whistle. Whenever he calls you, let him have it. Blow it really hard into the phone, then hang up.

I'll bet he stops calling!

R u serious?

GF- an idea for you...

Get yourself a really loud police type whistle. Whenever he calls you, let him have it. Blow it really hard into the phone, then hang up.

I'll bet he stops calling!

R u serious?

If i remember rightly, it worked for Bambina when she had a similar problem

Sure. Call it stalking him back - fighting fire with fire.

Unless you think it will piss him off further, and cause him to increase the action. In that case, assign a mute ringtone to his number and ignore him.

As others have advised-

Keep all of the printed communications, emails, sms, etc. to provide to police, ISP's, phone companies, etc.

In terms of physical in-person stalking, get a witness / take some pictures and contact the police.

However, all of these actions will probably have the same effect of pissing him off further, so you're going to have to be tough to sort out a tough problem if the guy won't just give up and go away easily.

I know - its easy for me to say, since I'm a guy, and will never know the feeling of being a woman in a bad situation. I can sympathize though, and hope it comes to an end for you sometime soon.

Sure. Call it stalking him back - fighting fire with fire.

Unless you think it will piss him off further, and cause him to increase the action. In that case, assign a mute ringtone to his number and ignore him.

As others have advised-

Keep all of the printed communications, emails, sms, etc. to provide to police, ISP's, phone companies, etc.

In terms of physical in-person stalking, get a witness / take some pictures and contact the police.

However, all of these actions will probably have the same effect of pissing him off further, so you're going to have to be tough to sort out a tough problem.

I know - its easy for me to say, since I'm a guy, and will never know the feeling of being a woman in a bad situation. I can sympathize though, and hope it comes to an end for you sometime soon.

Thanks Bino. I appreciate the kind words and encouragement.

Thanks for the sensible suggestions. I admire your objectivity and I wish, I was like you instead of being an emotional wreck like me. Anyhooooo, I'm trying to keep my head together. (It's just very hard coz I've been DRY for 2 weeks and I still have moderate to bad head-aches and I'm still a bit shaky. I didn't know that quitting alcohol was gonna do this to me, but I'm glad I've quit. It was something I needed to do.)

Thanks a lot man. I learned a lot from your post.

You say you have a BF now so tell him about it and let him go deal with this guy.

You say you have a BF now so tell him about it and let him go deal with this guy.

Don't have a bf yet. I'm dating... besides, he's not yet in the neighborhood, but will be moving in the next month or two. (Just waiting for his employment pass.)

The answer is quite simple......just stalk him back - thats why I stalk Kayo you see, he used to stalk me

No but seriously though, be careful, stay away from him - and most importantly IGNORE the weirdo, it will hopefully just die down eventually. In my experience (yes, people stalk me all the time ) that is the most likely outcome - and I hope it will be the case for you. Take care x

Thanks Soph.

You're very cool!

Soph's right. If possible change your habits. If necessary change your phone numbers, just don't give him any attention, he'll soon go away.

The answer is quite simple......just stalk him back - thats why I stalk Kayo you see, he used to stalk me

No but seriously though, be careful, stay away from him - and most importantly IGNORE the weirdo, it will hopefully just die down eventually. In my experience (yes, people stalk me all the time ) that is the most likely outcome - and I hope it will be the case for you. Take care x

Thanks Soph.

You're very cool!

Soph's right. If possible change your habits. If necessary change your phone numbers, just don't give him any attention, he'll soon go away.

Thanks Suegha.

Why not just agree to let him bash your back doors in, one last time.

When he's finished say "is that it" and start laughing hystericaly.

My ex wife taught me that one, bitch

Why not just agree to let him bash your back doors in, one last time.

When he's finished say "is that it" and start laughing hystericaly.

My ex wife taught me that one, bitch

That's gross...................

You say you have a BF now so tell him about it and let him go deal with this guy.

Had a similar problem with a girl that I met once years ago. She kept calling at any given day or night time, urging me to marry her and so on...until my wife talked to her and made it clear in no uncertain terms where she can put it.

Phone calls stopped since and now I just get the occasional e-mails that end up in the spam folder...

If you have no b/f now, just let some male person pretend that he is. Should bring you a step forward.