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Dating Despair: Why dating in Bangkok is hard for Thai women

By Prae Sakaowan 

 

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Illustration: Praew Tansanga

 

Dating Despair is a four-part series about why dating in Bangkok sucks. This story is a collection of anecdotes from Thai women who live in the capital.

 

Belle* is 28 years old and has never been on a date in her life.

 

One recent afternoon, in a group chat between six Thai women who went to college together, Belle sent a candid photo of a decent-looking man she came across in her diplomatic career.

 

She sent a message, the kind that has appeared in many thousands of all-girl chats throughout history: “Girls, what should I do? I like him. Help me!”

 

“Smile at him. Remember, you’re a beautiful, chatty, lovely person!” one friend in the group suggested in the way that one offers advice to a friend that you know is destined for disappointment.

 

Full story: https://coconuts.co/custom-feature/dating-despair-dating-bangkok-hard-thai-women/

 
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-- © Copyright Coconuts Bangkok 2018-02-14
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30 minutes ago, yellowboat said:

Just saying "hi" works for a lot of people.  Or "Hi, I like your shoes". 

Is that Dick Masterson's opening?

 

But agreed, Thai women should take a bit of initiative sometimes. It 2018, not the 1950's where you just wait till a man approaches.

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27 minutes ago, Bob12345 said:

Is that Dick Masterson's opening?

 

But agreed, Thai women should take a bit of initiative sometimes. It 2018, not the 1950's where you just wait till a man approaches.

Yes, the smiling green light should come on when interested.  There is that stigma of being "too easy".  The hi-so chicks do not have that, just the middle class. 

 

Dogbert's advice is to just say "hi".   Am a follower of the teachings of Dogbert.

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53 minutes ago, Bob12345 said:

Is that Dick Masterson's opening?

 

But agreed, Thai women should take a bit of initiative sometimes. It 2018, not the 1950's where you just wait till a man approaches.

They doesnt want to be seen "too easy" even if they're like you alot . This doesn't happen to BG or Pros, where they'll ultimately blink their eye and smile once you cross her eyes ..55555

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Why dating is so difficult for Thai women in Bangkok.

Welllllllll.......

Walking around BKK, which is said to be situated in the land of smiles, I have yet to meet or see a woman not having a "non smiling or unfriendly face".

All seem to be a kind of angry, like.

Might that be a reason?

Seen my age and relation I am out of the ratrace, so to say, but I certainly got the impression last time, and the times before, I had to spend some time in Krungthep.

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18 minutes ago, Berkshire said:

It's pretty hard to feel sorry for these women.  This quote from the article says it all....

 

[“I don’t have anyone coming on to me, at least not the ones I like. I’m picky,” she said casually.]

 

 

Obviously they are too stupid to make contact themselves. 28yo and never had a date. Must have good plastics.

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14 hours ago, mdmayes said:

...and care for my family.

Yep  But another problem for Thai ladies is there are lots and lots of them in Bangkok They either take a farang who seem to be disappearing more than ever now because of all the bad vibes they are hearing about Thai ladies or they take a Thai man who usually dont have a job and drink lots of grog so life will be a struggle for them. So they stay single But hope is on the horizon The Us army is in town and they can sponge off them for a while .Amazing what they believe when the soldier says " I love you honey " and get all the sex they want and then disappear back to their wives in the states prob leaving Thai lady behind with a big belly So the life circle goes on 

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14 hours ago, TallGuyJohninBKK said:

And buy or build a house for us...including the extended family.

 

and pay me XX,000 baht per month so I don't have to work...

Omg all these woman say the same thing must come off the same production line :cheesy:

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6 hours ago, Happyman58 said:

Yep  But another problem for Thai ladies is there are lots and lots of them in Bangkok They either take a farang who seem to be disappearing more than ever now because of all the bad vibes they are hearing about Thai ladies or they take a Thai man who usually dont have a job and drink lots of grog so life will be a struggle for them. So they stay single But hope is on the horizon The Us army is in town and they can sponge off them for a while .Amazing what they believe when the soldier says " I love you honey " and get all the sex they want and then disappear back to their wives in the states prob leaving Thai lady behind with a big belly So the life circle goes on 

I'd volunteer to be a "friend with benefits", but I wouldn't qualify for those women because I don't have the body of Adonis or the wallet of Getty to give them the lifestyle they seem to think they are entitled to, being female.

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13 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

I'd volunteer to be a "friend with benefits", but I wouldn't qualify for those women because I don't have the body of Adonis or the wallet of Getty to give them the lifestyle they seem to think they are entitled to, being female.

oh well Beachy Beauty is only skin deep. I am sure you have many other qualities women look for? Big smile is a winner most times. Have you one of them?

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11 hours ago, phantomfiddler said:

I would say that most Thai women have problems dating because of the fact that a large percentage of Thai men are spoiled rotten, selfish, shallow, and basically a waste of time.

Luckily more and more of them are being less influenced by the stigma attached to being seen with a Farang, and I know some well educated ladies who say there is no way they would ever date a Thai man.

Well look at most Thai men In Ubon. They are either laying around, Definitely not working or they are drunk. So you can see why these  educated ladies are not wanting to date a Thai man. Everyday this gorgeous looking well dressed and educated Thai Lady in her late 20s walks past our shop.Not that i look much. Never in 3 years have i seen her with a man. Then again she could be a ladyboy.

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5 hours ago, Happyman58 said:

Well look at most Thai men In Ubon. They are either laying around, Definitely not working or they are drunk. So you can see why these  educated ladies are not wanting to date a Thai man. Everyday this gorgeous looking well dressed and educated Thai Lady in her late 20s walks past our shop.Not that i look much. Never in 3 years have i seen her with a man. Then again she could be a ladyboy.

I see many good looking ladies walking without a man every day. Many of them are on the way to their work, in the lunch break, or on their way back home. I am sure some or maybe even many of them have a boyfriend or husband. The fact that they don't run around with a man at their side means exactly nothing.

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17 hours ago, phantomfiddler said:

I would say that most Thai women have problems dating because of the fact that a large percentage of Thai men are spoiled rotten, selfish, shallow, and basically a waste of time.

Luckily more and more of them are being less influenced by the stigma attached to being seen with a Farang, and I know some well educated ladies who say there is no way they would ever date a Thai man.

I wonder how many Thai men are really like this. Obviously if we talk to Thai women who like to talk with foreigners there is a high chance that they tell us they don't like Thai men because they are lazy, etc. - because that is exactly what we like to hear. And probably that is their personal experience.

 

But there are also many Thai women out there who don't talk much or not at all with foreigners. I guess some or even many of them have a Thai partner. And they don't tell if they are happy with him.

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