I hate to be anal (well maybe) but it was actually a winter's day...

I actually corrected that within a couple of minutes....Ms Gorgon was very quick with her reply....

Truoble is that most of us assosciate California with sunshine and BIKINIS....

I like of wine and cheese.

Are you the cobra that was in Raro's garden?

Sort of,

I'm wearing him, ....

Yes indeed,

In the end, most don't regret what they have done, but what they have not.

As of date I have no regrets, wait a minute, the box is mis-marked,

Apparently I have nothing but regrets, I wouldn't know where to begin.

Hi Ya Snakie ..Where Ya Been ??

Like you I must admit, I recall saying on more than one occasion "If Only" !!!!!

Yeap,

But no need to lament,

Poster gBurns summed it up, ... we can only go on the best data that's available at the time,...

Dam the torpedoes,

I must think hard to find them but yes, these wonderful, beautiful and sexy 16-18 yo blondies that I missed to <deleted> because I was to drunk, or made a stupid decision. Oh sh!it.......

But that is a very long time ago when I was 18-19.

After that I don't regret anything. OK, I have taken some stupid decisions and done stupid things but nothing that I regret because I never think about it. But these blondes........ Ohhhh...

Now I am sitting in Thailand since 5 years because I took a decision 7 years ago.

And she is not blonde and she is not 16-18 yo but she is the most wonderful woman in the world.

So, no regrets!!!!

(except for these blondes..... ohhh sh!t...............)

:D

Every once in a while I get bummed out. I had some things going for me when I was young. Alot more things running against me though. Well, needless to say I didn't do what I set out to do and lost the chance to have my dreams. Such is life, no biggie. Just every now and then I say "I wish I had"

For me, I wished I had joined a band and kept acting. I really wanted to have a career that was creative. I didn't care about money, I just wanted to be creative and love what I did.

So, who else?

Life's too short and the world is too big for woulda, coulda, shoulda. I've had my share of bad decisions and misfortune, some caused by myself and some thrust upon me. But there's no value in dwelling upon it or getting bummed out. What was, was. What is, is. What will be is mostly "up to you."

Like Master Yoda says "Try not. Do or do not. There is no try.”

If you want to do something, then you do it. If you don't do it, then something else has higher priority (and that's not necessarily a bad thing). It just is what it is.

Stay happy, stay focused, keep your priorities in perspective and you'll see your path. Chok dee!

P.S.

FWIW, I know what you mean about the music. I played piano for years as a kid, then quit because I had a bad teacher and was an angry and rebellious teen. I was no child prodigy but I was pretty darn good. How good could I have been? Who knows? I got back to it for a short while, taking a couple terms at uni, but never kept with it. I know music and creative juices are inside me and I have songs that I want to write. But I just can't seem to get it high enough on my priority list. Maybe that's good. Maybe that's bad. For now, it is what it is and I have to accept that, with the hope that maybe there will be time in the future, and keep the fire burning inside until then.

It's fun sometimes to think about what you might have done if you kept doing something, whatever that might have been. Thinking of such things has helped me I believe, it has made me want to be more creative in some capacity, perhaps I will never master an instrument in my life but perhaps I will write a good story, or paint something worth hanging in my home. Who knows.

I've quoted the O.P. and Boon Mee's reply, cos frankly I think it's the best one I've read on here. Most accurate in advice, and with a hint of "though i say this, i also feel that" to it.

LaoPo also got it in one with Ol' Blue eyes Lyrics, too.

My Way is a song that grows stronger in my heart every time I hear it.

You know, Bops, I never finished school, and I was all sure of myself that I'd be a ###### succeful person in anything I chose to do. I could play guitar pretty good for example, and was invited in various bands to play. Whenever it came down to it, though, I bailed out. I got chicken. Afraid of screwing up. Fear of failure/rejection, whatever...

After four years of minimum wage scrounging I got a lucky break in a well paid job. I did what I was hired to do and then resigned. Couldn't face becoming a yuppie, despite the blatant fact that it was my first chance to be "succesful"

But this all led to me going to Thailand. Which in turn led me to care for children (this changes a man beyond any other experience), live on a island, live in Guatemala. Somewhere along the line I got the courage to play on stage, and I played several times in Thailand and more frequently in Guatemala.

Now on the cusp of returning to the UK, I know that I'm going to be seeking out like-minded musicians to go and play with, and I can now do so with no fear. Plus, I've learned how to sing since, too.

Okay, this is a very brief, much cut up and pasted anecdote, yet the point I hope comes across;

All paths lead into another. All we must do is keep walking. At every juncture there is a choice to be made.

Me, I don't think I've made the right choices always. Yet then again maybe I did. Or maybe I didn't even have a choice as such. Not if I was to lead my life the way I should.

It's better to have remorse than regrets, it is sometimes said.

But darn, I wanted to be a rock'n'roll star, and instead, I got to live a rock'n'roll lifestyle, and I survived, and now i'm moving on, perhaps with a touch more responsibility to my nature.

Maybe the paths I've walked, I chose because they were the more scenic ones.

I must think hard to find them but yes, these wonderful, beautiful and sexy 16-18 yo blondies that I missed to <deleted> because I was to drunk, or made a stupid decision. Oh sh!it.......

But that is a very long time ago when I was 18-19.

After that I don't regret anything. OK, I have taken some stupid decisions and done stupid things but nothing that I regret because I never think about it. But these blondes........ Ohhhh...

Now I am sitting in Thailand since 5 years because I took a decision 7 years ago.

And she is not blonde and she is not 16-18 yo but she is the most wonderful woman in the world.

So, no regrets!!!!

(except for these blondes..... ohhh sh!t...............)

:D

Reminds me, after my long and winding path in my last post here, that actually I do have one regret:

17 years old or so, and walking home from a part time job I had in the south of france, exhaushted after a long night, along the beach, these 4 Italian STUNNERS asked me if I knew where a certain nightclub was. I told 'em I'm walking past there, why don't they walk with me? Sure, we all walked up there together, chit-chatting in my broken Italian and their broken french, and finally we reach the club, and they say "Come on in with us, we can thank you with a drink or two?"

I bloody well told them, "thanks, but I'm tired...."

I made up for it in later years, but yeah... That was a regret.

None of the rest of it though, dropping out of school, getting drunk, drugs, etc etc... none of that do I regret.

Well some people might look at my past and assume I have regrets - but I have none. I made a decision a long time ago never to regret anything but instead to take everything as an experience that has helped shape me into who I am now (little bit mad a times!!!) Regret nothing that made you smile, someone once told me - and just about everthing makes me smile!

I regret not picking these numbers for the Euro lottery on friday

14 16 30 36 46 and the star numbers 2 & 8

The jackpot was £66,980,000 and one person won the lot

I regret not picking these numbers for the Euro lottery on friday

14 16 30 36 46 and the star numbers 2 & 8

The jackpot was £66,980,000 and one person won the lot

It would not have brought you happiness, only wealth!

Every once in a while I get bummed out. I had some things going for me when I was young. Alot more things running against me though. Well, needless to say I didn't do what I set out to do and lost the chance to have my dreams. Such is life, no biggie. Just every now and then I say "I wish I had"

For me, I wished I had joined a band and kept acting. I really wanted to have a career that was creative. I didn't care about money, I just wanted to be creative and love what I did.

So, who else?

Life's too short and the world is too big for woulda, coulda, shoulda. I've had my share of bad decisions and misfortune, some caused by myself and some thrust upon me. But there's no value in dwelling upon it or getting bummed out. What was, was. What is, is. What will be is mostly "up to you."

Like Master Yoda says "Try not. Do or do not. There is no try.”

If you want to do something, then you do it. If you don't do it, then something else has higher priority (and that's not necessarily a bad thing). It just is what it is.

Stay happy, stay focused, keep your priorities in perspective and you'll see your path. Chok dee!

P.S.

FWIW, I know what you mean about the music. I played piano for years as a kid, then quit because I had a bad teacher and was an angry and rebellious teen. I was no child prodigy but I was pretty darn good. How good could I have been? Who knows? I got back to it for a short while, taking a couple terms at uni, but never kept with it. I know music and creative juices are inside me and I have songs that I want to write. But I just can't seem to get it high enough on my priority list. Maybe that's good. Maybe that's bad. For now, it is what it is and I have to accept that, with the hope that maybe there will be time in the future, and keep the fire burning inside until then.

It's fun sometimes to think about what you might have done if you kept doing something, whatever that might have been. Thinking of such things has helped me I believe, it has made me want to be more creative in some capacity, perhaps I will never master an instrument in my life but perhaps I will write a good story, or paint something worth hanging in my home. Who knows.

I've quoted the O.P. and Boon Mee's reply, cos frankly I think it's the best one I've read on here. Most accurate in advice, and with a hint of "though i say this, i also feel that" to it.

LaoPo also got it in one with Ol' Blue eyes Lyrics, too.

My Way is a song that grows stronger in my heart every time I hear it.

You know, Bops, I never finished school, and I was all sure of myself that I'd be a ###### succeful person in anything I chose to do. I could play guitar pretty good for example, and was invited in various bands to play. Whenever it came down to it, though, I bailed out. I got chicken. Afraid of screwing up. Fear of failure/rejection, whatever...

After four years of minimum wage scrounging I got a lucky break in a well paid job. I did what I was hired to do and then resigned. Couldn't face becoming a yuppie, despite the blatant fact that it was my first chance to be "succesful"

But this all led to me going to Thailand. Which in turn led me to care for children (this changes a man beyond any other experience), live on a island, live in Guatemala. Somewhere along the line I got the courage to play on stage, and I played several times in Thailand and more frequently in Guatemala.

Now on the cusp of returning to the UK, I know that I'm going to be seeking out like-minded musicians to go and play with, and I can now do so with no fear. Plus, I've learned how to sing since, too.

Okay, this is a very brief, much cut up and pasted anecdote, yet the point I hope comes across;

All paths lead into another. All we must do is keep walking. At every juncture there is a choice to be made.

Me, I don't think I've made the right choices always. Yet then again maybe I did. Or maybe I didn't even have a choice as such. Not if I was to lead my life the way I should.

It's better to have remorse than regrets, it is sometimes said.

But darn, I wanted to be a rock'n'roll star, and instead, I got to live a rock'n'roll lifestyle, and I survived, and now i'm moving on, perhaps with a touch more responsibility to my nature.

Maybe the paths I've walked, I chose because they were the more scenic ones.

I understand everything you have said, like I wrote myself. I have had to redefine what successful is many times. I have had to redefine what my success will be. I am not 28 soon to be 29 and I and still two years at least away from a B.S. Too much of my time was spent "f"ing around, but I had to. Now I know what I know I kwow what I need to do and should do and will do. Thiings are now defined for me. So, regrets are necessary.

No regrets... but I did write this a few years ago (just to remind myself I can't have everything!):

NO BABY

I’m at Poo’s Massage & Sauna, Chalong, Phuket. I know it sounds indulgent, but I come here every weekend — sometimes twice. It costs me under $10 for an hour of Thai massage and herbal steam sauna.

I know Poo is a really weird name, but she is a really savvy lady married to a nice Aussie bloke named Phil. I once had an assistant named Pui and my favourite gal at the local bar is called Porn – so, hey, all the cool people around here have names beginning with P!

Anyway, Prik was massaging my temples at the end of a massage treatment:

“Khun Kerrie, where is your boyfriend?”

In Alaska.

“Oh he vewy busy?”

He’s in Alaska. You know ALASKA?

“Oh, Laska? He come back?”

Maybe.

“You have baby?”

No baby.

“Why not?”

I never found anyone I wanted to have baby with.

“You want?”

Maybe ….. but no fun having baby by myself.

SILENCE

All of a sudden, I recalled reading somewhere about a T-shirt slogan in New York City that read “Oops, I forgot to have a baby!” Those t-shirts sold extremely well to over 40’s career women. I didn’t become a “career” woman until my early thirties, when I realized if I didn’t go to university, gain a degree and gain a profession in a big hurry I’d be an intelligent waitress/ backpacker for the rest of my youthful life and … then what?

So, after a particularly scary incident in Kashmir, northern India, at age 33, I knocked on the door of JCU, Cairns with my tail between my legs. Three gruelling years later, I popped out the other end with a bit of paper in my hand and, wagging my tail behind me, began my new identity. I never realized that having that piece of paper would demand that I grow up so quickly and …be an ADULT. I still travel but everyone is so serious now.

I turned 40 a few months ago. Reality bit me on the bum. Ouch! Hang on a minute — I ‘ve had the freedom, the travel, the life with no rules, the far-out interesting meetings with people you would never ever dream of meeting in the burbs, the education and overseas work. Am I missing something? Oops, I forgot to have a baby.

'I coulda been a contenda...not a bum which is what I am' - Elia Kazan's screenwriter

'and he died alone, amongst negroes and malays...' - Rudyard Kipling

'don't mourn for me when I'm gone...moss don't cling to a rolling stone...' - Joe Hill

Am I missing something? Oops, I forgot to have a baby.

Well, Khall better to have no baby at all than to have one of those..........

LaoPo

I regret not picking these numbers for the Euro lottery on friday

14 16 30 36 46 and the star numbers 2 & 8

The jackpot was £66,980,000 and one person won the lot

It would not have brought you happiness, only wealth!

Who mentioned anything about happiness. The title is about "regrets"

I regret not picking these numbers for the Euro lottery on friday

14 16 30 36 46 and the star numbers 2 & 8

The jackpot was £66,980,000 and one person won the lot

It would not have brought you happiness, only wealth!

Who mentioned anything about happiness. The title is about "regrets"

Okay, it would have brought you nothing but regrets...

I regret not picking these numbers for the Euro lottery on friday

14 16 30 36 46 and the star numbers 2 & 8

The jackpot was £66,980,000 and one person won the lot

It would not have brought you happiness, only wealth!

Who mentioned anything about happiness. The title is about "regrets"

Okay, it would have brought you nothing but regrets...

I'd of shared those regrets with you, BJ.

I regret not picking these numbers for the Euro lottery on friday

14 16 30 36 46 and the star numbers 2 & 8

The jackpot was £66,980,000 and one person won the lot

It would not have brought you happiness, only wealth!

Who mentioned anything about happiness. The title is about "regrets"

Okay, it would have brought you nothing but regrets...

I'd of shared those regrets with you, BJ.

Well we could certainly afford to feed your hair with mice for a long time

'je regret rien...' - Edith Piaf...