Neighbour was angry with me today. Dont know what to do.

[ChipButty]

I dont think it's any different which country you live in,

We had a problem with our neighbours tree dangerously over hanging our house more so the roof and when the storms come blowing all the leafs in the pool.

I had asked them nicely to cut it back off my land if it had come down on the roof it would have done some damage they wern't interested she told me to cut it down it's my problem I stopped being nice to her and sent a letter from the Lawyer with photo evidence stating the law, she cut it back cost about 8000 Baht she's never spoke to me since, like I give a <deleted>,

I'll be on to her again soon it's growing back, 

[thaibeachlovers]

10 minutes ago, ChipButty said:

I dont think it's any different which country you live in,

We had a problem with our neighbours tree dangerously over hanging our house more so the roof and when the storms come blowing all the leafs in the pool.

I had asked them nicely to cut it back off my land if it had come down on the roof it would have done some damage they wern't interested she told me to cut it down it's my problem I stopped being nice to her and sent a letter from the Lawyer with photo evidence stating the law, she cut it back cost about 8000 Baht she's never spoke to me since, like I give a <deleted>,

I'll be on to her again soon it's growing back, 

In NZ the landowner has the right to cut any branches that are over the boundary. Is it different in LOS?

[innosiem]

Go to local police station 
pay them 500 baht to send someone in uniform to come and make sure the truck is parked correct and not blocking traffic etc????
have a gift for the woman, potted plant, fruit basket, to give her (in front of BiB)
her attitude will be totally different
as others have said make sure you clean up ALL the mess your builders made in her garden (and a bit more)
and make sure she knows this will happen
 

[ChipButty]

4 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

In NZ the landowner has the right to cut any branches that are over the boundary. Is it different in LOS?

It's the same here but I knew how much it would cost I had already asked our gardener

Edited July 16, 2020 by ChipButty

[robblok]

I can understand them complaining i would complain if my neighbor would start working on my his place and making a mess of mine. 

 

I would not complain if it was told before and after the work my area would be restored. Its not always about money and offering 500bt is just pittance for inconvenience. 

 

Just make sure they know what will happen and take care of all stuff that falls and make sure they don't have any damage. Make sure there is a thai speaker around.

[1FinickyOne]

26 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

It's not easy at all. Saying it is shows that one doesn't know how to do it properly, IMO.

It is really not that complicated... at least not on a daily basis... I am not talking about ultra formal occasions... just the daily stuff.. but not making some effort to return a wai is rude... though the ones who do not make an effort surely don't care if they are rude and then come on here wondering why they have no Thai friends and calling Thai people unfriendly... 

 

even if your hands are full, you make some effort and laugh and smile... a perfect beautiful wai is not expected... 

[BritManToo]

23 minutes ago, ravip said:

Sometimes, unknowingly, ones 'attitude' attract misery to oneself... Retrospection might help, but no guarantee!

I don't have any problems with my neighbours ..... in a any country.

I ignore them, they ignore me.

[pineapple01]

Hard to give usefull advice without being on sight. Not a good start waving money at an elderly Thai.

[ChakaKhan]

In the middle of the night leave 2 mama cups outside their door, so they get a surprise when they wake up

 

Leave it to them to fight over which flavor they prefer.....kick back and admire your stealth work..ur welcome

[innosiem]

41 minutes ago, pineapple01 said:

Hard to give usefull advice without being on sight. Not a good start waving money at an elderly Thai.

Agreed, offering 500 baht is a real insult 
as it implies no action will be taken
hence why i suggested a gift (to try and correct this)

[MJKT2014]

11 hours ago, bbabythai said:

and I did notice some minor spots of concrete down there. 

Why are you dumping cement on your neighbors? Did you not have some protective barriers up in place to stop this happening? You should not be dropping any rubbish. Waiving 500THB at them to clean up your mess is a big insult. You got to fix this yourself.

 

Presumably you are not Thai and there is a Thai owner to your property, why are they not managing things anyway?

[Pilotman]

12 hours ago, shdmn said:

The best advice I ever read was to just not wai.  Farangs aren't expected to do it and will never do it right anyways. If you do it wrong or to the wrong people you look like an ass.  So just don't, ever.

not true. 

[ravip]

1 hour ago, MJKT2014 said:

Why are you dumping cement on your neighbors? Did you not have some protective barriers up in place to stop this happening? You should not be dropping any rubbish. Waiving 500THB at them to clean up your mess is a big insult. You got to fix this yourself.

 

Presumably you are not Thai and there is a Thai owner to your property, why are they not managing things anyway?

Very true indeed!

Imagine if the roles were reversed, the comments here too would have 'reversed' to a very ugly and untrue version.

'nuff said

[teatime101]

12 hours ago, Puchaiyank said:

You can not put a price on good neighbor relationship...

You are very wise.

[FritsSikkink]

15 hours ago, BritManToo said:

Never initiate a wai to someone of lesser social/financial/educational status than yourself.

They will see you as inferior or weak.

Who says they are of lesser status?

[ravip]

2 minutes ago, FritsSikkink said:

Who says they are of lesser status?

The ones with an inferiority complex.

[bbabythai]

5 hours ago, innosiem said:

Go to local police station 
pay them 500 baht to send someone in uniform to come and make sure the truck is parked correct and not blocking traffic etc????
have a gift for the woman, potted plant, fruit basket, to give her (in front of BiB)
her attitude will be totally different
as others have said make sure you clean up ALL the mess your builders made in her garden (and a bit more)
and make sure she knows this will happen
 

I respect all the replies on this thread but this is the advice I will take. I talked to my staff about the idea and they agree, given the circumstances, that police presence will prevent further issues tomorrow. I just got back from the station and the boss of traffic cop dept said he can do it. I said we just need 1 guy for 1 hour at the beginning. We didnt mention any issues with the neighbours. He said 'oh you need the premium service. 2 guys..' I asked how much and of course he didnt tell me. Anyways, if it means the old lady will not be able to stop me doing the job tomorrow then its worth it. I also intend to take the mother in law. Same age and I think it will work if she translates for me. My wife cannot leave our business. 

 

cheers for your help.

[bbabythai]

3 hours ago, MJKT2014 said:

Why are you dumping cement on your neighbors? Did you not have some protective barriers up in place to stop this happening? You should not be dropping any rubbish. Waiving 500THB at them to clean up your mess is a big insult. You got to fix this yourself.

 

Presumably you are not Thai and there is a Thai owner to your property, why are they not managing things anyway?

Not possible to put protective barriers. Its on the 4th floor and a cliff face down to their yard. My wife could not attend. She works full time at our business

[FritsSikkink]

6 minutes ago, bbabythai said:

Not possible to put protective barriers. Its on the 4th floor and a cliff face down to their yard. My wife could not attend. She works full time at our business

Are you a builder so you know it isn't possible or are you not willing to spend money on a solution that could have prevented this.

Your wife works 24/7?

Offering 500 THB is an insult but offering 10% discount on your business is ridiculous. why would they need to spend money in your business to get compensated? You probably will still make a profit on that.

Now you want to invade their space without consent.

 

You should have talked with them before you started working, bring a nice present, have some drinks and tell them about your issues and ask for their help.  

Edited July 16, 2020 by FritsSikkink

[Kadilo]

11 minutes ago, bbabythai said:

I respect all the replies on this thread but this is the advice I will take. I talked to my staff about the idea and they agree, given the circumstances, that police presence will prevent further issues tomorrow. I just got back from the station and the boss of traffic cop dept said he can do it. I said we just need 1 guy for 1 hour at the beginning. We didnt mention any issues with the neighbours. He said 'oh you need the premium service. 2 guys..' I asked how much and of course he didnt tell me. Anyways, if it means the old lady will not be able to stop me doing the job tomorrow then its worth it. I also intend to take the mother in law. Same age and I think it will work if she translates for me. My wife cannot leave our business. 

 

cheers for your help.

Yeah a couple of cops present should smooth things over. 

[bodga]

15 hours ago, ravip said:

I mean, is that NOT the easiest and best thing to do?

have yet to see a  Thai workman put  down drop sheets  for anything, always amazes me.

[FritsSikkink]

17 minutes ago, bbabythai said:

I respect all the replies on this thread but this is the advice I will take. I talked to my staff about the idea and they agree, given the circumstances, that police presence will prevent further issues tomorrow. I just got back from the station and the boss of traffic cop dept said he can do it. I said we just need 1 guy for 1 hour at the beginning. We didnt mention any issues with the neighbours. He said 'oh you need the premium service. 2 guys..' I asked how much and of course he didnt tell me. Anyways, if it means the old lady will not be able to stop me doing the job tomorrow then its worth it. I also intend to take the mother in law. Same age and I think it will work if she translates for me. My wife cannot leave our business. 

 

cheers for your help.

Sure bringing the cops will help your relationship with your neighbors, if you did it to me, you would never be able to do that work. Hope they will react the same.

Edited July 16, 2020 by FritsSikkink

[colinneil]

28 minutes ago, bbabythai said:

I respect all the replies on this thread but this is the advice I will take. I talked to my staff about the idea and they agree, given the circumstances, that police presence will prevent further issues tomorrow. I just got back from the station and the boss of traffic cop dept said he can do it. I said we just need 1 guy for 1 hour at the beginning. We didnt mention any issues with the neighbours. He said 'oh you need the premium service. 2 guys..' I asked how much and of course he didnt tell me. Anyways, if it means the old lady will not be able to stop me doing the job tomorrow then its worth it. I also intend to take the mother in law. Same age and I think it will work if she translates for me. My wife cannot leave our business. 

 

cheers for your help.

You got a death wish?

Involving the police is the most pathetic/ ridiculous thing possible, you should be ashamed of yourself.

You are in the wrong, not your neighbour.

My wife cannot leave our business, BS.

 

Damned glad your not my neighbour.

[Kadilo]

Seems like the OP is actually encouraging confrontation, if not now then later once plod have moved on. 

[ChipButty]

Dont be getting police around they just might ask you for a work permit, people have been done for working on their own properties 

[Andrew Dwyer]

Life lessons #1363:

How not to deal with grumpy elderly neighbours:

 

1) Insult them by offering money !!

2) Raise your voice !!

3) Really stir things up by involving the local plod !!

 

 

 

[Tanoshi]

It's the village head you should be involving in any village disputes, not the Police.

That's part of their role.

[ravip]

48 minutes ago, bodga said:

have yet to see a  Thai workman put  down drop sheets  for anything, always amazes me.

SO... lets all follow the Thai workmen!

'nuff said

Face saved.

[ravip]

#58 posts. This is the #59th.

You do some work on your property that makes your neighbours property dirty or untidy. Is it not YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to avoid THAT?

 

Really, is this rocket science or a face saving job?

I am not surprised at all your neighbours are on the war path!

Edited July 16, 2020 by ravip

[pookondee]

IMO, you have been given some amazingly silly advice on this thread.

Especially the silly 1990's style advice on wai'ing. ridiculous

 

And after whats happened already, the pot-plant/gift thing is just as bad.

She will probably end up throwing it at you.

 

IMO, The only sound advice was the people who said "leave it to the Thais"

 

If it were me i would have made myself scarce during the whole process.

 

The bossman or people doing the job would have easily dealt with the old lady, Thai style.

 

Another thing ive noticed, hanging around squarking at the workers and checking up/telling them what to do, NEVER gets you anywhere in Thailand.

 

In fact, when you do that, dont be suprised if you end up with faults you didnt notice, that later end up being a big P in the A!