Mother of ‘dangerous’ schoolboy pleads for help

[dunroaming]

1 hour ago, scorecard said:

True, but sadly many parents don't discipline their children because they are afraid if they take disciplinary action or even make simple comments about 'not nice to do that' their children won't love them.

 

Lecturing bachelor students at the 2 so called prestigious unis I had a couple of incidents: 

 

- Big strong 19 yo old boy picks up a heavy student chair with writing table arm attached and throws it at a girl who refused to go out with him. Girl's arm broken in 2 places. Not the first incident with this boy, a few months earlier he king punched another boy in the classroom, all his front teeth wiped out.

 

Dean calls boys father and asks him to come to campus discuss this broken arm incident. Father comes, father annoyed his time is being wasted and says so. Dean says 'please talk to your son and explain to him he cannot behave like this and he cannot hurt other students'.

 

Father response (he's a loud scaly Thai politician): 'NO, I want my son to have fun at university' and walks out.

 

- I put a very arrogant girl in a small team (from memory 5 members x 6 teams) to do an end of course case study and presentation. She came to maybe 50% of the compulsory sessions to prepare their report and presentation but just talked and laughed on her phone to her friends and left early. Several times I took her aside and told her she had to show contribution to the team work. Her basic rude response 'what for, they can do it'

 

Throughout the last weeks in the semester I spoke many times about the presentation and made it very clear (with a printed handout and a note on the class facebook page) that:

 

1) all members of each team had to take part in the team presentation, 2) all students had to be in the classroom at the start time, and 3) I would not be announcing in advance in advance which team came first to make their presentation etc. 4) Any team which was missing a member at the announced start time would automatically fail the case study.

 

Final day come arrogant girl mentioned above not in the room. She throws the door open about 1 hr late walks in and disrupts the presentation in progress. I told her to leave the room, she refuses, 3 boys waiting for their turn quickly bundle her out of the room as I inform her 'your team fails'.

 

When the remaining teams all finished I asked the team missing the arrogant girl to wait outside for few minutes but don't go anywhere. I discovered arrogant is waiting outside and ready to rip me apart (as she had already done to 2 other professors). 

 

I quickly spoke to the rest of the class 'I guess it's unfair to punish the rest of her team, If you all agree I will change the rules and allow them to make their presentation. One of the mature intelligent boys said 'can I please suggest to take the vote but with an added point, Khun XXX (arrogant girl) not allowed to participate and she fails' Instant verbal agreement with his point. Vote taken. everybody agrees the team be allowed to make their presentation etc...). I asked the boy who had spoken up to quickly bring the last team in and everybody clapped. The boy bringing them in stopped arrogant girl from coming in through the door, and he says to her 'you fail, you can't come in' and he quickly closed the door and locked it.

 

Girl now repeatedly kicks the door. 

 

Later same after the dean of the faculty called me and asked 'are you on campus?', Yes 'can you please come to my office'. We talked 20 minutes, he agreed with my actions.

 

Then the parents come in with 2 of the girls aunts who are both professors at the same uni.

 

Aunties attack me, parents say nothing, but within another minute the dean said 'I agree with Dr. xxx's actions, there is no further discussion. Dean tells me this family have several kids like this the parents never discuss anything with them, never remonstrate them for anything, never teach right and wrong, 

 

Girl didn't return the next semester and one of the students announced that she went to Singapore to study. Two months later she came back and pleaded with the dean to allow her back. Dean tells her she's banned. She went home and abused her parents for ruining her life. 

 

 

Totally get that.  In this case we are talking about an eleven year old boy, very different from the age of a university student.  I have no doubt if something is not done now, he will probably end up just as obnoxious as your moronic students. These university students clearly come from privileged backgrounds whereas if this mother cannot afford the second schools fees, then she is not privileged at all.

[BritManToo]

On 8/10/2020 at 3:16 PM, PremiumLane said:

And cue the child psychology experts of TVF....

Single mom bringing up problem children, who would have thunk it?

[cygan]

Sad to say but the attitude of some students today is " She gave me extra homework, what else could I do but kill her" I would not want to be a teacher in any school today

 

[cygan]

4 minutes ago, cygan said:

Sad to say but the attitude of some students today is " She gave me extra homework, what else could I do but kill her" I would not want to be a teacher in any school today

 

 

 

Edited August 11, 2020 by cygan
meant to load it as my quote not a reply to my previous post

[ChipButty]

7 minutes ago, cygan said:

Sad to say but the attitude of some students today is " She gave me extra homework, what else could I do but kill her" I would not want to be a teacher in any school today

 

Is that Thai logic?

[lee b]

Nice pass the blame on, let the teachers deal with him. Maybe if he had a slap every now and then at home he wouldnt act like this.

[Dap]

On 8/10/2020 at 3:16 PM, PremiumLane said:

And cue the child psychology experts of TVF....

That's all you have to say? How about something constructive, or nothing at all, if it's gonna' be just another irresponsible negative response to make you feel better.