Those with Thai GF, how are you managing the separation anxiety?

[Kadilo]

1 minute ago, ThailandRyan said:

I bounced back and back up into the saddle, where I have moved on happily now.

Let’s hope things work

out well for you and Happily. 

[holy cow cm]

21 hours ago, RichardColeman said:

Currently stuck in UK away from the wife of 5 years and daughter. Currently I managing OK, though trying to support one household and a bed and breakfast is not cheap. 

 

Couple of years ago, my tenant stopped paying me, and as I basically used that money to live with the wife, we had no income so had to return to the UK. Luckily for me - definitely not for him - my tenant was in hospital and died soon, so I go the house back quickly. The the drug fueled , fraudulent lying hippie had wrecked the house, broken windows, holes in the doors and walls, literally sh** everywhere as the front door had been open for 12 days. I had no income, and if you have ever been on uni credit, you'll understand why it took a year to do the house up and find a new responsible tenant.

 

So, away now for 5 months is not as bad as the previous 12 so far. 

 

Then - as now - we use facebook to talk as much as possible, chat to my daughter, etc - though I sure hope FB never get moderators on live chat if you know what I mean  ????  I missed my daughters first day at school, but what can you do ? 

 

I have to think positive and as it is my intention to bring the family here in a few years anyway, i have to think of this time as addition credit for the marriage visa with immigration. Every day is another day to show immigration !

 

I would say that what this whole thing has shown is that Thailand is NOT really an option moving forwards with my family and wife. There is no reason this will not happen again in a year or so , just as we go back to normal. Personally I have to travel back to the UK every 9 months , so even if I did get in though the hoops and expensive quarantine, I;d have to do it potentially again later. 

 

I would say, time to start planning your life more, and thinking hard IS Thailand good for you and your g/f. 

 

Lastly, and I hate to worry you, my wife a school teacher, has a best new friend of a married bar girl (our daughters play together b4 you ask) and from what I gather from the wife, every one of her new friends bar girl friends and family with men abroad have all moved onto men currently here ! 

 

 

That is a horror post at best. RC, I hope things get better for you. and I think my life is hard being here and just thinking about I hope no BS Thai insurance is put on us or having a possible change in liking us and actually giving us family guys a fair shake on a PR. No wonder foreigners and Thai are jumping out the windows killing themselves here. Regime, Elite all are BS. . Shame on you Thai Government of just the same same hypocritical conniving scammers with a false smile.. 

[samtab]

Don't worry, we are still many here to take car of your wives and girlfriends <3

And don't worry, we have no plan to take them definitively :-)

 

 

 

[Kadilo]

2 hours ago, samtab said:

Don't worry, we are still many here to take car of your wives and girlfriends ❤️

And don't worry, we have no plan to take them definitively ????

 

 

 

You remind me of my local curtain shop. They need some new material too. 

[ChakaKhan]

20 hours ago, ezzra said:

Watch a lot of porn...

I recall being in burma-mae sai market doing a visa border hop and checking out burma side---seeing all the sex toys and dvds and illegal booze in the big clear bin at customs-passport.....lol     Im walking around burma market and man oh man the hassles...hey watch!  I point to phone clock----Hey sunglasses--I point to mine on head.....smokes--booze--alll fake--blue pills......some guy slinks next to me and opens box with porn dvds......I lean in and whisper......dont tell anyone...but rumor has it that porn in free now--on the web

[madmen]

On 9/7/2020 at 4:25 AM, Kadilo said:

Are you not worried that if they are playing away and your wife has these new friends that she is not doing the same?

 

Agreed with the living in Thailand analysis. It’s definitely food for thought with what has gone on and as you say likely to keep happening. 
 

For me it reinforced the feeling that we are not valued on iota whether single, married or property owner, we are all surplus. I’ve read it many times on this forum but now to see it is quite sad. 

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Edited September 7, 2020 by madmen

[steven100]

wow .... seven pages of telling farang what they already know. I'm sure the thai women are seeing thai guys from time to time. As Brit said earlier,  when the money stops so does the interest, but even with the monthly money you aren't guaranteed loyalty that's for sure.  

[BritManToo]

19 minutes ago, steven100 said:

wow .... seven pages of telling farang what they already know. I'm sure the thai women are seeing thai guys from time to time. As Brit said earlier,  when the money stops so does the interest, but even with the monthly money you aren't guaranteed loyalty that's for sure.  

I'd be extremely concerned if 'my schoolteacher wife' was hanging out with a bunch of prossies while I were overseas.

Birds of a feather hang together.

Edited September 8, 2020 by BritManToo
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[473geo]

14 minutes ago, steven100 said:

wow .... seven pages of telling farang what they already know. I'm sure the thai women are seeing thai guys from time to time. As Brit said earlier,  when the money stops so does the interest, but even with the monthly money you aren't guaranteed loyalty that's for sure.  

Incredible that you think there are any guarantees in relationships with or without money. I would say if you enter into a relationship where there is a huge financial imbalance and you choose not to address the imbalance in a way that appeals to your potential life partner your relationship will hit the rocks. What is mine is mine, and what is yours is yours, generally does not really work in these types of relationship unless one enjoys short term and constant change.

[hotchilli]

On 9/6/2020 at 10:09 PM, Thaidude said:

I am one of those who is currently seperated with his Thai GF where both of us are stuck in their respective countries. Haven't met each other since Feb this year. Those in similar situation like me, is there any way? Meeting in 3rd country is an option but probably not the best considering the quarantine rules everywhere.

Get a temp g/f, let off some steam

[thasoss]

On 9/7/2020 at 8:48 AM, BritManToo said:

They'll last as long as you keep sending the money.

Oh so true 

[Dart12]

It's really hard for me to discern if you (TVF) love?  or hate?  dating Thai women lol.

[GinBoy2]

9 hours ago, 473geo said:

Incredible that you think there are any guarantees in relationships with or without money. I would say if you enter into a relationship where there is a huge financial imbalance and you choose not to address the imbalance in a way that appeals to your potential life partner your relationship will hit the rocks. What is mine is mine, and what is yours is yours, generally does not really work in these types of relationship unless one enjoys short term and constant change.

Thats spot on.

 

Both of my marriages have been between equals. 

 

Neither needed my money, one is a CPA the other an aerospace engineer, so our relationships hung (hangs) on emotional factors.

 

Now if the balance is tilted the other way, then all bets are off. 

 

I can't get into the head of a bar girl, who basically has no financial stability beyond the next customer she gives a BJ to, but I suspect thats a pretty hand to mouth cutthroat world to live in.

 

So, and again I don't know in that unbalanced world, how much love and affection weighs against money to feed yourself and roof over head

 

 

[BritManToo]

35 minutes ago, GinBoy2 said:

I can't get into the head of a bar girl,

I can usually fit a bit of me in.

[mike787]

Ending separation in divorce.

[GinBoy2]

18 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

I can usually fit a bit of me in.

Good Lord man, head out of gutter lol

 

[Jack Hna]

Had to import some xl cucumbers and freeze them.