You can take the girl out of the bar, but can you take the bar out of the girl?

[Hummin]

4 hours ago, sidneybear said:

Generally, the longer they're in it, the more they see it as the real world.

 

The majority gets in and out quick, while some few get stuck. There is women with a lifetime in bars, even marry a punter and starts their own bar. Becomes a lifestyle.

 

One bar owner in Patong became an expert to get their new bf to invest in their bar, god knows how many she managed to convince it was a good idea. She was famous for doing so, and she was hot even she was in her 40'ies last time I saw her in 2005 I think.

[Pink Mist]

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[Klonko]

Do you really want to get the whole bar out of the girl?

[Pink Mist]

Continued bickering posts and replies to removed posts have  been removed. Please stay on topic. 

 

The topic of the OP is:

 

You can take the girl out of the bar, but can you take the bar out of the girl?

[NoshowJones]

Most of the farangs I have known in the 16 years I have lived here have been married to ex bargirls. Maybe about 50% of them have been successful.

[NoshowJones]

On 4/5/2023 at 1:58 PM, Goat said:

i think the chances are about 50%. That is what the divorce rate is.

Is that for about the bargirl marriages? That would be about right, but I don't think that will be the case for non bargirl marriages.

[NoshowJones]

On 4/5/2023 at 2:00 PM, BritManToo said:

What percentage of the 50% that aren't divorced do you think are happy?

I'd guess 50% divorce, 30% living in mutual hate, 20% happy.

 

Nearly all LTRs are a poop show in the end.

At least in Thailand we can choose how much of our assets we are prepared to lose.

And we can pick from the relatively hot ones weighing under 50Kg.

 

Just look what James Bond got stuck with ............

https://youtu.be/pksGK5eOiQ0

https://youtu.be/pksGK5eOiQ0

Mrs Jones is very hot and weighs over 50 Ks, probably nearer 60Ks. But she

is 5ft 9ins tall.

[NoshowJones]

On 4/5/2023 at 3:06 PM, Jack1988 said:

Honestly, this is not my favourite type of thai girl. Too skinny, I prefer with more meat

I think that figure is just about right.

[rumak]

On 4/5/2023 at 7:10 PM, scubascuba3 said:

i regularly hear stories of Thai wives or girlfriends left with nothing when the farang dies, probably the farang is too disorganised or maybe on the drink

remember..... probably an equal number of farangs that have been left with little ,  after the girl (thai or farang)  decides to take them to the cleaners .

how many guys build a house and give access to assets that they accumulated over many many years.............. to someone they know for a very short time?

Of course...... they should know better.   And often they repeat it again !   Kind of like playing the roulette wheel and losing.   They double down  

[Jonathan Swift]

On 4/5/2023 at 1:46 PM, OneMoreFarang said:

I took my gf out of the bar when she worked in that business maybe 3 months (yes, really). Her older sister decided that is what she should do. My gf was happy to leave that business and be together with me. And we are still together after many years. The way I see it she wasn't long enough in the business to get damaged. And she didn't have any real bad encounters.

I know lots of other guys with girls from bars who are together since years. And they seem to be happy enough.

I think the advantage from such relationships is that both have a pretty good idea what to expect from each other. That is a good start.

It seems many good girls and women who have little to no knowledge about farangs think they want to be in such a relationship with a rich foreigner. Until the moment they are and realize it is not what their fantasy was about. 

 

wise words

[NoshowJones]

On 4/6/2023 at 12:01 PM, proton said:

I never knocked about with 16 year old girls.

I did when I was 18 and just starting playing in a band semi professionally. there was plenty of opportunities and I sure made the most of them.

[tomacht8]

- She has only been working in the bar for a few weeks (3) 

- She is 35-45 yo and is fed up with bar life and is looking for someone for her exit strategy (2)

- She has a low level of education but speaks very good English (4)

- She is very good looking, a real Stunner and is in high demand (6)

- She is between 20-30 yo, drinks and loves the party life (6)

 

The higher the score, the lower the likelihood of a lasting relationship outside of her bar life.

[NoshowJones]

On 4/6/2023 at 3:39 PM, BritManToo said:

I think there's a fair few guys posting on this forum that don't have interest in women of any kind.

The ratio is about 1 in 20 in the UK I read somewhere.

[NoshowJones]

On 4/6/2023 at 5:28 PM, Goat said:

I like to be seen with my sexy girls. 

But i would never be seen with a prostitute.

There is a difference.

I never needed prostitutes when I was younger, but if I'm honest and found myself single again, I probably would as I don't have the looks I had when I was younger.

[Bangkok Barry]

On 4/5/2023 at 2:00 PM, ozimoron said:

So, no different to any other marriage.

I'd agree.

[ed strong]

The question should be not can you take the bar from the girl but can you take the northern from the girl.

 

When i used to go to a new bar, i would immediately write '3 months' on a beer mat and turn it over, when a girl approached and started chatting i would ask them how long they have been working here and 90 % of the time they would say 3 months and i would turn the beer mat over and show them.

 

I guess that all bars were extremely short staffed 4 months ago ????

[Hummin]

3 minutes ago, ed strong said:

The question should be not can you take the bar from the girl but can you take the northern from the girl.

 

When i used to go to a new bar, i would immediately write '3 months' on a beer mat and turn it over, when a girl approached and started chatting i would ask them how long they have been working here and 90 % of the time they would say 3 months and i would turn the beer mat over and show them.

 

I guess that all bars were extremely short staffed 4 months ago ????

And sometimes it is true. Good girls come and go all the time.

 

Today, it is a bit easier to track their story and timeline through their social media activity. 

 

 

[ed strong]

15 minutes ago, Hummin said:

And sometimes it is true. Good girls come and go all the time.

 

Today, it is a bit easier to track their story and timeline through their social media activity. 

 

 

Sure but when their English is pretty good and they are not educated you have to wonder how they learnt it.

[Hummin]

8 minutes ago, ed strong said:

Sure but when their English is pretty good and they are not educated you have to wonder how they learnt it.

You know some of them is dumped because their x bf thought they where to old and fat for them, even after investing time teaching them english, to swim, drink wine, and clean the house and cook western food.

 

I know, because I did meet one 

Edited April 8, 2023 by Hummin

[3NUMBAS]

ask stickman and stickboy

[LikeItHot]

I know girls who have left the "life" behind and live normal lives abroad. Would I risk it? Hellllll nooooooo!

[Adumbration]

On 4/7/2023 at 5:38 PM, FarAway said:

I get happy when I see a 40-50 year old man with a similar aged woman, even better when they are seniors. That is cute, that is real love, that is a real bond that kept humanity together for thousands of years.

Hilarious....really....Up until about the last 150 years the real bond that kept humanity together was women's well justified fear of violence and rape.

[NanLaew]

On 4/5/2023 at 6:59 PM, soi3eddie said:

In my opinion, and from my experience, marrying any girl is crazy. I did it once and it will not be repeated. For last 3 years have had a long term partner, although she would like a ring on the finger, I am am not prepared to have a ring through my nose! I will remain happily unmarried (with or without her).

 

So you're saying you're not housebroken yet.

[NanLaew]

On 4/6/2023 at 12:02 PM, OneMoreFarang said:

What do you think do most guys think about Hugh Hefner in that position? Do they think: He should sit with a woman of his own age? Or do they more likely think: I wish I would be next to her.

I tried Patpong with my dressing gown and slippers on once.

 

Only the once mind you.

[NanLaew]

1 hour ago, ed strong said:

When i used to go to a new bar, i would immediately write '3 months' on a beer mat and turn it over, when a girl approached and started chatting i would ask them how long they have been working here and 90 % of the time they would say 3 months and i would turn the beer mat over and show them.

How did they respond to your 'Mensa Moment'?

 

In general I mean.

[proton]

1 hour ago, 3NUMBAS said:

ask stickman and stickboy

Stickboy packed it in and went home Stickman has a warped moral compass so would not trust his judgement. After Marc the ex Eden club pimp gunned down his ex girl friend and business partner last April in Sukhumvit he posted a glowing tribute to his old mate. Luckily the partner, although shot got the gun off him and shot Marc dead. According to stick Marc was justified as it was what a Thai would have done over a business dispute! You can take the pimp out of the bar, but not the underworld out of the pimp!

[save the frogs]

did some reading up on this Eden guy. funny story...

 

What is the record number of girls a guy has taken upstairs, or out?

Inside the club, 20. An Irish guy! We still have the picture to be seen in the club. At this time we used the room with the 13 square metre bed!

Outside the club, 11. We used to call this guy The Doctor. He was spending 50 to 100,000 baht at least a day throughout Bangkok making everybody believe that he was very rich. That day 3 Mercedes Benzes from a famous Bangkok hotel came to
pick up the ladies in front of the club. It came out later that this guy was just spending his life savings.

That's the guy who had 580 girls?

Yes, in 8 months!

This poor guy, drinking a lot, abusing 2 to 300mg of Viagra everyday, just finished in a Bangkok Hospital where some member of his family came to take him back to the States.

Edited April 8, 2023 by save the frogs

[save the frogs]

another stickman question to Eden owner: so can it ruin lives? maybe yes.

 

I have always found myself in a quandary over the industry. I know that a lot of guys enjoy it and pay the girls handsomely, but the industry doesn't just hurt the girls, it can ruin lives. What do you think about that?

[proton]

32 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

another stickman question to Eden owner: so can it ruin lives? maybe yes.

 

I have always found myself in a quandary over the industry. I know that a lot of guys enjoy it and pay the girls handsomely, but the industry doesn't just hurt the girls, it can ruin lives. What do you think about that?

Got a link to that?

[proton]

38 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

did some reading up on this Eden guy. funny story...

 

What is the record number of girls a guy has taken upstairs, or out?

Inside the club, 20. An Irish guy! We still have the picture to be seen in the club. At this time we used the room with the 13 square metre bed!

Outside the club, 11. We used to call this guy The Doctor. He was spending 50 to 100,000 baht at least a day throughout Bangkok making everybody believe that he was very rich. That day 3 Mercedes Benzes from a famous Bangkok hotel came to
pick up the ladies in front of the club. It came out later that this guy was just spending his life savings.

That's the guy who had 580 girls?

Yes, in 8 months!

This poor guy, drinking a lot, abusing 2 to 300mg of Viagra everyday, just finished in a Bangkok Hospital where some member of his family came to take him back to the States.

Just a pity Marc was shot dead and did not survive to end his days in prison. He had terminal cancer, most would try to make amends, maybe even get religious or give possessions away. Not Marc, he thought the best thing to do was go and murder a couple of his mates. Marc was a drug smuggler, serving time in Japan, pimp, blackmailer and murderer, Stick thought he was a decent sort!