After Many Decades Living in Thailand (or Asia), ... Do You Sometimes Dream of your First Wife....Left Back in the "Old Country"? Do you dream VIVID Dreams about her, too?

[GammaGlobulin]

Dear Friends,

 

I imagine that some of you, 40 years ago, left your FIRST WIFE in order to come to Asia.

 

At that time, when you were still young, you compared Asian girls to the wife you had, your frumpy old lady, and UPPPED STAKES, without much forethought, hoping to find more satisfaction in Asia.

 

I am just wondering, after all these years, if you sometimes experience very VIVID dreams about your first wife, especially dreams of your first wife doing things that she used to do; But, also doing things that she never used to do to you that you never really appreciated at the time.

 

Personally, I am still pretty attached to my first Old Lady, in my dreams.

 

She seems to become hotter and hotter, and steamier and steamier, the more I dream about her.

 

Since I am, obviously, human, I can only surmise that there are many other male human Farangs in Thailand (or Asia), that have experience exactly the same phenomenon as I.

 

What I am saying, if I might clarify, is that...Once you have had your fill here, after several decades, you naturally become somewhat satiated. And then, at this point, you being to dream VIVID dreams about your FIRST Wife, that you left behind.

 

I would NOT broach this topic unless I were not utterly sure that I am posting a topic which many of you have been struggling to resolve.  I.E., Why do we continue to think about our FIRST Wives EVEN while we are situated in a land of plenty?

 

Well, all that I can tell you is that, at least twice a week, I seem to be having a very full reunion with my first wife, not only reliving many positions, but also new positions I learned while I was in Asia during the past decades.  I can only assume that this must be the same for you.

 

While I do not wish to become too prurient, I can tell you that, during the past few months, I have been experiencing some of the best relationships with my first wife, ones that were far better than I had known while I was with her.

 

So, YES, it's possibly true that....Parting Makes the Heart Grow Fonder.

 

What about you?

 

During these waning years of your life, in your dreams....

Have you, also, been able to rekindle your intimate relationship with your First Wife, a woman that you had thought was completely lost to you?

 

All that I can tell you is this:

 

The Mind works in mysterious ways, Wonders to Behold.

 

The Mind, and Consciousness, is really all that anyone knows about Reality.

 

And, furthermore:  Maybe, even, Reality does not exist.

 

These are some of the thoughts I often grapple with just before I nod off, at night.

 

(I am really happy to know you guys.  I know you guys understand me, and I appreciate your concern.)

 

Regards,

Gamma

 

 

 

 

 

[GammaGlobulin]

By the way: I just want to say:  I have great respect for JOHN ROGERS SEARLE

 

Consciousness, even the definition of consciousness, is not well understood.

 

And, Searle is the guy who loves the Chinese Room thought experiment.

 

The thing is, actually, the older I get the more I dream about getting some with my former wives.

 

And...It's still GOOD.

 

 

[save the frogs]

52 minutes ago, GammaGlobulin said:

The Mind, and Consciousness, is really all that anyone knows about Reality.

 

And, furthermore:  Maybe, even, Reality does not exist.

perhaps the Mind does not exist.

nor does Consciousness.

 

[GammaGlobulin]

1 minute ago, save the frogs said:

perhaps the Mind does not exist.

nor does Consciousness.

 

Yes, maybe.

 

But, when you are at the Soapy Massage Parlor, you feel more alive.

 

You begin to feel....

Tingly...All over.

 

 

[nglodnig]

Care to tell us what brand you're smoking? 

[anyone]

Revived memories of past years is the beginning of the end ????

[GammaGlobulin]

3 minutes ago, anyone said:

Revived memories of past years is the beginning of the end ????

The end of what?

 

The end of a LOVE?

 

 

OR.....

 

Could it be....

 

The BEGINNING of something....

 

Like...

 

The beginning of a BEAUTIFUL FRIENDSHIP....

 

 

[Lacessit]

If I have any dreams about my former wife, they are usually nightmares. The marriage ended back in the mad century.

 

 

[GammaGlobulin]

When we think about what defines consciousness, for example, we should consider consulting John Searle, if only for a very, VERY interesting talk.

 

These days of AI, the definition of consciousness is becoming a red-hot topic.

 

Also, EVERYBODY REALLY wants to know whatever happened to that Chinese Girl in the Room?

 

Therefore, you can watch this short talk, and learn the answer to what happened to her..

 

And, without spoiling it for you, the ending is not pretty....

 

 

[GammaGlobulin]

54 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

If I have any dreams about my former wife, they are usually nightmares. The marriage ended back in the mad century.

 

 

Humor is unknown to me.

 

I know nothing about humor.

 

Bruce, I don't even like the name.

 

The name Bruce makes me think of Spruce, a tree with needles and no leaves.

 

Bruce is a name that should never be given to a human.

 

But, when I hear the name Petty, I think of Tom.

 

And, then... I think of all the TOMs I have met in Thailand.

 

Also, If you like TOMs in Thailand, then....I guess we have nothing in common.

 

Because, ....  Have you ever seen two TOMs in a fight?

 

Worse than a Cat Fight, for sure...

 

Anyway, instead of Bruce Petty, you should listen to Tom Petty...

 

I think he is from Philly, actually...

 

 

Such bad music...

 

And I do NOT mean "Bad!".

 

 

[GammaGlobulin]

Just now, GammaGlobulin said:

Humor is unknown to me.

 

I know nothing about humor.

 

Bruce, I don't even like the name.

 

The name Bruce makes me think of Spruce, a tree with needles and no leaves.

 

Bruce is a name that should never be given to a human.

 

But, when I hear the name Petty, I think of Tom.

 

And, then... I think of all the TOMs I have met in Thailand.

 

Also, If you like TOMs in Thailand, then....I guess we have nothing in common.

 

Because, ....  Have you ever seen two TOMs in a fight?

 

Worse than a Cat Fight, for sure...

 

Anyway, instead of Bruce Petty, you should listen to Tom Petty...

 

I think he is from Philly, actually...

 

 

Such bad music...

 

And I do NOT mean "Bad!".

 

 

I think we might have a TOM at our guesthouse.

 

Thai TOMs are tough.

Nothing likeable about them, in fact.

 

Just another example of some sort of personality disorder not yet entered into the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM).

 

I thought I knew most disorders in the new DSM, but then I came to Thailand and encountered a few TOMs.

 

Wow, those girls are .... Far Out, Man!

 

 

[save the frogs]

14 minutes ago, GammaGlobulin said:

Such bad music...

 

And I do NOT mean "Bad!".

Tom Petty is the best. 

 

He's too famous, though ... and hates the spotlight ... so he doesn't even eat out in restaurants much apparently. 

 

[save the frogs]

Question for you, Gamma.

 

How many words does you know?

 

 

[GammaGlobulin]

12 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

Tom Petty is the best. 

 

He's too famous, though ... and hates the spotlight ... so he doesn't even eat out in restaurants much apparently. 

 

Thank you. 

 

He sounds like my kind of guy. 

 

In fact, I probably would never have recalled him, if nobody had mentioned Bruce Petty. 

 

Sorry, I did not mean to imply that L is a nobody. 

 

L is a somebody, of course... 

 

The Beetles wrote a song for him. 

 

Nowhere Man. 

 

GREAT SONG!!! 

 

[Lacessit]

29 minutes ago, GammaGlobulin said:

Humor is unknown to me.

 

I know nothing about humor.

 

Bruce, I don't even like the name.

 

The name Bruce makes me think of Spruce, a tree with needles and no leaves.

 

Bruce is a name that should never be given to a human.

 

But, when I hear the name Petty, I think of Tom.

 

And, then... I think of all the TOMs I have met in Thailand.

 

Also, If you like TOMs in Thailand, then....I guess we have nothing in common.

 

Because, ....  Have you ever seen two TOMs in a fight?

 

Worse than a Cat Fight, for sure...

 

Anyway, instead of Bruce Petty, you should listen to Tom Petty...

 

I think he is from Philly, actually...

 

 

Such bad music...

 

And I do NOT mean "Bad!".

 

 

I am disappointed, I would have thought you knew the difference between humor and satire.

Back on topic, how many positions of congress did you achieve with your first wife in real life, and how many have you added in your dreams?

I need precise figures for comparison purposes.

Have you tried it standing in a hammock?

[GammaGlobulin]

22 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

Tom Petty is the best. 

 

He's too famous, though ... and hates the spotlight ... so he doesn't even eat out in restaurants much apparently. 

 

I think that you meant to say... 

 

He hates the LIMELIGHT, not the spotlight. 

 

One other interesting term, for that matter, is the word LIMEY. 

 

Still, limelight and limey have different origins. 

 

One is nautical, and the other is theatrical. 

 

When you get to be 71, there is really very little, in this life, that you haven't heard, seen, or felt. 

 

 

[KhunLA]

No, had a great few years but that was it.  

 

Always a preference for younger lasses, I was 23, she 17.  Courted 2 years, married 2 years.

 

First love, and great till it wasn't.  Did motivate me to start being responsible and take life seriously.

 

2nd wife a few years later, again courted 2, only married one.

 

Enjoyed being unmarried for 10+ years, before coming to TH, so no mid life crisis for me.

[zzaa09]

Do you know what the song NOWHERE MAN was a euphemism [or misdirection] regarding? 

[Lacessit]

45 minutes ago, GammaGlobulin said:

I think we might have a TOM at our guesthouse.

 

Thai TOMs are tough.

Nothing likeable about them, in fact.

 

Just another example of some sort of personality disorder not yet entered into the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM).

 

I thought I knew most disorders in the new DSM, but then I came to Thailand and encountered a few TOMs.

 

Wow, those girls are .... Far Out, Man!

 

 

Whenever I hear the word TOM, I think of this, and how right the words of the song are.....

 

 

[Dan747]

"OMG"-NO.

[GammaGlobulin]

1 minute ago, Lacessit said:

I am disappointed, I would have thought you knew the difference between humor and satire.

Back on topic, how many positions of congress did you achieve with your first wife in real life, and how many have you added in your dreams?

I need precise figures for comparison purposes.

Have you tried it standing in a hammock?

Hmmm... 

 

Why is it that it's always the guys from Down Under, lying in hammocks, who seem to believe they have a monopoly on satire? 

 

Also, why is it that Americans improperly substitute the word laying, when they should say lying? 

 

For example... 

 

The hen was laying in the hay 

The hen was lying in the hay 

 

I know that you you know the difference. 

 

Americans think these two utterances are equivalent. 

 

Laying and lying are not the same. 

 

 

 

[zzaa09]

3 minutes ago, GammaGlobulin said:

Hmmm... 

 

Why is it that it's always the guys from Down Under, lying in hammocks, who seem to believe they have a monopoly on satire? 

 

Also, why is it that Americans improperly substitute the word laying, when they should say lying? 

 

For example... 

 

The hen was laying in the hay 

The hen was lying in the hay 

 

I know that you you know the difference. 

 

Americans think these two utterances are equivalent. 

 

Laying and lying are not the same. 

 

 

 

They also appear to have a firm misunderstanding to using sit and sat in their proper form and tense. 

[bkk6060]

Fat, wrinkled, bad attitude and smells like an old lady no thank you.

[GammaGlobulin]

13 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

I am disappointed, I would have thought you knew the difference between humor and satire.

Back on topic, how many positions of congress did you achieve with your first wife in real life, and how many have you added in your dreams?

I need precise figures for comparison purposes.

Have you tried it standing in a hammock?

Thank you for this question. 

 

While sleeping, I have dreamed of so many new positions with my first wife, in congress, that even she would blush, as old as she must be, by now. 

 

I would gladly elucidate readers further, if this were not, basically, a family friendly forum, which I prefer. 

 

Let me, however, whet your appetite by telling you that some of my VIVID dreams go, even, beyond the use of pencils and erasers. 

 

Human Sexuality is a double-edged sword. 

 

Also, my sword, at one time, was like the stout young green bamboo we sometimes see in Thailand. 

 

In fact, as you know, DICK Van Dyke once did a marvelous dance with a stick of bamboo... 

 

The Old Bamboo... 

 

Do you recall it? 

[Henryford]

Not dreams, nightmares.

[GammaGlobulin]

15 minutes ago, GammaGlobulin said:

Thank you for this question. 

 

While sleeping, I have dreamed of so many new positions with my first wife, in congress, that even she would blush, as old as she must be, by now. 

 

I would gladly elucidate readers further, if this were not, basically, a family friendly forum, which I prefer. 

 

Let me, however, whet your appetite by telling you that some of my VIVID dreams go, even, beyond the use of pencils and erasers. 

 

Human Sexuality is a double-edged sword. 

 

Also, my sword, at one time, was like the stout young green bamboo we sometimes see in Thailand. 

 

In fact, as you know, DICK Van Dyke once did a marvelous dance with a stick of bamboo... 

 

The Old Bamboo... 

 

Do you recall it? 

Concerning DICK Van Dyke, and his bamboo, Sir....

 

When Van Dyke did this, he was already quite old.

 

And, as far as I know, he did it in just one continuous take.

 

It almost killed him, or so he said.

 

 

I know lots about bamboo.

 

Bamboo is one of the primary reasons I first came to Asia.

 

Bamboo bends, but does not break, or so it has been written.

 

 

 

 

 

 

[GammaGlobulin]

3 minutes ago, GammaGlobulin said:

Concerning DICK Van Dyke, and his bamboo, Sir....

 

When Van Dyke did this, he was already quite old.

 

And, as far as I know, he did it in just one continuous take.

 

It almost killed him, or so he said.

 

 

I know lots about bamboo.

 

Bamboo is one of the primary reasons I first came to Asia.

 

Bamboo bends, but does not break, or so it has been written.

 

 

 

 

 

 

CHITTY CHITTY, BANG BANG....

 

The stuff of my dreams, as I mentioned in the topic, above....

 

I am sure everyone here experiences these dreams.

 

But, fortunately, not all will write about them.

 

 

[IndomitableSpirit]

Why did I feel like crying reading that????? I guess it's really true that men become so much more emotional when they get older. 

 

Gamma, if you're not married now and you feel like getting in touch with your first wife, then go for it!(If she's not married too.) Nothing wrong with rekindling or even just for friendship. 

 

I get to learn older male perspective a lot here in this forum, it's truly interesting. 

 

[Lacessit]

17 minutes ago, GammaGlobulin said:

Thank you for this question. 

 

While sleeping, I have dreamed of so many new positions with my first wife, in congress, that even she would blush, as old as she must be, by now. 

 

I would gladly elucidate readers further, if this were not, basically, a family friendly forum, which I prefer. 

 

Let me, however, whet your appetite by telling you that some of my VIVID dreams go, even, beyond the use of pencils and erasers. 

 

Human Sexuality is a double-edged sword. 

 

Also, my sword, at one time, was like the stout young green bamboo we sometimes see in Thailand. 

 

In fact, as you know, DICK Van Dyke once did a marvelous dance with a stick of bamboo... 

 

The Old Bamboo... 

 

Do you recall it? 

Bamboo is delicious with chili powder. Zero calories, and a rich source of fibre and minerals. Now is the edible bamboo season in Thailand.

It may have been you who informed me bamboo must be cooked properly to remove cyanide compounds. Only giant pandas can detoxify raw bamboo.

In my youth, I sometimes had to wear two pairs of underwear to avoid embarrassing myself in public. Any girl dancing with me close up knew what was on my mind, and in my trousers.

[spidermike007]

Never, ever, ever. Leaving my first wife was the smartest thing I ever did, besides not having a baby. Number one and number two. 

 

Thankfully, I found a Thai woman who is very well adjusted. My ex wife wasn't. My wife is lovely, funny, is a great chef, is affectionate, kind and charming. My ex wife wasn't. My wife is very comfortable manifesting the dignity within femininity. My ex wife was scared to death of her femininity, like ALOT of American women. 

 

So thankful I left both my ex wife and America in the rear view. Smart.