Where to find a sugar friendship?

[scubascuba3]

Must be a common issue, still wanting sex but not with the wife

[clokwise]

1 hour ago, Prubangboy said:

A poly person in a happy poly relationship is even more diff from this guy than I am.

 

You're living the dream of millions. How common is your situation here?

 

 

It may not be as rare as you think. After we "came out" to a few close friends, we discovered another thai/farang married couple we know closely were also open, two single Thai female friends of ours have been dating married guys, and we have heard plenty of gossip about other couples we knew. It's a topic which is not discussed openly in Thailand, tho it is common amongst Thai couples for the husband to have a gik and the wife tolerates it. It's not for every relationship - the married friends of ours eventually broke up. We stay together because we respect each other and communicate constantly and try to ensure no one gets their feelings hurt for whatever reason.

 

There's plenty of english language reading material and podcasts on the subject - if you or your wife have any interest in the idea.

[Grumpy one]

I'm sure there are many northern grannies who would be interested in your proposition  

[rumak]

17 hours ago, whistersniff said:

I don't want it to be transactional in the sense that I'm paying a prostitute for one hour of sex and leaving. Otherwise, I'd just pay a prostitute for one hour of sex and leave.  

So,  you're  40's or 50's ?     Good looking or  50 kg overweight ?     Good personality ?   

Fun to be with ?     Answer those questions honestly and then i can give an educated guess what is available.

[henry15]

Their are numerous Thai ladies between 30 and  50  who are only interested in an sexual relation ship.

Most of then are careerwonen who are not interested in married live at all. Because they don't like to give up their indendance. The don't look for a sugar dad relation, because they are financially indepent.. Thet prefer to have an relation with a married man, because that's a  guarantee they will not ask for  living together.  Many of this ladies are married.

They are looking for an educated, wel behaved and presentable gentleman.

There are specialised website for this kind of relationships.

I have have had a few relationships like that.

On 9/15/2023 at 10:41 PM, Tropicalevo said:

When farmers are told to miss a harvest, the government should compensate them.

Planting tree? FFS.

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[Dave0206]

I don't see any downside to this at all if lady has thai husband or ex who doesn't treat her well she becomes your Mia noi .

Thai men are renowned for being rational people and will just move on and wish you both good luck 

[FruitPudding]

16 hours ago, pagallim said:

Does your Mother know you're writing this crap for Asean Mike?   Don't you feel uneasy passing yourself off as some kind of pervert on an Expat forum?   Wouldn't it be better to get some kind of real work?

Look who's jealous. Haha

[FruitPudding]

1 hour ago, rumak said:

So,  you're  40's or 50's ?     Good looking or  50 kg overweight ?     Good personality ?   

Fun to be with ?     Answer those questions honestly and then i can give an educated guess what is available.

I feel like you've just arrived from another country, or perhaps another planet.

 

On behalf on Earth, I welcome you, and let me introduce you to the concept of being a 'sugar daddy' to a Thai lady-of-ill-repute: they're doing it for the money, buddy!

 

Nothing else matters.

 

You think Tom Cruise or David Hasslehoff is going to pop up any minute to give her a better offer?

 

 

Edited October 14, 2023 by FruitPudding

[khunPer]

A uni-student would in my mind be first choice; a number of them are looking for a sugar-daddy, some even works professionally to finance their studies.

 

Age difference might not be that important, as university level often has more to talk about than a village farmer girl you meet in a bar. Age-difference is normal in Thailand, many a Thai man might have a young "mia noi" (small wife) or a little "gik" (mistress), if he can afford it. A sugar-relationship might include more than meeting a few hours in a room, it can also be good company for dining and entertainment like cinema or whatever of mutual interest.

 

Online dating sites are common today, but you might get in touch with professional working ladies there. They also use the dating-feature for extra income, but might not appear as professionals, even they are. It's better to meet someone in person. Many students look for company in coffee shops; there are some preferred places for that purpose i Bangkok.

 

Weather you like it or not, company and sex for money in some or other level, equals prostitution. Many Thai ladies even have the view that if a man cannot provide, what does she then need him for.

 

I once dated a good looking Thai uni-girl for a while – early 20s law-student, I was more than double her age – she wished to live a kind of lavish life-style and would be ready to work professionally to obtain that, if she didn't have a regular provider(s). It worked out fine with dinners, entertainment and great sex – she even had rented a nice house in a good neighbourhood – but of course it's a paid for service, which one have to accept. However, it can be for the good of both parties, so a real win-win situation.

 

Perhaps it even could have led to more...

 

[connda]

19 hours ago, whistersniff said:

I expect to get blasted for this question, but will ask anyway.  I'm a westerner living in Thailand with my family and will be here for at least another 4-5 years.  In a nutshell, I'm looking for a Thai girlfriend.

You'll discover a painful throbbing between your legs after which your wife will serve you a 'sausage' breakfast.

If you're looking for a relationship, then you are just a jerk.  Grow up.  You have a family to care for.
If you're looking for sex - you can purchase it.  Even your Thai wife may let that slide.

[Bunny Silverhand]

19 hours ago, whistersniff said:

However, I'm not interested in bar ladies or prostitutes.

I thought you said you were realistic ?

 

PS: your post is obviously a troll. A guy speaking fluent Thai would ask a dumb question like that otherwise.

Edited October 14, 2023 by Bunny Silverhand

[rumak]

26 minutes ago, FruitPudding said:

I feel like you've just arrived from another country, or perhaps another planet.

 

On behalf on Earth, I welcome you, and let me introduce you to the concept of being a 'sugar daddy' to a Thai lady-of-ill-repute: they're doing it for the money, buddy!

 

Nothing else matters.

 

You think Tom Cruise or David Hasslehoff is going to pop up any minute to give her a better offer?

 

 

another thailand expert .     rumak welcomes you to the stupidest of forums ,  you will fit right in .

[whistersniff]

54 minutes ago, Bunny Silverhand said:

I thought you said you were realistic ?

 

PS: your post is obviously a troll. A guy speaking fluent Thai would ask a dumb question like that otherwise.

Proficient Thai is not fluent. Why do so many people on this forum struggle to read the details of the post? You can do it. Slow down and try again.

[whistersniff]

1 hour ago, connda said:

You'll discover a painful throbbing between your legs after which your wife will serve you a 'sausage' breakfast.

If you're looking for a relationship, then you are just a jerk.  Grow up.  You have a family to care for.
If you're looking for sex - you can purchase it.  Even your Thai wife may let that slide.

Easy for you to judge when you don't know a thing about me besides what I posted.  Did you read the part about my spouse and I having an agreement and we both strive to keep our "other" lives out of the house and away from the family.

 

[whistersniff]

1 hour ago, khunPer said:

I once dated a good looking Thai uni-girl for a while – early 20s law-student, I was more than double her age – she wished to live a kind of lavish life-style and would be ready to work professionally to obtain that, if she didn't have a regular provider(s). It worked out fine with dinners, entertainment and great sex – she even had rented a nice house in a good neighbourhood – but of course it's a paid for service, which one have to accept. However, it can be for the good of both parties, so a real win-win situation.

 

What you describe is not possible and unrealistic according to the grumpy people on this forum.

Seriously, thanks for taking the time to respond and sharing your experience. Helpful insights.

[Bunny Silverhand]

3 minutes ago, whistersniff said:

Proficient Thai is not fluent. Why do so many people on this forum struggle to read the details of the post? You can do it. Slow down and try again.

Doesn't really matter. Farangs tend to figure out how to find girls before they figure out how to say hello in Thai.

[whistersniff]

4 hours ago, clokwise said:

Not the answer you are looking for, perhaps, but why not chat up married women? I'm in a similar marriage as yourself, albeit just a few years younger. My wife is Thai in her 40s. We both consider our marriage as "open". She has a side gig, and so do I. We discuss this topic openly, and we both feel happy when the other has a date. No jealousy, ever.

 

I dated many young women over the years, but eventually got bored dating women under 40, as they typically want to settle down sooner than later, and/or they often require far more attention and remuneration than I can offer them. I eventually met a beautiful Thai woman on Tinder who is married to an Australian, also an open-marriage, and she's simply seeking a long-term companion/date. Perfect match for me, and to top it off she has her own money. She's over 40, and one thing I've learned about "older" women is they don't have time for playing games, they are worldly and are great for conversation, plus they know exactly what they like in bed, and never too shy to try something new.

Hey, thanks for your post. I'm open to and would prefer a married woman. That was much easier and worked a lot better in the country we lived in before Thailand.  I know married Thai men at work who have girlfriends, but just assumed the ladies in this country were much more conservative and unwilling to have an affair, especially after age 40. Might be a bad assumption on my end. That said, I work with mostly men and my place of employment is off limits for "fishing" so I don't know where I'd meet an unhappy married woman open to a side relationship. I'm going to spend more time chatting with the average ladies in public (stores, etc.) as others have suggested.  Thanks again for replying.

[Lacessit]

1 hour ago, Dave0206 said:

I don't see any downside to this at all if lady has thai husband or ex who doesn't treat her well she becomes your Mia noi .

Thai men are renowned for being rational people and will just move on and wish you both good luck 

"Thai men are renowned for being rational people"? I guess all the reports of shootings, stabbings etc. over face and/or affairs of the heart are just fake news.

 

 

[1FinickyOne]

25 minutes ago, whistersniff said:

What you describe is not possible and unrealistic according to the grumpy people on this forum.

Seriously, thanks for taking the time to respond and sharing your experience. Helpful insights.

Sure, it's possible - anything is possible for most of us here...

 

but just a little realism helps - you want to pay a girl to perform a service but you don't want her to be a girl who perform services for pay... 

[kingstonkid]

18 hours ago, MichaelHunt said:

I found mine on the ThaiFriendly website. She's a very pretty 20-year-old university student, from a somewhat poor family of food vendors in an outer Bangkok suburb.

 

I'm 64 (but I l don't look a day over 63.) I'm not especially handsome, so to compensate, I pay her handsomely. (I pay her by the visit, by the way - which helps to keep her motivated. I think it would be crazy to pay for such a service once a month in advance. And we don't go out on "dates". All of our time together is spent in my apartment, where she is comfortable enough to stay all night every time.)

 

I've been seeing her once a week for about a year now. SHE always calls ME to see if I'm available when she has a day off, and the sex is great - at least for me, and apparently for her as well - since, as I said, she's always calling me to see if I'm available for her to visit. Or maybe she just likes the good money for the not terribly unpleasant sex. Because she's new at this (I am her first sugar daddy/first farang), she still does it like she enjoys it. I keep expecting her to slack off, but she hasn't yet.

 

Since I've been taking care of her, I have noticed that her lifestyle has improved considerably (new iPhone, nice new clothes, etc.), which is the whole point of the relationship for her. I am happy to see her life getting better, and she certainly makes my life better.

 

She has another year left with her studies, and I get the feeling that she would like to continue our arrangement at least until she graduates. From my perspective, I'm satisfied enough with the arrangement that I'm in no hurry to end it.

Thai friendly or a site like it would seem the best to me

 

Plenty of young girls are looking for someone to look after them.  I am willing to be that there may be some older ladies in the same boat.

[xtrnuno41]

You have to go out more. You can even speak Thai.

Put on your naughty shoes and then it wouldnt be that difficult.

Last year in Thailand. Was buying a bottle of whiskey and a very young girl offered to come and drink it with me. She spoke Thai, but another Thai young woman spoke English and told me, translated. So could have 2 young women. And they were really young, like 22 or so. I consider myself not special and I am old enough to be their grandpa.

Was in another shop, same combination and the girls were even moslim, but open flirtatious. All very easy to take the bite, just continue on situation and probably succes then. However im in a relation, so no biting from me.

Go to a Global House, mall or so and you can have contact in jiffy time, even easier as you speak Thai! Im amazed how easy it sometimes go, you only have to take the bite.

Certainly not in "my"country, where i would be the "dirty old man".  But also the culture difference. However also see the already old movie, in which the woman has 3 supporters ! 

 

[wombat]

19 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said:

And why do you ask in an English language forum in Thailand?

Otherwise: You think too much.

er...I think he just outed himself as a troll?

[SAFETY FIRST]

1 hour ago, whistersniff said:

I'm open to and would prefer a married woman.

My ex-girlfriend, we recently split up after together for 1 year, she is a married woman, when we met she was separated, just 25yo. 

 

Over the last year I've been with her she's been in love with her husband, I never knew until they got back together. 

I loved this woman, still do. 

 

Her husband is on an average wage, they live and work in Bangkok, she works for a cosmetic company on an average wage, she works Monday to Friday and comes visits me most weekends, our relationship is still sexual. 

 

She has an infant child with her husband, the child lives with her mother up country.

 

Their combined income is not enough to pay the bills so I give her some money (too much some times) every time she visits, she calls me some days asking for a few hundred baht, money to send to her mother to buy milk for her child and some days she doesn't have money for her lunch. 

 

Her husband does not know about me, she keeps it a secret. 

 

My relationship is not perfect but it works for me at the moment, someday I'll have to find a new gf but for now I'll keep the relationship going, I like her too much. 

 

A married woman is a good option. 

Edited October 14, 2023 by SAFETY FIRST

[Skeptic7]

Seems you've got everything every self-respecting mia noi would want in a guy❗Just go out and getcha one...or two. ????

[whistersniff]

49 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

My ex-girlfriend, we recently split up after together for 1 year, she is a married woman, when we met she was separated, just 25yo. 

 

Over the last year I've been with her she's been in love with her husband, I never knew until they got back together. 

I loved this woman, still do. 

 

Her husband is on an average wage, they live and work in Bangkok, she works for a cosmetic company on an average wage, she works Monday to Friday and comes visits me most weekends, our relationship is still sexual. 

 

She has an infant child with her husband, the child lives with her mother up country.

 

Their combined income is not enough to pay the bills so I give her some money (too much some times) every time she visits, she calls me some days asking for a few hundred baht, money to send to her mother to buy milk for her child and some days she doesn't have money for her lunch. 

 

Her husband does not know about me, she keeps it a secret. 

 

My relationship is not perfect but it works for me at the moment, someday I'll have to find a new gf but for now I'll keep the relationship going, I like her too much. 

 

A married woman is a good option. 

Sounds like a good enough arrangement that it works for both of you.  Sounds ideal too.  Thanks for sharing.

Edited October 14, 2023 by whistersniff

[JensenZ]

14 hours ago, PingRoundTheWorld said:

Clearly you have not been intoduced to the wonderful world of "daddy issues".

I didn't make it clear - it was a general assessement. Experiences may differ.

[Dave0206]

3 hours ago, Lacessit said:

"Thai men are renowned for being rational people"? I guess all the reports of shootings, stabbings etc. over face and/or affairs of the heart are just fake news.

 

 

I suppose it would be too much to guess that I was writing tongue in cheek style ???? I have to guess English is not your first language?

If so check a dictionary look up humour ???? 

[Brick Top]

Try "swingers.co.th" 

[Elkski]

I know this concept is hard for some of us to understand or accept initially.  I keep an open mind. To each their own.  We only live once.  If 2 people have a beneficial agreement why would it bother you so much?   Perhaps try to understand where your prejudice was born?  Good or bad I dont think my wife would accept this and i am not one to lie or sneak, but also I no need. 

[The Theory]

It is "easy" to have ladies if you are a handsome farang who can speak Thai. 
There are lots of available ladies (not bar ladies nor pros), the only barrier is the language. I see that language is my only problem????????????