Some things will never change - will they ?

[newbee2022]

On 4/6/2024 at 11:11 AM, The Cobra said:

Got a phone call last night.....

 

So, the drama unfolds. Turns out, a mate has been nursing a broken heart ever since he picked up this girl at some disco joint a while back. We've all heard about her – supposedly a sweet, lovely student with a side order of life drama. But then he brings her to our regular dinner party uninvited, and let's just say it wasn't exactly a match made in heaven.

Imagine us, a bunch of older educated guys with more degrees than a thermometer, and there she is, fresh from the bar and clearly out of her depth.

We try to be nice but its hard work, it's like trying to teach calculus to a goldfish. By the end of the night, she's grumpier than a cat in a bath.

 

We all exchange pitying glances at our friend, who's gone gooey-eyed over this girl toy. But hey, it's his life, his choices. After that evening, he's been avoiding us like the plague.

Then last night, like a bad penny, he calls me up late at night, blabbering on. Turns out, he and Ms. Drama-Queen broke up not long after that disastrous dinner. And why, you ask? Because his buddy from England came to visit, and the girl decided to have a holiday fling, if you catch my drift. Apparently, she found someone who didn't mind flashing the cash.

 

So, there he is, drowning his sorrows in the same disco joint where he found her, only this time she's hanging off some other dude with a wallet thicker than a dictionary. And what does my friend do? He calls me up to rant about Thai girls being the spawn of Satan – scheming, money-grabbing creatures who are all cut from the same cloth he drones.

Now, don't get me wrong, I know he's just pizzed and blowing off steam, but hearing my mate trash-talk Thai women at 1 am is not my idea of a good time. I mean, I've never dabbled in the BG (bargirl) scene, thank heavens, but hearing him go on about it made my blood boil to be honest.

 

For crying out loud! And let me tell you, I'd sooner cuddle up to a pack of stray dogs than deal with that nonsense. BGs might have their sob stories, but frankly, I've got more sympathy for a wilted houseplant. They give decent Thai women a bad rap, and frankly, I'm fed up with it.

 

So, here's to hoping my mate sobers up and stops painting all Thai women with the same brush. 

 

Have you ever taken a bar girl out for awhile, did you carry on going back to the same bar afterwards, what was it like for you seeing the one you had a short time before with another farang ?

You should not pick your phone at night. Would have spared you from gibberish.🤣

[ignore it]

Yep.

 

There's a certain proportion of Asian females (of all classes and socioeconomic backgrounds) that like to play the game and a certain proportion of western men that don't know the game and come looking for true love. Even experienced guys occasionally fall into the trap.

 

Tell your buddy to grow up and get over it, love all of them and trust none of them. And to make sure they shower before hitting the sack and afterwards for the next guy.

 

Ain't it a turn off when your current honey comes over from a friend's wedding or a night out with the girls with another man dripping out of her?

[CharlieH]

Trolling/flame posts removed.

[baansgr]

With..mates like his screwing her,.who.needs.en ppemies

[VBF]

On 4/6/2024 at 6:07 AM, OneMoreFarang said:

 

Some of us have to learn that we have different groups of people we meet.

Intellectuals, especially female intellectuals, normally don't mix with pretty young girls.

 

Personally, I have meetings with smart old women, all is fine.

And I see cute young girls, and all is fine.

But I never mix them together.

 

 

Spot on! 👍

I enjoy "sporting" with bar ladies and I also enjoy the company of apparently respectable women...I just try to remember with whom I'm interacting and attempt appropriate behaviour at all times

 

And always remember that a man (or woman) has as many personalities as they have friends 🙄

[markus]

On 4/6/2024 at 6:11 AM, The Cobra said:

Got a phone call last night.....

 

So, the drama unfolds. Turns out, a mate has been nursing a broken heart ever since he picked up this girl at some disco joint a while back. We've all heard about her – supposedly a sweet, lovely student with a side order of life drama. But then he brings her to our regular dinner party uninvited, and let's just say it wasn't exactly a match made in heaven.

Imagine us, a bunch of older educated guys with more degrees than a thermometer, and there she is, fresh from the bar and clearly out of her depth.

We try to be nice but its hard work, it's like trying to teach calculus to a goldfish. By the end of the night, she's grumpier than a cat in a bath.

 

We all exchange pitying glances at our friend, who's gone gooey-eyed over this girl toy. But hey, it's his life, his choices. After that evening, he's been avoiding us like the plague.

Then last night, like a bad penny, he calls me up late at night, blabbering on. Turns out, he and Ms. Drama-Queen broke up not long after that disastrous dinner. And why, you ask? Because his buddy from England came to visit, and the girl decided to have a holiday fling, if you catch my drift. Apparently, she found someone who didn't mind flashing the cash.

 

So, there he is, drowning his sorrows in the same disco joint where he found her, only this time she's hanging off some other dude with a wallet thicker than a dictionary. And what does my friend do? He calls me up to rant about Thai girls being the spawn of Satan – scheming, money-grabbing creatures who are all cut from the same cloth he drones.

Now, don't get me wrong, I know he's just pizzed and blowing off steam, but hearing my mate trash-talk Thai women at 1 am is not my idea of a good time. I mean, I've never dabbled in the BG (bargirl) scene, thank heavens, but hearing him go on about it made my blood boil to be honest.

 

For crying out loud! And let me tell you, I'd sooner cuddle up to a pack of stray dogs than deal with that nonsense. BGs might have their sob stories, but frankly, I've got more sympathy for a wilted houseplant. They give decent Thai women a bad rap, and frankly, I'm fed up with it.

 

So, here's to hoping my mate sobers up and stops painting all Thai women with the same brush. 

 

Have you ever taken a bar girl out for awhile, did you carry on going back to the same bar afterwards, what was it like for you seeing the one you had a short time before with another farang ?

I didn't finish reading. Please keep it a little shorter in the future ...

[Lacessit]

On 4/7/2024 at 9:09 PM, BigStar said:

 

ANF Poster Boomerang Principle at work again.

 

@BritManToois the forum's foremost proponent of Genetics Voodoo, except he hypocritically attempts to thwart it whenever perceived in his own self-interest.

Women report having 68% fewer sexual partners than men, according to this article:

 

https://www.thenewdaily.com.au/life/2024/04/08/australia-promiscuous?

 

No doubt BMT would say they are all lying.

[Hummin]

On 4/6/2024 at 11:33 AM, bkk6060 said:

The best thinking should be they are for fun. And, the 3 day rule should apply.  

Also, keep out emotional attachment.  If you go back to the shop and she is with another dude, you should have no problem taking another girl from that place.  I have done it many times.

I had nice long travelling holidays with a few, great bar girls, and now well married moved on to a new life. 

 

Some Bar girls, is not just simple bar girls. 

 

 

[thaibeachlovers]

4 hours ago, Hummin said:

I had nice long travelling holidays with a few, great bar girls, and now well married moved on to a new life. 

 

Some Bar girls, is not just simple bar girls. 

 

 

During the first decades of my time visiting LOS I'd stop off in Pattaya to find a compatible BG and head to the beach ( girls at the beach were way more expensive and did no more than Pattaya girls ). They came in useful when I was looking for a place to stay as they would sit with the bags in a restaurant while I looked around. Sometimes that could take an hour or two.

Otherwise they were just for night time, as they rarely wanted to do any walking and I'd ramble for hours.

However, on the 3 occasions I got sick with dengue and was laid up for a few days they would look after me.

 

After it was all over, they'd wave me off at the airport and that was usually the last time I saw them- most had moved on by the time I returned for the next beach adventure in paradise.

 

Happy days back then.

[thaibeachlovers]

4 hours ago, Lacessit said:

Women report having 68% fewer sexual partners than men, according to this article:

 

https://www.thenewdaily.com.au/life/2024/04/08/australia-promiscuous?

 

No doubt BMT would say they are all lying.

Either they are lying or some of them are having a lot more sexual partners than men.

[Hummin]

27 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

During the first decades of my time visiting LOS I'd stop off in Pattaya to find a compatible BG and head to the beach ( girls at the beach were way more expensive and did no more than Pattaya girls ). They came in useful when I was looking for a place to stay as they would sit with the bags in a restaurant while I looked around. Sometimes that could take an hour or two.

Otherwise they were just for night time, as they rarely wanted to do any walking and I'd ramble for hours.

However, on the 3 occasions I got sick with dengue and was laid up for a few days they would look after me.

 

After it was all over, they'd wave me off at the airport and that was usually the last time I saw them- most had moved on by the time I returned for the next beach adventure in paradise.

 

Happy days back then.

Very few bar girls waiting for you and stay faithful, because the chance you will come back to them is very small, but some do. 

 

Thats why I never tried to keep a long distance relationship with a thai, or any girl anywhere for that sake. 

 

The one I ended up marrying, proved herself and after 6 months I met here I moved here and we became a couple. 

[freeworld]

Reads like collective narcissism.

[Lacessit]

1 hour ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Either they are lying or some of them are having a lot more sexual partners than men.

I can remember an angelic-looking bar girl on Loi Kroh Road who boasted of having 19 men in the space of 24 hours. That would be skewing any statistical analysis.

[thaibeachlovers]

22 hours ago, Hummin said:

Very few bar girls waiting for you and stay faithful, because the chance you will come back to them is very small, but some do. 

 

Thats why I never tried to keep a long distance relationship with a thai, or any girl anywhere for that sake. 

 

The one I ended up marrying, proved herself and after 6 months I met here I moved here and we became a couple. 

While I didn't ask them to wait, it wasn't that they were with someone else in Pattaya, but that they had usually departed for good.

I had one that went off for a couple of years and came back, and another that saw me and was able to convince me ( reluctantly ) for another go. I took her to Hua Hin and she was actually better second time around. There was one that I had the address for and wrote to say I'd be coming back. Took her to Thong Nai Pan Yai and she was a disaster second time around.

Early on, I met someone in Tilac and she was my holiday GF for 4 years. Had one from Hollywood Royale for a few years, and at the turn of the century I found one that I had a somewhat stormy relationship with for 8 years, even after she left the bars and went to university. She found some rich guy and never had an e mail from her since.

The one I really liked had such terrible stretch marks that I couldn't bear to look at them ( she had a delightful child though ), so she was a non starter.

The one that was the best all rounder of all was the one I blew it with big time- still wonder if it would have worked out. She had the body of a goddess and was amazing in bed. She spent a very pleasant month with me at Railay. I guess I just wasn't ready to go to the next level with anyone then.

 

Is it strange that the ones that come to mind the most easily ( other than the ones I knew for years ) are the ones I met, but never proceeded to a bar fine with. The possibilities rather than the realities, perhaps.

 

Perhaps I was lucky, but I had very few duds among a lot of gems. Was I mad to give it up for marriage? Given a prostate operation had a major effect ( happily Cialis does work ), perhaps it was time, but I definitely made a wrong choice.

[thaibeachlovers]

21 hours ago, Lacessit said:

I can remember an angelic-looking bar girl on Loi Kroh Road who boasted of having 19 men in the space of 24 hours. That would be skewing any statistical analysis.

I'm somewhat sceptical of that.

 

I had one that I didn't know had already had a short time, and she wanted me to have a Mrs Palmer rather than the real thing. Seems she hurt too much for a second round. If that is the result of just one guy, 18 would be pushing it for number 19, IMO. Of course, if she was a party girl, she may not have had a problem.

 

In Playkool ( Nana ) in the mid 90s there was one extremely attractive dancer that seemed to be going out ST quite frequently every night, but she is the only one I know of that partied a lot.

[BritManToo]

On 4/9/2024 at 6:16 AM, Lacessit said:

Women report having 68% fewer sexual partners than men, according to this article:

 

https://www.thenewdaily.com.au/life/2024/04/08/australia-promiscuous?

 

No doubt BMT would say they are all lying.

All women lie!

I tend not to listen to them much.

 

As for boasting on sex conquests, men divide by 5, women multiply by 10.

[Hummin]

14 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

While I didn't ask them to wait, it wasn't that they were with someone else in Pattaya, but that they had usually departed for good.

I had one that went off for a couple of years and came back, and another that saw me and was able to convince me ( reluctantly ) for another go. I took her to Hua Hin and she was actually better second time around. There was one that I had the address for and wrote to say I'd be coming back. Took her to Thong Nai Pan Yai and she was a disaster second time around.

Early on, I met someone in Tilac and she was my holiday GF for 4 years. Had one from Hollywood Royale for a few years, and at the turn of the century I found one that I had a somewhat stormy relationship with for 8 years, even after she left the bars and went to university. She found some rich guy and never had an e mail from her since.

The one I really liked had such terrible stretch marks that I couldn't bear to look at them ( she had a delightful child though ), so she was a non starter.

The one that was the best all rounder of all was the one I blew it with big time- still wonder if it would have worked out. She had the body of a goddess and was amazing in bed. She spent a very pleasant month with me at Railay. I guess I just wasn't ready to go to the next level with anyone then.

 

Is it strange that the ones that come to mind the most easily ( other than the ones I knew for years ) are the ones I met, but never proceeded to a bar fine with. The possibilities rather than the realities, perhaps.

 

Perhaps I was lucky, but I had very few duds among a lot of gems. Was I mad to give it up for marriage? Given a prostate operation had a major effect ( happily Cialis does work ), perhaps it was time, but I definitely made a wrong choice.

Everyone have different experiences, but I met girls who had good language, sporty (diving, climbing, kayaking, hiking, swimming even  bungy jumps) and easy going, and also didnt drink or very little alchohol consume, and I believed was aiming for holiday boyfrieds rather than short times. It was girls who had experience with long term relaionships with foreigners. 

 

Sounds impossible to find, I know, but I had a few experiences like that and neever been a bar monger, but once and awhile I had time to kill, and got to know a few decent ones. 

 

Never asked for money, but I did pay their bills for electric, rent, clothes, and daily expenses, and after end of holiday, did put a decent amount in their purse without they see it. 

 

I have only positive experiences 

 

 

[thaibeachlovers]

18 hours ago, Hummin said:

Never asked for money, but I did pay their bills for electric, rent, clothes, and daily expenses, and after end of holiday, did put a decent amount in their purse without they see it. 

If catering to mongers wasn't their job, what did they do that they could take time off to stay with you?

[spidermike007]

If you take a bar girl out, if you take a girl out of a Go go bar you simply approach her as a plaything and someone to have some fun with. The mistakes guys make is to try to make it something bigger than it is, something more significant than it is. A lot of guys come here and they're just vulnerable emotionally and they get with a girl who expresses some affection to them and they confuse that affection with the fact that the girl really likes him or the girl loves him. Then they get all bent out of shape when she starts acting like a bar girl or a go-go girl.

 

It's just a completely twisted situation, and the guy is 100% to blame for allowing himself to get caught up in her world.

 

It's not paying tribute to the gender. It is pure weakness and delusion. 

[Hummin]

1 hour ago, thaibeachlovers said:

If catering to mongers wasn't their job, what did they do that they could take time off to stay with you?

They where making money freelancing and same time looked for a better future. Many girls you meet in bars, at hotels, or wherever is freelancing

[thaibeachlovers]

23 minutes ago, Hummin said:

They where making money freelancing and same time looked for a better future. Many girls you meet in bars, at hotels, or wherever is freelancing

So they were catering to mongers. A freelancer is a prostitute that doesn't work for a bar or karaoke etc. Had you not given them some money I expect they would have been somewhat "annoyed".

[thaibeachlovers]

47 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

If you take a bar girl out, if you take a girl out of a Go go bar you simply approach her as a plaything and someone to have some fun with. The mistakes guys make is to try to make it something bigger than it is, something more significant than it is. A lot of guys come here and they're just vulnerable emotionally and they get with a girl who expresses some affection to them and they confuse that affection with the fact that the girl really likes him or the girl loves him. Then they get all bent out of shape when she starts acting like a bar girl or a go-go girl.

 

It's just a completely twisted situation, and the guy is 100% to blame for allowing himself to get caught up in her world.

 

It's not paying tribute to the gender. It is pure weakness and delusion. 

Somewhat agree, but IMO the girls use the fact that most western men have never had decent sex in their lives to fool them that they are offering more than they are.

It's too easy for a western man that has never known decent sex to think that the girl is doing so because she "likes" him, when she doesn't.

I've been there done that myself, but I was lucky in that I didn't meet many bad ones.

[Hummin]

8 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

So they were catering to mongers. A freelancer is a prostitute that doesn't work for a bar or karaoke etc. Had you not given them some money I expect they would have been somewhat "annoyed".

Well thats the nature of it, but I know a few would think they where for free, 

 

Anyway, most decent well behaved freelancers have sponsors, and can play around because they are already covered.