Do you still see girls in bars which you would consider as girlfriend/wife?

[Irish star]

In 20 years not one bargirl , but they are all scamming Now   Il just rent one nighters 

[Cameroni]

1 minute ago, OneMoreFarang said:

 

I guess there would be pictures of her on those dating sites. And if she met guys in person after she met them online, they the dating sites must have been (also) for that local market.

I never used those sites, but I guess it won't be too difficult to search on dating sites i.e. for a women about 27 years old, 150cm, 50kg, or something like that. And then look at the pictures.

Her customers found her there. Pretend to be a customer and search accordingly.

I never tried it, but I guess it should work.

 

I did that, and I did find her on a dating site. But those photos are just of her of course, not her with guys. It's useless. It wasn't easy to find her, btw, she of course used a false name, I only managed it because she stupidly used her real age.

 

She just said "Oh yes, that's an old ad, I was on the site before i met you". 

 

The way to handle this situation is to tell her either you give me your password for your facebook, messenger, viber and email or we're broken up. That is how I managed to get the full information, plus checking her phone and her then making a full confession because she thought no use to lie anymore since he saw the social media info. Despite her deleting a lot of info, she couldn't delete everything, so it was still possible to see enough so that she'd make a full confession.

 

[Donut21]

On 9/2/2024 at 11:18 AM, MangoKorat said:

When I return from the UK I'm normally on a late flight so I stay over in Bangkok and have a night out.  On a recent trip I bumped into a bloke I've known for a few years. Sitting in a bar opposite Big Dogs & Morning night I commented that the girls were older and uglier than I remembered them to be 20 years ago. To which my mate commented 'Yeah, its the same girls"........🤣

 

[Donut21]

I remember 25 years ago in a bar in Hong Kong with a friend.  When my fried stuck up a conversation with an older working  women.  He told her he lost his cheery at The Bottoms Up Club, with a young lady  just after the 2nd world war and her name was ruby.  The older lady replied my name is Ruby and I was working just after the war at that club, Still working 61 years later.

[Celsius]

Shakira over any Thai woman let alone filthy bargirl.

 

England agrees!

 

 

[OneMoreFarang]

1 minute ago, Celsius said:

Shakira over any Thai woman let alone filthy bargirl

 

 

 

She is already 47!

And I am not so sure she would join any of us for a drink. 

[movsrusnj]

If you think you can find love with a bar girl then you must be blind. Leave your money at home.

[OneMoreFarang]

55 minutes ago, movsrusnj said:

If you think you can find love with a bar girl then you must be blind. Leave your money at home.

If you think you can't find love with any girl then you obviously left your heart at home.

 

Especially in Thailand there are lots of lovely girls who work in bars. 

Lots of guys traveled from far away to find a lovely Thai girl - and many of them in bars.

[D M G]

Reservoirs

[norsurin]

I prefer short-time girlfriend and wife's.

After no drama and life is still good 

[harryviking]

NO WAY!!! 😆

[BritManToo]

On 9/6/2024 at 8:41 AM, Celsius said:

Shakira over any Thai woman let alone filthy bargirl.

 

England agrees!

 

 

She's a bit on the old side (48), but I could overlook that in the hopes of grabbing some of her $300M USD.

[BritManToo]

On 9/5/2024 at 3:14 PM, spidermike007 said:

I'm in total agreement with you on that. I always find it rather peculiar when guys who are getting serious with a gal don't want to do any research into her background, are willing to take her completely at her word, and buy into her storyline, hook line and sinker. I'm not saying that all women cannot be trusted, but I am saying that lies and exaggerations are common, and often times people leave out rather significant elements of their personal history which could have a dramatic impact on your life together. 

 

And when it comes to a bar girl, multiply all that times ten, vs. a civilian. 

 

With the exception of the men who are clever enough to hire a private detective to look into her background, and pay some real money to do it right, there is no way to know. They all have stories. And most of the stories are ones that they know we want to hear. So many times I have heard friends say, "Oh no, she is new. She has only been working at the bar two weeks. I was her first customer. She worked in a factory before that. I could tell how innocent she was'. Yeah right!

Why would anyone care about her past?

Enjoy the sex.

Don't give anyone the chance to take from you.

Trust No One!

[Marco51]

On 9/2/2024 at 4:46 PM, OneMoreFarang said:

I met my gf in a bar, many years ago. At that time, it seemed almost everybody met their girlfriends in bars - at least the people I know personally.

I am not looking for a new gf, but I have to admit from time to time I play that game: what if. What if my gf would have a deadly accident and I would be single again and looking for a new girl.

Would I look in a bar? Any other specific places? Online?

What kind of girl/women would I look for? Similar to what my gf was when I met her many years ago? Similar how she was recently? Something completely different?

 

In a way I would like to have another one similar to what my gf used to be. Young, cute, innocent, happy enjoying life.

Apart from the big issue if such a girl would want me, it seems to me there are not many young, cute, innocent girls around anymore. For the sake of this thread, let's say >= 20 years old.

Maybe once a week I go with a friend through a couple of bars in Nana. And what do I see? Mostly fat girls who are nearer to 30 than 20, many over 30. Most of them are a little or a lot overweight. And very few give me the impression that they are just nice girls. I think years ago there were plenty of nice girls in the bars. Now, not anymore.

Obviously, my vision and perception changed with age, experience, etc. I am also not as horny anymore, so the "wow, I want her" situations don't happen much anymore.

But all in all, I think there are just not many attractive girls in the bars anymore.

Sometimes I still see cute waitresses in restaurants, nice girls in 7/11, etc. But in the bars? Seldom, very seldom.

 

What do you think about this? If you are not against the concept of having a gf from a bar, do you still see some or many girls which you would consider girlfriend material?

Again, to make this clear, I am sure many of the girls would not be interested in me, even if I wanted them. I know that. But my point is still: There are almost no nice girls in the bars anymore, independent of the fact if they would want me. How about you?

 

.........and there aren't many nice farang around any more either, the easy going, open pocketed, slender good looking youngish single with humour and tolerance...............

[Sweet Swede]

Wherever you meet your girlfriend that end up as your wife does not matter. The most important thing is that your chemistry is good and that both are faithful, which ncludes the male. 

[SingAPorn]

Why bother in long term relationship ? Many people just "rent" their girlfriend for a month or few weeks then change. But always remember to fix in advance the daily rate and of course watch your belongings at home as like everywhere, there are always dishonest people and girls out there looking for a falang bait. Enjoy.

[SingAPorn]

On 9/6/2024 at 5:55 AM, movsrusnj said:

If you think you can find love with a bar girl then you must be blind. Leave your money at home.

Not to mention that obviously quite a few of these fine ladies play around, have a thai husband or b/f hidden back ... and not to mention the risks of contracting HiV or a StD ?

[OneMoreFarang]

1 hour ago, SingAPorn said:

Why bother in long term relationship ? Many people just "rent" their girlfriend for a month or few weeks then change. But always remember to fix in advance the daily rate and of course watch your belongings at home as like everywhere, there are always dishonest people and girls out there looking for a falang bait. Enjoy.

 

Did you do that for some time? Obviously, it can be exiting if you have everyday another hottie and enjoy life. But it seems in the real world there are not only hotties. There are some nice girls, some exiting girls, some liars, some dangerous drug addicts, etc.

And it always takes time to find a new one for the night or the week or whatever.

 

Some of us lived that live. Some for months, some for years. And then many of us decided at some stage that it is more hassle than enjoyment. And there was this one girl who we always liked and never had trouble with her. Why not stay a little longer with her... 

[OneMoreFarang]

1 hour ago, SingAPorn said:

Not to mention that obviously quite a few of these fine ladies play around, have a thai husband or b/f hidden back ... and not to mention the risks of contracting HiV or a StD ?

And do only bargirls hide the truth? Or are there also lots of "normal" girls and women out there who like to hide at least part of the truth?

[Elkski]

1 more,  your just having midlife crisis.  Normal.   Just be wise.  

From all your postings I would think your GF is an amazing find.    I bet she would be willing to do most things to improve your relationship if you asked.   

 

As far as dating sites and online, it was full of normal quality women before COVID.  I wasn't looking for under 40 though.    It did take lots of time and commitment to carry on conversations with 10-20 at a time during the weeding out process before a month or two visit.   I'm sure many bar girls joined online during covid to survive and many enjoyed the freedom and no bar taking their share and never looked back. The better looking probably had no reason to even consider going back to the bar. Plus fattening western style fast food taking Thailand by storm. Any new comers didn't need the bar anymore.    Back before COVID lots of normal women over 40 just tired and done with this men. Many normal women spent to much time at work, and also not socially acceptable to go out to bars alone in their profession.  Lots of friends on FB posting about great lives with farang, either living in Thailand or abroad.   Most I met had no goal of leaving Thailand.   Most had bad experiences with gambling, cheating,  or drunk Thai husbands.   Most had college degrees of not advanced.  But I searched for that.    Line video time let you see the movement as I know exactly what that means to you as it does to me.   

Didn't end up finding my wife online but it was very  promising method in 2016-2019

[OneMoreFarang]

3 hours ago, Elkski said:

1 more,  your just having midlife crisis.  Normal.   Just be wise.  

From all your postings I would think your GF is an amazing find.    I bet she would be willing to do most things to improve your relationship if you asked. 

I am happy with my gf, I don't want to have a new one. But I guess it's part of male's nature to think about what if - at least it's my nature.

 

[OneMoreFarang]

3 hours ago, Elkski said:

The better looking probably had no reason to even consider going back to the bar.

There are lots of girls who like working in those bars. They have lots of friends, can drink and smoke and get drunk, some even dance. 

Obviously not all girls want to work in bars. But for others, it's home where they feel comfortable. 

[sletraveler]

Living on and off in Hua Hin the past five years I have noticed this year a big difference in the attractiveness of bar girls.  Now old, fat or generally high mileage women.   
Not that I’m looking of course.  

[it is what it is]

Mostly fat girls who are nearer to 30 than 20, many over 30

 

if correct that's a refreshing development, the younger generation making their way in the world without resorting to the sex industry. good for them. 

[Danderman123]

On 9/7/2024 at 6:17 AM, SingAPorn said:

Not to mention that obviously quite a few of these fine ladies play around, have a thai husband or b/f hidden back ... and not to mention the risks of contracting HiV or a StD ?

One bargirl claims she loves me, and constantly posts photos of me on Facebook.

 

No idea what her Thai husband thinks of that.

[soi3eddie]

On 9/2/2024 at 12:57 PM, OneMoreFarang said:

I never tried online dating. I might be wrong, but I don't think I would like it.

The reason is the chemistry - for lack of a better word.

 

I "met" a girl on Thai Friendly in 2015. Amongst all the chaff, she was very articulate and smart and stood out above all the others. We met for coffee, which turned into lunch but then did not see each other for 6 months (i went back to the UK for summer). Then next a dinner date. It was only 3 weeks after that we "hooked up" and were together for 3 years before she started to mis-behave, in a controlling manner, like my ex-wife. Next lady, met through mutual friends, lasted just over 18 months before going same way.

 

My now GF, I met in a bar 4 years ago. Very smart and loving lady. She tried the controlling <deleted> but I walked, we got back together, she did it again and I walked. Got back together, we are now very happy together and happy. Everyone is different. Even ladies who work in bars are there for reasons. Survival is main reason for many. How many guys here would do what they do? 

 

I think age can have quite a lot to do with it. Most of us here are 50+ (I'm now 57).  How's that going to work with a 20yr old? Not likely IMO. My ladies mentioned above were; 38, 36 and 39 respectively when met. I secured visas for all of them to visit the UK when we were together with the first, and current visiting 7 times (so far). 

 

I observe "girls" in Nana, Soi 6, Pattaya, Cowboy, Patpong, Soi 11, etc. but you never know until meeting the "right one". I met one lady in Hilary 1 earlier this year, her day job on a fragrance counter in Emsphere. It takes all sorts. I intend to stay with my current GF but will not be marrying again though (she was aware from early on).

 

[dcalaska]

If you want to hang out in the bars and meet bar girls, why not stay single. Freedom.

[anotherexpat4444]

I would love to know  a little more on the lady scene  in pattaya

 

#1- I go soi 6 and I see the ladies are all outside  and it is so crowded that I dont even get courage to to talk to them . and I hardly see any man inside  ( not sure if i just happens to be in wrong time) . so are these girls available for short time  ?  how to pick one to take out on short time .  do they have short time inside the bar  or have to take outside. 

 

#2 - Are the beer bar girls available for short time . ? 

 

 

[OneMoreFarang]

5 hours ago, it is what it is said:

Mostly fat girls who are nearer to 30 than 20, many over 30

 

if correct that's a refreshing development, the younger generation making their way in the world without resorting to the sex industry. good for them. 

If that is the case, then I agree.

But maybe they are in the online sex industry.

I don't know.

[OneMoreFarang]

4 hours ago, soi3eddie said:

It was only 3 weeks after that we "hooked up" and were together for 3 years before she started to mis-behave, in a controlling manner, like my ex-wife. Next lady, met through mutual friends, lasted just over 18 months before going same way.

 

My now GF, I met in a bar 4 years ago. Very smart and loving lady. She tried the controlling <deleted> but I walked, we got back together, she did it again and I walked.

Do you know what they all had in common? You. 

Thai women, maybe all women, want strong partners. The "western" concept of being equal partners just doesn't work. If a guy is nice and ask his equal partner what to do, then she takes over and tells him what to do. IMHO there is only one way to solve this: You have to be dominant and stay dominant. You are the boss. Make it clear, and don't let her get stupid ideas that maybe she should be the boss. 

It seems most or at least many Thai women want it this way. They want a strong leader to take control.

 

And I write this not because I am the macho man but because I experienced what happens if you try to be a nice partner.