"Getting out of dodge" fall-out from a failed realtionship - Guide for dummies.

[watthong]

I'm in the process of ending a relationship, the other person has moved out (but still comes back almost daily ostensibly t to pick up stuff  but actually to moan and groan. (You can follow the nail-biting, cliff-hanging thread that I have posted on same forun recently.) I'm also in the process of preparing myself to re-patriate to the USA. What I have to plan now is get out of the rented apartment with a 2-month notice clause when moving out.

 

Earlier this week I called an talked to my Thai teacher, she's a few years younger than me, a single grandmother whose now main occupation is to take care of her 2 yr old grandchild. We haven't stayed in touch much since covid as I have moved out of town. She felt sorry about what happened since she also knew my ex. However, she suggested that I drop everything, the ex=partner especially, and come and stay at her townhouse, she has a vacant room on the 3rd fl. "For a month or two, that's fine. But you should "poy" ie ditch him." The "month or two" window is the time I figure it would take for friends in the US to find accommodation in advance of my arrival there.

 

So has anyone experienced this kind of US withdrawal fr Afghanistan style? Leave everything behind, just pack up your papers and your rolexes in a small roll-on suitcase, lock the door and walk out. I don't have any place to store all the stuff that has accumulated during the span of our relationship, and the couple of server-size tower PCs I use are just too big to take back with me. I would like to give the whole household to my ex. But it would entail another drawn-out never ending blame multiple day -session and I would have to be the one orchestrating the move, yeah, too much and not worth it. Re the building management, I don't really want to stay here for another couple of months just to honor the end clause of the contract.  The rent is due by the 5th of the month.

So what is the best plan of attack? Thank you in advance for your concrete, time-tested wisdom and foresight.

Edited 3 hours ago by watthong

[scubascuba3]

If you need someone find someone new and stay here, drama over

[watthong]

3 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

If you need someone find someone new and stay here, drama over

 

Thanks for the advice but that's not what I'm planning. Read the topic tittle again, thank you.

[scubascuba3]

6 minutes ago, watthong said:

 

Thanks for the advice but that's not what I'm planning. Read the topic tittle again, thank you.

ok sounds like you are being a drama queen anyway, no real question in the op, just waffle that you want to talk about you

[Lacessit]

If you don't have one, buy a large suitcase and pack toiletries plus a week's worth of clothing. Leave any non-essentials behind. Take all official documents.

 

No forwarding address. Change your phone SIM and email address. Close social media accounts. Your choice to empty joint bank accounts.

 

Then, walk out. No goodbyes, you're gone. Never go back.

 

IME clean breaks are liberating.