Why do so many Thai prostitutes marry their customers?

[thaibeachlovers]

10 hours ago, Celsius said:

 

No, she is Chinese with MBA and a great job 🥰

 

Go ahead with the Batman slap meme which will make you really intelligent among your barstool crew, handing out wisdom like it's free puss

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Happy to oblige.

 

 

[thaibeachlovers]

10 hours ago, Celsius said:

 

No, she is Chinese with MBA and a great job 🥰

 

Go ahead with the Batman slap meme which will make you really intelligent among your barstool crew, handing out wisdom like it's free puss

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

That's great, I'm happy for you, but does she go like a pornstar? I don't think they hand out MBAs for being good in bed.

[Hummin]

5 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

Yeah but it's over rated, some guys need to drag girls around, needy

Like this you mean

 

https://www.facebook.com/share/r/18BCVr9oJr/

[baansgr]

16 minutes ago, Celsius said:

 

Oops...triggered 

 

Keep paying the salary

 

it really gets boring with you disease spreading sexpats.

I wish I could get a BKK Chinese prosi, where you meet her..Asian love? just fess up mate, nowt to be ashamed of, the only thing to be ashamed of is thinking you got a "normal" girl

[Celsius]

Just now, baansgr said:

I wish I could get a BKK Chinese prosi, where you meet her..Asian love? just fess up mate, nowt to be ashamed of, the only thing to be ashamed of is thinking you got a "normal" girl

 

You can meet her in person and she will tell you all this information.

 

Are you interested or are you a coward?

[baansgr]

13 minutes ago, Celsius said:

 

You can meet her in person and she will tell you all this information.

 

Are you interested or are you a coward?

I don't want to be stirring your porridge mate..she's not my type, apart from the comments I would get from friends back home..like "mail order bride" and "how much you pay for her"... Your welcome too her🙏

[BritManToo]

On 11/17/2024 at 5:59 PM, Pattaya57 said:

Some friend you are. You just accused all of your friends wive's of being low life prostitutes with no class when drunk

Strange that such a 'high value' man would choose to mix with such 'losers'.

[MalcolmB]

11 hours ago, CallumWK said:

 

From your response it is obvious you don't, most likely because you never experienced a real female orgasm

Female orgasm is a feminist myth.

i have been with over 100 women and have never seen one.

it is all BS

[MalcolmB]

23 minutes ago, Celsius said:

 

You can meet her in person and she will tell you all this information.

Are you interested or are you a coward?

I am up for it.

[Celsius]

Just now, MalcolmB said:

I am up for it.

 

Location Thonglor police station 

[MalcolmB]

35 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

That's great, I'm happy for you, but does she go like a pornstar? I don't think they hand out MBAs for being good in bed.

How is the male nurse job going?

[fvw53]

Why do so many farangs mary prostitutes?

[MalcolmB]

48 minutes ago, fvw53 said:

Why do so many farangs mary prostitutes?

Because their only other options are to marry an overweight, entitled feminist their own age called Karen. 
 

It does seem a uniquely Farang behavior.

ISNT the done thing in other cultures.

 

Up to them.

But like with gay marriages adopting children, I think having children with prostitutes is not really fair on the children.

As with having to gay men as parents you will be bullied at school for it.

And one of the worst insults you can say to someone in many cultures is that “Your mother is a whore”

No need to make it a reality.

[Hummin]

2 hours ago, Walker88 said:

I come to threads like this for the oozing and unctuous sanctimony. Luscious! I'm late to the game here, but what the heck....I'll post.

 

I'm going to guess that the "bargirls" who marry foreigners do so for the exact same reasons any Thai woman marries a foreigner....some combination of money, security, familiarity and affection. Zero difference between so-called "good girls" and bargirls, despite the table pounding to the contrary.

 

Unless one is a celebrity or centi-millionaire, few if any top tier, creme de la creme, hi-so Thai women with a good education are going to pair up with a foreigner. What's left in the marriage pool for foreigners---from what I read here and know from chatting with expats in Thailand, the foreigners here come from failed 'back home' marriages---are women who absolutely were in the trade, probably were in the trade, might have been in the trade, or those who dallied out of horny-ness. The self-claimed morally superior foreigners make some distinction between women who had sex for money and women who had sex because they were horny. The difference escapes me.

 

I'm sure some will claim they married a Thai virgin. Good luck to you, is what I say, as my times with virgins were back in my own teens, and I do not remember those trysts as being noteworthy. The last thing I would seek in a spouse or partner is virginity, something wildly overrated and best left to religious fantasies about deities. I am not a virgin, so I would never be so hypocritical as to demand virginity in a spouse. I'm also confident enough in my own masculinity that I think I can provide what she needs between the sheets.

 

I smile when I read about "uneducated", when referring to bargirls. Is the Thai education system so powerful that one can spot the difference between a woman who completed 8 years of school and one who completed even a Thai university degree program? I haven't seen that. A few years ago I read an article that the top Thai university was rated the #418 university....in ASIA. That leads me to conclude, perhaps in error, that few outsiders could tell the difference in education between any bargirl and a local uni grad. The Thai women educated in a foreign country might have better chops, but they likely also come from hi-so families, and thus tend to marry other hi-so, well-educated Thai men.

 

As a bit of an aside, I employ in my business many Thai women with university degrees. They have told me that among their friends---the attractive ones in particular---most all did 'sideline' work while in university, generally with a Thai businessman or politician. Some did it for money, some for the excitement, some just to get a little extra cash to buy something Mom and Dad would not buy for them. Not all attractive Thai women dallied, of course, but a surprising number have. I know "yours" never did, so don't think I'm implying otherwise.

 

Before anyone asks, no, I do not have a bargirl spouse or girlfriend. Admittedly I have entered agogos from time to time and have met and spoken with women in those establishments (some of whom are paying for university with their earnings, by the way). One thing I have concluded is that they seem to have better social skills than women who never entered the trade. These women have had to develop ways to appeal to a wide range of men from a wide range of cultures. The women have 'people skills'. Also, a bargirl is as likely to have an above average IQ (brains are the sexiest part of a woman) as a "normy". I have met women in bars who are absolute kicks in terms of personality, so fun to be around they have become friends without benefits. Since I never walked in the bargirl's flip flops, I cannot make a value judgement on what path she decided to take to earn a living. There but for the grace of Zeus.......

 

Marriages fail all the time. As I noted above, the average expat in Thailand came from a failed marriage or two back home, and let's be honest...it wasn't always the woman's fault. He is just as likely to fail again, whether he ties up with a bargirl or "normy".

 

All that matters is what both parties do when they agree to be together. What they did yesterday, no matter how many sex partners they had for whatever reason, is irrelevant. Only what both do from today matters. I really doubt the bargirl is more likely to cheat than the normy, nor more likely to cheat than her foreigner hubby. Others will disagree.

 

Unless a man is a total failure back home, it's still likely he is in a much better financial position than any Thai woman with whom he develops a relationship, so whether bargirl or normy, money and financial security is one of the incentives for the woman. Also, sometimes people just hit it off; they get along enough to have a desire to try to make something more permanent.

 

Now the OP did not ask this, but I will answer: Would I ever consider marrying a bargirl? Yes, if I fell in love and believed she loved me in return....kind of like any relationship anywhere. Imagine that! Would that make me a lo-so? As Oscar Wilde once said, "People may boo me, but when I go home and think of my money, I applaud myself." If someone judges the woman I love because of her past, then I do not want to associate with that 'morally superior' person. If I'm happy, then eff those who look down on me and my chosen partner. I'm not into 'face'; I live my life for my own enjoyment, not the approval of others.

 

For those who insist on wearing their moral superiority on their sleeve, collect your bonus points and try to cash them in when you're on your death bed. Both you and I will just be wormfood, whether you've followed some fake and sanctimonious moral code or just loved whom you loved.

 

 

A long post with many good points, 

 

A woman who works in decent jobs, is tied up at work, and has little or no spare time for a man who is not working in Thailand. And who also comes for holiday to visit their gf/wife who is also working, means they just have to sit around and can't do much of anything, other than waiting. For some that is a dream situation. For me who travels frequently, that was not an option for me, and when I first met one who I actually clicked with, checked all my boxes, and there were not a few boxes actually there was nothing to think of. 

 

I find it quite provoking some members calling every woman out as  prostitutes, but then on that. Usually members who do have a great deal of experience with prostitutes or are just ignorant and all their experiences are based on Bangkok books only.

Where do girls meet western men in Thailand? Tourist places, and of course every girl who finds a man in tourist places got to be a hooker. Another thing, if a girl goes with a man, most of them, if not a cheap charlie who thinks he is a gift to the women, will drop them money on the way out, if not agreed on up front. Do we create hookers, or are they hookers ? Sometimes obvious, sometimes not

 

I had quite a few girls being ashamed. I dropped them money, when I thought they were freelancers, and some of them obviously wanted to play the long game with, and some not. They were Bangkok girls just out for having some fun, others were already sponsored, and for some reasons would like to have me hang around for a while. Of course back when I Was young and handsome, now only old and hansume.

 

It aint all black and white, even you like to think so, and the most important detail, it is all about what you think is best for you, and your reasons to think that's best for you. Nothing else. I really do not need to defend my choice, why I picked a girl who previously was dumped by her foreigner bf, who had promised her a bright future, who ran off with a younger one at once when she hit her 30ìes. At least he did a great job, teaching her language, swim, behave, drink wine, be a good gf and teach her to be very grateful for those who paid her respect, and for not drinking too much, or party with the other boys several days a week.

 

After all we are all a product of our earlier experiences. 

[Nick Carter icp]

On 11/18/2024 at 3:50 AM, scubascuba3 said:

You don't like sex, i see you as one of those sexless types like Kenneth williams but not funny

 

    Don't take it personally , OK

I just didn't have the money at the time

I was on my way around to visit you, but I dropped my 500 Baht and lost it and so couldn't afford you 

[zmisha]

Prostitutes are so much overpriced because we guys are too lazy to learn Thai.
The monopoly of these girls on the bride market allows them to get huge amounts of money from foreigners, and this, of course, is the main reason for their true feelings for old foreigners.

Those heroes who actually attended Thai language classes (and not just visited the school once to take a photo for the Non-ED Visa) - these guys prefer massage queens. It's so much cheaper. No bar fines, no hotel or drink fees. The girls are very tired and extremely lazy at the end of each day - so they will be happy if you massage them instead.

Edited yesterday at 07:39 AM by zmisha

[Snackbar]

One born every minute 

[bradiston]

On 11/17/2024 at 1:46 PM, MalcolmB said:

I went to a friend of a friend’s wedding on Friday night in Pattaya. 
 

Nearly everyone attending was a farang with a thai wife or girlfriend. A few kids.

 

Everyone was reasonably well behaved until the booze started flowing when things started getting messy and the women’s true colors started showing up. 
 

It was fairly obvious that nearly every one of them was a former bar girl, most were tattooed, they got sleazier and louder as the night wore on both verbally and physically.

 

It was a fun night. 
 

I was thinking about half of them were not showing much or any respect to their husbands. It appeared the more drunk some of them got the less they liked their husbands and were not even pretending to like them.
Almost like they were trying to start trouble with their husbands/boyfriends which put me on edge a bit. Very touchy feely.
 

They seem to have chosen a life where they have to spend most of their time with men they don’t really like. An underlying tension that comes out when they are drunk?

 

Why is it that so many prostitutes in Thailand marry their customers? There are prostitutes in probably every country in the world, but I have never seen this before, it seems a uniquely Thai phenomenon. There must be thousands of them. 
 

Why is it so different in Thailand?

 

ps. The dowry was 200,000 and some gold. The wife was a stunner. An oldie, but a goodie. Nice big set of bolt-ons.
 

 

 

 

You might ask why do so many men marry a prostitute? I'm woke so I don't like the word. Isn't there a better one? Sex worker? Isn't that a better description? The p word has all sorts of ugly connotations.

[MarcelV]

On 11/17/2024 at 1:46 PM, MalcolmB said:

I went to a friend of a friend’s wedding on Friday night in Pattaya. 
 

 

So it was your own wedding?

[bradiston]

On 11/17/2024 at 2:32 PM, georgegeorgia said:

The farang are usually lonely and what is the word I'm looking for ??....where they NEED someone to look after them... similar to a MOTHER figure 

That's why a lot of Australian.men go to the Philippines as Filipina women are MOTHER figures 

They are looking for someone who pretends to CARE

Philippines is popular to get a MOTHER type 

And let's face it ... FILIPINA women are much BETTER in caring than Thai women 

You speak from experience I guess?

[Hummin]

15 minutes ago, bradiston said:

You speak from experience I guess?

He read it somewhere, he doesnt have any real life experiences, and ask about everything everywhere same as he do here at this forum. Something else with those who read all of the Bangkok Books, and have their regular seat at their favorite bar in Pattaya, they almost lived all of what you read here. They have read and heard so much during their time, that they now think they did experience all of it themselves, or at least have a friend who have a friend who experienced it. 

 

or their regular bar is in soi 6, then they know everything there is to know,  first hand

Edited 3 hours ago by Hummin

[hotchilli]

On 11/17/2024 at 1:46 PM, MalcolmB said:

They seem to have chosen a life where they have to spend most of their time with men they don’t really like. An underlying tension that comes out when they are drunk?

They are getting to the age where they need to find a long term sponsor, find the money guy, marry him and leave the bar buisiness.

Only to find they miss the attention and night life, and hubby at home is now boring.

[crazykopite]

You can take the girl out of the bar but you can’t take the bar out of the girl eventually they return when they realise that married life isn’t as exciting 

[crazykopite]

Massage girls are the same most offer a happy ending I was with one several times a week she would come and stay overnight then a months later she showed me her passport with a visa to Germany and told me she was going to live with her husband it did not stop her visiting me the night before her departure I even went to the airport to wave her off that was two years ago never seen her since 

[BritManToo]

2 hours ago, bradiston said:

You might ask why do so many men marry a prostitute? I'm woke so I don't like the word. Isn't there a better one? Sex worker? Isn't that a better description? The p word has all sorts of ugly connotations.

'compensated dating' is the term I prefer.

Let's face it, if they date me they need a bit of compensation!

[bradiston]

24 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

'compensated dating' is the term I prefer.

Let's face it, if they date me they need a bit of compensation!

That's how I see it. Happy to pay for services rendered, same as for anything of value.

[1FinickyOne]

On 11/17/2024 at 1:46 PM, MalcolmB said:

They seem to have chosen a life where they have to spend most of their time with men they don’t really like.

like a marriage?

[1FinickyOne]

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

if they date me they need a bit of compensation!

but only if they like you.

[LukKrueng]

On 11/17/2024 at 1:46 PM, MalcolmB said:

Why is it that so many prostitutes in Thailand marry their customers? There are prostitutes in probably every country in the world, but I have never seen this before, it seems a uniquely Thai phenomenon. There must be thousands of them. 

Maybe you should all why do many farang customers marry their prostitutes....

Many years ago I was a cabbie in a Western country. One night, around 3 or 4am I was sent to pickup a passenger at a brothel. After a few km she asked me to stop the cab as she felt sick. I stopped and she opened the door and vomited. When we continued she said she had a bad night at work, some bad customers and that she hates that place.

I asked her why doesn't she work from home instead. Her answer was: "my husband would like me if I did"...