Marrying a Thai Wife: Overrated or Underrated?

[scubascuba3]

4 hours ago, MCos said:

You could be disappointed if you think you’re performing some sort of rescue service and your wife will be forever grateful

Doesn't work that way. It’s an equal partnership 

Is it when generally the man is providing most/all finances

[Hummin]

50 minutes ago, thesetat2013 said:

forgot about what is used for our farm. We have palm oil trees for our farm but we do not live in our home there for a couple years already.. The Thai mother takes care of the farm. We allotted her a couple rai to use for her personal farming use. Veggies and spices mostly with some fruit. The Thai family never ask us for money and the mother makes sure workers take care of our trees. we collect the money from the palm oil seeds about every 3 months and have never been asked for any of it. We know the prices and what money should be there waiting us and they have never taken any money either. I think when it comes to family.

 

If you plan to marry a poor Isaan woman with an even poorer family. They will not only take all of your sinsod but your new wife will make sure she is sending them as much money as possible. If you marry into a family that is not so poor. They want you to make sure the wife has a good life and the kids you make together. So if you are considering marrying a Thai, you need to think about this also. 

 

I got lucky in finding my wife. The family gave us the family house and all the land divided by 3 siblings... They returned all sinsod under our bed on the wedding night. They never ask for anything from us unless it is something important that they can not get themselves. Any bills for medical are split between all the siblings that their insurance does not pay. They are self supporting and very proud of this. They do not like their daughter married a foreigner but they are happy she is happy with a good family that has all they need and want. They acknowledge me but language is a barrier we can not seem to get past. 

No sin sod paid, her parents have state government insurance because of her brother, and we pay her parents for work.

[Hummin]

1 hour ago, FritsSikkink said:

So you lose money to have a farm.

Do you think we built a small farm in Thailand to make money ? 😁 Good one, I make my money overseas, not in Thailand

 

Investing in land, and self sustainable as much as possible is the key

[Jerry777]

These forums are so boring with all the mods going crazy. I think there are like 20 people on here anymore who comment all the time.

[SAFETY FIRST]

26 minutes ago, Jerry777 said:

These forums are so boring with all the mods going crazy. I think there are like 20 people on here anymore who comment all the time.

Nothing wrong with someone commenting all the time. 

 

Some here have very little to do all day, it keeps them occupied. 

 

 

Edited 5 hours ago by SAFETY FIRST

[Albo]

55 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

 

You may not have been here long enough to identify the 'normal behavior'....

 

Thais are adept at it...  Foreigners who spent time at here are adept at it...      Spotting the following relationships..

 

- Monger + Ho (stick out like a sore thumb and look quite out of place in a normal setting)

- Foreigner + Occupational Farang hunter (stands out - she's over selling her status)

- Foreigner + Regular Woman (also obvious because they look so normal together).

 

Obviously there are lots between those and the 'spectrum is far more faceted'...   but those are the basics and newbies may struggle to tell one from the other.

 

Only 31 years first trip, living here 15 ( more or less 22). Pattaya five years, Bangkok 15, islands South Thailand. A clueless babe in the woods. Thanks for the labels.

[Albo]

50 minutes ago, sqwakvfr said:

Not just flexible  but unimforned and stubborn.  I have been going to the same coffee place in CNX for five years.  The Thai lady makes great coffee and is very nice. To this day she still thinks I am Japanese because I am Asian.  I have stopped telliing her that I am American.  Whenever I am not at her place for a stretch she usually asks me "you go to Japan?".  I tell her I was in Los Angeles but I doubt she believes me.  All I want is to get my coffee and get along with her. I pay, leave a tip, smile and leave until next time.  This represents my experience as an Asian American in the Land of Smiles.  Purusing a relationship of anykind with a Thai woman(especially in Chiang Mai) is no longer  in the plans.  Maybe I will try a bar girl next? 

 

Your life in Thailand sounds super interesting. I'm sure no matter the country you're treated differently simply being (E.) Asian.  You stated you were US, but is your ethnicity Japanese per chance? I'm guessing sometimes you fare better than us white guys, but sometimes not. Took me years to be able to eat noodles, especially rice in the morning. I'd wager sometimes treated much better by women, but in certain situations not. Some Asian TikTokers doing alright here.

 

I've had older aunties kinda do same with me. One kept on with me being German and when was I going back. I lived in Pattaya for five years.

 

I think you should be very ok with dating here as an 'Asian'. I think it's a big plus actually - all things being equal including eating Thai food. Bar girls would be interesting. They love the Japanese and Koreans on Cowboy

[kennypowers]

Childish, narcissistic, inauthentic, money-driven – and that's just the good ones. What's not to like? 🙂

[thesetat2013]

59 minutes ago, Albo said:

They love the Japanese and Koreans on Cowboy

You mean they love the money from Japanese and Koreans on cowboy

[advancebooking]

15 hours ago, SoCal1990 said:

Marrying a Thai woman often sounds like a unique and appealing opportunity, but how can one know in advance what they’re really getting themselves into?

The idea of having a potentially beautiful, caring, and devoted wife who values family and home life is undoubtedly enticing. Add the cultural charm, great food, and warmth that many Thai women are known for, and it’s easy to see why many foreigners might be encouraged to take the plunge.

 

But is the reality as perfect as it seems? Financial expectations, for example, can be a major consideration. In many cases, marrying a Thai woman involves supporting her family to some extent. Is this considered a reasonable cultural norm, or does it often become an overwhelming burden on the husband over time? And how can foreigners navigate this expectation without running into relational challenges and a feeling of being fleeced?

 

Cultural compatibility is another question. The whole Thai cultural aspect that values harmony and “saving face” can sometimes lead to indirect communication. Does this help relationships by reducing unnecessary conflict, or does it cause frustration for someone from the West who is used to a more direct approach? And what about language barriers? How much do they limit deeper connections and understanding between two people when both partners might struggle to fully express themselves because of language?

 

Finally, there’s the lifestyle factor. Some thrive in cross-cultural marriages, embracing the blend of tradition and modernity that a Thai wife can bring. But others might find themselves struggling to bridge the gap between two very different ways of life.

So, is having a Thai wife everything it’s cracked up to be, or does it come with more challenges than would be expecting or find acceptable? For those already married or considering it, what other questions or concerns should weigh the most on one's mind before taking such a plunge?

is this AI generated content?

[Moti24]

Marrying a Thai Wife: Overrated or Underrated?

 

I would have thought that was illegal; she'd need to get divorced first.

[BangkokReady]

4 hours ago, BigStar said:

 

Saw this on Facebook the other day.  Some comments along the lines of "You're a loser if you go to Asia to find a wife".  It's interesting to see the level of illogical shaming that people attempt with this topic.  "You've found a pleasant, attractive woman to be your wife, and you're happy, but this makes you a loser."  🤦‍♂️

[john donson]

thais ladies will put you in last place,  you are the ATM of the family....  you get sex and some food

 

better rent

[sherwood]

Married to a Thai wife, it is what it is.

After 10 years and two daughters it's all good enough.

I have little to whinge about, my wife is half my age.

 

 

Edited 11 minutes ago by sherwood