Marrying a Thai Wife: Overrated or Underrated?

[richard_smith237]

10 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

14 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

No...  but with that accusation you think you've scored a winning point while using a photo of a teenage Billie Piper...

... a but noncey !!!  

It's a photo of my former bosses wife, I think she was about 25 at the time, and had already recorded the TV series, "Adventures of a call girl" with plenty of nudity, as was her appearance in "Penny Dreadful".

 

You're using a photo of your former bosses wife....  erm....   that doesn't exactly score a winning point either !!

 

& that photo predates these TV series...   Anyway - no biggie, just highlighting that your avatar is open to criticism in the same manner as that you have criticised... 

 

Anyway - I agree...   She was quite the fox.

 

 

 

 

Edited yesterday at 05:53 AM by richard_smith237

[zhounan]

I'd rather sit back and watch others enter a consumerism loop once they get married.

[KhunLA]

11 minutes ago, zhounan said:

I'd rather sit back and watch others enter a consumerism loop once they get married.

Some of us do like our hobbies & toys.  

[BigStar]

5 hours ago, save the frogs said:

i don't believe a lot of the nonsense other people post about relationships on here.

 

Good, but it depends on which other people. Aren't you the poster unable to see any girls in Pattaya except bar girls?

[KhunLA]

6 hours ago, save the frogs said:

i don't believe a lot of the nonsense other people post about relationships on here.

Agree, and I'm a complete farce ...

 

... "Mommy, can you bring me down another PB&J with a glass of milk"

 

Oh wait, unlike many folks hiding behind the keyboard, I'm an open book, and even have a few AN member who know me personally.  Can at least verify my BS from living in Udon Thani for 16 ish years.

 

Take your point though, and many a trolls living under the bridge 

 

 

[MangoKorat]

On 11/24/2024 at 10:32 PM, KhunLA said:

Take the word 'Thai' out.  It's a woman, hopefully, if that your preference.  No different than any other woman of the world. 

I can't agree with that. Feminism is not rampant with Thai women. I consider both men and women to be equal - no problems with that. However, I also believe that we each have our place - designed by nature. Men are the 'provider' because (in the main) they have the strength. Women have breasts because they feed the babies. Simplistic but factual.  The problems exist because of the tendency of men in many civilisations to subjugate women.

[MangoKorat]

On 11/24/2024 at 10:32 PM, KhunLA said:

You're marrying the woman, not the family.   Why would you support anyone else ?  Is this something you do in home country ?

Many non Asian men cannot understand this concept, the reality is that its part of Thai culture. If you live in Thailand with your Thai wife, you will of course be expected to support your wife's family - the trick is in knowing where the limits are and when you are simply being ripped off. A Thai man, if he had money, would face exactly the same in most cases.  Its akin to 'family social security' - just remember that government social security doesn't exist (in reality) for many Thai citizens.

 

However, its nothing to do with the fact that some Thai women actively target Western men in order to extract cash from them - there is a difference but it can sometimes be difficult to see.

 

Many years ago I was asked to pay quite a large amount for an operation my then mother in law needed.  I called a family meeting and told them straight - there are five children, all are married and all should contribute what they could afford, I was not going to pay for everything, I also had a family back home.  I'm not going to claim it was accepted easily, they each had their excuses as to why they couldn't pay but at the end of the day, the MIL had her operation and I paid 40%. The biggest benefit of sitting them down and stating my case was that such requests were few and far between after that.

Edited 23 hours ago by MangoKorat

[richard_smith237]

19 minutes ago, MangoKorat said:

I can't agree with that. Feminism is not rampant with Thai women. I consider both men and women to be equal - no problems with that. However, I also believe that we each have our place - designed by nature. Men are the 'provider' because (in the main) they have the strength. Women have breasts because they feed the babies. Simplistic but factual.  The problems exist because of the tendency of men in many civilisations to subjugate women.

 

In reality - so do most western women...  We just hear of the ridiculous vocal extremes on social media. 

All of my mates in the UK have relationships that include what maybe considered as 'traditional roles'  - Blokes do the Barbecuing and cutting the lawn, the women do the laundry and cooking etc... 

... this wave of Feminism is not welcomed by any female I know in the UK...   its just social media noise.

 

 

 

[KhunLA]

59 minutes ago, MangoKorat said:

Many non Asian men cannot understand this concept, the reality is that its part of Thai culture. If you live in Thailand with your Thai wife, you will of course be expected to support your wife's family - the trick is in knowing where the limits are and when you are simply being ripped off. A Thai man, if he had money, would face exactly the same in most cases.  Its akin to 'family social security' - just remember that government social security doesn't exist (in reality) for many Thai citizens.

 

However, its nothing to do with the fact that some Thai women actively target Western men in order to extract cash from them - there is a difference but it can sometimes be difficult to see.

 

Many years ago I was asked to pay quite a large amount for an operation my then mother in law needed.  I called a family meeting and told them straight - there are five children, all are married and all should contribute what they could afford, I was not going to pay for everything, I also had a family back home.  I'm not going to claim it was accepted easily, they each had their excuses as to why they couldn't pay but at the end of the day, the MIL had her operation and I paid 40%. The biggest benefit of sitting them down and stating my case was that such requests were few and far between after that.

 

Only if you are an idiot, or that just happens to be your choice.  Nothing wrong with either, as long as you have the funds.

 

Just not for me, and I have the funds.  My funds are for me & mine, not theirs.

 

1 hour ago, MangoKorat said:

I can't agree with that. Feminism is not rampant with Thai women. I consider both men and women to be equal - no problems with that. However, I also believe that we each have our place - designed by nature. Men are the 'provider' because (in the main) they have the strength. Women have breasts because they feed the babies. Simplistic but factual.  The problems exist because of the tendency of men in many civilisations to subjugate women.

 

You've been brainwashed.  Nobody has a place, and everyone has the freedom to do as they please.  Although they do need to exercise that freedom.  

 

Whatever makes a woman happy, that's what I want her to do.  I know what makes happy, and that's never going to change, and pity the woman that thinks she can.

 

Anyone hanging out with me for more than a week or 2 will understand that, and they can decide to except it, or have fun elsewhere.  Probably why most never lasted 1 or 2 weeks 

Edited 22 hours ago by KhunLA

[Expat68]

10 hours ago, MangoKorat said:

Many non Asian men cannot understand this concept, the reality is that its part of Thai culture. If you live in Thailand with your Thai wife, you will of course be expected to support your wife's family - the trick is in knowing where the limits are and when you are simply being ripped off. A Thai man, if he had money, would face exactly the same in most cases.  Its akin to 'family social security' - just remember that government social security doesn't exist (in reality) for many Thai citizens.

 

However, its nothing to do with the fact that some Thai women actively target Western men in order to extract cash from them - there is a difference but it can sometimes be difficult to see.

 

Many years ago I was asked to pay quite a large amount for an operation my then mother in law needed.  I called a family meeting and told them straight - there are five children, all are married and all should contribute what they could afford, I was not going to pay for everything, I also had a family back home.  I'm not going to claim it was accepted easily, they each had their excuses as to why they couldn't pay but at the end of the day, the MIL had her operation and I paid 40%. The biggest benefit of sitting them down and stating my case was that such requests were few and far between after that.

That is why Thai men get p----d off and leave their wives, Thai women always say Thai man no good (which I used to believe) but after years of living here I can understand why they bag off

[Bredbury Blue]

On 11/25/2024 at 6:32 AM, KhunLA said:

Someone thinks too much.   Fantasy vs Reality ... who comes up with this stuff.

 

Take the word 'Thai' out.  It's a woman, hopefully, if that your preference.  No different than any other woman of the world.  

 

Same everywhere, emphasis on 'potentially' ... as all people aren't ...

... beautiful  (sounds a bit shallow)

... caring, good luck with that

... devoted, divorce rates not different 

... values family and home life  ???

 

More important, do you want to be married and or .... why ?

 

You're marrying the woman, not the family.   Why would you support anyone else ?  Is this something you do in home country ?

 

Cultural compatibly and the rest is just made up BS.  You're 2 people, you get along or you don't.  The rest is just BS excuses people use when things fail.   

 

Like all relationships, either works or doesn't, no need for excuses.  What makes you happy, what makes her happy, and if not like minded, it will fail.

 

Culture, language, other people have nothing to do with it.   The fantasy of marriage is a failed institution, and why so many fail.   

 

2 people finding out everything there is to know about each other and still liking each other .... 

 

GOOD LUCK WITH THAT ONE 

 

My advice ... if never wanting to be divorced, never get married.  That piece of paper is a fantasy, and for many, a curse.

 

Brilliant response.

"Take the word 'Thai' out. It's a woman...No different than any other woman of the world. 

Culture, language, other people have nothing to do with it."

[kevozman1]

12 minutes ago, Bredbury Blue said:

 

Brilliant response.

"Take the word 'Thai' out. It's a woman...No different than any other woman of the world. 

Culture, language, other people have nothing to do with it."

 

That's just not true though. Women are different in various regions. Women are different in various generations within a region. As Thai women is the topic I will drop my two points with them: they must be attracted to you, and you must be able to deal with their emotional bombing (they don't like a pussy). If you can do that then you have a good chance of having a woman who will go above and beyond for you much more than most other women out there.

[FriscoKid]

Seven pages of anecdotal, subjective opinions about Thai women from men who’ve mostly only been with a handful. Suddenly, everyone’s an expert on the subject just because they’ve had a few encounters. Honestly, it’s exhausting.

[JimmyTobacco]

I think it's probably great, but you need to find yourself a good one, just like in every country or with every nationality. I do think one advice that stands out for me is that it is wise to stay away from the family. My girlfriend prefers to keep distance to the family without my asking it, so that's a good thing.

[MangoKorat]

8 hours ago, Expat68 said:

That is why Thai men get p----d off and leave their wives, Thai women always say Thai man no good (which I used to believe) but after years of living here I can understand why they bag off

Nah they don't, they just have a problem keeping it in their pants. They start their behaviour early on - look around, how many teenage single mothers are there?  As soon as a young lad gets a girl pregnant, he's off. I doubt there are any (accurate) official figures but if there were, Thailand must surely be the single mother capital of the world.

Edited 4 hours ago by MangoKorat

[MangoKorat]

18 hours ago, KhunLA said:

 

Only if you are an idiot, or that just happens to be your choice.  Nothing wrong with either, as long as you have the funds.

 

Just not for me, and I have the funds.  My funds are for me & mine, not theirs.

 

 

You've been brainwashed.  Nobody has a place, and everyone has the freedom to do as they please.  Although they do need to exercise that freedom.  

 

Whatever makes a woman happy, that's what I want her to do.  I know what makes happy, and that's never going to change, and pity the woman that thinks she can.

 

Anyone hanging out with me for more than a week or 2 will understand that, and they can decide to except it, or have fun elsewhere.  Probably why most never lasted 1 or 2 weeks 

I believe you've lived in Thailand for quite a while - shame you have learned nothing during that time.

[3NUMBAS]

Mates married with old women in 70s don’t look happy ,their wives are bloated and undesirable,they yearn from slim young women

[Expat68]

24 minutes ago, MangoKorat said:

Nah they don't, they just have a problem keeping it in their pants. They start their behaviour early on - look around, how many teenage single mothers are there?  As soon as a young lad gets a girl pregnant, he's off. I doubt there are any (accurate) official figures but if there were, Thailand must surely be the single mother capital of the world.

How many Thai men do you know personally?

[RichardColeman]

On 11/25/2024 at 4:27 AM, SoCal1990 said:

Marrying a Thai woman often sounds like a unique and appealing opportunity, but how can one know in advance what they’re really getting themselves into?

My wife is traditional Thai, someone that takes care of her man, but is not in servitude (if you know what I mean). She clean the house 3 times a day, washing everyday,  lays out my clothes for wearing in the day and better clothes when we go out, cuts my nails, does the garden, cooks thai food I enjoy when I want it, tells me when its hair cut time, great mother, great wife, well educated (ex-teacher), does her wifely duties (hehehe). Great wife and best partner I have ever had - i actually married her 10 years ago after being together 20 days. 

 

Problem for a thai wife that is 'unique' is it probably applies to marrying someone with a great body 30-40 years younger than you. And that is the problem, they are too much upkeep, expensive. A 'dolly' will not take care of you. Man across the road from me is 75, his boo 29 - you really think his unique GF sees a future with him ? 

[KhunLA]

2 hours ago, MangoKorat said:

I believe you've lived in Thailand for quite a while - shame you have learned nothing during that time.

Shame some folks still fall for the same BS, especially foreigners marrying a working gal/guy, or another non working gal/guy, who been married already, and or has kid (s).

 

No Thai would pay a sin sot in that case.  It's a dying tradition, as is the institution of marriage itself.   Why do the local do the village ceremony, and many avoid legal registration ?  

 

Been married 2X here, and the subject was never even brought up.  And the gals were from the village.  Nor with any of the gals I dated.

 

File sin sot with all the other silliness .. Thai culture ...

... only wear long pants & collared shirt

... never out without a shirt on

 

Or silly superstitions they don't believe in themselves that I've heard ..

... don't take photos of kids, as they lose years of life

... If child isn't talking at young age, rub their mouth with a frog, OK, that one is probably true  

 

Didn't you hear, Christians are all virgins before getting married ... white dress, so it must be so 

Edited 1 hour ago by KhunLA