Relationship Dynamics: Ladyboys vs Women in Thailand?

[Alpha84]

I’d like to ask a sincere and respectful question, and I hope it can be met with equally thoughtful replies. This isn’t about sex or physical desire. It’s about connection, communication, companionship and emotional compatibility.

 

For those who have personal experience spending time with ladyboys in Thailand, how does that compare to spending time with women in terms of emotional dynamics and relationship and bonding potential? I’m referring to aspects like empathy, understanding, communication style, emotional intelligence and maturity, and general outlook on life.

 

Of course, every person is unique and individual personalities will always differ. But I’m wondering if those who have had these experiences have noticed any consistent patterns or qualities that stand out. Do ladyboys tend to approach relationships differently? Are they more open-minded or emotionally available? Or are the dynamics generally similar to those with women?

 

I’ve noticed that many men seem to form close bonds with ladyboys in Thailand, and it made me wonder whether there’s something deeper to these relationships beyond what people often assume.

 

Hoping for honest and respectful insights from those who can speak from experience or at least from some personal knowledge on the subject.

[bkk6060]

Personally, never been with one but my friend only dates LB.  He said it is all about the mental connection and emotional support.

[StandardIssue]

 

Some "people" (they/them) are longer than others. If they/them is longer than you, they probably wear the pants in the family.

 

With a girl, it's usually spelled out who is the catcher. .. in most cases.

[scubascuba3]

Handy for light lifting around the house, apparently. 

 

Good for employment also, can pay them less than men, can do physical jobs and no paternity leave

[save the frogs]

sorry, no idea.

but googled and found some comments on quora:

https://www.quora.com/Whats-it-like-dating-a-ladyboy-aka-a-“kathoey”

 

[proton]

Men and women then, ladyboys are MEN

[hankypankee]

50 minutes ago, proton said:

ladyboys are MEN

Very insightful Donald, but how can you be sure?

[proton]

Just now, hankypankee said:

Very insightful Donald, but how can you be sure?

 

DNA

[hankypankee]

2 minutes ago, proton said:

 

DNA

I read that they are women with penises. 

[proton]

1 minute ago, hankypankee said:

I read that they are women with penises. 

 

That would be men

[Quentin Zen]

I've been here long enough to share some insight, and I'll be as honest as possible and it might sound terrible.  sorry in advance.

 

women I can fall in love with.  cry.  feel deep emotions.  truly care about.  protect.  help.  be there.

 

ladyboys.  nut.   bust.  

 

 

[Gottfrid]

Are you asking for answers to make a big decision in life, or are you asking for a friend?

[connda]

Sorry, but chicks with dicks ain't my thing.  Talk to bob smith.

[Cameroni]

I once ended up in a correspondence with a ladyboy. She looked absolutely stunning. I thought she was a girl. I'd done the usual invite to CM thing, because she looked so hot.. Anyway. Weeks down the line I thought this one is different, she seemed overly nice and pleasant. Like no other girl before.  Like super nice. Anyway, it came time to book her ticket, so I asked for her Thai ID.

 

Turned out she was a male. I asked her, are you a man? She was "I thought you knew".  I said, no, I did not. I told her I can't do it, sorry it's off. I felt terrible because she was so nice, but she was a dude. It did not not feel great, but I mean, she really was a dude.  I was stunned. She looked like a girl.  A really hot one.

 

 

[Harrisfan]

1 minute ago, Cameroni said:

I once ended up in a correspondence with a ladyboy. She looked absolutely stunning. I thought she was a girl. I'd done the usual invite to CM thing, because she looked so hot.. Anyway. Weeks down the line I thought this one is different, she seemed overly nice and pleasant. Like no other girl before.  Like super nice. Anyway, it came time to book her ticket, so I asked for her Thai ID.

 

Turned out she was a male. I asked her, are you a man? She was "I thought you knew".  I said, no, I did not. I told her I can't do it, sorry it's off. I felt terrible because she was so nice, but she was a dude. It did not not feel great, but I mean, she really was a dude.  I was stunned. She looked like a girl.  A really hot one.

 

 

Still got her pic?

[saakura]

1 hour ago, Gottfrid said:

Are you asking for answers to make a big decision in life, or are you asking for a friend?

Or just stirring the pot?

[Cameroni]

16 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

Still got her pic?

 

I have way too many girls in my insta to see if my messages are still there, but we unfriended each other. She was absolutely feminine and gorgeous, you could not tell she was a guy. There was no way. She was 19 as well.

 

Her behaviour was the biggest tip off, way too sweet understanding and kind, like no girl is normally. 

[SoCal1990]

5 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

way too sweet understanding and kind, like no girl is normally. 

Seems you blew your big chance. 

[SoCal1990]

33 minutes ago, connda said:

Sorry, but chicks with dicks ain't my thing. 

That's what they all say when they have balls across the nose. Just sayin...

[Yellowtail]

wind up

[Yellowtail]

Nothing wrong with having ladyboys as friends, but any man having sex with them is gay. 

[2long]

It's only gay of you push back.

[2long]

There are no chicks with dicks, only men with tits.

[Cameroni]

25 minutes ago, SoCal1990 said:

Seems you blew your big chance. 

 

Well, she had a solid job in a doctor's office as well. Super sweet character, smart and delightful in every way. Except for the fact she had a dick. So I still don't regret calling it  off. I do regret most girls can't be a bit more like her character wise.

 

When I made apologies and said it's just too strange for me  she replied. "It's okay, I can always go to Chiang Mai by myself. I felt really bad because she clearly looked forward to going to CM a lot. She was in a province.

[scubascuba3]

7 hours ago, Cameroni said:

I once ended up in a correspondence with a ladyboy. She looked absolutely stunning. I thought she was a girl. I'd done the usual invite to CM thing, because she looked so hot.. Anyway. Weeks down the line I thought this one is different, she seemed overly nice and pleasant. Like no other girl before.  Like super nice. Anyway, it came time to book her ticket, so I asked for her Thai ID.

 

Turned out she was a male. I asked her, are you a man? She was "I thought you knew".  I said, no, I did not. I told her I can't do it, sorry it's off. I felt terrible because she was so nice, but she was a dude. It did not not feel great, but I mean, she really was a dude.  I was stunned. She looked like a girl.  A really hot one.

 

 

Problem is they do try and con guys so I wouldnt feel bad

[save the frogs]

18 hours ago, Cameroni said:

Her behaviour was the biggest tip off, way too sweet understanding and kind, like no girl is normally. 

are their personalities genuine or fake?

 

since they try so hard to come off as a woman, i'm wondering if the personality is an act. 

 

if you get into a relationship with them, maybe their dark side starts to come out? bitchiness like you never seen before? 

 

[Will27]

20 hours ago, Alpha84 said:

 

Hoping for honest and respectful insights from those who can speak from experience or at least from some personal knowledge on the subject.

You're in the wrong place mate.

 

 

[daveAustin]

No experience with them but posit it would be much like the majority of relationships with women here (both for Thai and farang men) in that it is first and foremost a business deal, whether you're paying for it or not.

I do, however, hear that the former do a 'proper' BJ. 

[daveAustin]

11 hours ago, Cameroni said:

 

Well, she had a solid job in a doctor's office as well. Super sweet character, smart and delightful in every way. Except for the fact she had a dick. So I still don't regret calling it  off. I do regret most girls can't be a bit more like her character wise.

 

When I made apologies and said it's just too strange for me  she replied. "It's okay, I can always go to Chiang Mai by myself. I felt really bad because she clearly looked forward to going to CM a lot. She was in a province.

 

If 'she' was a nice person, you could have still met up and had a laugh without any funny business.

[Cameroni]

5 hours ago, save the frogs said:

are their personalities genuine or fake?

 

since they try so hard to come off as a woman, i'm wondering if the personality is an act. 

 

if you get into a relationship with them, maybe their dark side starts to come out? bitchiness like you never seen before? 

 

 

I don't know, as I don't plan to ever get into a relationship with a ladyboy, because I'm not insane, but you know this "girl" had such a genuinely sweet, loving, kind and thoughtful personality  I think at least part of that was real. Of course all our personalities are "fake" to some degree, in that we adjust to our environment, and yes of course ladyboys will have to fake it a lot more than most. But I tell ya, to this I day I wish she'd been a real girl because her character was so spot on. The problem with real girls, is that the characters tend to be so bad.