Is it possible to rehabilitate a bargirl back into polite society?

[MalcolmB]

Generally speaking of course, there are always exceptions.

[Ralf001]

Absolutely, but the fella who bought her from the bar also needs to remove the bar scene from his lifestyle too.

 

Expecting them to stay at home whilst ya go back and rail their bar friends is never going end up peachy.

[blaze master]

Mine is different.

[MalcolmB]

Just now, Ralf001 said:

Absolutely, but the fella who bought her from the bar also needs to remove the bar scene from his lifestyle too.

 

Expecting them to stay at home whilst ya go back and rail their bar friends is never going end up peachy.

That is a big sacrifice Ralf.

[save the frogs]

I've popped into bars and had conversations with a few. So "a few" does not constitute a scientific study.

 

But based on my very limited experience, I would say most of them either cannot be rehabilitated back into polite society or it might take a lot of work.

 

I was testing out one girl. I said I'm looking for a friend. She lost her temper and stood up and said "No!" . It was a major shock to her system to insinuate that her role be tweaked. 

 

When you sleep with hordes of men, it affects you on a deep level. They are not the same as normal women at all. 

 

So my response is very few. And for others, it might take a lot of work. 

 

Edit: And you may need to worry about her having a "relapse". Because working in a bar is a bit like taking drugs. It's constant high adrenaline, booze, party vibe, getting a lot of attention from different men. They may find a stay at home life boring. I dunno. Just a hunch. 

 

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[Ralf001]

4 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

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I was testing out one girl. I said I'm looking for a friend. She lost her temper and stood up and said "No!" . It was a major shock to her system to insinuate that her role be tweaked. 

 

 

 

 

She is looking for someone to pay her to do the nasty.... You asking her about being a friend.

 

How much time of hers did you waste and why are you surprised at her reaction?

[MalcolmB]

5 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

When you sleep with hordes of men, it affects you on a deep level. They are not the same as normal women at all. 

 

You are probably right.

You also have to look at what kind of character chooses that career path in the first place.

i would think that many are broken before they even started, bad parents, promiscuous, drinking, drugs, gambling, not finishing school, lack of respect for themselves and others.

[save the frogs]

11 hours ago, Ralf001 said:

 

She is looking for someone to pay her to do the nasty.... You asking her about being a friend.

 

How much time of hers did you waste and why are you surprised at her reaction?

 

I bought her a Lady Drink ... so it wasn't a total loss .. I wasnt there for hours. Only 10-15 minutes. 

 

[save the frogs]

11 hours ago, MalcolmB said:

You are probably right.

You also have to look at what kind of character chooses that career path in the first place.

i would think that many are broken before they even started, bad parents, promiscuous, drinking, drugs, gambling, not finishing school, lack of respect for themselves and others.

 

Yes, I think so. 

It almost seems like trying to rehabilitate a heroin addict.

Do you have a Master's degree in Psychology to take that on? 

 

Again, there might be some girls that are less damaged, etc ... good luck finding one. I chatted with 3-4 and they were all the same to me. 

 

[MalcolmB]

5 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

 

I bought her a Lady Drink ... so it wasn't a total loss .. I wasnt there for hours. Only 10-15 minutes. 

 

I have noticed many of them do seem to be ungrateful and entitled.

I think it goes to their head.

[MalcolmB]

Just now, save the frogs said:

 

Yes, I think so. 

It almost seems like trying to rehabilitate a heroin addict.

Do you have a Master's degree in Psychology to take that on? 

 

Again, there might be some girls that are less damaged, etc ... good luck finding one. I chatted with 3-4 and they were all the same to me. 

 

The ones that cover themselves in neck, lower arm etc tattoos are almost defiantly declaring they are not interested in being rehabilitated.

Many a quite aggressive also, but I suppose they have to be.

[Lucky Bones]

13 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

I've popped into bars and had conversations with a few. So "a few" does not constitute a scientific study.

 

But based on my very limited experience, I would say most of them either cannot be rehabilitated back into polite society or it might take a lot of work.

 

I was testing out one girl. I said I'm looking for a friend. She lost her temper and stood up and said "No!" . It was a major shock to her system to insinuate that her role be tweaked. 

 

When you sleep with hordes of men, it affects you on a deep level. They are not the same as normal women at all. 

 

So my response is very few. And for others, it might take a lot of work. 

 

Edit: And you may need to worry about her having a "relapse". Because working in a bar is a bit like taking drugs. It's constant high adrenaline, booze, party vibe, getting a lot of attention from different men. They may find a stay at home life boring. I dunno. Just a hunch. 

 

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Incredible! You were "testing" her. She only stood up? Didn't try to stab your eyes out with a pen?

I think you made the story up.🙃🙃

[jimmybcool]

I think it depends.  How long was she in the business?  Are you willing to give up playing the game?  Will you treat her as a normal human or throw her past in her face?  Did she really LIKE heavy drinking and partying?

 

 

[Lacessit]

I doubt it. The bar is not just a place for barfines and punters, it is also the social network for most bar girls. That is where their friends are.

 

"Polite society"? It can go sit on the rough end of a pineapple.

[1FinickyOne]

18 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

I said I'm looking for a friend. She lost her temper and stood up and said "No!

no points for honesty? - you were wasting her time... she has friends and probably a BF too.... 

 

Imagine a person going to a law firm or medical clinic or any office - "I don't need a lawyer, I just want to be your friend." 

[henryford1958]

I tried for years to turn my ex bar girl into a normal girlfriend. But in the end failed. It's just too tempting to go drinking (drugs?) with her old mates. Too boring with an old farang.

[Quentin Zen]

Would you invite The Devil to your church?

Ask Hitler to come to a synagogue?

Let a bank robber be a teller at your bank?

Allow a pedophile to babysit?

Bring a T-Rex over to play with your dog?

Get a rapid tiger as a pet?

 

These are all the most ridiculous questions the world has ever read........

 

until yours.

 

 

[save the frogs]

11 hours ago, Lucky Bones said:

Incredible! You were "testing" her. She only stood up? Didn't try to stab your eyes out with a pen?

I think you made the story up.🙃🙃

 

Do I look like Bob to you?

I don't make stories up. 

 

[save the frogs]

11 hours ago, 1FinickyOne said:

no points for honesty? - you were wasting her time... she has friends and probably a BF too.... 

 

Imagine a person going to a law firm or medical clinic or any office - "I don't need a lawyer, I just want to be your friend." 

 

No, I bought a couple of drinks.

Does every single customer bar fine them and take them out? I don't think so. I think they're quite happy to just get a couple of drinks. At least that's my understanding of the bar scene. I don't think every single time someone goes in they barfine the girl and take them out. 

 

[blaze master]

6 minutes ago, Quentin Zen said:

Get a rapid tiger as a pet?

 

I prefer a plodding one 😅

[MalcolmB]

4 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

 

Do I look like Bob to you?

I don't make stories up. 

 

The lady drink allows to grope and fondle during the time it takes for the drink (which is why I never buy them shots).

Maybe you excited her to the point she was aroused?

[transam]

17 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

I have noticed many of them do seem to be ungrateful and entitled.

I think it goes to their head.

I see yet another baiting thread from you, the master baiter, who now knows zillions of bar girls that are ungrateful.................🤥

You really do need to get a life..........🙄................😏

 

[MalcolmB]

1 minute ago, transam said:

I see yet another baiting thread from you, the master baiter, who now knows zillions of bar girls that are ungrateful.................🤥

You really do need to get a life..........🙄................😏

 

I am sorry the topic has triggered you and you feel baited. 
But it is the most popular thread of the day. It is looking like a 300+er.

 

Feel free to bury your head in the sand but according to the poll so far 80% are saying to move in with a bargirl in Thailand isn’t going to work out in the long run.

[quake]

Odds are stacked against you.

When things go south, as all relationships do at some point, 

She will find it more easy to slip back into bar girl mode and not think and talk things through.

Not saying this for all.

But better to look elsewhere for long term relationships.

you will stand a better chance of it working out. 

They are loads of ladies out there, who are not in the bar scene. 

[Ralf001]

11 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

 

No, I bought a couple of drinks.

 

 

 

You have gone from buying "a" drink to "a couple" of drinks.

 

Whats the next step in your fairy tale ?

[Ralf001]

4 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

I am sorry the topic has triggered you and you feel baited. 
But it is the most popular thread of the day. It is looking like a 300+er.

 

Feel free to bury your head in the sand but according to the poll so far 80% are saying to move in with a bargirl in Thailand isn’t going to work out in the long run.

I think Transman shacked up with a bar lass and she fleeced him.

[transam]

2 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

I am sorry the topic has triggered you and you feel baited. 
But it is the most popular thread of the day. It is looking like a 300+er.

 

Feel free to bury your head in the sand but according to the poll so far 80% are saying to move in with a bargirl in Thailand isn’t going to work out in the long run.

You are a master baiter, It's what you do, but you keep on keyboard dribbling......🤔

[Hummin]

I know several who behaved and moved on in life, and maybe as much as 80% of all ladies abroad is picked up in bars or from the freelance scene 

 

Maybe not 80% but a least the majority. 

 

Also dependes of the punter who picks them up.

[transam]

Just now, Ralf001 said:

I think Transman shacked up with a bar lass and she fleeced him.

If you are referring to me, it's transam, plus, your assertion is totally wrong...

[MalcolmB]

4 minutes ago, Ralf001 said:

 

You have gone from buying "a" drink to "a couple" of drinks.

 

Whats the next step in your fairy tale ?

Paid the barfine?