why always thai women pay at the cashier?

[Jack1988]

I often see this thing when i am in thailand. I am talking about thai couples, married or just boyfriend and girlfriend. Why is always the thai women that pays and not the thai man? I read some thai stories online, the thai husband gets a salary but he must give it all to his wife, so she pay everything but with his husband's money 🤨😆. I feel like: you gotta be kidding me lol

[hotandsticky]

You obviously didn't live in a north England town 80 years ago.

 

 

It was the norm for the husband to hand over his weekly pay packet. The wife would hand a small amount back so he could go out for a beer.

[Jeff the Chef]

21 minutes ago, hotandsticky said:

You obviously didn't live in a north England town 80 years ago.

 

 

It was the norm for the husband to hand over his weekly pay packet. The wife would hand a small amount back so he could go out for a beer.

 

It was the same in North London where I grew up 65 years ago, the "old man" dropped his pay packet on the kitchen table and Mum sorted out the family finances.

[Jack1988]

So, it's like that here in thailand? It's a part of the thai culture?😦

[Jim Blue]

38 minutes ago, hotandsticky said:

You obviously didn't live in a north England town 80 years ago.

 

 

It was the norm for the husband to hand over his weekly pay packet. The wife would hand a small amount back so he could go out for a beer.

Just the one beer ?

[bkk6060]

I see a lot of expats gf or wife paying.

Obviously, they are giving the lady the money to pay probably due to their stupidity, financial incompetence or inability to add.  The same guys that brag their spouses handle all the financial management in their household which to me is the ultimate weak simp embarrassment.

[Jack1988]

2 minutes ago, bkk6060 said:

I see a lot of expats gf or wife paying.

Obviously, they are giving the lady the money to pay probably due to their stupidity, financial incompetence or inability to add.  The same guys that brag their spouses handle all the financial management in their household which to me is the ultimate weak simp embarrassment.

really, I can't handle these things, it sounds ridiculous to me. I would never give my money to nobody, even to my parents

[norsurin]

4 minutes ago, bkk6060 said:

I see a lot of expats gf or wife paying.

Obviously, they are giving the lady the money to pay probably due to their stupidity, financial incompetence or inability to add.  The same guys that brag their spouses handle all the financial management in their household which to me is the ultimate weak simp embarrassment.

I agree.My exwife and my other girls i been with never ask me for cash or my ATM cards for paying anything.

They know i would never allow that.Sometimes they asked for a small amount ofcash if bought something in a shop or at a market like food or something we needed.I seen many times a thailady completely take over the foreigner husband money and finances..thats stupidity.I remember a thailady asked her husband ATM card outside a ATM machine and he asked why she wanted it.She told him to shut up and he gave her the card.She took out alot of cash and he asked how much she took out.She told him again to shut up.I didn't say anything because not my business but i thinking that this guy was completely in his wife hands.

[Maybole]

Standard practice in Scotland until payment into bank accounts became commonplace. Husband handed pay packet to wife and got back his pocket money. Woe betide any husband whose pay packet did not agree with his wage slip!

[Jack1988]

I'm 100% sure that there are lots of married foreigners here in thailand, married to a thai women and they pay everything for the thai wife, many must give all their money to the thai wife. In fact, when you need an extension of marriage, you can see that there is written: support thai wife 😦☹️

if 2+2=4, it's easy to understand

[BangkokReady]

1 hour ago, Jack1988 said:

the thai husband gets a salary but he must give it all to his wife, so she pay everything but with his husband's money

 

Very often it seems that the Thai woman is kind of the mom, with the Thai man being the child.  The women are kind of "in charge" in the relationship, but they're also responsible for a lot.

[Jack1988]

2 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

The women are kind of "in charge" in the relationship, but they're also responsible for a lot.

yes but with the man's money

[BangkokReady]

39 minutes ago, bkk6060 said:

Obviously, they are giving the lady the money to pay probably due to their stupidity, financial incompetence or inability to add.

 

Or it's because that is how things are done in Thailand and they are happy with it?

 

39 minutes ago, bkk6060 said:

  The same guys that brag their spouses handle all the financial management in their household which to me is the ultimate weak simp embarrassment.

 

If they're happy and it works for them, who are you to judge?  They should change how they do things and be less happy in life so they are labelled a "simp"?

 

To be honest, to get this bothered by what someone else does (and you seem very bothered - I count five insults), that has zero effect on you, it suggests you're likely jealous of what they have.

[BangkokReady]

2 minutes ago, Jack1988 said:

yes but with the man's money

 

So what?  Do you think these Thai men are handing over huge sums and the woman is spending it on whatever she wants just for herself?  And they don't get to spend any of it?  It's just gone?

 

You sound like you're looking for a reason to look down on people.

[NorthernRyland]

1 hour ago, Jack1988 said:

I often see this thing when i am in thailand. I am talking about thai couples, married or just boyfriend and girlfriend. Why is always the thai women that pays and not the thai man? I read some thai stories online, the thai husband gets a salary but he must give it all to his wife, so she pay everything but with his husband's money 🤨😆. I feel like: you gotta be kidding me lol

 

It's called a marriage. Women handles the bills and ordering things etc... and the man earns the money. They like having control over the money and getting to spend it so unless they're abusing the situation and buying things they shouldn't what's the problem?

[Jack1988]

2 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

 

So what?  Do you think these Thai men are handing over huge sums and the woman is spending it on whatever she wants just for herself?  And they don't get to spend any of it?  It's just gone?

 

You sound like you're looking for a reason to look down on people.

it's up to these people, i don't care at all. I am the owner of my money and i don't give it to nobody

[NorthernRyland]

12 minutes ago, Jack1988 said:

I'm 100% sure that there are lots of married foreigners here in thailand, married to a thai women and they pay everything for the thai wife, many must give all their money to the thai wife. In fact, when you need an extension of marriage, you can see that there is written: support thai wife 😦☹️

if 2+2=4, it's easy to understand

 

No, they transfer over the living expenses for the month and let her buy things they need, pay rent, bills etc... This isn't even just Thailand, it's done everywhere.

[NorthernRyland]

2 minutes ago, Jack1988 said:

it's up to these people, i don't care at all. I am the owner of my money and i don't give it to nobody

 

Your attitude seems to be "everyone else is stupid and doing it wrong except me". Come on this is just trolling now.

[mogandave]

6 minutes ago, Jack1988 said:

it's up to these people, i don't care at all. I am the owner of my money and i don't give it to nobody

If you don’t give it to nobody, you must give it to somebody. 

[Jack1988]

Just now, mogandave said:

If you don’t give it to nobody, you must give it to somebody. 

i prefer to spend money just for myself. No problem at all

[hotandsticky]

4 hours ago, Jack1988 said:

So, it's like that here in thailand? It's a part of the thai culture?😦

 

 

You apparently don't know much about the Thai male...

 

The question is redundant.

[Jack1988]

31 minutes ago, hotandsticky said:

You apparently don't know much about the Thai male...

And so what? Who cares about the Thai male. I'm a farang here and I am happily single. I spend money only for myself 

[hotandsticky]

13 minutes ago, Jack1988 said:

And so what? Who cares about the Thai male. I'm a farang here and I am happily single. I spend money only for myself 

 

Excellent. We need more selfish b4stards like you............ Oh Wait..... no we don't.

[sidjameson]

4 hours ago, Jack1988 said:

it's up to these people, i don't care at all. I am the owner of my money and i don't give it to nobody

Have you ever been married?

[zz4096]

7 hours ago, Jack1988 said:

I feel like: you gotta be kidding me lol

 

That's how I feel about pretty much all of your posts, especially the dumb questions you ask in the Visa forum

[Moonlover]

8 hours ago, Jack1988 said:

And so what? Who cares about the Thai male. I'm a farang here and I am happily single. I spend money only for myself 

If you are happily single (although, to be honest it doesn't as if you're 'happily' single to me) it's entirely up to you how you dispose of your money. But no everyone is in that situation and each one us handles our lives in whichever way suits us best.

 

So why don't you just keep your big nose out of other people's business?

[Jack1988]

People that comment negatively and nonsense,I think because they are married to a Thai women and give all money to her. No need to attack me just because I say the truth 😂

[BritManToo]

13 hours ago, BangkokReady said:

 

Very often it seems that the Thai woman is kind of the mom, with the Thai man being the child.  The women are kind of "in charge" in the relationship, but they're also responsible for a lot.

I'm dad, and my wife and kids are the children.

[KhunLA]

14 hours ago, Jack1988 said:

 so she pay everything but with his husband's money

It's not my money, simply because it goes to my bank account first.  It's 'our' money.  Same as 'our' house, land lots, car, MB, pedal bikes or anything else 'we' own.  'Our' contributions to 'us' is more than financial.   On that note, my wife contributes far more than myself.

 

Only thing that is truly mine, if I left, is the dog, and that's non-negotiable ...  

 

And probably the car, since I would need, and she wouldn't.   Although I'd have to take her phone, as most of the charging station apps are on hers.   Unless I just use MG or Elexa chargers.  Anything else, I don't need or would want, if I left.  So that's simple.

 

People that think 'mine' and 'yours', aren't truly in a loving relationship ... IMHO.  Just an equitable 'financial' arrangement.  Which is fine, as different strokes for different folks.