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No male Thai friends after years of living here? Help for the lonely farangs left out.

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Keyboard warrior? That's your perception. A bit aggressive, don't you think? I make observations.

It seems to me that someone who posts hate every day, is going to struggle to find normal balanced friends. Do you disagree?

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  • SAFETY FIRST
    SAFETY FIRST

    This guy Nailed it in the first minute.      Most of the foreigners here are too argumentative, not easy going and don't get along with other people.   Bingo 😂  

  • richard_smith237
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    It’s a curious thing – I can’t imagine living in a country and not forming genuine friendships with the locals - but its not something that can be forced, building a friendship has to be an organic pr

  • Many of the regular posters here are either fake or suffering from some kind of mental imbalance. You don't ever see any kind of balance in their behaviour. It's almost always one sided. Like, fo

3 minutes ago, Magictoad said:

The cultural difference is a chasm. That's not even allowing for differences in class and education etc. How many Thai men do you meet who have the same level.of education as you, and can speak English and how many people here speak excellent Thai? And are highly educated?

I am the latter but can't do the former.

My first introduction to socializing with Thais - I was visiting my Thai GF's family for a few days at a small village way out in the sticks. One night as we were sitting around a wooden bench drinking beer, I left a pack of my cigarettes out in front of me (I was the only farang in the village at the time). One of the guys picked up the pack without asking then passed it around for the others to help themselves. Another night her stepdad went through my travel bag when I wasn't looking and grabbed an extremely expensive dive flashlight so he could go hunting for field rat. No way he could have afforded to replace it had he broke or lost it.

 

There is nothing I have in common with any Thai men I have met. I am fortunate to belong to a large group of western culture friends - we really watch out for each other. I'm too old and too tired to try and reach across that cultural chasm any more.

5 minutes ago, blaze master said:

 

Are you fluent in thai yet?

Don't need to be, don't want to be, i presume you're isolated somewhere and don't talk to farang?

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Just now, HappyExpat57 said:

My first introduction to socializing with Thais - I was visiting my Thai GF's family for a few days at a small village way out in the sticks. One night as we were sitting around a wooden bench drinking beer, I left a pack of my cigarettes out in front of me (I was the only farang in the village at the time). One of the guys picked up the pack without asking then passed it around for the others to help themselves. Another night her stepdad went through my travel bag when I wasn't looking and grabbed an extremely expensive dive flashlight so he could go hunting for field rat. No way he could have afforded to replace it had he broke or lost it.

 

There is nothing I have in common with any Thai men I have met. I am fortunate to belong to a large group of western culture friends - we really watch out for each other. I'm too old and too tired to try and reach across that cultural chasm any more.

Not fluent in Thai and I am never GOING to be fluent in Thai. I did not move here to go back to school and learn a language that is useless outside of Thailand.

11 minutes ago, SMIAI said:

No. Good people make friends anywhere. Pattaya is no different. If you cannot make friends, then the problem is you.

How many friends do you have? Where do you live?

1 minute ago, Felton Jarvis said:

Not fluent in Thai and I am never GOING to be fluent in Thai. I did not move here to go back to school and learn a language that is useless outside of Thailand.

 

 

Does it matter what languages are spoken in other countries or that Thai is a 'single country language' if we are living here all the time ???

I can speak French and have only ever used it sporadically when visiting France, thats is... 

 

 

But, I also get your point - Thai is a very difficult language to master and some people have a greater affinity for languages than others, many struggle with the tones here... but, I see no harm in making continued efforts to improve - even without lessons etc my Thai slowly improves...   

 

 

That said, all the close Thai friends I have are fluent in English and that has made a huge difference....  it also makes a difference because they are 'educated' and speak fluent English - hence the ease of overlap - there's just more in common ground in general....

 

 

 

 

 

 

As a former backpacker, I have a completely different perspective. Without meaning to be disrespectful, quite a different experience to someone who married someone who came from a small village.

 

They are probably used to communal living and sharing resources. So someone helping themselves to your cigarettes and sharing them out was probably elevating your status in the village. As one of them. Though to the uninitiated, the action might appear disrespectful.

 

Thais are brothers, sisters, aunties, uncles... If you view yourself as an island, you are going to struggle.

Treat everyone as if they are you. Be nice. Be kind, Be generous. Be lovely. Just don't be stupid. 😊

Don't bring your western ideals and assume that you are superior. When in Rome...

 

 

 

15 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

Don't need to be, don't want to be, i presume you're isolated somewhere and don't talk to farang?

 

Maybe that's part of the reason you dont seem to really connect with them.

 

No I've lived all over Thailand.

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3 hours ago, MalcolmB said:

A common theme on this forum is farangs who can’t make any male Thai friends. 

Considering how friendly Thais are you need to blame yourself, not the Thais.

So this self help video is for you. 

 

Don’t say “I don’t like Thai men anyway”. That’s just a natural reaction to being socially isolated.

 

Good luck.

 

 

A common theme on this forum is farangs who can’t make any male Thai friends.

 

What common theme ?  

Has there ever been threads about farangs that want but can't make Thai male friends ?

1 minute ago, FlorC said:

A common theme on this forum is farangs who can’t make any male Thai friends.

 

What common theme ?  

Has there ever been threads about farangs that want but can't make Thai male friends ?

 

Only poofs want to do that 😁

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1 minute ago, proton said:

 

Only poofs want to do that 😁

Don't think this is about gays.

 

 

11 minutes ago, SMIAI said:

As a former backpacker, I have a completely different perspective. Without meaning to be disrespectful, quite a different experience to someone who married someone who came from a small village.

 

They are probably used to communal living and sharing resources. So someone helping themselves to your cigarettes and sharing them out was probably elevating your status in the village. As one of them. Though to the uninitiated, the action might appear disrespectful.

 

Thais are brothers, sisters, aunties, uncles... If you view yourself as an island, you are going to struggle.

Treat everyone as if they are you. Be nice. Be kind, Be generous. Be lovely. Just don't be stupid. 😊

Don't bring your western ideals and assume that you are superior. When in Rome...

 

 

 

Backpackers mostly go to tourist ghettos and cant speak Thai.

2 hours ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

This guy Nailed it in the first minute.

 

"I think this troll account spewing garbage has it exactly right.  Mainly because he angrily hates other foreigners, just like me."  🤦‍♂️

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What does backpackers going to tourist ghettoes have to do with anything? Does that mean that the local people you meet along the way are somehow less valid? 

 

You remind me of those foreigners who would proudly announce that they "lived in Thailand". 😊 But yet, here you are posting nonsense most of the time. Where are your friends?

3 minutes ago, SMIAI said:

What does backpackers going to tourist ghettoes have to do with anything? Does that mean that the local people you meet along the way are somehow less valid? 

 

You remind me of those foreigners who would proudly announce that they "lived in Thailand". 😊 But yet, here you are posting nonsense most of the time. Where are your friends?

You sound like a newbie to me

Just now, Harrisfan said:

You sound like a newbie to me

With your present username, you are a newbie..........🤔

I watched that video a few days ago and though I think the guy is well spoken and has a lot to say, I didn't find anything particularly revealing when it comes to making friends with Thai men. I've been here a long time, I'm a friendly guy, I'm open and easy to be around and though I've made quite a few acquaintances I've made very few Thai friends over the years. I think a lot of that has to do with a dramatically low level of curosity on the part of Thais, when it comes to foreigners. And perhaps a sense that we don't have much in common. I could see where some sort of club or professional affiliation might help with that. 

30 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

 

 

Does it matter what languages are spoken in other countries or that Thai is a 'single country language' if we are living here all the time ???

I can speak French and have only ever used it sporadically when visiting France, thats is... 

 

 

But, I also get your point - Thai is a very difficult language to master and some people have a greater affinity for languages than others, many struggle with the tones here... but, I see no harm in making continued efforts to improve - even without lessons etc my Thai slowly improves...   

 

 

That said, all the close Thai friends I have are fluent in English and that has made a huge difference....  it also makes a difference because they are 'educated' and speak fluent English - hence the ease of overlap - there's just more in common ground in general....

 

 

 

 

 

 

Well not only the fluency in English but the fact that they're highly educated means that they're likely more open-minded and the exposure to higher education has encouraged them to be more curious about people and about the world. 

47 minutes ago, blaze master said:

Maybe that's part of the reason you dont seem to really connect with them.

That's what i said in my post

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2 hours ago, transam said:

Your latest baiting thread, all from you being here a year..................😂

4 posts from yo so far.

The baiting threads reel you everytime.

 

Sorry to bring up another topic that is an obvious trigger for you.

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1 hour ago, FlorC said:

A common theme on this forum is farangs who can’t make any male Thai friends.

That’s right

19 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

That's what i said in my post

 

You said because of the language. You didnt initially say it was your fault. You said don't need to or want to. 

 

Make the effort and deeper connections will happen. 

My wifes family is all women. Even all the aunts and extended family members. The men all left

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1 hour ago, proton said:

18 years here don't know any blokes, foreigners or Thais, why would you want to?

I thought you claimed you were friends with a famous Thai musician?

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1 hour ago, richard_smith237 said:

That said, all the close Thai friends I have are fluent in English and that has made a huge difference.... 

I dunno Dick.

i think I would be more likely to let you be my friend if I couldn’t understand you.

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54 minutes ago, spidermike007 said:

I watched that video a few days ago

So how has it been going.

Did it help? 
Make any new friends yet?

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