Am I Being Played?

[DtemJai]

IMO, any Thai [girl] women, asking for money any time, is scammer [even so called GTG], you give them financial support in an amount you can afford, & are in within limit of their real needs, [including all present in-house & former mia noi’s]. For mee that been working so fine over 3 decades here

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Is there no fresh meat? This guy's QQ is 2 years old. C'mon bargirls lets juggle some sim cards already!

[DtemJai]

IMO, any Thai [girl] women, asking for money any time, is scammer [even so called GTG], you give them financial support in an amount you can afford, & are in within limit of their real needs, [including all present in-house & former mia noi's]. For me that been working so fine over 3 decades here

Forgot to add: Do not expect anything they says...is more then joke or cultural matter or lie or face thing....& you must always be in charge, in medium to large matters

[tartempion]

I think the main concern here is that she is an escort, but escorts do marry dont they, they are human beings afterall.

As an escort lady her chances to marry a farang (with more money than most Thai workers) are higher than working anywhere else.

Ouch, we are 2 years down the drain, did the OP finally marry her or not???

Edited July 28, 2010 by tartempion

[Peterbigeyes]

I hope the end is good. Not very promising from the first post

[Chunky1]

i dont think anyone on thaivisa ended up with a former working girl so you are probably in the wrong place. try a different forum. this forum is better at answering questions about what it's like to be 55 and dating a virgin hiso thai chinese 25 year old whose parents are billionaires and support us.

[Ulysses G.]

this forum is better at answering questions about what it's like to be 55 and dating a virgin hiso thai chinese 25 year old whose parents are billionaires and support us.

Don't forget that she is usually also a nuclear physicist - but does not need the extra money - just does it to help the little people.

Edited July 28, 2010 by Ulysses G.

[Vertigotogo]

i dont think anyone on thaivisa ended up with a former working girl so you are probably in the wrong place. try a different forum. this forum is better at answering questions about what it's like to be 55 and dating a virgin hiso thai chinese 25 year old whose parents are billionaires and support us.

[nisakiman]

i dont think anyone on thaivisa ended up with a former working girl so you are probably in the wrong place. try a different forum. this forum is better at answering questions about what it's like to be 55 and dating a virgin hiso thai chinese 25 year old whose parents are billionaires and support us.

Never a truer word was spoken!

The fact is that working girls can fall in love same as any other girl. It's just a little more of a quagmire than normal. There is a lot of truth in the old adage "You can take the girl out of the bar.....etc"

It's an attitute that a working girl needs to develop to survive in the industry.

I'd love to know what happened with the OP. A disaster probably, but who knows? Love can conquer all...

[PingManDan]

One born every minute

[Huey]

i dont think anyone on thaivisa ended up with a former working girl so you are probably in the wrong place. try a different forum. this forum is better at answering questions about what it's like to be 55 and dating a virgin hiso thai chinese 25 year old whose parents are billionaires and support us.

Away from the OP for a moment. You know I see 10 no maybe 50 posts like this, you know the "Oh every guy here has a hi-so Chinese, light skinned, young rich wife...no body marries bar girls from Issan" for every 1 post of someone saying that they married a girl like that.

Who are you people? Are you guys the ones that married a bar girl from the back woods and your just feeling some sort of way that not everyone else did too?

[TAWP]

i dont think anyone on thaivisa ended up with a former working girl so you are probably in the wrong place. try a different forum. this forum is better at answering questions about what it's like to be 55 and dating a virgin hiso thai chinese 25 year old whose parents are billionaires and support us.

Away from the OP for a moment. You know I see 10 no maybe 50 posts like this, you know the "Oh every guy here has a hi-so Chinese, light skinned, young rich wife...no body marries bar girls from Issan" for every 1 post of someone saying that they married a girl like that.

Who are you people? Are you guys the ones that married a bar girl from the back woods and your just feeling some sort of way that not everyone else did too?

Most likely, some sort of envy glistering through.

I don't care who you married, as long as it doesn't affect me...

[welsh1]

Meeting the parents & family is a huge deal in Thailand. We don't take just any guy home. When we decide to introduce our guy to the family, that is it, we are certain this is The One. I personally have brought only one guy home and we were planning to get married.

Tread very very carefully.

there are many good ladies in Thailand .But in my village where i stay i see many many Thai lady bringing falang to meet parents and next month bringing a different falang some of them just have no shame and not seem to care.....as johnny cash used to say..I keep a close watch on this heart of mine I keep my eyes wide open all the time. ..and you want go far wrong

[elliss]

welcome to the club steve ,

have you got a stupid farang , T shirt yet ???

[welsh1]

welcome to the club steve ,

have you got a stupid farang , T shirt yet ???

Yes i got me one of those..... was.married 5 years now i walked away from house car and all the rest of the thai bullshit ..got divorced for 40 baht .

now i have met a very nice thai lady been together for 9 months so things are looking good !!!

[ChinnyReckon]

welcome to the club steve ,

have you got a stupid farang , T shirt yet ???

Is that the one that says "Good guys go to heaven, bad guys go to Pattaya" ?

[ChinnyReckon]

Meeting the parents & family is a huge deal in Thailand. We don't take just any guy home. When we decide to introduce our guy to the family, that is it, we are certain this is The One. I personally have brought only one guy home and we were planning to get married.

Tread very very carefully.

there are many good ladies in Thailand .But in my village where i stay i see many many Thai lady bringing falang to meet parents and next month bringing a different falang some of them just have no shame and not seem to care.....as johnny cash used to say..I keep a close watch on this heart of mine I keep my eyes wide open all the time. ..and you want go far wrong

Very true. When I got brought back to my gfs folks place in Buriram for the first time I was surprised when her son kept calling me Papa Dave. My name is not Dave.

And in a private conversation he asked me when my leg had grown back.

Bright boy, good English - but his mum should have prepared him a bit better for my arrival.

Edited July 30, 2010 by ChinnyReckon

[anon7867763]

Hi guys thanks for the replies, I know the odds are against me and going by track record it looks a no brainer.

How do you think I should proceed? SHould I give it a chance in December or just tell her that this is not going to work and see how she reacts?

I dont think Im naive, just hopeful. There is no doubt she likes money, so do most women (but they play it in different ways)

And as far as the money is concerned she did mention a couple of times when we argued about if she didnt like me she could have other clients getting X amount of money and not be free to me. Also she saved me alot of money on the holiday but seeking the less expensive route, mentioning that customers would fly here and there, but she did not want that.

Be interesting to see if she lets me visit her parents then the whole thing changes then no? Why would she want me to spend 3-4 days in her village?

Dont flame me too much thanks

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Hang around with her but keep playing the field.After all she goes with others (her customers)so you should aswell , that will keep yje playing surface equall, take it slowly and dont fall head over heels.play it cool and with time you´ll see what happens

[MB1]

I think the main concern here is that she is an escort, but escorts do marry dont they, they are human beings afterall.

As an escort lady her chances to marry a farang (with more money than most Thai workers) are higher than working anywhere else.

Ouch, we are 2 years down the drain, did the OP finally marry her or not???

Yeah 2 years on and OP no longer taking part in thread he posted on day of joining Thai Visa/26/09/2008, well I thinks he not wed but neither is he dead, give hime a PM and see if he can rejoin thread and give an update, seems he was last active on Thai Visa 25/07/2010..

[MidoriApple]

Usually I would avoid reading this kind of thread,

It would conclude as "ALL" Thai girls are bad, scammer, or else have some sarcastic about Thai-Chinese Hi-so whose Papa+Mama were billionaire..zillionaire..bla..bla..

Couldn't be fair!! Really wrong information!

Back to the OP, I read only your Q and a few posts at page 7 only

IMO, are you being played? Umm..it takes time to say..

I guess you spent time with her only on your both vacation. It's Holiday.

Bringing you to her parents, helping save money, talking about living together in the future..I think she is human also, an escort can have dreams as a normal girl..

I think she is very fond of you, but not sure when time goes by.

When truth of life comes, when money in needed, when passionate gone.

Are you capable for her financially needed?

Couldn't completely blame her, sometimes money are so essential for her, especially is for her fam's living.

I will suggest you to not think too far, just enjoy being with her day by day, be neutrally fond of her. Time will tell.

Good luck!

[Kwasaki]

Well you had a lot of replies the good the bad and the ugly.

What I say to :- Am I being played is " Ask her not me "

[SomTumTiger]

Are you being played? Maybe. Are you being naive? Definitely. Are you being stupid? Probably. Are you a troll? Possibly. Am I bored? Positively.

[stander]

Go for it, nothing ventured, nothing gained

[hughben]

Anyone PM'd the OP?

I think we are all curious what the outcome was.

At least the OP never joined the flying club...

I don't know why men feel they need to tie the knot. Is it for the visa?

As Woody Allen said, "Me and my wife were happy for 20 years then we got married".