I preferred my answer...

So did I

18....really? I personally couldn't see anything of interest in an 18 year old boy, no matter how good looking or the potential sexual benefits. I'm 33 years old & I need to be with a man & I would presume that at your age thad, you need a women not a girl.

I couldn't see any interest in an 18 year old boy either

C'mon Boo .... think about it, I've been bereft of a partner for nearly two years (don't ask me how I got my annual visa extension ) and I have kept my head down locally all the time, then I have a brief fling with a psycho and while I'm recovering from that, keeping my head down again, an innocent little girl starts to show an interest in me, I didn't start it, she did. Makes no difference if she is 18, 28, 38.

Ask any bloke in here, if they had been through the same set of circumstances and then presented with the current opportunity if they would explore the possibilities or not ...... anyone that says no, is lying through their teeth.

I think you misunderstand me, I'm not talking about the sex side of it. If she want to break her cherry with you then that's her prerogative, I doubt it will be without some kind of condition/s though

I'm talking about what happens after the deed. 18 year old kids (and sorry to smash your delusions guys but 18 is still kid mentality) what then? Can you really handle having to deal with a simpering teen who's main interest in life will be some vapid teeny <deleted>.

Has your life become so boring that you would look forward to that & all the dramas that will come along with dating a teenager or are you planning this will be a one time, shag her then dump her dealio (which will also have it's own issues) ?

simpering teen who's main interest in life will be some vapid teeny <deleted>.

By the sounds of it she is more interested in some rather more mature specimens.

I'm talking about what happens after the deed. 18 year old kids (and sorry to smash your delusions guys but 18 is still kid mentality) what then? Can you really handle having to deal with a simpering teen who's main interest in life will be some vapid teeny <deleted>.

No, I don't think I could handle it if she does turn out to be a simpering teen ..... that's the dilemma..... and then there is the other possibility, what if she is using me?

Edit..... just noticed what Phil wrote, and that's exactly what I meant.

18....really? I personally couldn't see anything of interest in an 18 year old boy, no matter how good looking or the potential sexual benefits. I'm 33 years old & I need to be with a man & I would presume that at your age thad, you need a women not a girl.

I couldn't see any interest in an 18 year old boy either

C'mon Boo .... think about it, I've been bereft of a partner for nearly two years (don't ask me how I got my annual visa extension ) and I have kept my head down locally all the time, then I have a brief fling with a psycho and while I'm recovering from that, keeping my head down again, an innocent little girl starts to show an interest in me, I didn't start it, she did. Makes no difference if she is 18, 28, 38.

Ask any bloke in here, if they had been through the same set of circumstances and then presented with the current opportunity if they would explore the possibilities or not ...... anyone that says no, is lying through their teeth.

speak for yourself Thad! my answer is a definite NO... the Mrs would never allow it

Mine neither.

perhaps they ganged up behind our backs?

Your missus doesn't count, Naam. We all know how jealous Klingon women can be. After all, Klingons were named after the domestic characteristics of the female of the species.

I did say

"the same set of circumstances"

Currently, I have a wife on paper only, and no significant emotionally linked other., well, no emotionally linked other full stop.

I'm talking about what happens after the deed. 18 year old kids (and sorry to smash your delusions guys but 18 is still kid mentality) what then? Can you really handle having to deal with a simpering teen who's main interest in life will be some vapid teeny <deleted>.

No, I don't think I could handle it if she does turn out to be a simpering teen ..... that's the dilemma..... and then there is the other possibility, what if she is using me?

Edit..... just noticed what Phil wrote, and that's exactly what I meant.

Do you want to know what a woman really thinks based on her own experiences or do you want to have the good old boy backslapping "well done you old dog you" stuff? let me know and I will either tell you what it really is or back off completely and leave you to it.

Take your pick and I will abide by your decision.

Has no one posted this yet?

I'm still trying to get my head round how the subject of her virginity came up. IME it isn't really a topic of conversation for in front of vague farang acquaintances. Could it be that little tit-bit was offered up as bait? Bait for what I'm not sure but just seems very suspect to me.

Seriously thad I'm not trying to sound like a bitch but if we were face to face I'd be saying the same, you might not like it but as an impartial observer it seems to be a very strange scenario, you may not have money or any intentions to pay out for this girl/take her to UK/marry her but does she (or whoever it is potentially setting this honey trap) know that???.

I'm liking the sound of the nutter more & more, at least she is upfront & transparent in her actions & is old enough to be running her own life (no matter how badly)

I am 45 and I wear Little Kitty knickers.

Anyway, besides that little ditty (kitty ditty), I agree with Boo - watch out you may be in for a big surprise.

How old are you, Thaddy?

Go on, I just told you my age...

Patsy...you are too cute!

(Sorry..back on topic!)

I'm talking about what happens after the deed. 18 year old kids (and sorry to smash your delusions guys but 18 is still kid mentality) what then? Can you really handle having to deal with a simpering teen who's main interest in life will be some vapid teeny <deleted>.

No, I don't think I could handle it if she does turn out to be a simpering teen ..... that's the dilemma..... and then there is the other possibility, what if she is using me?

Edit..... just noticed what Phil wrote, and that's exactly what I meant.

Do you want to know what a woman really thinks based on her own experiences or do you want to have the good old boy backslapping "well done you old dog you" stuff? let me know and I will either tell you what it really is or back off completely and leave you to it.

Take your pick and I will abide by your decision.

I think I have a fairly good idea what the backslapping boys opinion is, yes I would like to hear yours, and I will take on board everything you say, but please bear in mind that your opinion may be just that., an opinion. One that is based on speculation, possibly prejudice (the real meaning of the word, just in case you think it may be an insult, which it isn't) and a 100% dose of not being there.

I'm still trying to get my head round how the subject of her virginity came up. IME it isn't really a topic of conversation for in front of vague farang acquaintances. Could it be that little tit-bit was offered up as bait?

Correct.

Oh, cummon - we want to know how old you are just to know if it is appropriate to date a young virginal lovely of 18 ish

Because if you are one of those fat ugly overweight over 60 buggers - you'll have most of us after you as well

Can you pay my flght?

patsy being naughty?!?

Never, not in my Little Kitty knickers...

Just want to know Taddy's age, thts all - if he is 39 or 40 - in my thinks too old for 18. But if he is in his late 20s or early 30s OK.

Depends on his beer belly. Cuddly and cute (like wee kitties) or humphing and burping - take your pickle.

Thaddy,

Heres 2 of my cents:

first cent:

She saiys three months, right?

So take three months to get your sh1t packed up, don't tell anyone you're moving (Kanchanaburi province is nice this time of year), and as soon as you can, take her out, fack her senseless, and leave while she sleeps.

second cent:

Be a kind-hearted (but not gullible) man, politely refuse her advances, and live on knowing you've been a kind-hearted man. If you think you are unable to do the latter, I refer you to the former (first cent).

Interesting thread Thad. I will not offer up advice, as i'm sure you will do what you want and what you think is best at the time.

I do not know you all that well but it is also interesting to see just how many bad relationships there are with Thai / farang.

I have it not so good as well and the scary thing is that we are still together.

It takes..guts to reveal so much of yourself on a public forum.

I applaud you and wish you the best.

Because if you are one of those fat ugly overweight over 60 buggers

Sorry Pats...... no, I am not one of them ..... not one of those three counts.

second cent:

Be a kind-hearted (but not gullible) man, politely refuse her advances, and live on knowing you've been a kind-hearted man.

That's the one that is probably going to happen, because I have that option ..... her options are far more limited, and not within her control.

I applaud you and wish you the best.

Thanks Jeff, the feeling is reciprocated.

OK, my opinion is based upon being a woman, and having been an 18 year old girl, Albeit, a while ago, but I can assure you that I still remember things quite well.

First off, no 18 year old girl is attracted to a man in his 40s (which I am presuming you are) unless he looks like Johnny Depp or Keanu Reeves.I don't want to hurt your feelings but it is a fact. Given the choice of a cute rich guy her own age and a cute rich guy of 45, she will pick the cute rich guy her own age every single time.

18 year olds, regardless of how "mature" they seem are not mature, they are still teenagers and have a teenager's view of the world.

No 18 year old girl, regardless of what she says, is looking to what she perceives as a pretty old man for "experience". She is looking to you for one thing, and one thing only and it has nothing to do with your charm, your good looks or your personality.

If you are willing to enter into what is most likely a whole heap of trouble from this girl and her family then go for it, but otherwise, if you are thinking with the big head, stay well away and do not encourage her in any way, shape or form.

You're thinking like a Farang woman, not a Thai sbk.

In all levels of Thai society young women enter relationships with older men regardless of their financial situation.

I'm not saying that in the case of extremely poor girls marrying rich older men that money doesn't enter the equation but it also happens in Western society.

Most Thai women don't take age into account when looking for a suitable partner.

No, I am thnking like a woman, no 18 year old is sexually attracted to a 45 year old man (unless he's Johnny Depp, of course). If she is entering into anything it is financially based. Financial doesn't necessarily involve rich, but it does involve security.

If you are fooling yourself into thinking she is overcome with lust at the sight of your body then you are will be sadly mistaken to realize that it is purely a pragmatic arrangement.

***edit, I just need to add, I have lived here for 20 years, I am well aware of how Thai women and girls think. Considering my place in my community, and the fact that I speak the local dialect, Thai women tell me things you will never hear***

no 18 year old is sexually attracted to a 45 year old man

Why not? the basics are all there.

Frequency of sexual intercourse isn't the only thing a woman looks for I'm sure, which is what you're suggesting.

Men in their forties are usually physically as strong and often fitter than many younger men. Maturity counts for something surely?

What your saying is that it is more socially acceptable to have a partner your own age, peer group pressure plays a major part in choice.

Not in Thailand.