45 Year Old Vs 25 Year Old

[falang1969]

Thought I would check back in.....keep you posted on how it's going! Well, life could not be better....I have now lived 95% of my time for the last 6 years in Thailand...one sour experience behind me and my faith has been restored!

No f'ing stupid demands for this or that...no financial demands....nothing! Her family expects nothing from me...they are poor'ish but young enough to be completely self-sufficient and all they want is their daughter to be happy.

Found a gem! The coolest, chilled out, kindest, generous and cutest girl ever! Yeah, bring on the comments.......

Just so refreshing to know that there are some good'uns out there. No arguments or disagreements (well, serious ones) in 9 months, even being together 24/7.

The key for me has been to make sure........no kids, no tattoo's (apologies to some), no divorcee's (apologies to some) and no bar girl's/freelancers or anyone who has frequented that scene.

Not being smug....but just happy to be where I am (after the nightmare I lived before)!

She is now pregnant.....my first, her first and can not wait to see what the future holds................thanks to those who posted +ve comments before!

Will keep you posted in coming years!

[falang1969]

What is it with the spate of these almost identical troll threads of late?

Stage 1) They all seem to start the same way some "young (ish) guy seeking advice about his young supposedly near, hi-so ''educated'' girl,

Stage 2) When the trolls all seem to get incredibly petulant, defensive and upset defending their imagined girlfriends, when people who really have 'been there, seen that.." display a little cynicism or disbelief instead of falling at the feet of the OP in awe and worshipping their prowess at finding such an amazing woman.

Stage 4) That's when they end up in bickerfests; young vs old; anyone whose 25yr old educated GF doesn't test milk in a factory must be "jealous' or some bitter skint old bloke stuck up in the boondocks.

Its all getting a bit tedious now. Can't mods just zap these things at their genesis...?

Yes I do spend way too much time on here......

<deleted> are you banging on about?

1. I ain't young.

2. ?

3. What happened to number 3?

4. What?

[HeavyDrinker]

What is it with the spate of these almost identical troll threads of late?

Stage 1) They all seem to start the same way some "young (ish) guy seeking advice about his young supposedly near, hi-so ''educated'' girl,

Stage 2) When the trolls all seem to get incredibly petulant, defensive and upset defending their imagined girlfriends, when people who really have 'been there, seen that.." display a little cynicism or disbelief instead of falling at the feet of the OP in awe and worshipping their prowess at finding such an amazing woman.

Stage 4) That's when they end up in bickerfests; young vs old; anyone whose 25yr old educated GF doesn't test milk in a factory must be "jealous' or some bitter skint old bloke stuck up in the boondocks.

Its all getting a bit tedious now. Can't mods just zap these things at their genesis...?

Yes I do spend way too much time on here......

<deleted> are you banging on about?

1. I ain't young.

2. ?

3. What happened to number 3?

4. What?

Apologies but my post was meant for someone with a brain, not just an invented milk testing "perfect' girl...congratulations on your baby....now your self congratulatory post above can go in the bin....Somewhere a 'self-sufficient' family are rubbing their hands with glee and calling the vet to check the buffalo...

Found a gem! The coolest, chilled out, kindest, generous and cutest girl ever! Yeah, bring on the comments.......

Well done!! as no-one else has ever done that in Thailand, ever......you must be something special....

Edited January 15, 2014 by HeavyDrinker

[RubberNecker]

I was same age and my wife same as your girl when we met 5 yrs ago, and all is well after 4 yrs married.

I'm very active and fit still, so my wife does not consider me an old man, yet.

Go for it.

[falang1969]

What is it with the spate of these almost identical troll threads of late?

Stage 1) They all seem to start the same way some "young (ish) guy seeking advice about his young supposedly near, hi-so ''educated'' girl,

Stage 2) When the trolls all seem to get incredibly petulant, defensive and upset defending their imagined girlfriends, when people who really have 'been there, seen that.." display a little cynicism or disbelief instead of falling at the feet of the OP in awe and worshipping their prowess at finding such an amazing woman.

Stage 4) That's when they end up in bickerfests; young vs old; anyone whose 25yr old educated GF doesn't test milk in a factory must be "jealous' or some bitter skint old bloke stuck up in the boondocks.

Its all getting a bit tedious now. Can't mods just zap these things at their genesis...?

Yes I do spend way too much time on here......

<deleted> are you banging on about?

1. I ain't young.

2. ?

3. What happened to number 3?

4. What?

Apologies but my post was meant for someone with a brain, not just an invented milk testing "perfect' girl...congratulations on your baby....now your self congratulatory post above can go in the bin....Somewhere a 'self-sufficient' family are rubbing their hands with glee and calling the vet to check the buffalo...

Found a gem! The coolest, chilled out, kindest, generous and cutest girl ever! Yeah, bring on the comments.......

Well done!! as no-one else has ever done that in Thailand, ever......you must be something special....

[falang1969]

Thought I would check-in.....

Here we are, married and baby!

Well, the 'self-sufficient' family' are well, still 'self-sufficient'

How much do I give them.....zilch!

Have I bought them a house? No, but I did splash out on a washing machine!

Did I pay 5m in sinsod for their unmarried, single, previously childless, 25 year old lovely daughter? No, zilch!

Did I have to pay for half the village for a party and a lump of gold at the wedding? No, me and my wife, down the Amphur and got married.

Do I get demands for cash, houses, sick buffaloes? No, zilch!

Do I look after their daughter and grandchild? Hell yeah, of course I do, just as any husband and father should do!

Happy as a pig in shit!

By the way, not in the habit of inventing people, like to live in the real world.

Will check back in next year!

[NCFC]

Always nice to read positive stories. Best wishes for the future.

[Shakubob]

Of course the real answer here is what do YOU really bring to the table. If it is something she doesn't want to go without (not money or age or looks) all that other crap is meaningless. You must be honest with you.

[Patsycat]

I don't like mr crap first post shakabob. Let people be happy.

[Munger]

Don't want to rain on the OP's parade but

university educated and not into Thai men

Is that what she told you or what you're assuming?

and only 1 Thai boy friend in the last 5 years. LOL

[john1000]

Be happy... all things in life can change in a second. Why worry over something that may not happen? Just keep finances safe.

[Pattaya Lous]

falang1969 - Deluded have you been out in the sun to long.

Sweet innocent young lady not into Thai men logs onto dating site to find man almost twice her age - something not quite right

Get back to the bar's mate at least you know where you stand.

[Lex Talionis]

Here's to you falang1969 and good luck. There's nothing like happiness and success to get the haters spewing out bile and choking on their own venom. Cheers!

[Crazy chef 1]

First post eh?

Uni educated and working in a factory?

Hmmmmm!

Smokie-Thai uni educated...

[pgrahmm]

falang1969....good luck to you in the days to come and your building of your future......

For the record - my wife university educated......worked for a Japanese Electronics company as a manager.....this particular company allowed no make up - everyone had to wear supplied uniforms - and they worked 6-7 days a week leaving only enough time to basically eat and rest.....the trade off was she was making 4-5x's the earnings of the "average" Thai.....had a circle of about 5 friends from the company - doesn't drink - and has yet to be in a "bar" of any type.....

She's about the kindest thinking, honest to a flaw, hard working, most optimistic, fun loving, and genuinely shyest people I've ever known....sometimes it's almost like living with Snow White - sometimes almost too G rated for me....she crochets, paints, draws, plays a couple of intruments......but - is always fun and spontaneous and we are laughing most of the time.....she grew up on a farm in a small family and was instilled with solid values.....very soft in every way but also a very strong person....even soft with a reproach if and when one is called for.....

So - don't let the haters/cynics/jealous jaded tossers/cowardly internet bullies and losers and their ilk that like to spew their brand of poison get to you - pontificating at their keyboards while waiting for their hangover to clear so they can go out to the bar and see the world exactly as they expect it to be - so they then can feel validated.....

A lot of posters on here can't get their mind/heads out of the bars let alone out of their @$$es.....

There are good women out there that are looking for good men....but sometimes it takes a good man to see a good woman......

It's funny - but the posters I envision as being good solid men/people here on TV seem to be the ones that have found good wives/gf's/relationships......funny how that works out......

[uptheos]

I think the age difference will be a problem ........... you're too young.

[Felixthecat]

So is your wife going back to work when your child starts school?

[falang1969]

falang1969....good luck to you in the days to come and your building of your future......

For the record - my wife university educated......worked for a Japanese Electronics company as a manager.....this particular company allowed no make up - everyone had to wear supplied uniforms - and they worked 6-7 days a week leaving only enough time to basically eat and rest.....the trade off was she was making 4-5x's the earnings of the "average" Thai.....had a circle of about 5 friends from the company - doesn't drink - and has yet to be in a "bar" of any type.....

She's about the kindest thinking, honest to a flaw, hard working, most optimistic, fun loving, and genuinely shyest people I've ever known....sometimes it's almost like living with Snow White - sometimes almost too G rated for me....she crochets, paints, draws, plays a couple of intruments......but - is always fun and spontaneous and we are laughing most of the time.....she grew up on a farm in a small family and was instilled with solid values.....very soft in every way but also a very strong person....even soft with a reproach if and when one is called for.....

So - don't let the haters/cynics/jealous jaded tossers/cowardly internet bullies and losers and their ilk that like to spew their brand of poison get to you - pontificating at their keyboards while waiting for their hangover to clear so they can go out to the bar and see the world exactly as they expect it to be - so they then can feel validated.....

A lot of posters on here can't get their mind/heads out of the bars let alone out of their @$$es.....

There are good women out there that are looking for good men....but sometimes it takes a good man to see a good woman......

It's funny - but the posters I envision as being good solid men/people here on TV seem to be the ones that have found good wives/gf's/relationships......funny how that works out......

Yep, I agree. Sometimes I do wonder if these people have actually ever met a normal Thai girl, from a normal background, with a normal education and a normal job.

I reckon there are plenty of really nice girls out there, but they never see the light of day, as they work, go home, work, go home, work, go home and in reality don't actually have much time to actually socialise and meet people.

My wife's old job, 6 days a week, 12 hour rotating shifts which didn't leave much time for anything else.

As for the comments, I take them with a pinch of salt, I am a lot more worldly about Thai girls (from all backgrounds) and relationships than I come across on here and have experienced and seen a lot over the years.

Luckily, I wasn't too tainted by my previous naive relationship, taught me everything I needed to know this time round. I could have easily become cynical, twisted and bitter like some of the posters on here.

Instead, I just set myself a few rules when I was back in the market and they seemed to have paid off!

Took a while to sort the "wheat from the chaff" but think I got there in the end.

[falang1969]

So is your wife going back to work when your child starts school?

Why would I want her to do that?

I got married to be with my wife and kid, not for her to be working 12 hours a day..... she has stuff to keep her busy at home.

That is one of the advantages of living in Thailand for me, could never do that in my home country, too expensive.

Here though, easily achievable.

[falang1969]

falang1969 - Deluded have you been out in the sun to long.

Sweet innocent young lady not into Thai men logs onto dating site to find man almost twice her age - something not quite right

Get back to the bar's mate at least you know where you stand.

"Get back to the bar's mate at least you know where you stand."

I can honestly say that is the last place I would want to be! It's full of precisely the type of girl's I wanted to avoid.

I made a point of not seeing anyone from a bar even though I frequented them, to chat to mates etc.

What would be the purpose? A leg over and get tucked up for a few quid?

Not what I was looking for.

[Munger]

Don't want to rain on the OP's parade but

university educated and not into Thai men

Is that what she told you or what you're assuming?

Maybe, just maybe, she is looking for an honest older guy, not a 24 year old Thai guy with 3 dicks out to shag whatever he can ....just a possibility maybe?

Who told you ONLY "1 Thai boy friend in 5 years" ?

[drgoon]

We have been together 4 years. We 'dated' 3 years prior to that.

She chose me, although I did fancy her I never suggested a relationship other than platonic.

I have just turned 58, she is 32. We get on really well.

The only issue is sometimes my libido flags and she requires a lot of attention to be able to 'finish' as they say in LOS.

[falang1969]

As I was the OP, let's do an update......

We now have a beautiful kid.

My wife who is now 26 is the best mother and wife I could ever meet (bearing in mind I have been around the block both in Thailand and my home Country)....and almost lost faith in Thai (albeit bar) girls.

Oh, her family, yep, still self sufficient and the washing machine I bought is still going strong! In fact, her family are supportive and help out with when required and no reward is either expected or paid.

We are off to my home country for a 3 month holiday soon. Although, our "home" is Thailand and will be, for the forseeable future.

Our relationship is balanced, fair, respectful and honest to each other, we help each other (noooo, not financially) but emotionally!

We still rent our house and I have no pressure to buy, no demands for gold, no demands for cash, no demands to "show off" the "falangs" wealth....nothing!

So...just goes to show (to the cynics), there ARE real nice girls out there (but they don't sit in a bar).....but don't worry, if you think she is a long term scammer, I will report back!

Just hope this gives some confidence to guys who put the effort in to meet a "real" girl, rather than some dodgy lazy bird!

[benalibina]

It certainly seems very good. No red flags. Good luck and all the best for your families future.

[Cypress Hill]

Well done to the OP. He appears to have found himself a genuine keeper even if she is a bit young

Can't say Thai women are for me to be honest . . . well, not THAT young (I'm 47) and certainly not for anything beyond the casual/fun level

Not just language but also in terms of worldliness and curiosity.

Nope, I still love my Western chicks