Ok, I have a dilemma! I am a single-white-female living on Phuket, Thailand ................

And I want advice from the BedlaM Boys. (Be kind pleaaaaase!)

a) the great love of my life lives on the other side of the planet and looks like committing at no time in the future. We see each other for 4 mths of the year (for the past 2 yrs). He loves FUN! and adventure as much as he loves me. He is a Latino!

I am very fond of an executive chef who has been my good friend (and occasional lover) for the past 3 yrs. He lives around the corner from me and now wants a permanent relationship ( and children) and that scares me a lot. He is American!

c) Recently, I met a lovely European man - who just so happens to be of muslim-faith, but he is extremely liberal. This gentleman is trying to sweep me off my feet to convince me in committing my charms only to himself. Understandably, I am fighting tooth and nail despite his charms. He is Algerian (and speaks mainly French!)

I feel completely out of my depths here. HELP me guys............!!! (Again, BE KIND!!!!!!!!!!)

Sooooooooooo... just as I thought! Never mind, I have a NEW dilemma now!

My house is filled with flying bugs. Same thing happened last year and when I awoke the floor was CARPETED with the bugs.

Are they TERMITES? Who ARE these bugs? Please tell me................. ?

Ok, I have a dilemma! I am a single-white-female living on Phuket, Thailand ................

And I want advice from the BedlaM Boys. (Be kind pleaaaaase!)

a) the great love of my life lives on the other side of the planet and looks like committing at no time in the future. We see each other for 4 mths of the year (for the past 2 yrs). He loves FUN! and adventure as much as he loves me. He is a Latino!

I am very fond of an executive chef who has been my good friend (and occasional lover) for the past 3 yrs. He lives around the corner from me and now wants a permanent relationship ( and children) and that scares me a lot. He is American!

c) Recently, I met a lovely European man - who just so happens to be of muslim-faith, but he is extremely liberal. This gentleman is trying to sweep me off my feet to convince me in committing my charms only to himself. Understandably, I am fighting tooth and nail despite his charms. He is Algerian (and speaks mainly French!)

I feel completely out of my depths here. HELP me guys............!!! (Again, BE KIND!!!!!!!!!!)

You - perhaps discreetly - missed out an important piece of information: your age.

But whatever - my initial reaction is it is time to pack your bags and take a trip (6 months plus).

The trip will help clear your mind and put some of these gentlemen’s attentions in their true perspective.

Ok, I have a dilemma! I am a single-white-female living on Phuket, Thailand ................

And I want advice from the BedlaM Boys. (Be kind pleaaaaase!)

a) the great love of my life lives on the other side of the planet and looks like committing at no time in the future. We see each other for 4 mths of the year (for the past 2 yrs). He loves FUN! and adventure as much as he loves me. He is a Latino!

I am very fond of an executive chef who has been my good friend (and occasional lover) for the past 3 yrs. He lives around the corner from me and now wants a permanent relationship ( and children) and that scares me a lot. He is American!

c) Recently, I met a lovely European man - who just so happens to be of muslim-faith, but he is extremely liberal. This gentleman is trying to sweep me off my feet to convince me in committing my charms only to himself. Understandably, I am fighting tooth and nail despite his charms. He is Algerian (and speaks mainly French!)

I feel completely out of my depths here. HELP me guys............!!! (Again, BE KIND!!!!!!!!!!)

Holy Moly, Khall, that's a real HUGE DILEMMA you're putting the fellas here into, but let me try to give you an honest answer...ok?

A. "the great love of your life"; the only way, in my opinion, to make this work is to visit him in his own environment and see how it goes from there. That means: buy a ticket (if you can) and hop over for 3 weeks or so.

B. "very fond" and " scares me a lot". I think you gave the answer already yourself...

C. "Lovely European man" (but Algerian is not really European, though he probably spent most of his life in France). Apart from the language problem you have to think if you could cope with his Religion in the future...Not an easy job here.

Basically you are asking us if we have an answer, which we obviously couldn't possibly have for you, but you have to make a decision whether you should follow your heart and GO for your "love of your life"...

The only way is to see/feel/observe him in HIS own country; there you can see if he is the same man as he shows himself to you during the 4 months/year you are together...(Phuket..?) when it is fun and adventure..but life is not always like that...

All in all, you're on a 3-way intersection and you don't know which road to take.

Follow your own 'heart' and IF you're not into making a decision yet....DON'T!

The man of your dreams will come 1 day, and that day might be closer than you ever thought of.

If he's Latino, American or European/Algerian is not important; it's your heart which will tell you if he's the right one or not; who knows maybe you will meet another nice man...next week, whereever he comes from

Sincere

LaoPo

Khall...just saw your other message:

"I have a NEW dilemma now!

My house is filled with flying bugs. Same thing happened last year and when I awoke the floor was CARPETED with the bugs. "

I'm sorry, I don't have ans answer to that; maybe 'flying ants" or anything alike?

I know they are not very healthy but do you have 'mosquito coils'....maybe burn a lot of them...makes them sleepy and they'll probably die.

LaoPo

Obviously if you are asking us I'd stay single, I can't see this being love for you. It's an either you know it or you don't situation.

Can't beat the American .

looks like an easy choice to me

That is of course if you like marrage and kids .

I am very fond of an executive chef who has been my good friend (and occasional lover) for the past 3 yrs. He lives around the corner from me and now wants a permanent relationship ( and children) and that scares me a lot. He is American!

c) Recently, I met a lovely European man - who just so happens to be of muslim-faith...

The American by all means!

You marry the Muslim, you have to convert.

And, we definitely don't want to get into that here...

Go with your heart, not your head!

Go with your heart, not your head!

Unless you were a man in which case, we dont go with our hearts or our heads, we go with our loins

Go with your heart, not your head!

Unless you were a man in which case, we dont go with our hearts or our heads, we go with our loins

You gotta get a job...

Go with your heart, not your head!

Unless you were a man in which case, we dont go with our hearts or our heads, we go with our loins

You gotta get a job...

I am a man and I always go with my heart - never been wrong yet!

Geeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeez, guys whom ever talked about marriage? You should see my floor now.... littered with fairies wings!

WINGS everywhere who will clean the wings?

FAIRY's RULE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well , you said that the American wants a permanent realtionship ( and children ) That's not so bad .

The moslim is fitting you for a berka . Thats not so bad either I kind of like the one with the metal mouth plate ( joking of course )

and the other one was .....what ? I forgot already . Now im thinking about bugs flying around

The moslim is fitting you for a berka . Thats not so bad either I kind of like the one with the metal mouth plate ( joking of course )

Burkas are in these days (or so I've been told).

Khall, read you descriptions again of the reltionships you have with these people.

Guy 1: Love of you life

Guy 2: Very fond

Guy 3: Lovely

(Guy 4 would have been 'nice' and all down hill from there!)

I don't know if you intensionally wrote it his way or it was your subconsious. If it was the latter, then maybe you should be listening to it. Of course, the fact that you are asking means you are not sure yourself - it seems likely to me you are feeling (or were feeling) lonely or 'over looked'. Don't choose the lesser of three evils when you neddn't choose at all - pastures new girl.

I know how old you are Khall, and if you ever want kids you better hurry. Let the yank knock you up.

cv

Ok, I have a dilemma! I am a single-white-female living on Phuket, Thailand ................

And I want advice from the BedlaM Boys. (Be kind pleaaaaase!)

a) the great love of my life lives on the other side of the planet and looks like committing at no time in the future. We see each other for 4 mths of the year (for the past 2 yrs). He loves FUN! and adventure as much as he loves me. He is a Latino!

I am very fond of an executive chef who has been my good friend (and occasional lover) for the past 3 yrs. He lives around the corner from me and now wants a permanent relationship ( and children) and that scares me a lot. He is American!

c) Recently, I met a lovely European man - who just so happens to be of muslim-faith, but he is extremely liberal. This gentleman is trying to sweep me off my feet to convince me in committing my charms only to himself. Understandably, I am fighting tooth and nail despite his charms. He is Algerian (and speaks mainly French!)

I feel completely out of my depths here. HELP me guys............!!! (Again, BE KIND!!!!!!!!!!)

I am very fond of an executive chef who has been my good friend (and occasional lover) for the past 3 yrs. He lives around the corner from me and now wants a permanent relationship ( and children) and that scares me a lot. He is American!

c) Recently, I met a lovely European man - who just so happens to be of muslim-faith...

The American by all means!

You marry the Muslim, you have to convert.

And, we definitely don't want to get into that here...

Darn Khall, WHen in doubt, make no decision at all. Force yourself and you´ll go wrong. You know that.

Maybe TM is right. .Take a trip, clear your head... etc----- Maybe the answers will fall into your path.

Here´s a song by an old friend...

sometimes all the moments

that we savoured for the last

get crushed between the good and bad

from pressures we have had

but you know I can't conceive the day

when feelings run too high

to work out all the stale terrain

emotions try to hide, when I try

lately I can't seem to colour what

we've lost

it all seems like bad means

when lovers turn from lust

then I try - try to smoke alone

these shattered ties with no compromise

fall through this fragile hel_l

the drinks stay sipped 'cos we've lost our grip

too exhausted to rebel

S.A.

Sooooooooooo... just as I thought! Never mind, I have a NEW dilemma now!

My house is filled with flying bugs. Same thing happened last year and when I awoke the floor was CARPETED with the bugs.

Are they TERMITES? Who ARE these bugs? Please tell me................. ?

Sounds like 'maraang maow' or drunk insects. Usually happens a couple of times a year and usually during or just after a rain. They are really attracted to lights, so keep it dim until it passes. I've seen entire intersections in Chiangmai carpeted with these bugs. When they come out, I leave all outside lights off and be sure to keep all doors and windows shut. Usually only lasts a couple of days.

c) Recently, I met a lovely European man - who just so happens to be of muslim-faith, but he is extremely liberal. This gentleman is trying to sweep me off my feet to convince me in committing my charms only to himself. Understandably, I am fighting tooth and nail despite his charms. He is Algerian (and speaks mainly French!)

Not European , even in the loosest sense of the word babe!

Go for the sceptic....

Easy Khall...

Dump all of them and go out with me instead!

Easy Khall...

Dump all of them and go out with me instead!

Hmm... I'm sure it's a tempting suggestion Wolfie... but not everyone wants to live for ever...

My advice Khall, American guy. If you are not ready for the whole marriage thing with kids, then just take it slowly, commitment is just the first step in a long term relationship.

Algerian ?? Muslim ?? Pleeease !!

totster

Live with the American fella for a year, no kids, no marriage.

Try the shoe on first to see if it fits and is comfortable to walk in before you decide to buy.

Love of your life doesn't feel the same way, otherwise, it would have happened already.

Sooooooooooo... just as I thought! Never mind, I have a NEW dilemma now!

My house is filled with flying bugs. Same thing happened last year and when I awoke the floor was CARPETED with the bugs.

Are they TERMITES? Who ARE these bugs? Please tell me................. ?

Sounds like 'maraang maow' or drunk insects. Usually happens a couple of times a year and usually during or just after a rain. They are really attracted to lights, so keep it dim until it passes. I've seen entire intersections in Chiangmai carpeted with these bugs. When they come out, I leave all outside lights off and be sure to keep all doors and windows shut. Usually only lasts a couple of days.

Rather keep the lights outside on and the lights inside off. That way they are not attracted inside the house. As for your other question...did you ask them already for a bank statement?

Sooooooooooo... just as I thought! Never mind, I have a NEW dilemma now!

My house is filled with flying bugs. Same thing happened last year and when I awoke the floor was CARPETED with the bugs.

Are they TERMITES? Who ARE these bugs? Please tell me................. ?

Sounds like 'maraang maow' or drunk insects. Usually happens a couple of times a year and usually during or just after a rain. They are really attracted to lights, so keep it dim until it passes. I've seen entire intersections in Chiangmai carpeted with these bugs. When they come out, I leave all outside lights off and be sure to keep all doors and windows shut. Usually only lasts a couple of days.

You are supposed to EAT them.

For locals, they are the equivelent of making snow into ice cream for North Americans and Europeans.

Easy Khall...

Dump all of them and go out with me instead!

Hmm... I'm sure it's a tempting suggestion Wolfie... but not everyone wants to live for ever...

The first 200 years are the hardest, after that its a breeze!

Obviously if you are asking us I'd stay single, I can't see this being love for you. It's an either you know it or you don't situation.

Spot on, Brit. Succinct and deadly accurate.

Truly, Khall, only you know the answer. You feel your way to love rather than think your way there. And when it's 'right' the feeling will slap you in the face. If you think too much you'll only confuse yourself, then forever doubt your choice.

Obviously if you are asking us I'd stay single, I can't see this being love for you. It's an either you know it or you don't situation.

Spot on, Brit. Succinct and deadly accurate.

Truly, Khall, only you know the answer. You feel your way to love rather than think your way there. And when it's 'right' the feeling will slap you in the face. If you think too much you'll only confuse yourself, then forever doubt your choice.

Nicely said Tippaporn.

I suggest you take lessons from the Thai ladies. Marry with your head and forget about your heart. Those heart relationships sometimes QUICKLY burn out.

ALSO keep in mind that two can live cheaper than one. Don't believe that? The Thai government says so. You need 800,000 baht if single and 400,000 baht if married to a Thai. Actually that was true for me. I now spend less than half of what I spent when I was single.

I suggest you take lessons from the Thai ladies. Marry with your head and forget about your heart. Those heart relationships sometimes QUICKLY burn out.

ALSO keep in mind that two can live cheaper than one. Don't believe that? The Thai government says so. You need 800,000 baht if single and 400,000 baht if married to a Thai. Actually that was true for me. I now spend less than half of what I spent when I was single.

And double the fun!

I would suggest to go with the love of your life for 4 months a year and get a vibrator for the other 8 months