I met a Thai woman ...

[Myself2013]

Hi everybody,

I'm new on this forum and I'm seriously looking for some advices. I hope you guys more experienced than me about thai ladies, and thai culture, will reply to this post.

Me:

I'm 29, and I travelled 3 times, between 2011 and 2013, to thailand: 1 month, 3 months and 1 month (last time in august).

I used to have fun with many lady bar, and I had some good time with lady who weren't working in bar. I always kept an emotional distance.

Last time I went to thailand, I met a woman, younger than me, who is running a beauty salon. We had good time together. I refused to stay in touch with her when i came back but she couldn't stop talk to me and I said myself "why not"...

So we decide to go on a relationship. And Yes, she asked me money because she needed for herself. So I send 4000b, 3 times, because i refused to give her a lot of money but enough to fulfill her needs.

So now i will go back in december and she accepted that we meet her parents. Just before that (last month) I discovered that she was in touch with some man in facebook. I am very jealous and I said to her I don't like this so I said it's last time. She after started to use a new account removed all the farang man and she also... tatooed my name on her body... If I go back I will spend time with her family in I-san... I want to bring her to Europe but I don't know if this is good idea and if she can be trusted. What do you think?

[briboy]

HMMM, mate get ready for some interesting replies, I personally have been done over by 2 of the lovely little Issan "ladies"

[Mrjlh]

You will be getting lots of advice for sure..mostly negative. Proceed with caution. Do not give money freely and make sure they know you are not rich even if you have tons of money to burn. You only want to be "friends" nothing more. If she can't accept that...goodbye!

At least she has a honorable profession. Meeting the family usually leads to a "serious" relationship but is an honorable thing to do. It also gives you an idea of their financial situation. If she asks for a "ring" time to move on unless you really want to marry her. Sounds too soon to me. a ring signifies more than just a girlfriend.

Several goods books on the subject. ... good luck.

[cdmtdm]

warning warning Will Robinson ....... did u have to post this to get the right answer ?

[noikrit]

I thonk from the previous posts you get the idea ??? If not.. your in trouble .....There's plenty of fish in the pond ... CHOKDEE

[DILLIGAD]

Buy a copy of "Thailand Fever"

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[Nowhereman60]

She has already proved she is a cheat and looking for money, would you have given money to a lady in your own country for the same reasons. You know the answer so move on, she is not the one.

[wellred]

Get out now before you get emotionally attached. Once you are it will make it harder to walk away and you will become prone to even more blatant acts of abusing your trust.

[JoeThePoster]

and she also... tatooed my name on her body...

Your name isn't Joe, is it?

[kurnell]

Quite and interesting mix of broken English and the Queen's English in your post. Assume you are a non native speaker?

She tattooed your name on her body? It's true love then mate.

[NCC1701A]

Stop sending or giving money. Zero. Then see what happens. Tell her at your age you have tens of thousands of woman to chose from and you zero tolerance for any non sense. She is lucky and you are holding all the cards.

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[Sharp]

Jezzzzz!!!!!!

Who's first ??

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[Sharp]

Quite and interesting mix of broken English and the Queen's English in your post. Assume you are a non native speaker?

She tattooed your name on her body? It's true love then mate.

Come on Kurnell be fair he might believe you !!!

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[SlyAnimal]

I would be very very careful if I were you. Your gf creating a fb account with only you on it is particularly worrying, that sounds like she wants to have all of her Farang "friends" but just not let you see them.

It also means you're separated from her "real life" and friends, so you're kinda like her "dirty little secret" (although this style can be quite common for conservative Isaan girls, but your girl got a tattoo at the drop of a hat so probably isn't a conservative girl. Although I wouldn't be surprised if the tattoo was fake (in which case she's lying to you so a bad girl lol)).

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[kurnell]

Quite and interesting mix of broken English and the Queen's English in your post. Assume you are a non native speaker?

She tattooed your name on her body? It's true love then mate.

Come on Kurnell be fair he might believe you !!!

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If this is a genuine post...and I have my doubts, it is the classic case of the Thai bird with several blokes on the go, many of whom send money. It is a way to make a living...or additional earnings. My friend had his Thailand sports club logo tattooed on his leg, then he had to take a job in another country a few months later. I didn't doubt his sincerity at the time, but tattooing yourself is hardly a lifetime commitment.

[wonder6281]

Go for it and see what happens. Hide your wealth and if it turns belly up, you will be better for the life experience. No point standing on the edge of the cliff waiting to jump!

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[Sharp]

 

Quite and interesting mix of broken English and the Queen's English in your post. Assume you are a non native speaker?

She tattooed your name on her body? It's true love then mate.

Come on Kurnell be fair he might believe you !!!

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If this is a genuine post...and I have my doubts, it is the classic case of the Thai bird with several blokes on the go, many of whom send money. It is a way to make a living...or additional earnings. My friend had his Thailand sports club logo tattooed on his leg, then he had to take a job in another country a few months later. I didn't doubt his sincerity at the time, but tattooing yourself is hardly a lifetime commitment. 

I concur my friend..

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[tom21]

just spend what you are happy to loose. That is the only way to live in Thailand

[NeverSure]

just spend what you are happy to loose. That is the only way to live in Thailand

Too many guys are happy to lose all they have until they realize it happened.

[sirchai]

I know of a "girl" who had 13 guys sending her money every month. She needed her laptop not just for facebook. She had to organize when her "lovers' wanted to come and visit her.

"Please come a week later, as my father had an accident." Etc....and listen to another poster's advice and read that book. All true.-

[meatboy]

I know of a "girl" who had 13 guys sending her money every month. She needed her laptop not just for facebook. She had to organize when her "lovers' wanted to come and visit her.

"Please come a week later, as my father had an accident." Etc....and listen to another poster's advice and read that book. All true.-

it cant be the one i know she has 14 and still looking for more,the last bloke of her's i met he told me he was the first farang she had met.he is due any time better not come this weekend her brother is home.

op.you are not that bloke are you? where did you say that tatoo was.

[hazman]

OP what's her Facebook name might help in giving you an opinion on what you should do

[SantiSuk]

You sound sensible enough to navigate this particular jungle, OP. Proceed with caution and don't be afraid to tell your GF that you do have concerns and why.

Even if she is genuine (and there are plenty who are) as a beauty shop owner she knows how it works in Thailand and should know exactly where you are coming from - beauty salons are where the ante gets talked up* between gossiping customers when it comes to extracting money for fake love.

* Sorry, English slang phrase - "up the ante", means to increase the size or importance of a stake in a game of risk

[Myself2013]

Is there a way to definitely knows her feeling? Some of you already gave me an answer, what about the others?

Edited November 30, 2013 by Myself2013

[Myself2013]

She never say I was the first, and the name is on her back/shoulder

Edited November 30, 2013 by Myself2013

[willyumiii]

10,000 baht per day and expenses, travel, lodging meals, entertainment and bar bills, and I can confirm or disprove all of your doubts.

Receipts provided for all expenses upon payment.

PM her name and location of her work to me.

A good photo would be helpful, but not required.

I will have your answer within 24 hours of payment.

I'm awaiting your reply!

Edited November 30, 2013 by willyumiii

[Myself2013]

I don't think she is hidding me to others people , she put a picture of us in the cover page of her facebook (that In fact I have created for her the previous one doesn't exist anymore).

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[krisb]

Take a chance, go for it I say. Your not paying her money, your not married to her so go have some fun. Maybe it turns out great, if not oh well, try try again!

[rgs2001uk]

Is there a way to definitely knows her feeling? Some of you already gave me an answer, what about the others?

Do you want the farang answer or the Thai answer?

The farang answer, follow your heart.

The Thai answer, move along.

What is this girl bringing to the table, if she is lucky she could probably snare some upcountry Somchai earning 15k tops per month, or a Somchai who has moved south and is earning 25/30k per month.

No Thai guy from a decent family in Bkk will touch her.

who is running a beauty salon.

Do you know what that means to many Thais?

So I send 4000b,

Why in gawds name do you send anything?

she also... tatooed my name on her body..

Why would any "riap roy" girl tattoo anything on her body never mind someones name?

What do you think?

Ditch her now, ler some other sap pick up the tab.

[DekDaeng]

Income - wherever you like.

Assets - N.I.T.

Rent.

Recipe for a 'longer' relationship.

Who was that guy that got barbecued?

Read 'Private Dancer'