On line about 13 years ago.

I had just bought my first PC.

Went to a chat room for the first time ( I think it was a Yahoo chat room ).

This person asked me " would you like to chat with me?"

I replied " I don't know. who are you?"

"I am a woman from Thailand. I work in a bank"

"Thailand? Are you a Buddhist?" ( I had been doing a lot of reading about Buddhism at the time)

" Yes. I am Buddhist girl "

" Could you teach me about Buddhism please?"

" Yes, I can help you. Could you help me learn to speak better English?"

Six months later I flew to Thailand to meet her and her family.

A year later we were married .

We now have a six year old daughter.

For the skeptics:

We did not meet in a bar. She will not goin to a bar. She does not drink. She has turned down good paying jobs as a bartender in Thai restaurants in the U.S., because " Good Buddhist girls will not sell alcohol."

Does it really seem impossible that men can meet good women in Thailand who's company they do not need to pay for???

Yet many of us do find these girls.

My exwife reads like a TV fantasy story. Chinese/Thai with an MS in teaching English, Father is a high ranking government official. Met her at work where she was a teacher, now she runs her own tutoring center and pulls in over 100,000/month before expenses.

2nd was a 100% Chinese girl but born and raised in Thailand. with degrees in both English and Italian (fluent in both) a Master's in fashion design from Sweden, interned in London and spent her free time traveling Europe.

My gf now is finishing up her BA in tourism/hotel management and has decent English, is 100% Thai and not the milk white Chinese/Thai. I'm with her because she makes me happy, not because she has to help me win some internet pissing contest.

But every girl I decide to be with does have to be intelligent and have plans for their lives. I don't want someone who just wants to coast through life, I want a partner.

1st one over the internet. The rest in bars and restaurants.

Bars / clubs can be good places to meet many women, it - to me - all depends on which side of the bar they are working.

I could never imagine life with a woman I and others can bar-fine.

1st one over the internet. The rest in bars and restaurants.

Bars / clubs can be good places to meet many women, it - to me - all depends on which side of the bar they are working.

I could never imagine life with a woman I and others can bar-fine.

whats a BARFINE?

She attended a language course in my home town......she was 19 and I was 18.

My parents worried that such a relation might cause trouble in the future as our families will be spread around the globe. I didn´t care, told her how much I liked her and then it all happend very quick.

She told her dad that she won´t come back and I told my partens that I will leave home 2-3 years earlyier than planned. We got married and started to work and build our life.

Surprisingly her dad was full of support and even sent us some money to make our new home more comfortable, I still was only a student so our life was simple but great.

The first time I ever went to Thailand was 1 year after we married. I dind´t talk to my family for more than 4 years, after that time they made the first step towards us and today we´re fine again.

We´ve lived in Europe in a great relation when suddenly after many years the old warnings of my family camre true and my FIL got really sick. At first my wife said that she will be fine and life will go on.

But then after a while she decided that she HAD to go back and help the family as they began to struggle. Daddy used to have money but never had an insurance and his accident also happend while he was abroad, so help was needed. I felt guilty for what my wife and her dad had done for me and so I followed her to a land where I actually didn´t want to go and live. She said the same but she also felt that it is her "duty" to come back. This time my parents didn´t complain a lot when we left home and went here, they just said that they now have more reasons to go on holiday more often.

Please tell us more about your Herculean libido, matchless virility, and needless details about what appears to be your mental illness and your exploitation of Thai women.

Oh wait, you do that on almost every post you make. Carry on.

Will do, thanks!

1st one over the internet. The rest in bars and restaurants.

Bars / clubs can be good places to meet many women, it - to me - all depends on which side of the bar they are working.

I could never imagine life with a woman I and others can bar-fine.

whats a BARFINE?

Really?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bargirl#Bar_fine

In bed, in my hotel room, after a drunken night out.

"Hi, what's your name, and how did you get in bed, naked with me?"

She was clearly a white skinned, Chinese looking, educated, hi-so lady from a good family, so I asked her to stay.

Yes Amigo, but you forgot to mention those high ranked officer of army in her family :D

Sorry, no army, her relatives are all high ranking police officers.

Havnt read all the posts yet, wondering how many will be honest about where they met their woman!! Maby they are just going to substitute shop,bank,mall etc etc etc. for bar.

So far claims appear to be 50/50 hookers/hi-sos.

I'm thinking only 50% are lying.

At the Ford Theater in Washington. The guy next to me got shot, but I made it out the back door...

she was between Poi Pet Cambodia an the thai border and asked if she could get in the back seat of my car, Said sure,'still together after 5 years

You locked the doors?

Lived here over 10 years, nearly all the blokes I know met their partners in bars,some dont admit it, but,Its fact. Same as my first partner, then another whom I married. According to this topic so far, 19 didnt end up with a hooker, 3 did. Where are all the honest members?

she was between Poi Pet Cambodia an the thai border and asked if she could get in the back seat of my car, Said sure,'still together after 5 years

You locked the doors?

of course;

after she got in :-)

worked in the laundry near the hotel where i was staying

In bed, in my hotel room, after a drunken night out.

"Hi, what's your name, and how did you get in bed, naked with me?"

She was clearly a white skinned, Chinese looking, educated, hi-so lady from a good family, so I asked her to stay.

Yes Amigo, but you forgot to mention those high ranked officer of army in her family

Sorry, no army, her relatives are all high ranking police officers.

and she admits that???

worked in the laundry near the hotel where i was staying

hmm doesnt sound right... do you mean she

"worked" in the "laundry" near the "hotel" where you were "staying"?

because according to what I have read here there is only one occupation for all Thai women and its not in the "laundry industry"

Met on line. After talking for about a year we met in person. That was 7 years ago. She is only about 4 years younger than me with equivalent education, in fact she has a masters degree whereas I only have a BS. We share many of the same outlooks towards life. We were best friends first before deciding we wanted to grow old together. She may not be the prettiest, smartest, nor wealthiest, but it's total that is more important than the sum of the parts.

Mmmmmm, the sum of the parts is the total

For the Record ... I met MissFarmGirl at the Airport.

Well, maybe I am the only one with a (Fish) Farmers Daughter ...

when we see appropriate married mixed marriages couples in public then us non-believer will believe..................lol.

A challenge to you to define 'appropriate'.

For the Record ... I met MissFarmGirl at the Airport.

Well, maybe I am the only one with a (Fish) Farmers Daughter ...

Not at all, the Wife's family farm a mixture of rice & fish

On the internet via chat (ICQ), 15 years ago.

Met my (now) wife over 5yrs ago at a language school my friend was teaching at, she was studying evenings there and working full-time during the day. We instantly hit it off, still very happy with a beautiful child.

A bar in Sukumvit Soi 7...left of the yellow line.

Ah paradise lost, garden of Eden, complete with snake and all. . .

Lived here over 10 years, nearly all the blokes I know met their partners in bars,some dont admit it, but,Its fact. Same as my first partner, then another whom I married. According to this topic so far, 19 didnt end up with a hooker, 3 did.

As usual your POV is a reflection of your own attitudes and social circles you move in more so than the wider reality.

Where are all the honest members?

If you mean by that "where are all the guys that married a sex worker?" I think it's pretty obvious that fewer of them would speak up.

For myself, not being ashamed of such things, I'd say out of the total that have stayed with me for more than say a month, at this point the percentage that were explicit sex workers is probably down to 20% by now.

In my early years here it was much higher, but as time goes on the average will continue to get much lower, since I hardly ever even head out into the bar scene anymore.

Now if you count ALL ST sessions over fifteen years, then of course it goes up to 90+%, especially since I occasionally indulge in large crowd scenes, sometimes say 15+ sessions in a week, and that racks the numbers right up there.

First one: guesthouse

Second one: shopping mall

Third one: office

Why do certain members believe all tv members are with bg or former bg, is it beyond the realm of possibility in their minds that many here may not be.

On another note, just because they have a degree and a respectable job does not make them hi so either, my wife was an accountant, worked for two thai banks in the past and a security firm, her apartment was pretty ordinary.

Degree and good respectable work does not equal rich hi so, thank god as I would be so out of place with a hi so girl.

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Met my two Thai girlfriends same kind of places as most of my friends have met their Thai wives:

My 1st at a Chaweng disco in 2001; me being a vulnerable farang “first time” in Thailand with no girlfriend – had been here 14 years before with my Danish ex girlfriend and other family, so under completely different circumstances – got trapped by the “won’t let go disease”. Did not last, on-and-off relationship for almost two years; only really serious thing we had in common was my ATM card.

My 2nd in Hun Hin in 2003; called me for shelter in a bar when I was walking the street an evening in heavy rain without umbrella – that became a long lasting and non-regrettable shelter, as she is still my lovely girlfriend more than 10 years later.

I may fit into the small exclusive Thai Visa-category of those who met their girlfriends in the nightlife. Both girls the small golden brown, adorable Isaan ladies I like. However my 2nd attempt worked out extremely well and cannot compare to any of the horror stories – even we have 31 years in age difference – presume I’m a very lucky guy…!

so far so good, can't get any better than that!

Why do certain members believe all tv members are with bg or former bg, is it beyond the realm of possibility in their minds that many here may not be.

On another note, just because they have a degree and a respectable job does not make them hi so either, my wife was an accountant, worked for two thai banks in the past and a security firm, her apartment was pretty ordinary.

Degree and good respectable work does not equal rich hi so, thank god as I would be so out of place with a hi so girl.

Seems so totally bizarre to me to focus on the classist trivia rather than qualities like kindness, compassion, tolerance, patience - not to mention beauty and enthusiastic eagerness to please.

WHO CARES about going along with the Thai ideas of status and hierarchy, I just don't get it? Or do some posters here actually go along with those kind of ideas in their own value system?

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