Thinking of moving back to Thailand for good? Could use some opinions.

[Skeetjones]

Start off my mom is moving back to Thailand for good this year, which leaves me in the state with no family members. My mom and I are very close at this point in our lives too.

I'm in a relationship I'm scared to end and feel it will not go anywhere. It's pretty abusive (being honest), I am physically abusive while she is mentally/manipulative abusive.

Last couple weeks I have been feeling homesick for Thailand, me and my mom have discussed the times we have had and fun it was. Also if I could go back to college (in Thailand) I would do everything different. Be more outgoing, friendly, not think I am better than everyone, ECT.

I'm at a dead end job, (yet does pay my bills and I get by ok) here that I've been at for 2+ years and approaching 30 years old soon I am feeling very overwhelmed that I am failing at life. Going through spells of depression, anger & guilt. My mom is constantly worrying about me when I at the age she shouldn't have to. I'm not a drug addict, or have a criminal record yet feel like there are people who have those problems yet at working better jobs, or have more things.

Anyways. Thailand I feel, free (poor, but free), memory's of fun times and stress free living with my family. So that is weighing in on me right now.

What do you guys think? Though it out in America with my chin up, keep working and hope for the best.

Or be with family, maybe go back to school in BKK (embarrassed to go back at 30 though), live life in the homeland?

Not sure...

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[MJP]

Where ever you go, there you are.

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[thepool]

Sort out your problems before coming here.

" I am physically abusive" I admire the admission but the issue needs addressing.

Thailand is not the place in which to resolve the problem ------------unless ----------------------

[Skint]

Ditch the girl and go to Thailand

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[wooloomooloo]

I'm in a relationship I'm scared to end and feel it will not go anywhere. It's pretty abusive (being honest), I am physically abusive while she is mentally/manipulative abusive.

You're a match made in heaven.

[Thongkorn]

Maybe your the problem , not where you live, you will just take your baggage with you.

[cooked]

Whatever problems you have in the states you will have here.

College at 30? The women will be all over you.

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[wooloomooloo]

College at 30? The women will be all over you.

And still no regular income. Why would anyone of average intelligence still be in college at the age of thirty.

At what age are you planning to secure regular employment?

[MrWorldwide]

OP, I must have missed the part about how you plan to support yourself in Thailand ? Sponging off your mother at 30 - regardless of which country we are talking - just isnt cool IMO.

[impulse]

Whatever problems you have in the States, multiply them by about 5.

Unlike the States, where there are incremental punishments for incrementally serious misbehavior, you'll find you can behave as badly as you want, right up until you cross an invisible (and ever changing) line and get taken out back and beaten to death, pushed off a balcony, poisoned or arrested with drugs you didn't even know you had.

You'll feel like you're getting away with murder over here, right until the time it gets you killed. Or you may learn the unwritten rules in time and simply live a pauper's existence until you either die or go back home penniless.

The only way most expats finds happiness here in Thailand is to bring it with them, along with a big sweaty batch of the money they made back in the Nanny state.

Get your act together, get your finances in order, then come to Thailand if you still have the itch. And don't even think about getting a degree in Thailand unless it's just for chasing women (or if you want to exist on a Thai salary). Smart Thais send their kids abroad for their degree if they can afford it.

[MJP]

Whatever problems you have in the States, multiply them by about 5.

Unlike the States, where there are incremental punishments for incrementally serious misbehavior, you'll find you can behave as badly as you want, right up until you cross an invisible (and ever changing) line and get taken out back and beaten to death, pushed off a balcony, poisoned or arrested with drugs you didn't even know you had.

You'll feel like you're getting away with murder over here, right until the time it gets you killed. Or you may learn the unwritten rules in time and simply live a pauper's existence until you either die or go back home penniless.

The only way most expats finds happiness here in Thailand is to bring it with them, along with a big sweaty batch of the money they made back in the Nanny state.

Get your act together, get your finances in order, then come to Thailand if you still have the itch. And don't even think about getting a degree in Thailand unless it's just for chasing women (or if you want to exist on a Thai salary). Smart Thais send their kids abroad for their degree if they can afford it.

Wise and correct advice.

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[geronimo]

I was indeed a wild one (as my tv name suggests) and did things like travelling to the other side of the world on a one way ticket, then deliberately spent ALL my money and then took it from there. My advice is to go for it. Too many people will not leave their comfort zone and subsequently miss out on a whole different life.

Sounds like Thailand would be a good place for you and get into Buddhism, it'll take away all that anger. Good luck whatever you decide.

[krisb]

College at 30? The women will be all over you.

And still no regular income. Why would anyone of average intelligence still be in college at the age of thirty.

At what age are you planning to secure regular employment?

Plenty return to study a little later in life. Friend of mine won apprentice of the year at age 38. All about wanting a change of career and a new start.

Op, stop abusing your gf tough guy. Hope her brother sorts you out.

[Soutpeel]

College at 30? The women will be all over you.

And still no regular income. Why would anyone of average intelligence still be in college at the age of thirty.

At what age are you planning to secure regular employment?

Where in the OP did he say he didnt have regular employment or regular income ?.....he said "a dead end job, but it pays the bills"

and what exactly is wrong with still being in college at 30 ?.....

I have multiple friends who worked in their 20's went back to school close to their 30's and one even ended up with a Phd, being prepared to go back to school later in life actually shows someone has a some drive in them and intelligence

[Skeetjones]

I'm by no means am living wild.

I've lived in Thailand for 3 years so I need no paragraphs about the 'rules' and life style.

I'm in a bad relationship and I admit that.

My mom is leaving and I will be alone in the state no moral or any type of support if / will the relationship goes sour. That worries me.

It's been on my mind, just asking for some opinions. I don't need to hear how someone will beat me to death or I'm headed for jail.

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[Skeetjones]

College at 30? The women will be all over you.

And still no regular income. Why would anyone of average intelligence still be in college at the age of thirty.

At what age are you planning to secure regular employment?

Plenty return to study a little later in life. Friend of mine won apprentice of the year at age 38. All about wanting a change of career and a new start.

Op, stop abusing your gf tough guy. Hope her brother sorts you out.

Nothing tough about me. But I don't let any talk down to me and mentally mess with my head for 5 years, because I'm not ready for kids or marriage when I'm doing my best to make things work.

Yea yea yea... Get out the relationship... I wish it was that easy

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[farang000999]

you are physically abusive?

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[Langsuan Man]

I'm by no means am living wild.

I've lived in Thailand for 3 years so I need no paragraphs about the 'rules' and life style.

I'm in a bad relationship and I admit that.

My mom is leaving and I will be alone in the state no moral or any type of support if / will the relationship goes sour. That worries me.

It's been on my mind, just asking for some opinions. I don't need to hear how someone will beat me to death or I'm headed for jail.

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If you don't like what you are going to hear from a bunch of oldsters who have been there and done that, don't ask questions in an open forum like Thai Visa. When you ask for advice you can't control what advice you are going to get, good and bad, relevant or not

[CharlieH]

The grass is always greener etc ....you can run away from many things but not yourself.

You seem to have alot of issues and over dependency emotionally on your mother, especially given your age.

You need help sorting out those issues before you decide about moving anywhere.

Get your ducks in a row, and things sorted before you even think about a major move across the world, it sounds to me all you are doing right now is looking for a way out, an escape, that wont work, face it, sort it !

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[geriatrickid]

OP, I must have missed the part about how you plan to support yourself in Thailand ? Sponging off your mother at 30 - regardless of which country we are talking - just isnt cool IMO.

As I read the OP, I kept thinking of that fellow Norman Bates and his motel. I think it was Alfred Hitchcock who made that movie.

[geriatrickid]

College at 30? The women will be all over you.

And still no regular income. Why would anyone of average intelligence still be in college at the age of thirty.

At what age are you planning to secure regular employment?

Plenty return to study a little later in life. Friend of mine won apprentice of the year at age 38. All about wanting a change of career and a new start.

Op, stop abusing your gf tough guy. Hope her brother sorts you out.

Nothing tough about me. But I don't let any talk down to me and mentally mess with my head for 5 years, because I'm not ready for kids or marriage when I'm doing my best to make things work.

Yea yea yea... Get out the relationship... I wish it was that easy

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Grow up, and be a man. You are 30 years old. Look up the definition of the word independent. Stop trying to hang off your mother's teat.

[geriatrickid]

Whatever problems you have in the states you will have here.

College at 30? The women will be all over you.

No they won't. The typical female undergrad will be 18-21. She will have nothing in common with a 30 year old farang freshman living off his mum. If he was a dashing doctoral or post doc fellow and was financially independent, then yes, there might be interest. Desirable Thai university girls can have their pick of a large pool of handsome, financially secure Thai university students.

[Skeetjones]

I'm by no means am living wild.

I've lived in Thailand for 3 years so I need no paragraphs about the 'rules' and life style.

I'm in a bad relationship and I admit that.

My mom is leaving and I will be alone in the state no moral or any type of support if / will the relationship goes sour. That worries me.

It's been on my mind, just asking for some opinions. I don't need to hear how someone will beat me to death or I'm headed for jail.

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If you don't like what you are going to hear from a bunch of oldsters who have been there and done that, don't ask questions in an open forum like Thai Visa. When you ask for advice you can't control what advice you are going to get, good and bad, relevant or not

Thank you professor obvious

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[Skeetjones]

Whatever problems you have in the states you will have here.

College at 30? The women will be all over you.

No they won't. The typical female undergrad will be 18-21. She will have nothing in common with a 30 year old farang freshman living off his mum. If he was a dashing doctoral or post doc fellow and was financially independent, then yes, there might be interest. Desirable Thai university girls can have their pick of a large pool of handsome, financially secure Thai university students.

Lol who said I'm looking for a woman in Thailand? I've been there done that. If I did go, I'm doing my own thing. Been on lock down long enough. I've got 21 year olds trying to give me the cat here in America I don't think I'll have a problem in Thailand. Thanks

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[Chonburiram]

deleted geriatrickid was faster...

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[benalibina]

Whatever problems you have in the states you will have here.

College at 30? The women will be all over you.

No they won't. The typical female undergrad will be 18-21. She will have nothing in common with a 30 year old farang freshman living off his mum. If he was a dashing doctoral or post doc fellow and was financially independent, then yes, there might be interest. Desirable Thai university girls can have their pick of a large pool of handsome, financially secure Thai university students.

Lol who said I'm looking for a woman in Thailand? I've been there done that. If I did go, I'm doing my own thing. Been on lock down long enough. I've got 21 year olds trying to give me the cat here in America I don't think I'll have a problem in Thailand. Thanks

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By reading ur op.....u must be at least halve thai or are you 100% thai ?

[Skeetjones]

Whatever problems you have in the states you will have here.

College at 30? The women will be all over you.

No they won't. The typical female undergrad will be 18-21. She will have nothing in common with a 30 year old farang freshman living off his mum. If he was a dashing doctoral or post doc fellow and was financially independent, then yes, there might be interest. Desirable Thai university girls can have their pick of a large pool of handsome, financially secure Thai university students.

Lol who said I'm looking for a woman in Thailand? I've been there done that. If I did go, I'm doing my own thing. Been on lock down long enough. I've got 21 year olds trying to give me the cat here in America I don't think I'll have a problem in Thailand. Thanks

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By reading ur op.....u must be at least halve thai or are you 100% thai ?

Half Thai. Half American.

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[Lancelot]

I do believe the OP is trolling; however, what surprises me even more is that the TV community seems to relish supporting them

But I suppose it is a natural out come of narcissistic, self absorbed life styles and posting photos of one's latest iced coffee on Facebook.

Reality TV nonsense is doing well so why not Reality Trolling

[Skeetjones]

I do believe the OP is trolling; however, what surprises me even more is that the TV community seems to relish supporting them

But I suppose it is a natural out come of narcissistic, self absorbed life styles and posting photos of one's latest iced coffee on Facebook.

Reality TV nonsense is doing well so why not Reality Trolling

How the hell I am trolling? I have two options I asked people.

Stay in America. Go to Thailand.

And we get people saying, I'll be thrown off buildings, I'm milking moms money, too dependent on mom, I won't find a girl at 30 (lol how? Some TV users find 20 year olds at 60+)

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[robblok]

I do believe the OP is trolling; however, what surprises me even more is that the TV community seems to relish supporting them

But I suppose it is a natural out come of narcissistic, self absorbed life styles and posting photos of one's latest iced coffee on Facebook.

Reality TV nonsense is doing well so why not Reality Trolling

How the hell I am trolling? I have two options I asked people.

Stay in America. Go to Thailand.

And we get people saying, I'll be thrown off buildings, I'm milking moms money, too dependent on mom, I won't find a girl at 30 (lol how? Some TV users find 20 year olds at 60+)

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They got money.