Sinsot refund...Its time all farang say no to this outdated peasant dowry system

[ATF]

I am quite amused that the OP thinks his wife and her family are peasants

Wasn't the OP th bloke who was having problems renting a house the other week?

He seems to have lot's of stories, which don't really add up.

I like the one where he is suggesting that he is High Class, but he travels on a bus to Pattaya.

Maybe his 150ft yacht we getting de-barnacled and his Porsche was in for an oil change.

[mrtoad]

I am quite amused that the OP thinks his wife and her family are peasants

Wasn't the OP th bloke who was having problems renting a house the other week?

He seems to have lot's of stories, which don't really add up.

I like the one where he is suggesting that he is High Class, but he travels on a bus to Pattaya.

Maybe his 150ft yacht we getting de-barnacled and his Porsche was in for an oil change.

[Valentine]

Each to their own.

I married my wife outside of Thailand so that confused them.

I did too with my now ex wife but we had to register our marriage at the Amphur otherwise the marriage would not be recognized here. BTW why should we say no to sinsot? It is part of the culture & as we live here should respect that culture. Several years ago one of the country cousins received 100,000 from her prospective husband plus some gold & these people come from the lower end of the socio economic scale. I imagine it is still widely practiced.

[Beetlejuice]

Did anyone care to look at the topic history of this troll English teacher ?

http://www.thaivisa.com/forum/topic/741547-how-does-one-take-a-private-car-from-nca-pats-to-bangsaen/

We will arrive at NCA pats and wanted to know how to get to Bangsaen. We are too high class to go on public transport.

My Thai wife has Hi-So Japanese ancestry and spits on those with Hi-So Chinese ancestry. It`s embarrassing I know, but she will do it, can`t take her anywhere. Also, Dr is a strange first name for a lady? How do you pronounce that?

As for the sin-sot farce, if my wife`s family would have asked me for any amounts of money for the hand of their daughter, even on the premise that it will be refunded, than my beloved would have been history long before I had signed my life away on that better or for worse piece of paper, mostly worse, known as a marriage certificate.

Those who decide to go along with the sin-sot farce, do so at their own discretion and I can suppose it all depends on how desperate is the groom, or should I say; groomed.

[David48]

Before I even opened this post I checked out 'jack71'

41 posts ... 22 OP's.

Interesting ...

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[Payboy]

My ex had a Dr before her name too. Dr Acula, bloodsucker she was.

[mickyboy]

whats that all about if they asked me for money tell them where to go its about love and care thats counts oh and theother thing lol not how much she cost

[Suradit69]

I believe that I have to teach the in-laws that I can say no to them and that I’m not an idiot ...

Once again this crippling farang cultural handicap with regard to fear of loss of face arises. Usually at this point someone is supposed to say "it's the principle, not the money."

I wonder why the family assumed their daughter must have married for financial gain.

[Wat dee]

hey agreed to this and then asked if the sinsot could be 1million. My wife has Dr in front of her first name and wears a cute little hospital coat.

Exactly. So she's obviously not a medical doctor.

Any maids outfits?

[harrycallahan]

Peasant dowry system, heheheheheheheheh, sorry for laughing but i think you are very funny sir

sir

IS dr meaning Dowry return

I was with my friend Bob up north and within the space of week he met, fell in love, and proposed to a bar girl - crazy I thought, she just wants his money.

Luckily he was saved after a kind bilingual friend overheard a conversation between the bargirl's father and her brother. Apparently the son asked father if she really loved her new farang and the father replied "Love! Don't be stupid! We just want the Robert dowry junior".

[Thongkorn]

I thought they had to be a Virgin for them to ask for a sinsnot.

[wandasloan]

This white man's burden: Is it heavy?

[shaurene]

Hi Jack

The Sinsod thing is customary even Thais pay it to her parents the amount depends on a few things, age, virgin, previous married and children.

I did not believe in it but did a deal to give the mother 400k on the condition I got it back the next day on my wife's promise, the parents feel good and high up in the village when they can show their friends at the wedding the money. It worked out good for me as my part was to look after the family.

You and I where lucky Frank there are many others did the same deal and never got a Baht back. The way my marriage turned out if I had never got it back it would have been a good investment cos my wife is a Jem 100%.

[Sam Gold]

Nothing to do with peasantry - the tradition exists at all levels of Thai society.

Most guys get it refunded too (and forward a lot less than 500k), you're nothing new and not smarter than anyone.

[UKCanuk]

I paid when the wife and I were married, although it was a relatively modest amount. Now, years later, our two sons are looking at getting married and are sniffing around for the sinsot. The wife has very firmly told both of them (and the rest of the family) that I worked hard to pay my own sin sot and they will have to do the same. The only concession she has offered is a 50K top up if they are short.

[neverdie]

Crunchy.

[whiteman]

My wife tells me that when she reads the thai forums eg just like this one here but for thais.

The young thais under 30 are now saying no to the sinsot they say it is out dated. Do not shoot the messenger here I am only quoteing what the boss told me goes on on there own Thai sites.

And no I did not pay one either but she got a new house which I was happy to do after being with her for over 10 years. We are still together and will remain so till I die all being well. I have a 30 year lease on her one rai land that the house sits on just incase she goes b4 me.

[northernjohn]

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Did anyone care to look at the topic history of this troll English teacher ?

http://www.thaivisa.com/forum/topic/741547-how-does-one-take-a-private-car-from-nca-pats-to-bangsaen/

We will arrive at NCA pats and wanted to know how to get to Bangsaen. We are too high class to go on public transport.

That along with his vast world travel experience and respect for different cultures. Well I needed a good laugh. I did not pay one because my wife had been married before. I did how ever respect her culture and see to it that her family obligations are met. Her mother never goes with out and her two children have got advanced education at my expense. The daughter wears a uniform and wears a coat also. She works in a hospital. The son is an electronics engineer. Not to forget the special schooling for her mentally challenged nephew.

It seems some people loose the respect for the culture when it comes to money.

Peasant dowry system, heheheheheheheheh, sorry for laughing but i think you are very funny sir

sir

IS dr meaning Dowry return

My first thought when I saw the topic was don't marry a peasant.

[brucegoniners]

In general I don't like the practice, but it's part of the Thai culture.

In my case, my wife's parents are poor and the dowry was only 100K. I was glad to pay it, since it helps improve their lives. I've done other small things for my in laws and I'm glad to do them.

I think it all depends on whether the family has money or not. If they don't, then a small amount of money isn't a big deal.

[belg]

2014, cultural this, cultural that... inter racial/national marriage so while only go with one ? just ditch the whole thing...

or say like this : you will pay yearly, after every succesfull year, your wife stays faithfull & married to you, you can offer them 30.000 baht per year... so in 33 years, they will get one million plus interests...good deal ?

[Thomas Hannah]

Why marry ,,This is also an out dated custom...Some people are even stupid ,,to be married more than once,,Go on ,say it,,,Give me the one example,,out of hundreds of thousands that have worked,,And of course,,yours is going to be the one that works,,Your wife is DR,,and you are so lucky that she chose you,,out of all the other thousands,,There is no love today,,Only money,,You talk like you are the clever one ,,and got your dowry back,,You are not clever,,You got married,,Would be interesting to know how old you are,,and how old your wife,,

[northernjohn]

Each to their own.

I married my wife outside of Thailand so that confused them.

I did too with my now ex wife but we had to register our marriage at the Amphur otherwise the marriage would not be recognized here. BTW why should we say no to sinsot? It is part of the culture & as we live here should respect that culture. Several years ago one of the country cousins received 100,000 from her prospective husband plus some gold & these people come from the lower end of the socio economic scale. I imagine it is still widely practiced.

There are a lot of posters who are Thai bashers. No respect for the customs. Want every thing like back home where they come from.

[rwdrwdrwd]

OP - Pretty sure the families of the Thai couple near me that had a 30 million sinsod would take quite some exception to your 'peasant' comment. Have some respect for other cultures, especially if you're the one moving into said culture.

[krisb]

Each to their own.

I married my wife outside of Thailand so that confused them.

I did too with my now ex wife but we had to register our marriage at the Amphur otherwise the marriage would not be recognized here. BTW why should we say no to sinsot? It is part of the culture & as we live here should respect that culture. Several years ago one of the country cousins received 100,000 from her prospective husband plus some gold & these people come from the lower end of the socio economic scale. I imagine it is still widely practiced.

There are a lot of posters who are Thai bashers. No respect for the customs. Want every thing like back home where they come from.

Are you calling me a Thai basher?

You don't even know me or my wife or my family you rude pos.

Let me tell you something, back home where I come from, the brides family pay for the wedding, which they didn't.

Sounds like you got sucked in to paying for a custom, that likely you don't fully understand anyway.

[1FinickyOne]

Would some of the posters have a problem if the custom were to give money to the groom? Or would they find that a good custom?

That said, I don't know anywhere that going back on your word is an honorable thing.

[Thakkar]

hey agreed to this and then asked if the sinsot could be 1million. My wife has Dr in front of her first name and wears a cute little hospital coat.

Exactly. So she's obviously not a medical doctor.

The last time I saw someone in a "cute little hospital coat" was in a porn flick. That medical examination was unbelievably thorough. I believe her name was Dr Double D.

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[Neilcnx]

Good thing you fell in love in Thailand. Suppose it was Israel and her family wanted you to be circumcised. Try getting that back.

[kinmaew]

I would stress that I am happy to take care of your daughter mr sinsot asker, and that is it, I will never pay you or your family any money and if there is a problem with that then this is not going to work.

[MPH0227]

I marry my thai wife in Thailand and didn't pay a bath. My answer to this was that they (her family) should pay me for taking care of their daughter. And that's it! Her mohter didn't say hello to me for 3 years but I could live with that. Now I'm even more happy after my divorce!

[BookMan]

Each to their own.

I married my wife outside of Thailand so that confused them.

I did too with my now ex wife but we had to register our marriage at the Amphur otherwise the marriage would not be recognized here. BTW why should we say no to sinsot? It is part of the culture & as we live here should respect that culture. Several years ago one of the country cousins received 100,000 from her prospective husband plus some gold & these people come from the lower end of the socio economic scale. I imagine it is still widely practiced.

There are a lot of posters who are Thai bashers. No respect for the customs. Want every thing like back home where they come from.

Are you calling me a Thai basher?

You don't even know me or my wife or my family you rude pos.

Let me tell you something, back home where I come from, the brides family pay for the wedding, which they didn't.

Sounds like you got sucked in to paying for a custom, that likely you don't fully understand anyway.

Valentine and Northernjohn go on about respecting Thai customs, but what respecting the husband's customs?

If you are not living in Thailand why would you blindly follow this Thai custom? Indeed, as a non-Thai, why would you blindly follow it?