Sinsot refund...Its time all farang say no to this outdated peasant dowry system

[TechnikaIII]

You could use "Monopoly" money. The value being commensurate with many Thai university degrees.

[innocent donkey]

Its time all farang eff off out of the country

[krisb]

Its time all farang eff off out of the country

Lovely comment there donkey.

[mrtoad]

Its time all farang eff off out of the country

Stop being an Ass

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[krisb]

I love how northern john calls all of us who didn't pay sin sot, Thai bashers!

Congrats northern john, I'm adding YOUR troll post to my book of worlds best forum troll posts.

[joshstiles]

Hey Jack

Don't think about it too much.....

the only thing missing from your story is what your wife's parent had given you in exchange for the dowry....thai tradition is that the groom also receives an inheritance (typically land or livestock...but could be anything of equal value).

So what did they promise you? Probably nothing....this is how the thai's dupe the foreigners. If you were a thai man....you would surely be mentioning this and negotiating your inheritance as well.

Hope you got your money back.

[Soutpeel]

thai tradition is that the groom also receives an inheritance (typically land or livestock...but could be anything of equal value).

But what is the OP going to do with a herd of water buffaloes living in a "studio" condo in Soi Nana, cant keep them on his balcony can he ?

[joecoolfrog]

If I were inclined to get married again , could afford a certain sum , had potential inlaws who were not well off and thought it would please my future wife....Why would I not want to pay Sinsod ?

[Yarinda]

I married my wife without any sinsot, just registered our marriage at Amphur. She was also refused to have a wedding, saying that it all bullshit human create, she just want a simply couple life. We been together for 3 years so far, having one little son. Life could not get any better.

[Jangot]

I don't think it is time for all farang to stop paying sinsot.

I think it is time for all farang to make their own decisions based on their own circumstances and opinion/belief.

Not listen to a bunch of stangers on an internet site.

[rotary]

Just say NO period as some others have said.

[jack71]

I am quite amused that the OP thinks his wife and her family are peasants

Wasn't the OP th bloke who was having problems renting a house the other week?

He seems to have lot's of stories, which don't really add up.

I like the one where he is suggesting that he is High Class, but he travels on a bus to Pattaya.

to be envious is to be the lesser man

[mrtoad]

I am quite amused that the OP thinks his wife and her family are peasants

Wasn't the OP th bloke who was having problems renting a house the other week?

He seems to have lot's of stories, which don't really add up.

I like the one where he is suggesting that he is High Class, but he travels on a bus to Pattaya.

to be envious is to be the lesser man

I am so envious of the fact that you travel on NCA?

Or that you have a make believe wife?

Where you stay?

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[OmarZaidMD]

You've made a fatal error. Would've been better to ask for return of half of the dowry. What you did is show them you have little respect for their customs and zilch for them as parents who spent half a lifetime preparing the woman you chose as wife. Doesn't say much for you either, but, hey, that's the western minset set in proverbial rebellion and water tight self-righteousness. Good luck. You're gonna need it later, especually in a coutry you just insulted.

[superdome]

To be honest I paid sin sot....only to find out later you don't pay it for wifes 2nd marriage..go on tell me I am stupid...was only wise after the event...stupid me.

[Bender]

i might be wrong, but recently i read another threads where guy claiming also they were also married to thai doctors?

Is this new a trend?

Whats wrong with marrying a gold digger, junky, farmer,.... why these people choose to get married with educated and clean girl?

[mrtoad]

thai tradition is that the groom also receives an inheritance (typically land or livestock...but could be anything of equal value).

But what is the OP going to do with a herd of water buffaloes living in a "studio" condo in Soi Nana, cant keep them on his balcony can he ?

Even worse if he is a visa runner

[LOWH]

From my opinion, a 20-something Thai woman with BA degree from top university, also a very rebellion one;

Wedding is a circus, where bride and groom are the freaks, and people pay to see them. By the way, the sin sod is only make sense if the bride will inherit their family's legacy in the future e.g. houses, lands, money, jewellery etc. Because those things will belong to the groom as well.

In my parents case, my father family is Chinese, he only bought mum a diamond ring since he's poor. And my grandma was a business woman, she understood his situation. So, she gave a land and builded mum a house (700,000 thb, 30 years ago.) And opened saving account for 100,000 thb when I was born. She also let mum has all her jewellery, some lands, money when she died which only mum and me can get our hands on.

My dad is still poor today, he's not a successful man. So, when my grandma died. He got nothing. And this will be the case here, at least in my family, if a man doesn't pay Sid-Sod.

No Sid-sod is ok and acceptable. But please be ok and accept it when you get nothing from the family legacy.

[Beetlejuice]

Good thing you fell in love in Thailand. Suppose it was Israel and her family wanted you to be circumcised. Try getting that back.

It is possible, but one of my Israeli friends claims it`s a stitch up.

[davidmann]

no free dinner

[wvavin]

"My wife has Dr in front of her first name and wears a cute little hospital coat." ---- This is the first time in my life to come across a doctor not being addressed as a doctor but "....has Dr in front of her name....." I am curious as to what is she???

[FritsSikkink]

Got married in an ampeuh 650 km from the family and didn't pay sin sot.

[sdanielmcev]

I gotta wonder what the op would've done if they refused the refund.

According to my gf, if the family is rich, you the money back. If not, then no dice. It's not much different from these lavish weddings I see nowadays. Each trying to outdo the other.

I like most Thai traditions, so I'd have no problem paying up. But both her parents are dead.

[bkkgooner]

Just say no it really is as simple as that. Do it in a clear, calm and polite manner. If your wife insists then walk out the door.

[Johpa]

It is my opinion that all farang intending to get married should say no to this outdated peasant dowry system. What do you think about this?

Jack

I think that (1) maybe Thailand is not for you and the others who get their panties tied up in a knot over sinsod and (2) there is somthing missing after Jack.

[Jaggg88]

My understanding for sin sots is they are only paid to the parents if your wife is a virgin. So that rules out just about everybody When the subject was mentioned by my future wife I simply pointed that under Thai culture sin sots are not generally paid if the lady has been married before or has children and as she was divorced that was the last ever mention of it - but as the Thai saying goes 'visiting farangs leave their brains at the airport'.

[Thorgal]

"My wife has Dr in front of her first name and wears a cute little hospital coat." ---- This is the first time in my life to come across a doctor not being addressed as a doctor but "....has Dr in front of her name....." I am curious as to what is she???

Psychogeriatic physician with an MBA

Most bargirls do the same but without license...

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[northernjohn]

Each to their own.

I married my wife outside of Thailand so that confused them.

I did too with my now ex wife but we had to register our marriage at the Amphur otherwise the marriage would not be recognized here. BTW why should we say no to sinsot? It is part of the culture & as we live here should respect that culture. Several years ago one of the country cousins received 100,000 from her prospective husband plus some gold & these people come from the lower end of the socio economic scale. I imagine it is still widely practiced.

There are a lot of posters who are Thai bashers. No respect for the customs. Want every thing like back home where they come from.

Are you calling me a Thai basher?

You don't even know me or my wife or my family you rude pos.

Let me tell you something, back home where I come from, the brides family pay for the wedding, which they didn't.

Sounds like you got sucked in to paying for a custom, that likely you don't fully understand anyway.

Strange I mentioned no names yet you take it personal. I wonder why?

There is a big difference between understanding and respect. You obviously do not know the difference.

[Grindting]

"My wife has Dr in front of her first name and wears a cute little hospital coat." ---- This is the first time in my life to come across a doctor not being addressed as a doctor but "....has Dr in front of her name....." I am curious as to what is she???

Maybe she's a palaeontologist (the study of old fossils propping up the bar in soi coyboy?)

[Grindting]

Seems like everything in Thailand other than the simplest task like ordering a beer is such a pain in the rear-end. So very glad to be divorced..

Seems the best kind of Thai family to marry into is one where every single potential relative is dead.