David48 Posted August 15, 2014 Share Posted August 15, 2014 . I asked my Thai Partner, in an email (we are in different countries ATM) ... To share her dreams and aspirations with me. What were the big things she wanted to achieve, for herself, for her (Thai) Family, with me. Sure ... I would have liked to have done it in person ... but it's a way of staying connected, despite the distance. I would hate to be in a dead-end relationship, going no-where with no plans or aspirations. Two songs came to mind when I was thinking about this ... At the age of 37 She realized she'd never ride Through Paris in a sports car With the warm wind in her hair and ... Every year is getting shorter never seem to find the time. Plans that either come to naught or half a page of scribbled lines Hanging on in quiet desperation is the English way I believe that the relationship becomes stronger if you grow together ... support each others hopes and dreams ... but maybe that's just me. Hopes and Dreams ... Do you ever talk to your Thai Partner about them? Does she tell you hers? BTW - TGIF . 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
villagefarang Posted August 15, 2014 Share Posted August 15, 2014 Sure, but then we have been together for 17 years and have had plenty of time to talk about such things. Don't feel inclined to go into detail here, however. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theguyfromanotherforum Posted August 15, 2014 Share Posted August 15, 2014 So what did she say? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bulldozer Dawn Posted August 15, 2014 Share Posted August 15, 2014 The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation- Henry David Thoreau 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeaVisionBurma Posted August 15, 2014 Share Posted August 15, 2014 Moving this topic to Pub, you can share your hopes and dreams there Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post pgrahmm Posted August 15, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted August 15, 2014 Thais live better "in the moment" than just about anyone I've ever seen....they view things in a transitionary way with no real "ownership" of life - just kind off bumping along - taking and/or accepting the good/bad of life.....they might ask for much somewhere along the way but don't really "expect" it......much better with their lot in life than most of their western counterparts = witness the amount of drugs for anxiety dispensed in the euro/western cultures - in Russia it's vodka I guess.... To apply our western mores or expect them to comprehend them to our understanding can be folly....... I think you need to be here 100% to help her "build" a dream together - then you might help each other to see what is really important to/for the two of you as you build your future together...... 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mania Posted August 15, 2014 Share Posted August 15, 2014 (edited) pgrahmm has it right IMO Your situation is different than asking someone in another country like Thailand that question. Of course the wife & I discuss such things here & back when we first moved to Thailand I was actually curious about the same question. But.... I use to like to ask my Thai friends teenage kids not adults as the kids lives were in front of them & still wide open. Some had good answers that they had put lots of thought into but, of course many, same as in any country had no idea of "what they wanted to be when they grew up" But like pgrahmm said Thai adults live more in the here & now than westerners They are not really afforded the luxury of contemplating the future as they struggle with the day. I was drinking coffee here at a roadside stand & a small truck loaded with mattresses drove by yelling in Thai at the Thai lady who ran the coffee stand...asking if she wanted to buy one. Lady yelled back..."I have to work, have no time to sleep" You never said what your "Thai Partners" answer was but I can guess it might have been just that you could live together. Hard to grow together as you say when you live apart. Edited August 15, 2014 by mania 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeijoshinCool Posted August 15, 2014 Share Posted August 15, 2014 Country cottage with fresh air and deep well. Garden and small orchard. Chickens, ducks and piglets. And, no, it does not matter here, or there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gringo99 Posted August 15, 2014 Share Posted August 15, 2014 U talk abt Thai lady . I can make short. Take care me take care my family .and ur last Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In Search of Space Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uQtfwiUG4UM happy music day Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Costas2008 Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 David, When I was young and started a family, as you have now, we had our dreams and aspirations with my ex-wife. We went through life, and some of those came through, some didn't. But we both, gave everything for our children, so to grow up and be proud of them. At this moment, being an old fart, our dreams and aspirations with my new wife are based more on the subject of which holiday we will go next, or more basic, what foods are we going to have this week. You see, life changes and priorities change. My advice to you, make time shorter being in Australia and be with your wife and your adorable twins . Don't let time go, life is short, be near your family and enjoy life with them. Emails, will never replace the personal touch. You are a nice person and you have a beautiful family. Enjoy life with them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrtoad Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 U talk abt Thai lady . I can make short. Take care me take care my family .and ur last Wow, great insights. Maybe you should write a book 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benalibina Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 U talk abt Thai lady . I can make short. Take care me take care my family .and ur last Wow, great insights. Maybe you should write a book Go fund me ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrtoad Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 U talk abt Thai lady . I can make short. Take care me take care my family .and ur lastWow, great insights. Maybe you should write a book Go fund me ? i have given 37k to that Dutch bloke that married the old bird Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benalibina Posted August 17, 2014 Share Posted August 17, 2014 U talk abt Thai lady . I can make short. Take care me take care my family .and ur lastWow, great insights. Maybe you should write a bookGo fund me ? i have given 37k to that Dutch bloke that married the old bird It seems that you are a good man. You can do double dutch ! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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