Hmmm

if you keep getting the same results from meeting people in varied social situations ... maybe it isn't the other people that are the issue.

some people just are not capable of long relationships ... and other people are not capable of maintaining the interest of "good people" ...

there is one single common denominator that a person has with all the relationships they have had in the past ... and that is ... themselves"

Hmmm

if you keep getting the same results from meeting people in varied social situations ... maybe it isn't the other people that are the issue.

some people just are not capable of long relationships ... and other people are not capable of maintaining the interest of "good people" ...

there is one single common denominator that a person has with all the relationships they have had in the past ... and that is ... themselves"

Yes, wherever you go, there you are. And also, different people bring out different parts of our selves, and different dynamics are set up. For instance I used to regularly argue with Sarah, but never with almost all other girlfriends. And one woman may feel at ease and protected with a certain type of guy who has secure finances, yet nervous and jittery with a guy who isn't in a position to totally financially support them. The chemistry between people, the "us", is unique to each couple, even as each brings similar things to new relationships. And most of us manage to be altered by our lives. Three years ago I was content with casual monogamy, the next wo years I experimented and enjoyed love relationships with 2 or 3 girfriends at the same time, then the next had a serious devoted monogamous one. I'm a very different person in many ways today than I was 3 years ago, from all of that. I think most of us are not solid and monolithic and unchanging, exposing the same old same old - most of us are different depending on context, and change depending on our experiences.