How many foreigners wifes were not former sex workers

[Ulysses G.]

Answer depends on how many foreigners in Thailand looked for relationships in brothels, go-go bars, massage parlours and karaoke clubs!!

I don't think they intend to look for relations there, but they meet a young attractive woman who is nice to them and pleases them in bed and they get hooked. I often did the same thing with "good girls" back in my own country - thinking with the wrong head.

[Ulysses G.]

I remember the days of Termae, many office and shopping mall gilrs in there, all selling their pussy after hours.

So if you married one of those did you marry a office girl or a hooker.

Answers on a postcard please.

Good point. They used to hang out in the parking lot of the Nana Hotel, after they got off work in the late afternoon. You would never see them at night.

[transam]

Tell me OP, do you REALLY believe what your lady is or was......?

Do YOU really know........?

None of us know, so fink a bit of a daft thread........In my opinion of course.......

[brewsterbudgen]

I remember the days of Termae, many office and shopping mall gilrs in there, all selling their pussy after hours.

So if you married one of those did you marry a office girl or a hooker.

Answers on a postcard please.

Good point. They used to hang out in the parking lot of the Nana Hotel, after they got off work in the late afternoon. You would never see them at night.

Many of the dancers at Cowboy and Nana have office jobs or are students.

[AnotherOneAmerican]

Not to mention half the girls in Ping Payom soapy are CM uni girls.

(after all it is next door to the university)

[Showbags]

Mine used to do the dart show....she is retired now...but we go hunting a lot.

[NoshowJones]

All my friends are married to ex bargirls, I don't know of any who definitely were not, and they are all decent people. I have been with my wife for nine years and she has lived in the village all her life.

If I found out now she was an ex bargirl, I would still stay with her, as what happened in her life before she met me is none of my business, and vice versa. So in my opinion, I would think the majority of Westerners are married to ex bargirls, maybe about 70%.

[kaorop]

My wife was a university graduate and a computer systems annalist for one of the larger banks in Thailand when we met.

She had never been married before, had no children.

Had never really had a boyfriend before me.

We have been happily for over 13 years now, have a beautiful child and have lived in both USA and Thailand since our marriage.

She is definitely not in it for the money.

I had some serious financial problems a few years ago and she actually supported myself and the family on her income and investments!

Now, all the losers who have never been with a Thai woman who was not a prostitute an or wanted them for their money can post their disbelieving snide remarks.

I have heard you guys before.

The difference is that I know and speak the truth.

Sorry, guys!

We are not all losers who have to pay for it!

Yeah and no doubt, 5' 6" stunning model standard, ohhh paaleease dear super hero tell us more?

So a % are married to "never been in a bar" types,

Fair enough, but dont make out thats some kind of wonderland ideal, most guys have been with that type during their life, pent up, anal and boring, ime and imo.

5555 Can-O-Worms threads love em. 5555

[Gonsalviz]

Mine wasn't.

[Gonsalviz]

My wife was a university graduate and a computer systems annalist for one of the larger banks in Thailand when we met.

She had never been married before, had no children.

Had never really had a boyfriend before me.

We have been happily for over 13 years now, have a beautiful child and have lived in both USA and Thailand since our marriage.

She is definitely not in it for the money.

I had some serious financial problems a few years ago and she actually supported myself and the family on her income and investments!

Now, all the losers who have never been with a Thai woman who was not a prostitute an or wanted them for their money can post their disbelieving snide remarks.

I have heard you guys before.

The difference is that I know and speak the truth.

Sorry, guys!

We are not all losers who have to pay for it!

Yeah and no doubt, 5' 6" stunning model standard, ohhh paaleease dear super hero tell us more?

So a % are married to "never been in a bar" types,

Fair enough, but dont make out thats some kind of wonderland ideal, most guys have been with that type during their life, pent up, anal and boring, ime and imo.

5555 Can-O-Worms threads love em. 5555

Were you born an <deleted> or did it just come upon you?

[Ulysses G.]

Not to mention half the girls in Ping Payom soapy are CM uni girls.

(after all it is next door to the university)

Madame Fluke's club was the same deal many years ago. They kept telling us that they were students and we would laugh about it amongst ourselves. One day it got busted and all the papers reported that they were attending University during the daytime. That was a shocker as I has not lived here very long.

[VBF]

What does it matter

I would be more embarrassed to tell people my wife is a lawyer than an ex sex worker

Or even worse ......... an Estate Agent!!

[Baerboxer]

_{Yes she was and I do, whats the shame in it? Obviously a long time ago so its all water under the bridge.}

Bully for you.

That probably explains why you think only 1% of the wives are not former sex wives.

My experience different. I reckon about 60% of the Thai ladies married to foreigners I know or have met, in several countries were formerly involved in the sex trade. 40% weren't. They tended to stick to their own groups but came together for some things, like temple events, charities, someone's birthday or children's parties etc. The behavior, style of dress and social interactions are quite different. Ladies who were former sex workers tended to drink alcohol, smoke, want "ladies nights out" and chase men younger than there husband. Some, a small % went back to their former profession for extra cash. Some were excellent wives and mothers, and as you say, the past was the past. Only a very small % of the non sex workers chased after affairs, AFAIK.

I met some former sex workers who were really nice, as I said, some weren't. Same with non sex workers, some really nice and a few real witches. I try to only judge people as I find them and how they treat me.

My wife went from university to the civil service. After 2.5 years she decided to become a teacher, which is her natural talent. When I met her she was teaching at a private school. The headmaster, whose family own it, is a friend.

There are several foreigners I know in our moobahn. The ratio of former sex worker wives to non sex workers is about 30/70.

[Baerboxer]

My wife was a university graduate and a computer systems annalist for one of the larger banks in Thailand when we met.

She had never been married before, had no children.

Had never really had a boyfriend before me.

We have been happily for over 13 years now, have a beautiful child and have lived in both USA and Thailand since our marriage.

She is definitely not in it for the money.

I had some serious financial problems a few years ago and she actually supported myself and the family on her income and investments!

Now, all the losers who have never been with a Thai woman who was not a prostitute an or wanted them for their money can post their disbelieving snide remarks.

I have heard you guys before.

The difference is that I know and speak the truth.

Sorry, guys!

We are not all losers who have to pay for it!

Yeah and no doubt, 5' 6" stunning model standard, ohhh paaleease dear super hero tell us more?

So a % are married to "never been in a bar" types,

Fair enough, but dont make out thats some kind of wonderland ideal, most guys have been with that type during their life, pent up, anal and boring, ime and imo.

5555 Can-O-Worms threads love em. 5555

Were you born an <deleted> or did it just come upon you?

I don't know what the deleted word was, but hope it ended in T and rhymed with James H.............

Edited December 28, 2014 by Baerboxer

[Baerboxer]

Not to mention half the girls in Ping Payom soapy are CM uni girls.

(after all it is next door to the university)

Madame Fluke's club was the same deal many years ago. They kept telling us that they were students and we would laugh about it amongst ourselves. One day it got busted and all the papers reported that they were attending University during the daytime. That was a shocker as I has not lived here very long.

I helped a bachelor degree student with her English on a science thesis. Purely because I happen to know one of her lecturers. She made it very clear that she was looking for a "sponsor" and was happy to play the mia noi. If I wasn't interested did I have a friend who might be! She said several of her friends were doing this with Thai men and one had a German sugar daddy.

[Baerboxer]

All my friends are married to ex bargirls, I don't know of any who definitely were not, and they are all decent people. I have been with my wife for nine years and she has lived in the village all her life.

If I found out now she was an ex bargirl, I would still stay with her, as what happened in her life before she met me is none of my business, and vice versa. So in my opinion, I would think the majority of Westerners are married to ex bargirls, maybe about 70%.

In theory, I agree with you. I know some British ladies with very colorful pasts, and I'm sure we all have skeletons in the cupboard from our youth. Most relationships don't flower if they start delving into each other's past in a judgmental way.

However, I think the people who married bar girls met them there, or in massage parlors or working as escorts. They chose to marry someone working in the sex trade which is their choice.

I treat people as they treat me, and certainly don't judge anyone's past. However, a surprising number of husbands have gone to lengths to explain about their wife to me - that she was the bar cook, cashier, only in her first week's work, only had 1 or 2 previous customers etc etc.

One example - the husband said she was mainly the bar cook, a trained chef. His mum, who I met at the wedding, said she was driven to working there out of dire poverty, and was lucky to meet her son after just starting, inferring very few customers. The lady wasn't so shy. She said she's been there several months, was very popular with the punters and told some very funny stories about some punters. It wasn't for me to judge or to tittle tattle the different stories. I got on with all 3, as did my wife and that subject was none of our business.

[Baerboxer]

Usually this Topic pops up regular as clockwork! and the Original Poster has normally made a bad choice,and can't believe there are plenty of of normal girls out there,is this your problem? or do I suspect you would be much happier to tar all Thai women with the same brush? so you can continue with your faulty assessment!

You are right, as you usually are. What is unfortunate is that this sort of assertion, that 99% of Thai ladies married to foreigners are former sex workers is what helps keep building the myth that all Thai women are prostitutes.

Many foreign men don't come here simply to booze in bars and frequent the services of the girls who work there. Those that do might meet one there they marry. Those that don't won't.

[slipperylobster]

Mine used to do the dart show....she is retired now...but we go hunting a lot.

Some of those gals at the dart show could blow the balloons and fire at the same time.

[redandyellow]

Perception is reality.. don't let other's negative perceptions cloud your reality. Former Thai sex-trade workers make some of the best wives from what I hear, no sarcasm intended what so ever.

People are way too judgmental - throwing stones from our little glass houses..

put your $$ down and take your chances

no western woman will marry a guy that cannot offer financial compensation either..it's just a different dance, that's all

[manxninja]

where has the topic been moved to?

[elgordo38]

Thai Love Links after my 2nd tranche of $69

[redandyellow]

all of them end up spreading their legs.. what's the big deal about the time frame? Lots..

[manxninja]

To be fair \bearboxer she may have went to uni, but ive I feeling she is no Mona Liza that's why she ended up with you and not a Thai of high social standing.

[wooloomooloo]

a99az, couldn't you just have provided a digest. The bold font also made my brain hurt so didn't bother reading.

Anyway, not sure of the point of this thread or where it's going.

Inane drivel springs to mind.

[manxninja]

Some right dreamers here old bearboxer has his delusions that the uni girls want him to make them his mia noi just to teach them English, reality check its cash they after not your crap English skills. Not in the SAS by any chance were you?

[thrilled]

I'm guessing about 20-40%. I believe it was higher in the 70's.

[kungpao]

Met online. Me in usa. She in Thailand. Wife was career government accountant. Many of her friends met farang. None that I know of were in bars of any kind.

[downtown]

the phrase "marriage is the most expensive form of marriage" comes to mind.some of the sin sots Ive seen banded about beggar belief

[Bkungbank]

The dignity was not about your past, sex workers are most respect human being with able to sleep with fat and old farang for sending money back home to feed small children and old age parents.

Past is not important as someone says ' You can have a prostitute wife but you cannot make your wife to be prostitute'

[Dibbler]

Answer depends on how many foreigners in Thailand looked for relationships in brothels, go-go bars, massage parlours and karaoke clubs!!

I don't think they intend to look for relations there, but they meet a young attractive woman who is nice to them and pleases them in bed and they get hooked. I often did the same thing with "good girls" back in my own country - thinking with the wrong head.

Why would any sane person choose to shack up with an attractive person who requires large and regular amounts of cash support, emotional counseling and likely comes from a broken family versus an attractive person with an education, job and good family? Defies logic and common sense that most expats in Thailand (or any country) could be married to hookers or ex hookers, especially individuals who've been around a bunch of years and understand the culture.