thai wives behaviour

[federico]

Hello everybody,

I am married for 6 years with a wonderful thai woman and we live in Paris. Life is great with her, and i thank Buddha everyday for meeting her. But there is something that seems very strange to me : every once in a while, when i come back home from work, i find she has changed things from one place to an other : some table in the back of the living room is now by the window, some artefacts on the bookshelves now stands in the bedroom, and the plants are frequently travelling from one room to an other. I clarify that i dont mind it at all. I only wish one day she dont need to change her husband for an other...

And i clarify too that she's not bored because she works and has a real social and professional life here.

I wonder if you guys have already noticed such behaviours with your thai wife, or is it only mine ?

Thanks for reading,

Cheers,

Fred

[Baa_Mango]

feng shui or OCD

[federico]

feng shui or OCD

i doubt she knows about feng shui and i dont know what is OCD ?

[Issangeorge]

Don't all women rearrange the room on a regular bases?

[Crazy chef 1]

Lucky me I never notice if things are somewhere else because I anyway don't know where they have been in the first place-except my tools..

Whenever I need something I ask my wife...much easier than to look around...

[federico]

none of my ex farang gf did...

[chickenslegs]

feng shui or OCD

i doubt she knows about feng shui and i dont know what is OCD ?

She may or may not know about feng shui but she has probably grown up in a house where similar rules and all kinds of other superstitions, customs and habits apply (for example - thanking Buddha for good luck).

From what you have described, she just seems to enjoy rearranging the house. But, if you want to know why, you could ask her.

[Baa_Mango]

Lots of Thai-Chinese take feng shui very seriously, and bored wifes too

[chickenslegs]

Just had another thought.

If this behaviour has started recently she could be "nest building".

A pregnant woman's urge to clean, organise and get their life in order is a primal instinct going back thousands of years, according to a new study.

Researchers found the obsessive behaviour - known as 'nesting' and characterised by unusual bursts of energy - is not irrational, but a result of a mechanism to protect and prepare for the unborn baby.

Women also become more selective about the company they keep, preferring to just spend time with people they trust, reports the journal Evolution & Human Behaviour.

[CharlieH]

Sounds to me like she just likes putting "her" mark on the her domain, a way of "settling in" and making it hers, marking her territory if you like.

When she starts pee-ing on the chair legs then you can worry

[Aussieroaming]

Better to swap things to other rooms rather than throw them out and keep buying new stuff

[Lucifer]

You should pre-empt your wifes behavior, by changing her for another woman.

[Eddy B]

My wife does it constantly. Sometimes she does this before she goes to bed and I have been out to meet a friend. I come home and do not bother to turn a rooms lights on and "BAM!" I have just about broke my toe by walking into something she has moved as it was not there before I went out. It could be she just had a new idea on how a room could look or she has something on her mind and it helps her to relax. All I know is that I ask my wife to tell me, before I go out please! Tell me if you feel like moving stuff around before I go out so I will turn the damn lights on.

[MZurf]

feng shui or OCD

More or less the same thing if you ask me

[sipi]

Our house looks exactly as it was 5 years ago. I would love to find it rearranged.

[federico]

Our house looks exactly as it was 5 years ago. I would love to find it rearranged.

i send you my wife for a moving shift, just ask

[willyumiii]

Has nothing to do with race, sex or nationality.

Many people do this.

I do it.

I am an American, white, man.

Change is refreshing.

[kannot]

ive got so many houses i cant even find them let alone what's in them

[Rooo]

Moved to expat life.

[Briggsy]

If it bothers you, nail things to the floor or wall.

[neverdie]

Sounds to me like she just likes putting "her" mark on the her domain, a way of "settling in" and making it hers, marking her territory if you like.

When she starts pee-ing on the chair legs then you can worry

You have experienced this pee-ing behaviour before have you ?

[kungpao]

Can't help you there.

I've been married to Thai about 6 months. In USA. She's livid and upset that she saw that I'd sent text messages to Ex wife. I sent mesage about child between Ex and I. Ex asked about my job search which I mentioned. This is because I am getting laid off and I asked ex wife about putting daughters on her insurance before I'm laid off.

Anyway, that came up on Valentines day and came up again today. That AND previous relationships I don't care about. She cares. I don't ask about her past or care (she has an ex-husband).

Anyway, she said she will go back to Thailand or some crap. Whatever. She can go if she is not happy. Ive' done a lot for her and made her life much better and she will have a good future either way (she was career government, but up to her butt in debt). Now she can work in America. I got her here. I paid for her daughter's medical care. I won't pay for her debt, she can do that.

I won't feel bad if she leaves. Fine with me. I can love someone, but I'm never going to get worked up over issues.

[sdanielmcev]

Nope.

[ttthailand]

Moving plants to different locations to provide some sun is logical. After they get sun switch with other plants located in dark areas.

[Razzler1973]

It sounds like boredom. Maybe she's doing it in the hope you notice and ask her about it/chat, etc?

It could be putting her mark on the place, as mentioned above

[pigeonjake]

if thats all youve got to worry about,

get on your knees and thank buda again,,,,lol,

ps some plants need moving now and again, more sun less sun ect

[sipi]

Sounds to me like she just likes putting "her" mark on the her domain, a way of "settling in" and making it hers, marking her territory if you like.

When she starts pee-ing on the chair legs then you can worry

You have experienced this pee-ing behaviour before have you ?

Hey Fred. Can you ask your dear wife to change neverdie's avatar, or at least shove it in the spare bedroom?

[colinneil]

OP why are you bothered that she is moving things?

Start to worry when she is not home then gives you the stupid response !! just visiting my brother !!

[bridge2bridge]

ALL Thai women act strange at times.

That is normal, no need to worry.

p/s You are LUCKY to find a good one.

I have had Three with NO luck.

Only want you for your money.

NO LOVE .

[AnotherOneAmerican]

When she's out, start rearranging the furniture, then deny you did it.

Pee?