am i over sensetive

[leither69]

Small issues but really get my back up

1. Driving motor bike around phuket. Heavy rain starts so we stop at bar for refreshment. She goes next door to 7/11 and buys herself a rain Mac (20 baht) never a mention of "would you like one or " I bought one for you"

2. Sitting in restaruant in Ao Nang. She looks at the menu and decides to order food for herself (not a penny in her pocket I may add) not a " teerak . you hungry? "

3. In 7/11. She asks me to buy candy. We drive car home to hua hin. She eats the lot without offering me a sniff

Anyway. Of course each time I have put her straight in no uncertain terms but it appears that the Thai mentality takes over and she has the memory of a Rocking horse. I have had many Thai gf's but kinda like this one. But to be honest I couldn't put up with this attitude or mindset whatever you want to call it and will probably give her the elbow shortly. Am I over sensitive?

Edited March 29, 2015 by leither69

[robblok]

Maybe your just a meal ticket.. seems that way from what you describe.

[tifino]

you are only getting over-sensitive, when she starts the " you lub me too much, you lub me too much"

... in the meantime - S.N.A.G. farangs embarrass thai wimmen very easily, as you'll lose the last of any respect they might have had for you - and make them angry...

[Somtamnication]

You are also butt ugly, but then who cares. If has no feelings for you or cares that you may be hungry, then dump her. Worse to come.

[weegee]

Try Vietnam!!

Better looking and well mannered.....

[Crazy chef 1]

If you give " give her the elbow" anyway- who cares??? Or she might know in what kind of " relationship " she is at the moment and took the chance to get the most out of it...

[robblok]

If you give " give her the elbow" anyway- who cares??? Or she might know in what kind of " relationship " she is at the moment and took the chance to get the most out of it...

Sure if a girl thinks she is just there for "fun" its only logical to get out of it what she can especially if your not that handsome compared to her.

[leither69]

Handsome!! Someone been sharing my photos???

[NickJ]

I would not want a selfish thing like that around for long......imagine if you were ill or injured, you think she is selfish now........

[Aussieroaming]

That's why she will join your list of ex girlfriends.

[Sharp]

She's not interested!! Next!!

[willyumiii]

Yes, you are.

Honestly, what did you expect?

You are not in Kansas anymore Toto.

[ExPratt]

I though it was supposedly big Face or Kudos for the one with the Money (The Farang) to pay for others , its expected I believe

OH and she obviously hates you

Edited March 29, 2015 by ExPratt

[robblok]

I though it was supposedly big Face or Kudos for the one with the Money (The Farang) to pay for others , its expected I believe

If your in that kind of relationship you are.. yes.. then they don't care about you just what you pay and what they can get out of it.

Otherwise you can expect some stuff back

[ExPratt]

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I though it was supposedly big Face or Kudos for the one with the Money (The Farang) to pay for others , its expected I believe

If your in that kind of relationship you are.. yes.. then they don't care about you just what you pay and what they can get out of it.

Otherwise you can expect some stuff back

Not with my wife, but with Thais in General , its more or less an opportunity for a bloke with a bit of dough to show off

[Jip99]

I have witnessed, and experienced, those feelings of being taken for granted, selfishness and lack of consideration for others (me!).

ll be the answer.

If you can put up with it there may be a relationship to be had. Frankly, if you are struggling with it now I doubt it will get better, so moving on may well be the best move.

What you describe is not uncommon.

[RandomSand]

I had a gf like this before. Slightly superficial, but emotionally honest, great in bed.

If she were dishonest she'd create a false image of herself by purposefully making herself seem to be caring. She doesn't, therefore she sounds like a nice girl... give her time. I bet she's got a heart of gold. Lucky for you she isn't a deceitful snake. The downside for you (and herself) is that she might be easily lured away from you by a deceitful man.

Some will disagree but only because they know I'm right.

Edited March 29, 2015 by RandomSand

[Rooo]

Moved to Pub.

[CharlieH]

Very difficult to play Tennis when only one wants to hit the ball.

If you have noticed this now, its the start of the end. You probably noticed similar before but because it was shiney and new etc you probably turned a blind eye to it, as time is going on its becoming more apparent and you clearly dont like it, so you already know the answer really, dont you.

[mesquite]

Thais tend to be very self centered. The only times they do something for someone else is if there's something in it for them. Sure, there are exceptions, but I've seen few.

Your gf is not being rude, she just doesn't think about anyone but herself.

Take, for example, how they double or triple park their cars so they are close to the shop they want to go to. The traffic can back up for a km or so, but to them there is no problem because they are close to the shop.

Edited March 29, 2015 by mesquite

[kurtramsbottom]

Is she as selfish in the sack?

[Costas2008]

Dump the cow.

No worth giving her another look.

Never had the pleasure of meeting a woman like that, but if I had then she would have the pleasure of tasting my kick up her ass.

[manarak]

Handsome!! Someone been sharing my photos???

Only you can answer the question if you are over-sensitive.

For many, "caring about someone" implies a set of behaviors defined by the mainstream - when this behavior is missing, most will assume the other person isn't caring.

What if she isn't mainstream?

The Myer-Briggs personality types are a nice shortcut here:

http://www.statisticbrain.com/myers-briggs-statistics/

What if your girl, instead of being the usual SF (sensing-feeling, usual for women) variants, she is instead a self-centrered introvert (INT) ?

She would sure show other signs that she cares.

Do you see her care for other people, i.e. offering candy or going out of her way to help them?

[NancyL]

My goodness, why would you want to spend more than a few hours in bed with someone like this?

Do you want to grow old with this woman? Do you want this woman by your side when you're ill? When you need help?

It never ceased to amaze me why guys invest anything more than 1500 baht in women like this. Next thing you know, the OP will be having children with her so he'll decide to put up with it and 15 years later he'll be wondering why he's been dumped at the public hospital, with his bank account cleaned out after he's had a debilitating stroke.

I've seen it happen.

Edited March 29, 2015 by NancyL

[wangsuda]

Dump the cow.

No worth giving her another look.

Never had the pleasure of meeting a woman like that, but if I had then she would have the pleasure of tasting my kick up her ass.

Costas! How can you say such a thing? On another thread you told someone to offer flowers to a woman who threatened him with death! Too funny!

[pgrahmm]

Get use to your new name "meal ticket" honorable might be in there somewhere......

[DLock]

In my experience Thai's are actually quite generous and are quick to invite you to share food and hospitality...or at least where I live in Chiang Mai and surrounding areas up North.

However, I have also noticed that the Thai's that live and survive around tourist areas do become selfish and take what they can get when they can get it. It's almost like a survival mode because food and money and things are not consistent.

I could never, ever spend time with someone selfish that thinks only of herself.

Think it might to time to consider if she is worth the effort. Only you can answer that.

Good Luck.

[leither69]

My goodness, why would you want to spend more than a few hours in bed with someone like this?

Do you want to grow old with this woman? Do you want this woman by your side when you're ill? When you need help?

It never ceased to amaze me why guys invest anything more than 1500 baht in women like this. Next thing you know, the OP will be having children with her so he'll decide to put up with it and 15 years later he'll be wondering why he's been dumped at the public hospital, with his bank account cleaned out after he's had a debilitating stroke.

I've seen it happen.

Don't think so. To old in the tooth

[smokie36]

If she won't peel your prawns and spoon feed you them while fetching you beer after beer...... ditch her.

Plenty who will OP.

Good luck with that tactic when you get home after your holiday.

[manarak]

If she won't peel your prawns and spoon feed you them while fetching you beer after beer...... ditch her.

Plenty who will OP.

Good luck with that tactic when you get home after your holiday.

that's why many elect to not go back :-)