My thai girlfriend - is she cheating on me?

Razzler1973 · September 13, 2015

She is not your girlfriend, she is a friend you shag... The term in Thai is gik...

Exactly ... just enjoy it!

spidermike007 · September 13, 2015

Took you longer to write this then for her to drop her panties! Give her a penis and you have everything covered.

Unless Dennis123 gets there first!!:-

About once a month i screw someone while his 50+ year old boyfriend is taking a nap at the hotel after a day beach, each month a different one, this could actually be a weekly thing but I tamed down a bit after 3 years here.

Last week I did someone a day before his farang came, he told me had to pick up a friend from the airport, I didn't think that would be his boyfriend, but the next day I saw photos on Facebook appear, nothing wrong with that, the day his boyfriend left to go home I did him again. Once I even ruined someone's relationship cause the farang was supicious and checked his Skype where he was happily chatting with me the day before his farang arrived, other.

This stuff is oh so common, and definitely not exceptional in any way. I can't even have a relationship anymore as I simply know to much and've seen too much, way too suspicious for a very good reason.

I do like to add that there are rare exceptions but only when the farang is actually a good looking young guy that supports them pretty well. However now I just found out that the boy in question lives in Pattaya Naklua instead of in Kamphaeng Phet as he makes me believe on Facebook, his friend told me, doesn't work in a bar though but I bet he has a Thai boyfriend in Naklua so even that exception likely cheats lol.

You know which long term relationships seem to work out here in the Pattaya/Jomtien area? A random farang with an ugly Thai boyfriend, and both having their own group of friends and from what I can see they only share a bed and that's it. If that's even the case, numerous of those farang are cheating on their ugly Thai boyfriend, kind of the opposite is true here Well, likely cheating with permission.

Can't count the times that I got involved with someone for more than a week and then they told me that if I wanted to have sex with other boys it would be ok, I just wasn't allowed to fall in love with them, very efficient way for them to get rid of me.

Edited September 13, 2015 by spidermike007

FrankyHanky · September 13, 2015

Your English is VERY good for someone who comes from France....

as i said before, i'm working in a big international company and have been to some countries before. First language in business is English.

Its just a prejudice (maybe same with thai woman). Some French people definitely can speak English.

Who cares about her past, if it feels good, go with it, if it doesn't then move on

I don't have any problems with her past, as long she has a "normal" past like everyone else has, if you know what i mean. I know for sure that

she has <deleted> other men before, and its OK. I only have problems when she was formerly a hooker, a semi-pro or just <deleted> Farang every weekend.

if a girl will sleep with you on the first date, she's done it before and will pretty much do it with any guy on the first date

and that's exactly what i don't want, i will definitely have a problem with that

not sure why she is hanging onto you if there truly has been no exchange of money during the time you've known her

i'm not sure either, maybe she waits until i marry her?! I made it clear already that i don't want to marry her next upcoming years, and she is OK with that

Girls who speak vernacular English and say they learnt it at school (in Isaan? fer gawds sake ). No other signs needed - stone cold serial falang shagger

OK, and why are you sure that she is a serial Farang shagger? Just because she is from Isaan doesn't mean she is too dumb for learning English. She

needs English in her job. But i understand what you mean, it's unusual...

I think i just move on and see what happens. I'm going crazy but i want to know what she's up to.

elviajero · September 13, 2015

I think i just move on and see what happens. I'm going crazy but i want to know what she's up to.

Ok so forget the emotional side of it and look at your practical solutions for knowing what she's up to.

Private Investigator.
Create a fake user on the dating site. Make a profile with you living in Thailand and pile on the pressure to make a date. If she shows interest you know you have problems, if she agrees to a date you have the proof you need to walk away.

Edited September 13, 2015 by elviajero

fang37 · September 13, 2015

Re # 185, I would not even go that far.

You have a suspicious mind - it will not go away.

WALK!

micmichd · September 13, 2015

"maybe she waits until i marry her"

Certainly not.

geronimo · September 13, 2015

Well this guy has certainly has you all pounding the keyboard. If he's a troll then hats off to him!!

Whyamiandwhatamidoinghere · September 13, 2015

God bless Thailand and all who sail on (or in) her....PS... may you not sink.

If you don't sink then it just too dry...

Tonto21 · September 13, 2015

FrankyHanky................. Mate...... Please..... I've never seen such a sad post...... 'GET A GRIP'.....

This girl is from Thailand.... (Earth) .....Not Mars, do you have women in France.

Unbelievable post mate......Unbelievable!

PMZ · September 13, 2015

I have read most of this post and responses, as it's a subject of interest to me. I have been in Thailand a long time, it's a fascinating place.

Firstly, a few very relevant, smart and insightful responses in numbers: 60, 66, 80, 117, 118, 174. You should take note of those, IMHO.

There are some signs that would suggest she has a number of Farangs in her history or even present. Those being the nightclubs, both of those places are packed with freelancers. The car, that is highly unlikely to be funded on her office salary.

Equally, she is a lovely 33 year old girl, of course she has a past. That she would simplify that past to you is normal in most cultures, she doe snot want to scare you away with horror stories. That she slept with you on the first date, don't put too much store in that, she would have clearly thought you were expecting that since you flew half way around the world to meet her.

She has not asked you for any money. That is a great situation for you, you are not losing anything, just roll with it. If she was a true 'Thai hunter', there would have been some money requests already, just to test the waters.

Your jealous nature, as has been said above in the responses, will make any long distance relationship strained. You need to manage that the best you can.

You said you could come to Thailand soon, do so, tell her upfront, have a relaxed week, put your concerns and jealousy to one side, see how it all goes.

If all is OK, you said that you could come to Thailand for two months early 2016, that is not far away, come for two months, relax, enjoy her and this wonderful country, for sure, you will know a lot more after two months, so delay any serious decisions until after that.

FrankyHanky · September 13, 2015

I have read most of this post and responses, as it's a subject of interest to me. I have been in Thailand a long time, it's a fascinating place.

Firstly, a few very relevant, smart and insightful responses in numbers: 60, 66, 80, 117, 118, 174. You should take note of those, IMHO.

There are some signs that would suggest she has a number of Farangs in her history or even present. Those being the nightclubs, both of those places are packed with freelancers. The car, that is highly unlikely to be funded on her office salary.

Equally, she is a lovely 33 year old girl, of course she has a past. That she would simplify that past to you is normal in most cultures, she doe snot want to scare you away with horror stories. That she slept with you on the first date, don't put too much store in that, she would have clearly thought you were expecting that since you flew half way around the world to meet her.

She has not asked you for any money. That is a great situation for you, you are not losing anything, just roll with it. If she was a true 'Thai hunter', there would have been some money requests already, just to test the waters.

Your jealous nature, as has been said above in the responses, will make any long distance relationship strained. You need to manage that the best you can.

You said you could come to Thailand soon, do so, tell her upfront, have a relaxed week, put your concerns and jealousy to one side, see how it all goes.

If all is OK, you said that you could come to Thailand for two months early 2016, that is not far away, come for two months, relax, enjoy her and this wonderful country, for sure, you will know a lot more after two months,elay so dany serious decisions until after that.

I highly appreciate your comment, thanks for that!

I know it's a long post, but everything in it is important to me. Not everyone takes the time nowadays to read other person's problems.

I'm pretty sure there were/are other Farang in her life. Bangkok is a big famous city, it's almost impossible not to come in contact with foreigner.

I can only hope she has not slept with everyone.

That she slept with you on the first date, don't put too much store in that, she would have clearly thought you were expecting that

Yes, that would be quite possible, but i haven't given her ANY sign in this regard. We already lay in bed to sleep when she suddenly started kissing me.

I could have said No, but it was too late already

there would have been some money requests already

Until now she never aked for anything. She casually spoke about money as something was broken on her car. She wailed how expensive the repair will be,

but not asked for money. She also sent me pictures from her home in Isaan where a renovation takes place at the moment, but she never asked me to give her

some money for that.

so dany serious decisions until after that

Yes that's what i'm planning now. On the internet i'm not going to find out anything. She can write a lot of bull***t if she wants

In person i've a better chance to detect a lie.

You need to manage that the best you can

I will try my best, thanks!

In the end, she really takes care of me. She makes sure that i deal carefully with my money and gets angry if i don't do it.

She cares about my health and about my feelings...

Edited September 13, 2015 by FrankyHanky

tomacht8 · September 13, 2015

Well this guy has certainly has you all pounding the keyboard. If he's a troll then hats off to him!!

Absolutely,