Jap Si Posted February 5, 2017 Share Posted February 5, 2017 So I met this girl in a bar who was working as a cashier in Bangkok, I struck up a relationship with her and to cut a long story short I found out she was a bar girl for a few years in BKK, she also tried to move in with me, telling she loved me.....yup I got suckered in. Now that really doesnt bother me, as I was really into her. We got on like a house on fire, she was really really nice to me. We spent a lot of time together, but my head is really messed up, what do you guys make of this: 1) Seemed distant with me sometimes in public, almost as if she was scared to bump into an old customer maybe??? 2) Some strange phone calls at 3am on her phone, and phone was always in bed at night. 3) Somebody I think was demanding money from her home town (I've got the facebook messages in Thai but they dont translate well). 4) I went to her home town at Christmas and met her parents and her family, it all seemed very genuine. 5) She has been sending facebook messages to a couple of old customers, saying happy new year....but also asking when they are coming back to Thailand with a kiss x on the end of the message. And this was when she was seeing me. 6) I've seen old facebook messages going back 3 / 4 years with old customers who she was in touch with but lost contact a couple of years ago. 7) When I asked her why she loved me, I got the "because I do....I dont know why" I know the score, she is / was a bargirl, but why take me to her parents if she was just about the money???? Or is that all part of the scam, I've since dumped her but she is really playing with my head. I never did confront her about the messages, and would really like to but think she will turn all crazy on me. Is this one just a really greedy scam artist who doesnt care who she upsets as long as she gets money? 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post onthesoi Posted February 5, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted February 5, 2017 Quote I've since dumped her The End! 31 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post colinneil Posted February 5, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted February 5, 2017 Jap Si, you bored nothing to do? Oh i will start a BS post on TV spout a load of nonsense. 24 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meatboy Posted February 5, 2017 Share Posted February 5, 2017 JAP SI you should have learned all about the THAI CULTURE. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post zoza Posted February 6, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted February 6, 2017 When you went to visit the family the brother who was smiling most was more than likely her husband, but in Thai eyes that does not make her bad, same same for an acquaintance in the Philippines she was on face book with her brother/husband, the boyfriend was with her a year or more before he was dumped. 6 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post chrisinth Posted February 6, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted February 6, 2017 Sorry, just have to ask, why are you reading her FB pages? And do you let her read yours? Don't get me wrong, it is always wise to be cautious, but you need to learn to live in the present; there are a lot of bad things that lurk in history...................... 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Kwasaki Posted February 6, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted February 6, 2017 9 hours ago, onthesoi said: The End! Exactly. 9 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Andyfez Posted February 6, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted February 6, 2017 Many bar girls can't get their head round a permanent relationship. You probably did mean something to her, but she was just waiting for you to get fed up (as you did) before she moves back to what she is most familiar with .... PS is there really a genuine cashier position in any Thai bar? 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post samsensam Posted February 6, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted February 6, 2017 So I met this girl in a bar.. 11 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Borzandy Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 10 hours ago, Jap Si said: girl in a bar who was working as a cashier in Bangkok The best of this Monday. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheFishman1 Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 Really so a bar girl take u home to visit family so what makes her feel respected big deal go find another TIT Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post 12DrinkMore Posted February 6, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted February 6, 2017 53 minutes ago, Andyfez said: PS is there really a genuine cashier position in any Thai bar? IME they are all cashiers, 100%. 12 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dazinoz Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 56 minutes ago, Andyfez said: PS is there really a genuine cashier position in any Thai bar? Yes there is and as far as I know they are generally the only one paid. Doesn't mean they still not go with customers. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpeakeasyThai Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 10 hours ago, onthesoi said: The End! Exactly! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post JacChang Posted February 6, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted February 6, 2017 Jap Si, move on. You learned your lesson in life, to never ever meet and fall for someone like this EVER AGAIN. We've all met these type of women before in our lives. It all felt so good and real and seem to last forever until the little giveaways have us doubting. Meeting the family does not make it genuine. These type of women have many "backups", and without you in her life just simply means someone else will replace you. So the best thing you did was ended the relationship. Some common things to be on the look out is, weird phone calls, or the phone ringing and she is not able to pick it up because you are there and she'll lie it's her annoying brother or friend so she doesn't want to pick it up. Even in your presence, does she find the need to always check up on her phone and reply messages? We always hope to trust our other halves, but trust is reserved for loyal people not for liars. With liars, you really gotta check up on them. When you call her and she doesn't pick up and returns your call 10 mins later and finds an excuse. OR you show up where she says she's at, but she's not there. You got your answer. 11 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post klauskunkel Posted February 6, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted February 6, 2017 Yes, she was a bad girl who was only after your money, you did well to dump her! No, she was a good girl with whom you could have spend a happy life, you were foolish to dump her. Take your pick, whatever suits you at the moment. 6 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post JacChang Posted February 6, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted February 6, 2017 Oh, and make sure you block all contacts with her or change your phone. From a few months to a few years, she will still try to find a way to contact you when she has lost her other backups. 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Hayduke Posted February 6, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted February 6, 2017 (edited) Don’t be concerned. Everything you describe is perfectly normal. Expect nothing less. Edited February 6, 2017 by Hayduke 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post IAMHERE Posted February 6, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted February 6, 2017 Until you buy the cow she is well served by not keeping all her eggs in one basket. Sure she keeps in contact with those likely to help her when you throw her out, why should she expect you to keep your promises when no other farang has. Go get her back. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Suradit69 Posted February 6, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted February 6, 2017 11 hours ago, Jap Si said: Or is that all part of the scam So you weren't exploiting her, but she was exploiting you? It was she who traveled thousands of miles in order to connect with some farang who couldn't find "love" in his price range at home? And you only came here to visit Thai wats and commune with the elephants, right? Because you don't have elephants and wats back in your country. 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LotusBoy Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 Japs i 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
giddyup Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 8 minutes ago, IAMHERE said: Until you buy the cow she is well served by not keeping all her eggs in one basket. Sure she keeps in contact with those likely to help her when you throw her out, why should she expect you to keep your promises when no other farang has. Go get her back. Cows, eggs, don't see it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nemesis7 Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 Whats the point of asking suggestions since you have dumped her 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LannaGuy Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 Jap Si forget all those horrible and cynical posters! of course she loves YOU now just give her your ATM number to show you trust her as you already seems to have given her your heart, brain and judgement 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NOWHERE Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 Love it, great story and relies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cyberfarang Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 What they call a post bait thread. Never fails. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post AlexRich Posted February 6, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted February 6, 2017 Thai girl lies. Bear sh@ts in the woods. Pope's catholic. 6 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pib Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 OP, Welcome to reality. And although you have dumped her there may be memories of her on various porn sites. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deepinthailand Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 Oh how utterly boring get a life Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post The Dark Lord Posted February 6, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted February 6, 2017 1 hour ago, LotusBoy said: Japs i Yes lotus boy my friend, I thought it was just my odd humour that saw Japs eye (Jap s I) in the name. are we being taken for Richard Heads here? 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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