On 2/10/2018 at 4:29 PM, OneMoreFarang said:

Why do you think money has to be involved? Maybe it is, but it does not have to be involved.

I remember a friend who had a hot sexual relationship with the girlfriend from someone else. He told me she told him her boyfriend's idea about sex is a hand-job under the shower, that's it, nothing else. But apart from that she really loved him.

So she had sex with my friend (no money involved) and a relationship with the guy she loved.

I guess that is not a solution for everybody but some people find interesting solutions to interesting problems...

Do you have her Number ?

5 hours ago, StreetCowboy said:

Falling off your bicycle is not trivial.

 

A friend of mine discovered they had syphillis when they went for a work permit medical, and three antibiotic injections later they were fine.  Another friend has long term problems because of an injury to his shoulder falling off his bike,

 

We might chortle and joke about these things when we escape serious harm, but anything can happen....

 

SC

 

In that story I'd prefer to be the one with syphilis.

 

5 hours ago, Sirbergan said:

I guess that depends on the person, for a person aged 80 it might very well be!

 

If I caught herpes at 80 I'd dance a jig because I'd have had sex.

9 hours ago, StreetCowboy said:

A friend of mine discovered they had syphillis when they went for a work permit medical, and three antibiotic injections later they were fine. 

Happened to me once a week before I had to get the work permit. I was pretty sure I did not have it and had to take some rush tests to prove it. What a pain in the butt, but got my work permit right before I would have been licked out of the country.

Mind your own business ....  what it's got to do with you.

4 minutes ago, steven100 said:

Mind your own business ....  what it's got to do with you.

good point ! would you want to know or would you prefer everyone was laughing at you behide your back ? me i would want to know !

8 minutes ago, catman20 said:

good point ! would you want to know or would you prefer everyone was laughing at you behide your back ? me i would want to know !

agree, you would want to know ... but it's not for others to be investigators for your affairs, one should do their own investigating if they suspect anything. Also, I don't really think anyone is laughing behind his back.    Things like this can turn very nasty, and the snitcher could end up at the bottom of the Phraya river.   imo

better to go to the bar and forget about it.

Jesus....you spill the beans and post all the juicy updates here.

12 minutes ago, steven100 said:

agree, you would want to know ... but it's not for others to be investigators for your affairs, one should do their own investigating if they suspect anything. Also, I don't really think anyone is laughing behind his back.    Things like this can turn very nasty, and the snitcher could end up at the bottom of the Phraya river.   imo

better to go to the bar and forget about it.

I think that a good point. If a friend would ask me if I saw his wife with another guy I would tell him the truth.

But I wouldn't volunteer with that information if he wouldn't ask, but there might be exceptions.

 

I guess others would do this in a similar way. So maybe all the guys who want the truth should ask their friends regularly if they have any bad news about their wives. But be warned, maybe you will hear something you didn't want to know.

Slightly off topic, but I was in a taxi last weekend. The driver spoke pretty good English and my average Thai understood the rest. He was telling me an amusing story about how he used to be seeing a married woman near where I live on Phetchaburi Road. He said she was seeing him on the side because he loved to give her some tongue action. Apparently her husband never ever did it.

 

Maybe Tom is in the same boat. Never EVER forget the tongue action my fellow gentlemen. 

4 minutes ago, BobbyL said:

Maybe Tom is in the same boat. Never EVER forget the tongue action my fellow gentlemen. 

I'd rather be single thanks. Ewwwwwwwww

2 minutes ago, MaeJoMTB said:

I'd rather be single thanks. Ewwwwwwwww

Send your missus to me and my taxi driver friend then 

Tell, without a doubt    She is living off her husband's money, boyfriend might too...does not matter if hubby has a side chick, it's he that bankrolls them all

1 hour ago, BobbyL said:

Never EVER forget the tongue action my fellow gentlemen. 

 

Wise words indeed.  

What if another car looks like it? People often make mistakes with descriptions. Especially if drunk.

On 10-2-2018 at 10:03 PM, ThaiFelix said:

I have an old dear friend who has been married to a younger Thai lady here for more than 20 years.  His wife has openly told my wife that she has had her Thai man on the side over the years although now a thing of the past.  But at the same time it is plainly obvious that she cares immensely for my friend and waits on him hand and foot day and night.  And he is extremely happy with her always singing her praise.  

When I first heard of her playing up I was disturbed and wrestled with whether to tell him or not.  However I came to the conclusion that my old friend may not have many years left in him and if he died next week, month or year, he would die a very very happy man not knowing.  If I or someone was to tell him the truth, what would be accomplished??  Sometimes what you dont know dont hurt you.

 

 

Woman have needs too.. and if the guy is too old ore just not adequate in bed they might look elsewhere. This could happen quite fast if there is a large age gap. I have been guilty of having affairs with girls that had foreign bf's (only found out after the fact). 

 

It happens and as one guy here said there are so many different sex variations that the wife might be looking for something the husband cant provide. Maybe she likes to be dominated but the husband is a softy, or the guy is a brute and she likes it a bit softer at times. Who knows not everyone matches in bed.

11 minutes ago, robblok said:

Woman have needs too.

My wife needs her home loan paid, and if she bangs someone else he'd better be prepared to fulfill that need.

Usually best to let people be. Like attracts like. Some people just attract these people. 

Ask within your group when Tom is there - theoretically speaking, what would everyone prefer. He will tell you the answer. 

Just now, ncc1701d said:

Ask within your group when Tom is there - theoretically speaking, what would everyone prefer. He will tell you the answer. 

Tom: Why do you ask?

After long silence someone in the group: Hmm, you know, I don't know how to start this, ...

7 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Tom: Why do you ask?

After long silence someone in the group: Hmm, you know, I don't know how to start this, ...

Tom: why do you ask?

just curious

 

i get the impression from other posts like this by the op, that discussions like this are not out of place or uncommon.

Its a damned if you do damned if you don't situation, I suppose if I drank alcohol with him it might come out but you cant say, some guys it might be worse who knows, i would want to know

 

Try getting to the point without the essay. And make up your own mind instead of asking a bunch of strangers to for you.

On 2/17/2018 at 12:02 AM, Bluetongue said:

Its a damned if you do damned if you don't situation, I suppose if I drank alcohol with him it might come out but you cant say, some guys it might be worse who knows, i would want to know

 

That's why we haven;t told you

11 hours ago, StreetCowboy said:

That's why we haven;t told you

Frankly, I don't give a damn

Percy Sledge said it best. 

 

No good will come from telling him.

It's based on 3rd party info, possibly alcohol involved. If you didn't see with your own eyes it didn't happen. No use stirring the pot based on sketchy info.

Well last night was another get together of the local expats and all but one of the original guys who were at the last meeting turned up . For some reason the past conversations we had about Tom's Wife being seen with another man at a resort was not brought up , until I went and mentioned it . 

 

The guy who had been at the resort and had seen Tom's wife said that he felt he could not live with him self if he did not tell Tom what he saw,  even if Tom reacted badly he felt it was his duty as a friend to come clean and not hide things. Tom is due back in a few days  . 

 

The general consensus from every one sitting around the table was that if it was one of them in a similar situation they , including my self would want to be told . One other comment made was that its to late to try and put the cat back in the bag .

 

Only time will tell. 

Okay, you and your posse of friends have made a decision.  Now let it go...unless we read about "Tom" in a future TV article having butchered his wife, is there another reason you feel compelled to drag us through Tom's drama?

 

2 hours ago, falangjim said:

Okay, you and your posse of friends have made a decision.  Now let it go...unless we read about "Tom" in a future TV article having butchered his wife, is there another reason you feel compelled to drag us through Tom's drama?

 

I would like to read the outcome of many stories which we read in TV. How did it end? I like to know.