Popular Post Rodwalloper Posted February 27, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted February 27, 2018 (edited) Why do so many guys buy homes for the mother in law. . I like my mother in law, respect her even feel a certain degree of love for the woman but i would never part with the kind of money required to purchase a house for her, no way. How many people can really say when they buy the house that they really wanted to, or was there another motive, im sure there are guys here that truly wanted to i dont know. If they had the means to do so do you think they would be out planning a home for you. Edited February 27, 2018 by Rodwalloper 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post KMartinHandyman Posted February 27, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted February 27, 2018 Keep her from moving in with you is my guess. 18 2 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Lamkyong Posted February 27, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted February 27, 2018 my mother in law gave my wife the house we live in all i did was spend some cash to modernize/upgrade to make for comfortable living 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
steven100 Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 Exactly what KMartin mention ... keep her from moving in with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rodwalloper Posted February 27, 2018 Author Share Posted February 27, 2018 1 hour ago, Lamkyong said: my mother in law gave my wife the house we live in all i did was spend some cash to modernize/upgrade to make for comfortable living I have no actual problem with people doing it as its their business however it should only be done if its for reasons of genuinely wanting to not to keep the daughter. your case is unusual and fantastic, she must love her daughter very much and care about you also. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lamkyong Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 19 minutes ago, Rodwalloper said: I have no actual problem with people doing it as its their business however it should only be done if its for reasons of genuinely wanting to not to keep the daughter. your case is unusual and fantastic, she must love her daughter very much and care about you also. wanting to not to keep the daughter.???sorry lost me there 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post hellohello123 Posted February 27, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted February 27, 2018 I assume its a bit hard to not buy them a house after gloating to them how much of a go getter you are on your pension. 2 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post nisakiman Posted February 27, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted February 27, 2018 My in-laws have never intimated that they want anything from me. The MiL even quietly returned the sinsot to my wife a couple of days after the wedding. And they already have a very nice house which Pa built years ago on a piece of land he bought in central Ubon (for 25,000 Baht!). I generally give them a few thousand to cover expenses when we stay there, but that's it. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post BobbyL Posted February 27, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted February 27, 2018 Firstly, buying the MIL a house? Jesus Christ Secondly, why the hell would they allow their MIL to ever even contemplate moving in? Some guys here are such suckers and seem to never have heard about putting their foot down and not letting people take the p! ss. 10 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wombat Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 you have two choices, the old dear live with you or not. pick your option depending on how you have been 'groomed' 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post wanderluster Posted February 27, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted February 27, 2018 stupidity 7 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post NanLaew Posted February 27, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted February 27, 2018 46 minutes ago, Rodwalloper said: I have no actual problem with people doing it as its their business however it should only be done if its for reasons of genuinely wanting to not to keep the daughter. your case is unusual and fantastic, she must love her daughter very much and care about you also. I suspect my MiL buying my truck with her money and putting it in my name will probably do your tiny little head in. But never mind, eh? As you say, it is their business and thereby absolutely NONE of yours. Bloody noobs.... 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theguyfromanotherforum Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 14 minutes ago, NanLaew said: I suspect my MiL buying my truck with her money and putting it in my name will probably do your tiny little head in. But never mind, eh? As you say, it is their business and thereby absolutely NONE of yours. Bloody noobs.... It's a forum and you will get ridiculed for doing something stupid....like buying a house and paying the stipend to your MIL. So, if you want people to mind their own business, don't post or read this forum. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Classic Ray Posted February 27, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted February 27, 2018 It's just a cultural difference. In the West, old people in need either live in their offspring's house or in elder accommodation, with any shortfall in funds made up by pension or the welfare state. In Asia, it is the responsibility of the offspring to care for their parents and in some cases their siblings, family first, no welfare state. Buying houses is part of the process. Never helped me as my wife does not get on with her grasping parents, who never looked after her as a kid, so they will get nothing from us. 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Timebandit Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 There is someone wielding great power over you whispering in your ear. Personal wealth can be fleeting for a farang in Thailand. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanLaew Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 9 minutes ago, Timebandit said: There is someone wielding great power over you whispering in your ear. Personal wealth can be fleeting for a farang in Thailand. Tell that to the many, many bitter and twisted new(ish) arrivals who are living the Thai dream but only AFTER losing the farm to wifey back home. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sawadee1947 Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 Because they buy the daughter Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanLaew Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 15 minutes ago, sawadee1947 said: Because they buy the daughter Settling in OK are we? 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Toscano Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 That is what a Thai woman marries you for , especially bar girls who selling themselves to build mother and father a nice house . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post johnmcc6 Posted February 27, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted February 27, 2018 I replaced a second hand tin shed for a proper kitchen and will soon do a bathroom make over. Why? Because I can. They have never asked a thing from me. They also returned sin sot money. Trying to live at their age with no water pressure and a bucket is not on. It's all under the heading of family. 6 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phantomfiddler Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 Some of these "mothers in law" probably have more houses than buffaloes ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post NoshowJones Posted February 27, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted February 27, 2018 You will find out that in most cases, the guy is well off, and is also a member of the fat, ugly, tattooed, facial haired brigade, who can only get a wife by buying her mother a house as well as his wife and looks after them financially, and is usually about thirty years older than his wife, and is too stupid to understand that it is very likely that his wife is also going to have a Thai boyfriend who he thinks is her brother. 2 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoshowJones Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 4 hours ago, Lamkyong said: my mother in law gave my wife the house we live in all i did was spend some cash to modernize/upgrade to make for comfortable living That was very sensible, and the chances are you will all live happily ever after. That is the sort of thing I would have done, but my wifes house was already half built for her and her son and daughter when we met, and her mum and dad and brothers have their own house nearby. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
csabo Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 I see guys doing this and then sending their bargirl "back home". It's more of a <deleted> corral than a house really. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoshowJones Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 2 hours ago, Lamkyong said: wanting to not to keep the daughter.???sorry lost me there I'm lost also, but I do get the gist of it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post tweedledee2 Posted February 27, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted February 27, 2018 My wife and I have been married for 4 years and I have bought my MIL 3 items and she never asked for.any of them. She had an old refrigerator and if you opened the door to far, the top hinge pin would come out and the door would fall off. One Saturday, I was at Tesco and they were having a weekend appliance sell. I bought a Panasonic refrigerator and arranged delivery for the following Monday. Well Sunday afternoon, the MIL called my wife and was excited and in tears because Tesco had just delivered it. Then one time when we went to visit, the FIL was trying to make 1 good fan from parts from a second. So the next week I bought a Sharp floor fan and took it to her. I couldn't understand much of what she was saying but her smile I'll never forget. Last Summer, I bought a 32" Sharp TV to replace the 20" she had. I took it to her home set it up and left, while she was visiting a neighbor. Didn't need to see her face to know she would be happy and thankful. 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoshowJones Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 2 hours ago, BobbyL said: Firstly, buying the MIL a house? Jesus Christ Secondly, why the hell would they allow their MIL to ever even contemplate moving in? Some guys here are such suckers and seem to never have heard about putting their foot down and not letting people take the p! ss. But a lot of the silly old Farangs need to buy the love of their Thai wifes and her family as that is the only way they will get them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoshowJones Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 25 minutes ago, johnmcc6 said: I replaced a second hand tin shed for a proper kitchen and will soon do a bathroom make over. Why? Because I can. They have never asked a thing from me. They also returned sin sot money. Trying to live at their age with no water pressure and a bucket is not on. It's all under the heading of family. I am not trying to get at you, but is it not a bit stupid to pay a sin sot in the first place, it is a Thai custom, not yours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
i claudius Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 my mother in law gave my wife the house we live in all i did was spend some cash to modernize/upgrade to make for comfortable livingMine has a far bigger house than me. And ours is not smallSent from my [device_name] using http://Thailand Forum - Thaivisa mobile app Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kolkolkol Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 2 hours ago, Classic Ray said: It's just a cultural difference. In the West, old people in need either live in their offspring's house or in elder accommodation, with any shortfall in funds made up by pension or the welfare state. In Asia, it is the responsibility of the offspring to care for their parents and in some cases their siblings, family first, no welfare state. Buying houses is part of the process. Never helped me as my wife does not get on with her grasping parents, who never looked after her as a kid, so they will get nothing from us. In Korea , where it is considered as Asia, parents buy their children a home to settle in after marriage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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