Getting married to Thai wife in a month: Need help to know if she is cheating. :(

[cyberfarang]

25 minutes ago, mikehongpark said:

Thanks for all the replies. It's just hard to just let go without being sure as I have vested around $100K into this relationship in the last 4 years. Also, I have put down payments for the banquet hall, dress rentals, photographer, backdrop, hotel, and etc.... Yeah, I know that I'm a dumbass for not checking up on her sooner. Waste of 4 years and a broken heart and things like this make a person numb to emotions and will be hard to trust another person, at least for awhile. Need to learn that trust is earned, not given.

Are you ready for the truth? If so sit down and brace yourself.

 

Just been over the Thai script briefly with my wife.

 

Basically, the guy says he loves her, your girl is saying sex talk with him and towards the end she says; once she`s got the money she`ll run away and leave, assuming the money part is from you.

 

Good luck.

 

[Mavideol]

My Thai friend just told me to pass to you the words.... RUN, RUN FORREST, RUN

[Ahab]

You have doubts, trust your gut feeling, bail now.

 

As other have said there are plenty of women in Thailand and if you have doubts about someone, find another. In general I have seen very few long distance relationships where the guy only visits a couple of times a year work out. However, I have seen many cases where a Thai girl shacks up with her Thai husband/boyfriend and then has him move out for the couple of weeks of the "visit", or worse still she passes him off as her "brother" that lives with her.

[Hummin]

7 minutes ago, cyberfarang said:

Are you ready for the truth? If so sit down and brace yourself.

 

Just been over the Thai script briefly with my wife.

 

Basically, the guy says he loves her, your girl is saying sex talk with him and towards the end she says; once she`s got the money she`ll run away and leave, assuming the money part is from you.

 

Good luck.

 

Seems she keeping her gig at hand by promising something she would not do. As long the money flow in her directions, there is no runaway. 

 

I learned quite early, how to make yourselves interesting to the women, using their own tactic. 

 

 

[Ahab]

42 minutes ago, mikehongpark said:

Thanks for all the replies. It's just hard to just let go without being sure as I have vested around $100K into this relationship in the last 4 years. Also, I have put down payments for the banquet hall, dress rentals, photographer, backdrop, hotel, and etc.... Yeah, I know that I'm a dumbass for not checking up on her sooner. Waste of 4 years and a broken heart and things like this make a person numb to emotions and will be hard to trust another person, at least for awhile. Need to learn that trust is earned, not given.

Cheaper to move on and not make the same mistakes next time.

[Mavideol]

44 minutes ago, mikehongpark said:

Thanks for all the replies. It's just hard to just let go without being sure as I have vested around $100K into this relationship in the last 4 years. Also, I have put down payments for the banquet hall, dress rentals, photographer, backdrop, hotel, and etc.... Yeah, I know that I'm a dumbass for not checking up on her sooner. Waste of 4 years and a broken heart and things like this make a person numb to emotions and will be hard to trust another person, at least for awhile. Need to learn that trust is earned, not given.

are you saying this is the first time in 4 years that happen???? doubt

[cyberfarang]

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She says; some people have been accusing her of acting like a slut, probably meaning going with a Farang and asking; does she really need to be doing this?

 

We assume it`s about money.

 

 

 

 

[mercman24]

ha ha the usual, i was seeing this girl (casual on my part)  her english is poor, i get this text, sorry i cannot see you anymore i am pregnant with my *girlfriend* wow that would be a first* only a few weeks ago she wanted me to go visit her family and daughter in Buriram, ok we see lots of happy stories on here, but i think the bad ones far outweigh the good ones. this guy has big doubts and the messages prove them to be true, save your money matey. as your future wife will be keeping her lover on your money..

[Mavideol]

17 minutes ago, cyberfarang said:

once she`s got the money she`ll run away and leave, assuming the money part is from you.

what else...  ATM machine??

[worgeordie]

Another newbie with woman problems,sure to generate

quite a few clicks.....

regards worgeordie

[Mavideol]

2 minutes ago, worgeordie said:

Another newbie with woman problems,sure to generate

quite a few clicks.....

regards worgeordie

it happens quite often here.... at least once a week, guess they don't read the forums

[samsensam]

 

i have dated a lot of women back home and here - and in other countries, i've never felt the need to spy or check up on any of them.

 

surely common sense suggests that if you feel the need to check up on your partner the relationship is not in a good place - unless checking up on people in your life is normal behaviour for you?!

[theguyfromanotherforum]

Well, 100k (US dollars - not baht as he did put a dollar sign in front).

 

There will be a few guys saying that nothing is for "free".

 

Maybe not, but if you weren't acting like a big spender the girl wouldn't be interested in you in the first place. I find that not giving money generally rules out scammers. When I dated my wife I wasn't giving her a single baht. You know.... decent women are generally like that. 

 

 

 

 

[TonyClifton]

15 minutes ago, mercman24 said:

i get this text, sorry i cannot see you anymore i am pregnant with my *girlfriend* wow that would be a first*

Not really, it just means she's quite handy with a turkey baster.

 

[anon537687643]

Sucker and so naive !

 

 

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[Somtamnication]

All I can say is:

 

[Hummin]

37 minutes ago, worgeordie said:

Another newbie with woman problems,sure to generate

quite a few clicks.....

regards worgeordie

Well delicate themes is the recipee, and we all getting of our chest what we have been thinking.  

[NanLaew]

1 hour ago, mikehongpark said:

Thanks for all the replies. It's just hard to just let go without being sure as I have vested around $100K into this relationship in the last 4 years. Also, I have put down payments for the banquet hall, dress rentals, photographer, backdrop, hotel, and etc.... Yeah, I know that I'm a dumbass for not checking up on her sooner. Waste of 4 years and a broken heart and things like this make a person numb to emotions and will be hard to trust another person, at least for awhile. Need to learn that trust is earned, not given.

In the meantime, get even and bang her sister.

[theguyfromanotherforum]

3 minutes ago, NanLaew said:

In the meantime, get even and bang her sister.

 

Or brother ????

[spidermike007]

Get out. Get out now. You are a very fortunate man, that you found this conversation, and have forewarning. You would be an absolute fool to move forward. There are plenty of good Thai women out there. Do not marry one who is already having affairs (and I do say plural, as the tendency is there, so one or a dozen, virtually no difference), and save yourself some agony. Just walk away. Now. If she questions you, just say you do not know who I am, you do not appreciate or respect me, and you do not deserve me. See ya, but I wouldn't want to be ya!

 

Later alligator. That is all you need to do. DO NOT move forward.

[Rugon]

2 hours ago, colinneil said:

What a load of bloody nonsense, if you have doubts do not get married, simple as that.

If you can't read what is written, why bother posting? Not just you, but all the others.

 

OP, it looks like your GF is not cheating but is concerned if you are and love her. However, it is a bit difficult to tell what is exactly going on.

[Lacessit]

IMHO the OP was trying out for the gold medal for longest OP.

[Spidey]

Had my wife translate it. Definitely a conversation between boyfriend and girlfriend, more than just good friends. Refers to her as "teerak" (darling). Pretty sure that they are banging each other.

 

Never get married unless you have 100% trust in each other.

 

To the OP: She's taking you for a ride. I wouldn't touch her with a barge pole. Time for a sharp exit stage left.

[colinneil]

1 minute ago, Rugon said:

If you can't read what is written, why bother posting? Not just you, but all the others.

 

OP, it looks like your GF is not cheating but is concerned if you are and love her. However, it is a bit difficult to tell what is exactly going on.

Whatever you are on, you need to stop now, as it is addling your brain.

[Rugon]

2 minutes ago, Spidey said:

Had my wife translate it. Definitely a conversation between boyfriend and girlfriend, more than just good friends. Refers to her as "teerak" (darling). Pretty sure that they are banging each other.

 

Never get married unless you have 100% trust in each other.

 

To the OP: She's taking you for a ride. I wouldn't touch her with a barge pole. Time for a sharp exit stage left.

I disagree, it looks more like a conversation between a girl and a close friend. 

[Rugon]

3 minutes ago, colinneil said:

Whatever you are on, you need to stop now, as it is addling your brain.

The guy asked for translation, and as you couldn't do it, you decided to offer advice though it wasn't asked for. Get a life. I wonder if you're another long-term expat that still can't read Thai.

[Spidey]

5 minutes ago, Rugon said:

If you can't read what is written, why bother posting? Not just you, but all the others.

 

OP, it looks like your GF is not cheating but is concerned if you are and love her. However, it is a bit difficult to tell what is exactly going on.

Really? Doesn't seem that you can read Thai. I got a completely different story from someone who is Thai. 

 

That or you're a friend of the OP's girlfriend. Offered you a cut, has she?

[colinneil]

3 minutes ago, Rugon said:

The guy asked for translation, and as you couldn't do it, you decided to offer advice though it wasn't asked for. Get a life. I wonder if you're another long-term expat that still can't read Thai.

Well again you are wrong, you post nonsense, then attack others when you have no idea about them. 

In the text it says teerak (English DARLING) WHEN DOES A FRIEND SAY THAT TO ANOTHER FRIEND?

[realenglish1]

Go to Fiverr.com  and find someone to translate They will do it for $5 easy problem solved dude Then you will know the truth

[mikehongpark]

2 hours ago, sammieuk1 said:

She no trust you always spying ????

Only spied after she went to Moscow on vacation and never saw her female friend that she supposed to be with. She saved here FaceBook on my laptop and now I am in this ordeal. 4 years wasted, 30 friends who booked tickets to Thailand whom I have to notify, and $100K+ down the drain.