Popular Post bob smith Posted November 12, 2022 Popular Post Share Posted November 12, 2022 (edited) i have just started a new job for a thai company, work permit, B visa the lot. However i want some advice about working with thais. it seems the work culture is vastly different here than to the west and other asian countires. i have workd in singapore, japan and taiwan. here they seem to enjoy gossipping and eating more than they do work. they try to get me to join in the bickering about whoever is not there but i dont wantr to get involved., recently i have been given the cold shoulder at the office due to my non conformity in gossping and bickering. all i want to do is do my job and go homewithout any fuss. last friday a girl asked me why i didnt bring any food for her because it was her birthday and all her friends had brought he chocoolate, i told her she should hav e told me it was her birthday and she said no i should have asked!! i was aloso recently asdked for a donation of money to tgive to the monks, which i refused (they wanted 500 baht) and now many ppl at the office wont talk to me. i refused because i am not budhist and never go to pray so I thought they would understand, but it turns out i was wrong. is that really how it works here in the office? i would like to add that i dont rreally need the job, its just something to pass the time but i would like some adivce and how to deal with thai people in the workplace. thank you. Edited November 12, 2022 by bob smith 2 1 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Sparktrader Posted November 12, 2022 Popular Post Share Posted November 12, 2022 Is this story real or another made up one? 4 1 2 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post bob smith Posted November 12, 2022 Author Popular Post Share Posted November 12, 2022 (edited) 6 minutes ago, Sparktrader said: Is this story real or another made up one? its real and I would apprciate real replies thanks Edited November 12, 2022 by bob smith 2 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Sparktrader Posted November 12, 2022 Popular Post Share Posted November 12, 2022 26 minutes ago, bob smith said: last friday a girl asked me why i didnt bring any food for her because it was her birthday and all her Sorry story sounds not real. A girl you just met wants a present? Nah I dont believe it. Another Koh Chang story. Get off the booze. 3 9 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparktrader Posted November 12, 2022 Share Posted November 12, 2022 29 minutes ago, bob smith said: was her birthday and all her friends had brought he chocoolate Yes friends ie known each other for 1 year+ buy stuff for friends. You meet her a week ago. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post TravelerEastWest Posted November 12, 2022 Popular Post Share Posted November 12, 2022 I don't know about your office staff but Thailand is interesting and not that efficient at times. We make donations to local community projects as we are expected to - but don't always agree with the project... But sometimes they are ahead of the West example they banned smoking in public places earlier. There are a number of books available on this subject which will help you visit Asia books etc. Good luck. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post garrya Posted November 12, 2022 Popular Post Share Posted November 12, 2022 12 minutes ago, bob smith said: its real and I would apprciate real replies thanks My missus, who is Thai, has been saying the same things. Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do. Be friendly, get involved odd times, and you'll be ok. This is one thing farangs have no clue about. On another note, don't listen to this Sparktrader guy. He seems to believe he knows anything about Thailand better than others. ???? 5 2 6 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lacessit Posted November 12, 2022 Share Posted November 12, 2022 7 minutes ago, bob smith said: its real and I would apprciate real replies thanks IMO Sparktrader wants to get his post count up, that's why most of his responses are brief. Attention-seeker. Asian businesses work on a consensus basis. However, there will always be an alpha male all the rest defer to when it comes to a final decision. Sometimes an alpha female. 500 baht is definitely a try-on, I'll bet most were donating 20-100 baht. It would not bother me if Thai co-workers did not talk to me, their topics of conversation are usually food, who is bonking whom, and money. In your shoes, I would simply go about my work, and ignore them. Believe it or not, more effective employees do get noticed. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Lacessit Posted November 12, 2022 Popular Post Share Posted November 12, 2022 6 minutes ago, garrya said: On another note, don't listen to this Sparktrader guy. He seems to believe he knows anything about Thailand better than others. ???? So I am not alone in noticing this attribute. 4 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gottfrid Posted November 12, 2022 Share Posted November 12, 2022 I will give you a real answer. You will be mighty popular with your vast knowledge of the things in a country you start working. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparktrader Posted November 12, 2022 Share Posted November 12, 2022 9 minutes ago, garrya said: My missus, who is Thai, has been saying the same things. Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do. Be friendly, get involved odd times, and you'll be ok. This is one thing farangs have no clue about. On another note, don't listen to this Sparktrader guy. He seems to believe he knows anything about Thailand better than others. ???? Conparing a wife to a girl he met 3 days ago? This is nonsense. Go read his Koh Chang. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bbi1 Posted November 12, 2022 Share Posted November 12, 2022 I would quit the job, honestly, it's the only smart thing to do. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bbi1 Posted November 12, 2022 Share Posted November 12, 2022 36 minutes ago, andy said: I like Thailand as a place to visit, and may spend part of my retirement there when the time comes. Working? I'll never do it again and wouldn't recommend it. Spot on. The OP should quit. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
farmerjo Posted November 12, 2022 Share Posted November 12, 2022 I found working with Thai's a breath of fresh air. Just remember if you tell them something and they smile and nod their head,they didn't understand you so back out with the picture that is worth a thousand words. I used to find giving the odd donation at work here easier than being hounded on a friday in my home country with a dozen raffles doing the rounds. But it is ok to say no,your choice how you spend your money. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Jerno Posted November 12, 2022 Popular Post Share Posted November 12, 2022 First, perhaps try typing properly with capital letters, otherwise you look like a 8 year old on the computer. Furthermore if you're the only Farang at that office, good luck fitting in. Marry a Thai, then you're going to learn a lot and perhaps a chance to fit in. 1 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneMoreFarang Posted November 12, 2022 Share Posted November 12, 2022 What is your position in that company? Are you on the same hierarchy level as the Thai people who you talk about? Are there other foreigners/farangs? Is it a small or a big company? And if you don't need the job, why do you do it? To have company? To learn about Thailand and Thai culture? To make money? It seems they try to include you. I would see that as a welcoming sign. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Adumbration Posted November 12, 2022 Popular Post Share Posted November 12, 2022 Jesus...why on Earth did admin hire this guy... 1 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adumbration Posted November 12, 2022 Share Posted November 12, 2022 36 minutes ago, farmerjo said: I found working with Thai's a breath of fresh air. No doubt you are very good at hearding cats as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GammaGlobulin Posted November 12, 2022 Share Posted November 12, 2022 Nobody here, or in the workplace, enjoys a Farang who is overly confrontational. Never get into a shouting match... I.e.: Never try to by a Steve Ballmer in Thailand. Don't throw chairs during an office meeting, is great advice. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elkski Posted November 12, 2022 Share Posted November 12, 2022 Interesting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneMoreFarang Posted November 12, 2022 Share Posted November 12, 2022 23 minutes ago, Elkski said: Interesting. Which part? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Sparktrader Posted November 12, 2022 Popular Post Share Posted November 12, 2022 2 hours ago, bob smith said: dont rreally need the job, its just something to pass the time That part. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Sparktrader Posted November 12, 2022 Popular Post Share Posted November 12, 2022 2 hours ago, bob smith said: was aloso recently asdked for a donation of money to tgive to the monks, Or this part. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Pmbkk Posted November 12, 2022 Popular Post Share Posted November 12, 2022 1 hour ago, bbi1 said: I would quit the job, honestly, it's the only smart thing to do. I think he should quit Thailand.... ???? 1 1 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1FinickyOne Posted November 12, 2022 Share Posted November 12, 2022 whatever you instinctively feel, do the opposite... Can't stand ya Castanza Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Fat is a type of crazy Posted November 12, 2022 Popular Post Share Posted November 12, 2022 (edited) I know it can be tedious in the office but the first few months can be seen as a time to build a reputation as a friendly guy willing to join in with things. As a farang they may think you may wish to distance yourself or that you think you're special. Donate to the buddhist thing - 500 baht won't kill you - and it shows you want to be part of things. The thai lady may have been half joking but your serious reaction may have turned her off - why not bring a small block of chocolate the next day and say 'Enjoy' and smile. Gossip can be fun or a bore. See the funny side - take an interest in the office politics and relationships so you understand what's what. Most people want someone to listen and as a new person you are not expected to contribute. Over time you'll work out that some gossipers are tedious to everyone, or meanspirited, and some are actually fun. Long cut short some effort now might make it better and easier in the longer term to be yourself. Edited November 12, 2022 by Fat is a type of crazy 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VinnieK Posted November 12, 2022 Share Posted November 12, 2022 I have to deal with Thais very often (in a professional capacity that is). Tenants and an assortment of builders/repairmen. You can't squeeze an ounce of truth from them, esp. the second group. Bare-faced lies, false promises and then some. Many a time I tried, in vain, to encourage them to tell me the truth. Never seems to happen. Lying is a way if life here. Never gonna change. Oh..and Thai women are terrible house-keepers. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post CartagenaWarlock Posted November 12, 2022 Popular Post Share Posted November 12, 2022 (edited) 9 hours ago, andy said: I like Thailand as a place to visit, and may spend part of my retirement there when the time comes. Working? I'll never do it again and wouldn't recommend it. I like Thailand a place for sugar babies and have fun with them in bed and outside. Where can you get a 19-year old model looking girl for 50+ men for a sugar baby for 3K USD for a month and enjoy her silky smooth body in her birthday suit all night? Agreed that conversation will be minimal but not intellectually challenging but who cares. I prefer it that. A few screams of "oh I love you" at night when I am inside her moist sacred hole is all I want and fulfilling. Edited November 12, 2022 by CartagenaWarlock 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post OneMoreFarang Posted November 12, 2022 Popular Post Share Posted November 12, 2022 1 hour ago, VinnieK said: Lying is a way if life here. There is a reason why there is not a single word for no. Mai chai - Not yes 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneMoreFarang Posted November 12, 2022 Share Posted November 12, 2022 16 minutes ago, CartagenaWarlock said: Agreed that conversation will be minimal Perfect. When I go out to have some fun I always like when girls don't ask all those stupid question: where do you come from, etc. Smile, move your body and look at me like you enjoy it and all is fine. ???? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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