Recovering alcoholics in relationships

[Andy F]

Dear friends of Bill

 

On page 53 of the 12 steps and 12 traditions, Bill W makes a statement that I found shocking. In the chapter about step 4, Bill writes: "The primary fact we fail to recognize is our total inability to form a true partnership with another human being."  Both drunk and sober, I had one dysfunctional relationship after another. Sooner or later, they all fell apart. My first ever experience of honesty in my dealings with another human being was with my AA sponsor. After going through the 12 steps with him, I began to discover what healthy love even was. I hope you like the blog I wrote about it.

https://aaforagnostics.com/blog/recovering-alcoholics-in-relationships/

Edited April 28, 2023 by Andy F

[JayClay]

4 hours ago, Andy F said:

My first ever experience of an honest relationship was with my AA sponsor

While I have little knowledge of what sponsorship in AA involves, just from the terminology it leads me to question whether this kind of thing should be allowed?

 

In any normal institution, you would not be allowed to get romantically involved with a vulnerable person if you're also supposed to be supporting their recovery.