If you were looking for a new relationship today what age gap would you aim for and why?

[jerrymahoney]

I always look forward to posts like the above to learn just how it is to have sex in Thailand. Reminds me of this from Coal Miner's Daughter -- Loretta Lynn and husband Doolittle Lynn

 

LL This stuff's cold.

DL It's because it froze between here and the damn restaurant.
You want a hot breakfast, you got to go with me.

LL I ain't going in there having all them people looking at me knowing what we've been doing in here.

DL Hell's bells, Loretta, do you think this is something the rest of the world ain't caught on to yet?

They don't give a damn.

Edited August 1, 2023 by jerrymahoney

[earlinclaifornia]

I'm 74 and would try out my luck with the 45 year olds. Been a non paying member of ThaiCupid since 2016 

[Hummin]

11 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

LOL. IMO a man's ( that is an alpha man ) primal urge after eating and finding shelter is to screw as many fertile women as possible.

 

Provide

emotional

loyal

loving

 

IMO all that is for betas that end up looking after other men's children.

The core is dicipline and a morel compass, and  do not involve chasing girls at same age as your doughter or grand dougter! 

 

Be the best man you can be! Doesnt even need to be macho to be the best you can be

[FruitPudding]

On 7/29/2023 at 12:31 AM, Jacques Clouseau said:

That comment was fxcked up, bro.

It is kinda a mind bender though when you are dating a 20 year old and then you realize that when you were her age........she wasn't even born yet!

[NextG]

12 minutes ago, Hummin said:

The core is dicipline and a morel compass, and  do not involve chasing girls at same age as your doughter or grand dougter! 

 

Be the best man you can be! Doesnt even need to be macho to be the best you can be

Some are already too far gone. No chance for them to understand anything. 

[sidjameson]

20 hours ago, Hummin said:

Look up primals 

 

A man’s primal drive is to provide.

 

A man’s primal drive is to be strong.

 

A man’s primal drive is to be a strong sexual being.

 

A man’s primal drive is to be emotional, whether that be in emotion, or centering that channel of energy into a passion of yours.

 

A man’s primal drive is to be the best man they can be. To do the work necessary to be a complete person.

 

To be loyal.

 

To be loving.

 

A man’s primal drive is to rid himself of the ego, and concentrate on consciousness

I think you've just described what a woman who has ridden the c.o.c,k carousel and is an alpha widow would love to mould a beta man into. 

 

 

[Hummin]

1 minute ago, sidjameson said:

I think you've just described what a woman who has ridden the c.o.c,k carousel and is an alpha widow would love to mould a beta man into. 

 

 

Eeach and one can read in to it as they want, and please eloborate what is wrong with the statement? And what doesnt fit your view of the listed qualities? 

 

It is not a Tate take on it, if that is worrying you, it is just basic standards that makes a difference for you and those you are involved with. 

 

To many give up, and find themselves without passion for live, and why? A man without purpose is a lost soul. 

[BritManToo]

5 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Eeach and one can read in to it as they want, and please eloborate what is wrong with the statement? And what doesnt fit your view of the listed qualities? 

You've confused the words 'alpha' with 'weak'

Genghis Khan was the greatest alpha male .......

Edited August 1, 2023 by BritManToo

[Elkski]

The last couple pages seem to have got off track.  

I recall a time in my early 20s thinking well dressed fit and beautiful 40 yr olds were where it was at.  I lived in Dallas tx, unfortunately they had have an interest in me but i also didn't pursue them.   When i was 14-16 I thought 18 year olds were the hottest women. 

I never would have thought about dating someone 15-20 yesrs younger until I started traveling to Thailand.  

In Thailand I've seen the older guys out with an attractive girl  30-50 years younger it seemed.  Obviously they both felt there was a reason to be together. Money or whatever.  As long as the girl is legal who am I to judge? 

I myself have felt it was wrong when their age was nearing my daughter's. 

Love is love but I  think anyone who doesn't take advantage of the  acceptability in SEAsia  of 10-20 year age gaps is crazy.  

About this primal stuff.  

Maybe it is genetic  that some women are caring and men are the hunters.  I would have been a good provider in cave man days not  because a need to he a provider but I am a good hunter 

Men are more visual , at least I am. I need certain visual things or lack of some for my primal to be fully engaged. 

I love smooth dark complexions, strong lean backs and square shoulders, a thin waist. I don't like toothpick legs because I'm getting old and want her to carry a big share of the meat off the mountain. I don't like surgical enhancements.  To each his own.  

Edited August 1, 2023 by Elkski

[Hummin]

12 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

You've confused the words 'alpha' with 'weak'

Genghis Khan was the greatest alpha male .......

I would love to see this qoute being confirmed by any proofs. If that is your view of a alpha male, then just bee it. Many great worriers of their time have been misquoted, as well for the time being, they are only product of the time being as well, and in war, fear is the worst enemy, and those worriers knew and still know hot to use it for their own benefits. 

 

Where does this quote come from? What did he mean when saying it? Do we actually have confirmation that he even did say this?

I've looked around and haven't found much. It's not in the Secret History of the Mongols. I've found a blog saying that it's quoted in Ibn Battuta's travelogues (writing over a hundred years after Genghis' death), possibly as a way to denigrate the Mongols:

http://albeityacademic.blogspot.co.uk/2010/05/capturing-chinggis-qahan-in-secret.html

But I don't have access to Battuta's original text.

Did Battuta get it from any earlier source? Is the quote actually consistent with Mongols' self-portrayal, or is it just a volley in the propaganda wars between the Mongols and their enemies?

 

https://history.stackexchange.com/questions/23975/what-was-the-context-of-this-famous-genghis-khan-quote

[Hummin]

1 minute ago, Elkski said:

The last couple pages seem to have got off track.  

I recall a time in my early 20s thinking well dressed fit and beautiful 40 yr olds were where it was at.  I lived in Dallas tx and they had no interest in me.   When i was 14-16 i thought 18 year olds were the hottest women. 

I never would have thought about dating someone 15-20 yesrs younger until I started traveling to Thailand.  

Iin Thailand I've seen the older guys out with an attractive girl  30-50 years younger it seemed.  Obviously they both felt there was a reason to be together. Money or whatever.  As long as the girl is legal who am I to judge? 

I myself have felt it was wrong when their age was nearing my daughter's. 

Love is love but I  think anyone who doesn't take advantage of the  acceptability in SEAsia  of 10-20 year age gaps is crazy.  

About this primal stuff.  

Maybe it is genetic  that some women are caring and men are the hunters.  I wiukd have been a good provider in cave man days  because i am a provider but i am a good hunter 

Men are more visual , at least I am. I need certain visual things or lack of aome for my primal to be fully engaged. 

I love smooth dark complexions, strong lean backs and square shoulders, a thin waist. I don't like toothpick legs because I'm getting old and want her to carry a big share of the meat off the mountain. I don't like surgical enhancements.  To each his own.  

Then you are back to basics, what a woman needs in life, and when one level is reached, she attempts the next, same as men, but slightly different. 

 

a feminine perspective on Maslow's hierarchy of needs

 

https://www.kategilbertstudio.com/blog/2013/3/11/a-feminine-perspective-on-maslows-hierarchy-of-needs.html

[sidjameson]

36 minutes ago, Hummin said:

please eloborate what is wrong with the statement? 

 

Because your qualities of "providing, loyal loving" are fine if you find a woman who ....

 

1. Is attractive...imagine a guy providing for an ugly woman. Don't want to disparage ugly women but it just isn't our natural state to work for someone who isn't providing beauty.

 

2. She didn't get baggage from other men. We all know men are pigs at times. Providing for damaged goods.....why do it?

 

The deal you propose worked for the past. But are you saying that a man should work hard and provide financial security for a woman that enjoyed her young days with casual sex while the guy worked on his career?

[BangkokReady]

2 hours ago, Hummin said:

The core is dicipline and a morel compass, and  do not involve chasing girls at same age as your doughter or grand dougter! 

Why?

[BangkokReady]

22 hours ago, Hummin said:

I answered that earlier, most Thai girls wants a thai man who provide for them! 

A lot of Thai girls seem happy with a lazy Thai guy who they end up supporting.  It's a crazy place.

[BangkokReady]

On 7/31/2023 at 6:58 AM, OneMoreFarang said:

Why would that be a problem?

Does it really matter if a woman is attracted to you because you are tall or have these wonderful blue eyes or you are a celebrity or have money?

If she is attached to you and if she makes you happy then all is good.

Infected with "wokeness", many people seem to believe that while a woman can say she wants a tall rich guy, men have to focus on personality and ignore looks.

 

Feminism's one hell of a drug...  

[Hummin]

22 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

A lot of Thai girls seem happy with a lazy Thai guy who they end up supporting.  It's a crazy place.

and alot of thai girls ending up caring for an older man, who barealy suppurt them. 

 

Ref many statements here on this fora. 

 

Nothing is carved in stone why people make those choices, where they ending up giving for almost nothing in return. 

[thaibeachlovers]

13 hours ago, Hummin said:

The core is dicipline and a morel compass, and  do not involve chasing girls at same age as your doughter or grand dougter! 

 

Be the best man you can be! Doesnt even need to be macho to be the best you can be

Far as I see, the guys with the least morals get the money, the power and the best looking women.

We with morals are the losers, IMO.

 

Why so fixated on age? Shouldn't we be looking for the best person to be with, PERIOD?

If a legal age person is prepared to be with someone that is older, so what? Why should Hugh Heffner or Mick Jagger be the ones to get the hot women, and not us?

 

I was brought up with morals, and chose to be so, but if I had a younger woman as a wife, that's nobody's business except hers and mine.

[thaibeachlovers]

12 hours ago, Hummin said:

Eeach and one can read in to it as they want, and please eloborate what is wrong with the statement? And what doesnt fit your view of the listed qualities? 

 

It is not a Tate take on it, if that is worrying you, it is just basic standards that makes a difference for you and those you are involved with. 

 

To many give up, and find themselves without passion for live, and why? A man without purpose is a lost soul. 

 

If the below are what you refer to, I was all that and got used, abused and ended up with nothing. If I could go back 20 years I'd behave like an alpha and have a better life with women. They may not have been able to exploit me, but I'd have enjoyed the ride a whole lot more than I did.

 

Provide

emotional

loyal

loving

[thaibeachlovers]

10 hours ago, Hummin said:

and alot of thai girls ending up caring for an older man, who barealy suppurt them. 

Do you have any evidence to support that? I doubt it's true.

For starters, what Thai woman would marry a farang that they had to support?

 

[bignok]

54 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Far as I see, the guys with the least morals get the money, the power and the best looking women.

We with morals are the losers, IMO.

 

Why so fixated on age? Shouldn't we be looking for the best person to be with, PERIOD?

If a legal age person is prepared to be with someone that is older, so what? Why should Hugh Heffner or Mick Jagger be the ones to get the hot women, and not us?

 

I was brought up with morals, and chose to be so, but if I had a younger woman as a wife, that's nobody's business except hers and mine.

Women like bad dudes when young. They get burnt then go for good dudes later.

[bignok]

49 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

 

If the below are what you refer to, I was all that and got used, abused and ended up with nothing. If I could go back 20 years I'd behave like an alpha and have a better life with women. They may not have been able to exploit me, but I'd have enjoyed the ride a whole lot more than I did.

 

Provide

emotional

loyal

loving

We all end up dead. Mosr Thais have no money yet enjoy life.

[BangkokReady]

1 hour ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Far as I see, the guys with the least morals get the money, the power and the best looking women.

We with morals are the losers, IMO.

It's true.  Despite what we were told in cartoons and movies, the unpleasant people seem to prosper and everyone else just lets them do what they want.

 

1 hour ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Why so fixated on age? Shouldn't we be looking for the best person to be with, PERIOD?

If a legal age person is prepared to be with someone that is older, so what? Why should Hugh Heffner or Mick Jagger be the ones to get the hot women, and not us?

I don't see how having a large age-gap can be immoral, unless there is a suggestion that the woman is uncapable of making her own decisions or is being coerced in some way.  The downside is mainly that the guy is going to die years before the woman.  If she's OK with that, and OK with his age and appearance, then there isn't much else to think about.  (Most women who outlive their spouse are actually OK with it, unlike men.)

 

1 hour ago, thaibeachlovers said:

I was brought up with morals, and chose to be so, but if I had a younger woman as a wife, that's nobody's business except hers and mine.

I would say generally yes, but her parents should probably be OK with it.

[NextG]

13 hours ago, BangkokReady said:

Infected with "wokeness", many people seem to believe that while a woman can say she wants a tall rich guy, men have to focus on personality and ignore looks.

 

Feminism's one hell of a drug...  

Who says that?! You’ve just written an absolutely made up piece of rubbish ☺️Many people ????

[BangkokReady]

2 minutes ago, NextG said:

Who says that?!

Many people.  ????

 

2 minutes ago, NextG said:

You’ve just written an absolutely made up piece of rubbish

No.

[NextG]

2 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

Many people.  ????

 

No.

Made up nonsense. 

[BangkokReady]

2 minutes ago, NextG said:

Made up nonsense. 

No.  Sexist double standards when it comes to mate-selection are quite apparent.

[NextG]

32 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

It's true.  Despite what we were told in cartoons and movies, the unpleasant people seem to prosper and everyone else just lets them do what they want.

 

I don't see how having a large age-gap can be immoral, unless there is a suggestion that the woman is uncapable of making her own decisions or is being coerced in some way.  The downside is mainly that the guy is going to die years before the woman.  If she's OK with that, and OK with his age and appearance, then there isn't much else to think about.  (Most women who outlive their spouse are actually OK with it, unlike men.)

 

I would say generally yes, but her parents should probably be OK with it.

Really? How did it turn out for Jeffrey Epstein et al? 
When your friends are based on money, they can soon melt away. As some people reading have found out to their cost. 
This is the real point being made about chasing younger women. Most only do it here because they think they can AFFORD to do so. It’s not based on anything other than they think they can afford her. They think that’s what makes them men and furthermore, some make silly comments about ‘wokeness’ thinking that it makes them a member of an exclusive club of real men…. when they are really just immature people. 
 

[NextG]

5 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

No.  Sexist double standards when it comes to mate-selection are quite apparent.

You sound like a victim. Of course you can meet up with a twenty five year old… but does she actually like you? ☺️

[Lucky Bones]

I reckon a lot of our posters still confuse ambitions and abilities.

Really, I can't imagine a 30 year younger than me hottie to understand who Johnny Rotten is.

After the sex there is a void when I open the stereo.????????

[NextG]

5 minutes ago, Lucky Bones said:

I reckon a lot of our posters still confuse ambitions and abilities.

Really, I can't imagine a 30 year younger than me hottie to understand who Johnny Rotten is.

After the sex there is a void when I open the stereo.????????

Unfortunate that you had such poor taste in music ☺️???? If someone is generally interested in you and they like your style…

But we know most of the people writing about pulling younger women have almost no deeper connections with them at all. Perhaps just money and drinking.