Not Liking Thai People

[JimTripper]

I no longer want to be around thai people.

 

I'm finding them annoying and just not enjoyable to interact with. They seem to be in a rush, stressed out, etc. Is it time for me to move?

[Celsius]

No, don't move that's what they want you to do

[observer90210]

They say that one attracts one's peers....no offence but we tend to attract people that are unconsciously like we may be.

[proton]

In a rush? that's the last thing I would say, apart from when driving of course

[richard_smith237]

25 minutes ago, JimTripper said:

Is it time for me to move?

 

Its time for you to sit down and have a beer with Bob Smith.....      Someone record it and put it on TV, it could be quite an amusing display of 'emotion' !!

 

 

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To deal with your generalisation respectfully is difficult because its not a respectful generalisation, its not even remotely accurate of any generalisation of Thai people I've encountered or read, in fact quite the opposite is often generalised - that Thai's are too relaxed.

 

Thus, the issues are far more likely to be due to your immediate surroundings than any general national character. 

 

 

 

Having recently spent some time in a nation known for having difficult nationals I was ready to dummy spit and started tarring all with the same brush, yet, on occasion I was pleasantly surprised and didn't allow negative generalisations to impact decisions. Under the premise of the very nature of a generalisation, those negative generelastions were true of course, but they shouldn't tar every interaction..... 

Now I'm 'out' I can safely sit back in with the knowledge that my own racist bigotry isn't actually that at all, its just that some national traits are what they are and having developed 'fair opinions' based on rounded experience is just that.... experience.

 

So... what you are experiencing may not be due to where you are, but 'where' you are...  i.e. IF you are in the very centre of a hustle and bustle tourist hotspot, then visit a different area and re-set.

 

After too long in any area its nice for a reset to once again appreciate the good.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Edited October 24, 2023 by richard_smith237

[richard_smith237]

9 minutes ago, observer90210 said:

They say that one attracts one's peers....no offence but we tend to attract people that are unconsciously like we may be.

 

In the same way you were attracted to the negativity of the post, y'mean???? .....  no offence, but if you're calling the Op a bogan, then do so without dancing around the 'no offence card'.....

 

 

 

[save the frogs]

Yes, move to Hawaii. Where the people are friendlier and everything is 15 times more expensive.

 

And take Celsius with you. And then he can change his name to Fahrenheit. 

 

 

[daveAustin]

Probably not the best place to be if you don’t like the natives. Have a break. Personally prefer to be around Thais than people in my own country. Generally find them chilled and unstressed. Exact opposite to what you experience. Are you in one of those touristy places?

[StayinThailand2much]

I just had a very disappointing experience with a compatriot today, making me wonder whether there's something bad in the water here...

 

No, seriously, (Thai) people are very annoying, but the way to deal with it seems to be to outright ignore them. I say these days that I'm not living here because of Thai people, but in spite of them. Many seem to have 'big problems', and knowing that I manage my life here much better than most of them gives me satisfaction every day...

Edited October 24, 2023 by StayinThailand2much

[richard_smith237]

4 minutes ago, StayinThailand2much said:

I just had a very disappointing experience with a compatriot today, making me wonder whether there's something bad in the water here...

 

No, seriously, (Thai) people are very annoying, but the way to deal with it seems to be to outright ignore them. I say these days that I'm not living here because of Thai people, but in spite of them. Many seem to have 'big problems', and knowing that I manage my life here much better than most of them gives me satisfaction every day...

 

 

Then there are these quotes which provide some food for thought..

 

 

"If someone is an a55hole, they're an a55hole, if everyone is an <deleted>, you're the a55hole"

 

or

 

"If you run into an a55hole in the morning, you ran into an a55hole. If you run into a55holes all day, you're the a55hole."

[uzynkotak]

I don't vibe with most Thais either. 

[ChrisP24]

It's funny, but I sometimes have the same though about my own countrymen here in my country, that I don't particularly like being around them.  I like my own space, but when I do chat with people it's more interesting to me if their life experience has been different from mine.  And I wonder how well or poorly I would have done had I been born in their environment.  It's also interesting to me how their environment has shaped their view of the world.

[save the frogs]

6 hours ago, JimTripper said:

They seem to be in a rush, stressed out,

 

that's the silliest excuse for wanting to leave thailand ever maybe.

they're hustling.

people need to struggle to survive.

not everyone is retired.

what else? the waitresses are rude? 

you're taking the wrong attitude, man.

maybe you can show some empathy for their struggles.

Edited October 24, 2023 by save the frogs

[Ralf001]

They all pink on the inside.

[Mike Lister]

And the site is wondering why membership and post count is now so low, are you ferkin kidding me!

[Ben Zioner]

6 hours ago, proton said:

apart from when driving of course

When they are in a hurry  to go do nothing.

[2baht]

6 hours ago, JimTripper said:

Is it time for me to move?

   

    Man up! Take the bull by the horns and have a go!

[Bobthegimp]

9 minutes ago, Mike Lister said:

And the site is wondering why membership and post count is now so low, are you ferkin kidding me!

 

Start a meaningful thread. I haven't done it yet, so I'm grateful for those who start a thread on almost any topic.  Go back as far as you can on this board and read the old posts; they're not as stimulating as the old members remember them. 

 

Are the posters with negative feelings meeting Thais from the same social strata, or are they only surrounded by service industry or rural people?  It the latter is true, your interactions back home would be similar to what you have here, if anyone deigned to speak to you (beyond filling your order) in the first place.  

 

My minimal ability to speak and understand Thai are what limits my ability to converse with and understand the people here. I'm working on it though because the people are so friendly when I'm warm and open with them. 

 

I'm still in the honeymoon phase, and hope it lasts for as long as I remain here. 

[2baht]

10 minutes ago, Bobthegimp said:

I'm still in the honeymoon phase, and hope it lasts for as long as I remain here. 

   

    Not planning on staying for long? 🤔

[Mike Lister]

3 minutes ago, Bobthegimp said:

 

Start a meaningful thread. I haven't done it yet, so I'm grateful for those who start a thread on almost any topic.  Go back as far as you can on this board and read the old posts; they're not as stimulating as the old members remember them. 

 

Are the posters with negative feelings meeting Thais from the same social strata, or are they only surrounded by service industry or rural people?  It the latter is true, your interactions back home would be similar to what you have here, if anyone deigned to speak to you (beyond filling your order) in the first place.  

 

My minimal ability to speak and understand Thai are what limits my ability to converse with and understand the people here. I'm working on it though because the people are so friendly when I'm warm and open with them. 

 

I'm still in the honeymoon phase, and hope it lasts for as long as I remain here. 

I've started more meaningful threads on this and its predecessor forum since 2007 than you've ever read on all forums combined throughout your entire life! I don't need to go back and read those old threads, I was there when they were written and wrote many of them myself. Plus, I've lived in Thailand full time for 22 years and part time for a further 11 and speak Thai. I can tell you with absolute certainty that threads such as this serve absolutely no useful purpose for the forum, the visitor, expat or Thai communities, it is designed solely to shock, gain attention, aggravate  and annoy. Some poor lost soul is having a difficulty coping with the local population so he posts his feeling here, boo ferkin hoo, man up and deal with it and take your heart off your sleeve.

[2baht]

2 minutes ago, Mike Lister said:

Plus, I've lived in Thailand full time for 22 years and part time for a further 11 and speak Thai.

   

   You're a local ! 

[Mike Lister]

Just now, 2baht said:

   

   You're a local ! 

Yes, but not Thai.

[SAFETY FIRST]

7 hours ago, JimTripper said:

no longer want to be around thai people.

 

I'm the opposite, I no longer want to be around foreigners here in Thailand 

 

Their continual whinging and whining, they seem to be always bitter and nasty. 

 

The Thai bashers are the worst. 

Edited October 24, 2023 by SAFETY FIRST

[Mike Lister]

1 minute ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

I'm the opposite, I no longer want to be around foreigners here in Thailand 

I reached that point years ago, so did most other expats I have known. 

[spidermike007]

So sorry to hear. Perhaps it might be time for a change. 

 

I love most Thai people, and love my life here. I have alot of respect and affection for most Thai people who I consider lovely souls. I actually find the difference between the way we perceive the universe, and the way the average Thai (and my wife!) does, to be amusing, and an endless source of fascination. And I love their lighthearted spirit and their playful nature. 

Edited October 24, 2023 by spidermike007

[SAFETY FIRST]

7 hours ago, JimTripper said:

 time for me to move?

See Ya 👋

[2baht]

3 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

The Thai bashers are the worst. 

   

    But it's not too hard! Really! 

[spidermike007]

6 hours ago, richard_smith237 said:

 

Its time for you to sit down and have a beer with Bob Smith.....      Someone record it and put it on TV, it could be quite an amusing display of 'emotion' !!

 

 

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To deal with your generalisation respectfully is difficult because its not a respectful generalisation, its not even remotely accurate of any generalisation of Thai people I've encountered or read, in fact quite the opposite is often generalised - that Thai's are too relaxed.

 

Thus, the issues are far more likely to be due to your immediate surroundings than any general national character. 

 

 

 

Having recently spent some time in a nation known for having difficult nationals I was ready to dummy spit and started tarring all with the same brush, yet, on occasion I was pleasantly surprised and didn't allow negative generalisations to impact decisions. Under the premise of the very nature of a generalisation, those negative generelastions were true of course, but they shouldn't tar every interaction..... 

Now I'm 'out' I can safely sit back in with the knowledge that my own racist bigotry isn't actually that at all, its just that some national traits are what they are and having developed 'fair opinions' based on rounded experience is just that.... experience.

 

So... what you are experiencing may not be due to where you are, but 'where' you are...  i.e. IF you are in the very centre of a hustle and bustle tourist hotspot, then visit a different area and re-set.

 

After too long in any area its nice for a reset to once again appreciate the good.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thank you. That was very well put very well articulated. I think alot of what we get back in life has alot to do with what we are putting out there. So the first thing to do is question thyself, the attitude you are bringing to the table, what you are projecting, and whether or not the kind of reaction that you're getting is in any way a reflection of any of that. 

 

I find most Thais to be very pleasant to be around. 

[Mike Lister]

1 minute ago, spidermike007 said:

 

Thank you. That was very well put very well articulated. I think alot of what we get back in life has alot to do with what we are putting out there. So the first thing to do is question thyself, the attitude you are bringing to the table, what you are projecting, and whether or not the kind of reaction that you're getting is in any way a reflection of any of that. 

 

I find most Thais to be very pleasant to be around. 

Absolutely true and correct on both points.

[Bobthegimp]

1 minute ago, spidermike007 said:

alot

I love the post but what's with this spelling? There's no such word.