Thai Girl is almost perfect but are these serious problems?

[Cameroni]

Okay, so I'm in a relationship with a 24 year old beautiful, slim Thai girl who never asks for money, living together for 11 months now. She is funny and does a good job of communicating, in the bedroom she does okay. Now a couple of things, before me she had 2 relationships, according to her, one with a prostitute using Ukrainian, who gave her genital herpes. Which, though I've never in my life had an STD, I now have as well. Not great. But anyway, it is what is. Now, the odd thing about this girl, she is like an island to herself. What I mean is, all those normal relationship things, watching a movie together, she never does. She literally never sits on the couch with me, she watches her own youtube films on the laptop. She was raised by her grandmother and she never learned being affectionate, these evening cuddles, she doesn't really like that. She kind of does it for me, but you can tell it's just not her thing.

 

One part of me says, this girl is drop dead gorgeous, funny, good in the bedroom and doesn't ask you for money, give this a shot. The other says, her lack of physical affection and "do her own thing" attitude will be serious problems. What do you think is the best course of action here?

[AnotherOneHere]

I would say never respond to a guy with a new account in his relationship threads because you are feeding a troll. 😁

[scubascuba3]

How does she earn money? cold usually means doesn't really like you

[CharlieKo]

Don't expect a western attitude to romance from a Thai Lady. It can take years before they will show affection. 

[motdaeng]

a 24 year old beautiful thai girl who never ask for any money ... most likely doesn't exist!

 

how much money do you give her every month? 

 

 

Edited July 28 by motdaeng
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[stoner]

5 hours ago, Cameroni said:

One part of me says, this girl is drop dead gorgeous, funny, good in the bedroom and doesn't ask you for money, give this a shot.

 

at this point why not .......she already gave you genital herpes. 

[fredwiggy]

51 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

How does she earn money? cold usually means doesn't really like you

Cold usually means she grew up in an environment without affection, especially from her father. Being close is a normal human pleasure, enjoyed by most everyone. Touch is the best way to spread your love with someone you care about. Without it the relationship falters. People can go on in relationships for years without being close for financial reasons or fear of being treated badly by the next one, but if this isn't what you need from a woman, and you aren't willing to put the time in for a change, let her go and find another one that will give you what you need. She surely might like him, and feel comfortable with him, but can't bring herself to do what he needs because of the stunted childhood life. She can be taught the power of touch, but it will take patience and time.

 

Just like an animal that has been abused, it can learn to trust and accept love. My own girlfriend here now was never hugged by her father, told he loves her, or that he's proud of her, along with her mom, and her husband wasn't affectionate unless he wanted sex, and it took her awhile to reciprocate hugs. To this day it's still not "natural" to her, but the longer I hold her the more she warms to it. It can happen, but you'll have to have patience. The more you try and be close, the more she might like it instead of just doing it because she knows you like it.

Edited July 28 by fredwiggy

[SAFETY FIRST]

It's always fun reading the Dear Abby AN column. 😂

 

Edited July 28 by SAFETY FIRST

[Ralf001]

1 hour ago, scubascuba3 said:

How does she earn money? cold usually means doesn't really like you

 

She rents out her bits to foreigners..... thats where the herpes came from !

[steven100]

oh dear '   

[scubascuba3]

54 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Cold usually means she grew up in an environment without affection, especially from her father.

That's what they tell guys but I've always found them warm and affectionate to me

[2baht]

Marry her NOW Cameroni, she can only get better!

[jaywalker2]

There is a cure for herpes although I can't post it on this forum. It worked for me though

[OneMoreFarang]

Why are you together with her? Is beautiful and she does not want money good enough for you?

 

Obviously, we are all attracted to beautiful girls. And maybe we spend a few days together with her showing everyone around us what a beautiful girl we have, like, she is beautiful, and this makes me the great guy. Yeah, sure.

 

But then? At least for me, to fall in love with a girl, there must be cuddling, and kisses and I miss you (not only the words).

 

IMHO you used the wrong criteria for a girlfriend.

In Thailand there are so many beautiful girls. I think that 1 - 10 scale is in general stupid, but let's use it this time. Does it really make sense to look for a girl who is a 9 or 10 and ignore the rest? Or does it make more sense to decide she must be at least a 7 and must be compatible in many other ways?

 

[bob smith]

7 hours ago, Cameroni said:

in the bedroom she does okay.

tell me more..

 

bob.

[stoner]

5 minutes ago, 2baht said:

You stick with the well used, experienced types, they'll tell you how to avoid herpes! Just trust them! 

 

i meant the newbie poster who made the thread. i cut myself shaving ok. 

[thaibeachlovers]

7 hours ago, Cameroni said:

Okay, so I'm in a relationship with a 24 year old beautiful, slim Thai girl who never asks for money,

who never asks for money,

 

X a million.

[thaibeachlovers]

7 hours ago, AnotherOneHere said:

I would say never respond to a guy with a new account in his relationship threads because you are feeding a troll. 😁

I enjoy their ( or should that be his, singular ) attempts to write a new story.

[FruitPudding]

So, her love languages are not the same as yours: physical touch and spending quality time together. 

 

I am guessing her love languages, like most Thai girls, are: gifts and acts of service. Although, this is typically a one way street, lol.

 

You are both totally incompatible. She doesn’t equate physical touch or quality time as "love" but you do.

 

She probably only equates love to being given things and having things done for her. I think this is typical in Thailand. 

 

And, like so many here, she was abandoned by her parents and "raised" - which from my experience means neglected and abused - by the grandmother. 

 

You got yourself a totally broken woman.

[FruitPudding]

Why does the OP say "she is almost perfect"?

 

She sounds awful to me.

[2baht]

4 minutes ago, FruitPudding said:

You got yourself a totally broken woman.

You can fix her, don't listen to the nay sayers!

[novacova]

7 hours ago, Cameroni said:

Okay, so I'm in a relationship with a 24 year old beautiful, slim Thai girl who never asks for money, living together for 11 months now. She is funny and does a good job of communicating, in the bedroom she does okay. Now a couple of things, before me she had 2 relationships, according to her, one with a prostitute using Ukrainian, who gave her genital herpes. Which, though I've never in my life had an STD, I now have as well. Not great. But anyway, it is what is. Now, the odd thing about this girl, she is like an island to herself. What I mean is, all those normal relationship things, watching a movie together, she never does. She literally never sits on the couch with me, she watches her own youtube films on the laptop. She was raised by her grandmother and she never learned being affectionate, these evening cuddles, she doesn't really like that. She kind of does it for me, but you can tell it's just not her thing.

 

One part of me says, this girl is drop dead gorgeous, funny, good in the bedroom and doesn't ask you for money, give this a shot. The other says, her lack of physical affection and "do her own thing" attitude will be serious problems. What do you think is the best course of action here?

Sounds like the perfect girl minus the skank rot, I don’t like clingy women petting and hovering around me constantly. Anyway, good luck with the unfortunate skank rot situation.

[patman30]

knew it before i even clicked the link
just another one of these fake scenario engagement posts🤦‍♂️

[CanadaSam]

Did she tell you about the herpes before you had sex with her?

 

Did she explain why she had sex with the herpes guy without protection?

 

Too many questions to honestly answer the OP's query.

[BangkokReady]

3 hours ago, stoner said:

at this point why not .......she already gave you genital herpes. 

 

They're practically married at this point.  🤷‍♂️

[stoner]

Just now, BangkokReady said:

 

They're practically married at this point.  🤷‍♂️

 

hahaha what she gave him lasts a hella lot longer than i do 

[OneMoreFarang]

41 minutes ago, CanadaSam said:

Did she tell you about the herpes before you had sex with her?

 

Did she explain why she had sex with the herpes guy without protection?

 

Too many questions to honestly answer the OP's query.

How many sexually active people in Thailand don't have herpes?

Can you avoid it? Or is it only a question of time before you get it?

[Lacessit]

Any woman who gave me a STD would be out the door in the blink of an eye, and I don't care how beautiful she is.

[Will B Good]

7 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

Any woman who gave me a STD would be out the door in the blink of an eye, and I don't care how beautiful she is.

 

The prevalence of HSV-1 in Thailand is relatively high, around 67%, while HSV-2 prevalence is lower, generally between 10-20%. These figures are consistent with global patterns of herpes infection rates.

 

Best get yourself a virgin......good luck with that.

[Lacessit]

20 minutes ago, Will B Good said:

 

The prevalence of HSV-1 in Thailand is relatively high, around 67%, while HSV-2 prevalence is lower, generally between 10-20%. These figures are consistent with global patterns of herpes infection rates.

 

Best get yourself a virgin......good luck with that.

Virgins are unnecessary, all that's needed is women with the sense to insist on condoms.