Short Time: Dream or Dilemma?

[scubascuba3]

2 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

What "words" do you have to describe it ,any new ones? 

Leave it with me

[RSD1]

7 hours ago, Hummin said:

We do not have the same backgrounds, values, or desires. I thrive in relationships being two, so that's me after being traveling for work and sports, I enjoy being two, and solve everyday  small mysterious be it pleasure or challenges

 

Yes, that’s you, but one size doesn’t fit all. If you read the OP, he’s comparing going short-time versus having someone he can call on to fulfill that need more regularly. In both cases, he’s not really looking for a relationship though. A deeper relationship is not what some people need. Not everyone values the caring, companionship, understanding, or familiarity that comes with having a long term female partner. For some, a temporary human touch is enough, and in this case, it’s purely about the human touch and no more. The only question is how best to go about getting only that. 

[RSD1]

7 hours ago, BangkokReady said:

Why would you want to go down on someone you are paying to please you?

Because many men are greatly turned on by having a big wet growler shoved in their mouth. 

[NanLaew]

14 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

Absolutely beautiful!

Lol ,love it 

May I screenshot this and keep this everytime I get lonely read it 

Thankyou my friend I love you 

You can also print it out and carry a copy for the same purpose when you're perched on your barstool.

[Ben Zioner]

On 11/17/2024 at 5:18 AM, JK-Trilly said:

I’ve been considering something that I think a lot of people in Thailand’s unique environment often ask themselves: Is it better to stick with short-time encounters or to invest in a more traditional girlfriend setup?

 

Short-time has its obvious perks. It’s simple, transactional, and straightforward. No drama, no misunderstandings, no emotional roller coasters, and no navigating a woman's biological monthly ups and downs. Just a direct exchange that lets you enjoy the experience and the moment and then move on. Plus, the variety is a big bonus—you’re not tied to one person, and there’s always the excitement of someone new. From a practical perspective, it’s also much lighter on the wallet when paying per serving when compared to the ongoing running costs of maintaining a girlfriend or a regular partner. Meals out, trips, gifts, all that stuff. 

 

That said, short-time can also occasionally feel too transactional. Sure, it’s convenient, but there’s also something appealing about having a deeper connection with someone—something that feels less commercial, even if it’s not a full-blown relationship. A girlfriend you see regularly might offer some added benefits, like greater passion, intimacy, or simply a sense of familiarity that you don’t always get in short-time encounters.

 

But then again, with a girlfriend comes the flip side: the costs, the time commitment, sacrificing some of your freedom, having to please another person, and the potential for drama or misunderstandings. Even the day-to-day effort of keeping a relationship going can feel like a grind. If your goal is to keep things simple and focused, as well as problem free, it seems a girlfriend might not be the best choice.

 

For those of you who’ve experienced trying both sides, what do you think? Do you say stick with short-time arrangements for their simplicity and low stress? Or do you think there’s some merit in having a girlfriend, even if you’re not looking for a full-fledged relationship?

Since you haven't used the word "Love" I dare say you don't qualify for anything better than "Short Time".

[wwest5829]

On 11/17/2024 at 5:18 AM, JK-Trilly said:

I’ve been considering something that I think a lot of people in Thailand’s unique environment often ask themselves: Is it better to stick with short-time encounters or to invest in a more traditional girlfriend setup?

 

Short-time has its obvious perks. It’s simple, transactional, and straightforward. No drama, no misunderstandings, no emotional roller coasters, and no navigating a woman's biological monthly ups and downs. Just a direct exchange that lets you enjoy the experience and the moment and then move on. Plus, the variety is a big bonus—you’re not tied to one person, and there’s always the excitement of someone new. From a practical perspective, it’s also much lighter on the wallet when paying per serving when compared to the ongoing running costs of maintaining a girlfriend or a regular partner. Meals out, trips, gifts, all that stuff. 

 

That said, short-time can also occasionally feel too transactional. Sure, it’s convenient, but there’s also something appealing about having a deeper connection with someone—something that feels less commercial, even if it’s not a full-blown relationship. A girlfriend you see regularly might offer some added benefits, like greater passion, intimacy, or simply a sense of familiarity that you don’t always get in short-time encounters.

 

But then again, with a girlfriend comes the flip side: the costs, the time commitment, sacrificing some of your freedom, having to please another person, and the potential for drama or misunderstandings. Even the day-to-day effort of keeping a relationship going can feel like a grind. If your goal is to keep things simple and focused, as well as problem free, it seems a girlfriend might not be the best choice.

 

For those of you who’ve experienced trying both sides, what do you think? Do you say stick with short-time arrangements for their simplicity and low stress? Or do you think there’s some merit in having a girlfriend, even if you’re not looking for a full-fledged relationship?

Depends on the individual, I suppose. I made monthlong trips to Thailand in 2009 and 2010. Fat boy in a candy store and I certainly tasted the variety. Retired here in 2011 and continued to play, testing the scenarios. Variety, then seeing one bar girl two or three times a week on “retainer” (started to care too much and was not wanting a bar girl for long term). Arrangement with university student coming to town on the weekends. Nana.

 

In the end I guess I had been too used to sharing my life with one female (albeit serial monogamy).  Now happily settled with a Thai Wife who, after 8 years seems could not be more compatable. 

[Freddy42OZ]

22 hours ago, alien365 said:

The problem with short time is knowing how many men they've been with, maybe even within the same day. I'm really not comfortable with going down on a woman like that and a condom is a must.

 

 

I agree. I'm not dining at the Y if the girl has slept with someone else earlier in the day.

[rwill]

It all depends on what you want more.  Companionship or just sex.

 

Someone once said you don't pay for sex, you pay to be left alone afterwards.

[RSD1]

2 hours ago, rwill said:

Someone once said you don't pay for sex, you pay to be left alone afterwards.

The correct connotation is that your paying to say goodbye. 

[khunPer]

On 11/16/2024 at 11:18 PM, JK-Trilly said:

For those of you who’ve experienced trying both sides, what do you think?

Both sides have pros and cons,,,

[georgegeorgia]

7 hours ago, RSD1 said:

The correct connotation is that your paying to say goodbye. 

Goodbye my love goodbye 

I wonder how many "goodbye " songs there ,thanks for talking about this 

[Elkski]

Short time with one or more proven performers sounds great.   But what about all the duds, dead fish ones if your trying new ones.  That's a waste of time and money.   Add in condom vs bare and std paranoia level.   

[JoseThailand]

I'll be honest, when I first arrived in Thailand, I was curious about that part of the nightlife I'd heard so much about - the bars with bright neon signs, the go-go clubs, and the idea of "paying for companionship." I guess I wanted to see what the fuss was all about. My friends back home had painted all sorts of pictures in my head, some calling it a dream scenario, others warning it was a huge moral trap.

 

The reality, at least for me, wasn't as flashy as the stories or as simple as choosing one label - dream or dilemma. I did end up paying for sex one night, mainly out of curiosity and a bit of peer pressure. The whole thing felt surreal: everything from picking a bar to negotiating a price to the awkwardness that followed. Part of me thought it was just another fun, exotic experience - like I was living some wild adventure story. But afterward, I couldn't shake the feeling that it was more complicated than I'd let myself believe. It wasn't just about me and what I wanted; there was another person involved, someone who might have a different view on what was happening or who might be dealing with tough circumstances leading them to that work in the first place.

 

To this day, I'm not entirely sure how I feel about it. There's a part of me that thinks consenting adults should be free to make their own arrangements, but another part that wonders about the blurred lines - like exploitation, cultural differences, or the power imbalances that can come into play. The night itself wasn't the fantasy many folks back home talk about, nor was it some terrible mistake that ruined my entire trip. It was more like a wake-up call that behind all the flashy lights and promises, there are real people with real stories and real struggles.

 

So for me, it's not exactly a dream or a nightmare. It's something that sits in a gray area I never really expected. I won't judge anyone who sees it differently, but if someone asked my advice, I'd tell them to think carefully about what they're really doing and why. Because once the novelty wears off, you might be left with more questions than answers about what it all means.

[FriscoKid]

1 hour ago, JoseThailand said:

I'll be honest, when I first arrived in Thailand, I was curious about that part of the nightlife I'd heard so much about - the bars with bright neon signs, the go-go clubs, and the idea of "paying for companionship." I guess I wanted to see what the fuss was all about. My friends back home had painted all sorts of pictures in my head, some calling it a dream scenario, others warning it was a huge moral trap.

 

The reality, at least for me, wasn't as flashy as the stories or as simple as choosing one label - dream or dilemma. I did end up paying for sex one night, mainly out of curiosity and a bit of peer pressure. The whole thing felt surreal: everything from picking a bar to negotiating a price to the awkwardness that followed. Part of me thought it was just another fun, exotic experience - like I was living some wild adventure story. But afterward, I couldn't shake the feeling that it was more complicated than I'd let myself believe. It wasn't just about me and what I wanted; there was another person involved, someone who might have a different view on what was happening or who might be dealing with tough circumstances leading them to that work in the first place.

 

To this day, I'm not entirely sure how I feel about it. There's a part of me that thinks consenting adults should be free to make their own arrangements, but another part that wonders about the blurred lines - like exploitation, cultural differences, or the power imbalances that can come into play. The night itself wasn't the fantasy many folks back home talk about, nor was it some terrible mistake that ruined my entire trip. It was more like a wake-up call that behind all the flashy lights and promises, there are real people with real stories and real struggles.

 

So for me, it's not exactly a dream or a nightmare. It's something that sits in a gray area I never really expected. I won't judge anyone who sees it differently, but if someone asked my advice, I'd tell them to think carefully about what they're really doing and why. Because once the novelty wears off, you might be left with more questions than answers about what it all means.

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[JoseThailand]

20 minutes ago, FriscoKid said:

According to an AI detector, your post is nearly 60% written by AI.

 

What about the original post in this thread?

[Dart12]

Problem with ST is there is no roll over in the middle of the night or morning when you have been transformed from a tree into a steel beam lol.

[connda]

On 11/17/2024 at 5:30 AM, JoseThailand said:

 

Google translate. "Chan" (I, feminine) instead of "phom" (I, masculine).

Better than writing ผมรักแมว, the finding out that the tat didn't quite express what you thought it was going to express.    Btw - Thai vernacular for that last word on that bicep is หอย.  Just saying.....