Why Do So Many Foreign Men Still Marry Short-Time Girls?

[JK-Trilly]

This post is about the question of marriage, which comes up quite often in conversations about expats in Thailand. I’m obviously referring to a possible marriage to a woman who works in the sex industry, specifically the ones offering short-term sexual services for money. While I have also indulged personally, I can’t imagine ever marrying one of them.

When one sits down and speaks with these girls, it doesn’t take long for the average dude to realize what he’s dealing with. Many of them are skilled manipulators, adept at lying, and are very calculating in their overall approach to money extraction. They also know how to push a man's buttons to get what they want, whether it’s money, gifts, travel and/or marriage. These aren’t qualities I’d associate with someone who would make a good wife or genuinely care for you, your needs, or even be a trustworthy and reliable life partner.

Another thing I consider is their background. Many short-time girls come from impoverished, rural, peasant-class environments. Their education is often minimal, and they generally know little about the world beyond their own limited life experiences in Thailand. Many come from broken homes where they’ve had to fend for themselves from an early age, which understandably shapes their worldview, survivalist instincts and agendas in ways that don't align well with what men seek in a life-partner.

Emotionally, these women can also be challenging to deal with on a daily basis. Arguments over trivial matters can become frequent, as their level of emotional maturity and lack of intellectuality can get them stuck in a cycle of insecurity and jealousy. They may hold onto strange superstitions, have beliefs in old wives’ tales, and ghosts which can lead to further misunderstandings or clashes in perspective. This isn’t to say they’re “bad people” in any way, but rather that their life experiences and upbringing may not have prepared them for the type of relationship foreign men are hoping for.

Another important consideration is the impact of their past work on their ability to form healthy relationships. If someone has spent years engaging with men purely through transactional relationships, where money is the driving factor, it can be hard for them to understand or value other aspects of a male-female partnership. Concepts like trust, emotional intimacy, and mutual respect might take a backseat to financial expectations. Additionally, working as a sex worker for an extended period can leave emotional scars or cause anger issues and psychological trauma that could become irreparable. The constant need to mask true emotions, deal with rejection or exploitation, and navigate an environment centered around money and power dynamics can make it difficult for them to trust, connect, or even open up fully in a long-term relationship. This emotional baggage usually weighs heavily on both partners, often creating friction and misunderstandings that become evident over time.

So why do men fall for them? Is it loneliness, the thrill of saving someone, or simply the charm and beauty that these girls exude? Many short-time girls are experts at creating the illusion of affection and love. They are good at making a man feel special, even if it is just for a fleeting moment. Perhaps for some men, this simple hoax becomes addictive, and they mistake it for something real when it is not. Another factor could be a lack of understanding about the cultural and social realities that these women come from. Some men may feel a sense of responsibility or even pity and think they can “rescue” these women from their perils. But, more often than not, these relationships don’t end with the fairy tale type ending they envisioned.

For those who marry these girls, the question remains: do they truly believe they’ve found love, or are they happy to settle for the bits of attention and care they feel they can’t get elsewhere? And then what happens if and when more serious financial dynamics of the relationship come into play? Many of these marriages seem to revolve around money, with the man acting as a provider and the woman expecting continued support for her and, often, her family.

In my opinion, marrying a short-time girl is a gamble at best where the odds are rarely stacked in a man's favor. While there are exceptions, and some relationships do genuinely work out, the majority seem fraught with issues. These women, by the nature of their work and upbringing, are often ill-equipped to handle the demands of a long-term partnership in the way many men might have hoped for.

 

[save the frogs]

37 minutes ago, JK-Trilly said:

They may hold onto strange superstitions, have beliefs in old wives’ tales, and ghosts which can lead to further misunderstandings or clashes in perspective.

I believe in superstitions and ghosts.

I have encountered ghosts.

So for me, that would only strengthen the bond with them. 

[save the frogs]

38 minutes ago, JK-Trilly said:

They also know how to push a man's buttons to get what they want, whether it’s money, gifts, travel and/or marriage. These aren’t qualities I’d associate with someone who would make a good wife or genuinely care for you, your needs, or even be a trustworthy and reliable life partner.

 

There are certainly women who make better life partners than others.

But the problem is being fooled by the facade of polite society.

I've met many women from polite society who on the surface and on paper appear to make good wives.

But then 10 years into their marriage, they start straying and acting stupid or might hit you up for divorce for any number of reasons. 

Good luck finding signs of a 100% guaranteed good woman. 

 

[save the frogs]

Didnt someone start this same thread like a week ago?

 

[scubascuba3]

Many men are vulnerable, lonely and need a companion, may be caused by a bad marriage back home, or no marriage at all or just that they've been brainwashed since a child that marriage is the answer to everything, strange i know

[thaibeachlovers]

5 hours ago, JK-Trilly said:

Many short-time girls are experts at creating the illusion of affection and love. They are good at making a man feel special, even if it is just for a fleeting moment.

Sounds like the evil western non prostitute that was able to use me for a few years till I left her.

[brewsterbudgen]

Yawn.  Another thread full of ridiculous generalisations!

[Yagoda]

My ideal girl would be a 22 year old from a BJ bar whose family owns a weed shop. Marry me?

[Denim]

Is it December already ?

 

 

[MalcolmB]

As a heavier set Brit in my 50s I have two choices.

 

A heavier set British female, likely divorced and all the baggage that goes with it. Probably going through menopause. And with as much sex appeal as taking a dump. 
And incredibly boring and low energy. And nagging, oh gawd, the fkn nagging.

If I want to take her on a holiday it would be expensive because she is entitled. After a few months BJs will become non existent or a rarity. 

 

Or a sweet, smiling, petite 20 year old with a tight body and silky skin. Buy her a teddy bear for her collection and she will be grateful. Oral on demand. Take her somewhere in sunny Thailand and nice room for 500-1000. Plus she will cut my toenails, pick up and fold all my clothes and be up for threesomes. She won’t over think things, generally pleasant to be around. 
 

I don’t think either are marriage material.
But I know how I want to spend my twilight years. Turn them over frequently and don’t buy them houses, cars, businesses etc. That is for suckers.

[BarBoy]

Because they have small willy's and small wallets and that's the best they can get! 

[OneMoreFarang]

9 hours ago, JK-Trilly said:

This post is about the question of marriage, which comes up quite often in conversations about expats in Thailand. I’m obviously referring to a possible marriage to a woman who works in the sex industry, specifically the ones offering short-term sexual services for money. While I have also indulged personally, I can’t imagine ever marrying one of them.

When one sits down and speaks with these girls, it doesn’t take long for the average dude to realize what he’s dealing with. Many of them are skilled manipulators, adept at lying, and are very calculating in their overall approach to money extraction. They also know how to push a man's buttons to get what they want, whether it’s money, gifts, travel and/or marriage. These aren’t qualities I’d associate with someone who would make a good wife or genuinely care for you, your needs, or even be a trustworthy and reliable life partner.

Another thing I consider is their background. Many short-time girls come from impoverished, rural, peasant-class environments. Their education is often minimal, and they generally know little about the world beyond their own limited life experiences in Thailand. Many come from broken homes where they’ve had to fend for themselves from an early age, which understandably shapes their worldview, survivalist instincts and agendas in ways that don't align well with what men seek in a life-partner.

Emotionally, these women can also be challenging to deal with on a daily basis. Arguments over trivial matters can become frequent, as their level of emotional maturity and lack of intellectuality can get them stuck in a cycle of insecurity and jealousy. They may hold onto strange superstitions, have beliefs in old wives’ tales, and ghosts which can lead to further misunderstandings or clashes in perspective. This isn’t to say they’re “bad people” in any way, but rather that their life experiences and upbringing may not have prepared them for the type of relationship foreign men are hoping for.

Another important consideration is the impact of their past work on their ability to form healthy relationships. If someone has spent years engaging with men purely through transactional relationships, where money is the driving factor, it can be hard for them to understand or value other aspects of a male-female partnership. Concepts like trust, emotional intimacy, and mutual respect might take a backseat to financial expectations. Additionally, working as a sex worker for an extended period can leave emotional scars or cause anger issues and psychological trauma that could become irreparable. The constant need to mask true emotions, deal with rejection or exploitation, and navigate an environment centered around money and power dynamics can make it difficult for them to trust, connect, or even open up fully in a long-term relationship. This emotional baggage usually weighs heavily on both partners, often creating friction and misunderstandings that become evident over time.

So why do men fall for them? Is it loneliness, the thrill of saving someone, or simply the charm and beauty that these girls exude? Many short-time girls are experts at creating the illusion of affection and love. They are good at making a man feel special, even if it is just for a fleeting moment. Perhaps for some men, this simple hoax becomes addictive, and they mistake it for something real when it is not. Another factor could be a lack of understanding about the cultural and social realities that these women come from. Some men may feel a sense of responsibility or even pity and think they can “rescue” these women from their perils. But, more often than not, these relationships don’t end with the fairy tale type ending they envisioned.

For those who marry these girls, the question remains: do they truly believe they’ve found love, or are they happy to settle for the bits of attention and care they feel they can’t get elsewhere? And then what happens if and when more serious financial dynamics of the relationship come into play? Many of these marriages seem to revolve around money, with the man acting as a provider and the woman expecting continued support for her and, often, her family.

In my opinion, marrying a short-time girl is a gamble at best where the odds are rarely stacked in a man's favor. While there are exceptions, and some relationships do genuinely work out, the majority seem fraught with issues. These women, by the nature of their work and upbringing, are often ill-equipped to handle the demands of a long-term partnership in the way many men might have hoped for.

 

Here is the AI summary. Thanks to https://www.perplexity.ai/

Why are lots of posts suddenly to very long? Do they use AI to create a two-page text out of a simple question? 

 

The post explores the challenges of marrying women from Thailand's sex industry, particularly those offering short-term services. The author notes that many are skilled manipulators focused on financial gain rather than genuine emotional connections. Their backgrounds often involve poverty and limited education, leading to issues with emotional maturity and trust.While some men may feel drawn to these women out of loneliness or a desire to "rescue" them, such relationships frequently center on financial dynamics rather than true partnership. Ultimately, the author argues that marrying a woman from this background is risky, with many relationships facing significant challenges that hinder lasting happiness.

 

 

[MalcolmB]

1 minute ago, BarBoy said:

Because they have small willy's and small wallets and that's the best they can get! 

Are you black? Or do you just have a little white one also?

[OneMoreFarang]

"Why Do So Many Foreign Men Still Marry Short-Time Girls?"

 

The girls make them happy, in some cases happier than they have been their whole life.

Obviously, they guys want more of the same. 

[BarBoy]

1 minute ago, MalcolmB said:

Are you black? Or do you just have a little white one also?

Mine is definitely bigger than yours, Malcolm. 

[MalcolmB]

Just now, BarBoy said:

Mine is definitely bigger than yours, Malcolm. 

How big are we talking Bob/Colinniel? 

[Gottfrid]

9 hours ago, JK-Trilly said:

They also know how to push a man's buttons to get what they want, whether it’s money, gifts, travel and/or marriage.

You just referred to 99,9% of the women of the world. 😂

[ChumpChange]

14 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

A heavier set British female, likely divorced and all the baggage that goes with it. Probably going through menopause. And with as much sex appeal as taking a dump. 

Sounds lovely. What's not to like about her? Maybe you can even get her to have sex with you while you're taking a dump. 

[ChumpChange]

12 minutes ago, BarBoy said:

Mine is definitely bigger than yours, Malcolm. 

We know it's big bobby, you've told us that many times already. As long as the boys over in 6/1 aren't complaining about it then you've got nothing to worry about. 

[CallumWK]

I wonder if any genuine people still join the forum

[Hummin]

9 hours ago, JK-Trilly said:

This post is about the question of marriage, which comes up quite often in conversations about expats in Thailand. I’m obviously referring to a possible marriage to a woman who works in the sex industry, specifically the ones offering short-term sexual services for money. While I have also indulged personally, I can’t imagine ever marrying one of them.

When one sits down and speaks with these girls, it doesn’t take long for the average dude to realize what he’s dealing with. Many of them are skilled manipulators, adept at lying, and are very calculating in their overall approach to money extraction. They also know how to push a man's buttons to get what they want, whether it’s money, gifts, travel and/or marriage. These aren’t qualities I’d associate with someone who would make a good wife or genuinely care for you, your needs, or even be a trustworthy and reliable life partner.

Another thing I consider is their background. Many short-time girls come from impoverished, rural, peasant-class environments. Their education is often minimal, and they generally know little about the world beyond their own limited life experiences in Thailand. Many come from broken homes where they’ve had to fend for themselves from an early age, which understandably shapes their worldview, survivalist instincts and agendas in ways that don't align well with what men seek in a life-partner.

Emotionally, these women can also be challenging to deal with on a daily basis. Arguments over trivial matters can become frequent, as their level of emotional maturity and lack of intellectuality can get them stuck in a cycle of insecurity and jealousy. They may hold onto strange superstitions, have beliefs in old wives’ tales, and ghosts which can lead to further misunderstandings or clashes in perspective. This isn’t to say they’re “bad people” in any way, but rather that their life experiences and upbringing may not have prepared them for the type of relationship foreign men are hoping for.

Another important consideration is the impact of their past work on their ability to form healthy relationships. If someone has spent years engaging with men purely through transactional relationships, where money is the driving factor, it can be hard for them to understand or value other aspects of a male-female partnership. Concepts like trust, emotional intimacy, and mutual respect might take a backseat to financial expectations. Additionally, working as a sex worker for an extended period can leave emotional scars or cause anger issues and psychological trauma that could become irreparable. The constant need to mask true emotions, deal with rejection or exploitation, and navigate an environment centered around money and power dynamics can make it difficult for them to trust, connect, or even open up fully in a long-term relationship. This emotional baggage usually weighs heavily on both partners, often creating friction and misunderstandings that become evident over time.

So why do men fall for them? Is it loneliness, the thrill of saving someone, or simply the charm and beauty that these girls exude? Many short-time girls are experts at creating the illusion of affection and love. They are good at making a man feel special, even if it is just for a fleeting moment. Perhaps for some men, this simple hoax becomes addictive, and they mistake it for something real when it is not. Another factor could be a lack of understanding about the cultural and social realities that these women come from. Some men may feel a sense of responsibility or even pity and think they can “rescue” these women from their perils. But, more often than not, these relationships don’t end with the fairy tale type ending they envisioned.

For those who marry these girls, the question remains: do they truly believe they’ve found love, or are they happy to settle for the bits of attention and care they feel they can’t get elsewhere? And then what happens if and when more serious financial dynamics of the relationship come into play? Many of these marriages seem to revolve around money, with the man acting as a provider and the woman expecting continued support for her and, often, her family.

In my opinion, marrying a short-time girl is a gamble at best where the odds are rarely stacked in a man's favor. While there are exceptions, and some relationships do genuinely work out, the majority seem fraught with issues. These women, by the nature of their work and upbringing, are often ill-equipped to handle the demands of a long-term partnership in the way many men might have hoped for.

 

When you start seeing people as humans, you might discover something valuable,

 

 

[wombat]

why?
seems like a good idea at the time?

[frank83628]

Becuause they wouldn't get a non working girl due to their ages an physical shape.

[sungod]

53 minutes ago, brewsterbudgen said:

Yawn.  Another thread full of ridiculous generalisations!

sadly its becoming the norm

[billd766]

10 hours ago, JK-Trilly said:

This post is about the question of marriage, which comes up quite often in conversations about expats in Thailand. I’m obviously referring to a possible marriage to a woman who works in the sex industry, specifically the ones offering short-term sexual services for money. While I have also indulged personally, I can’t imagine ever marrying one of them.

When one sits down and speaks with these girls, it doesn’t take long for the average dude to realize what he’s dealing with. Many of them are skilled manipulators, adept at lying, and are very calculating in their overall approach to money extraction. They also know how to push a man's buttons to get what they want, whether it’s money, gifts, travel and/or marriage. These aren’t qualities I’d associate with someone who would make a good wife or genuinely care for you, your needs, or even be a trustworthy and reliable life partner.

Another thing I consider is their background. Many short-time girls come from impoverished, rural, peasant-class environments. Their education is often minimal, and they generally know little about the world beyond their own limited life experiences in Thailand. Many come from broken homes where they’ve had to fend for themselves from an early age, which understandably shapes their worldview, survivalist instincts and agendas in ways that don't align well with what men seek in a life-partner.

Emotionally, these women can also be challenging to deal with on a daily basis. Arguments over trivial matters can become frequent, as their level of emotional maturity and lack of intellectuality can get them stuck in a cycle of insecurity and jealousy. They may hold onto strange superstitions, have beliefs in old wives’ tales, and ghosts which can lead to further misunderstandings or clashes in perspective. This isn’t to say they’re “bad people” in any way, but rather that their life experiences and upbringing may not have prepared them for the type of relationship foreign men are hoping for.

Another important consideration is the impact of their past work on their ability to form healthy relationships. If someone has spent years engaging with men purely through transactional relationships, where money is the driving factor, it can be hard for them to understand or value other aspects of a male-female partnership. Concepts like trust, emotional intimacy, and mutual respect might take a backseat to financial expectations. Additionally, working as a sex worker for an extended period can leave emotional scars or cause anger issues and psychological trauma that could become irreparable. The constant need to mask true emotions, deal with rejection or exploitation, and navigate an environment centered around money and power dynamics can make it difficult for them to trust, connect, or even open up fully in a long-term relationship. This emotional baggage usually weighs heavily on both partners, often creating friction and misunderstandings that become evident over time.

So why do men fall for them? Is it loneliness, the thrill of saving someone, or simply the charm and beauty that these girls exude? Many short-time girls are experts at creating the illusion of affection and love. They are good at making a man feel special, even if it is just for a fleeting moment. Perhaps for some men, this simple hoax becomes addictive, and they mistake it for something real when it is not. Another factor could be a lack of understanding about the cultural and social realities that these women come from. Some men may feel a sense of responsibility or even pity and think they can “rescue” these women from their perils. But, more often than not, these relationships don’t end with the fairy tale type ending they envisioned.

For those who marry these girls, the question remains: do they truly believe they’ve found love, or are they happy to settle for the bits of attention and care they feel they can’t get elsewhere? And then what happens if and when more serious financial dynamics of the relationship come into play? Many of these marriages seem to revolve around money, with the man acting as a provider and the woman expecting continued support for her and, often, her family.

In my opinion, marrying a short-time girl is a gamble at best where the odds are rarely stacked in a man's favor. While there are exceptions, and some relationships do genuinely work out, the majority seem fraught with issues. These women, by the nature of their work and upbringing, are often ill-equipped to handle the demands of a long-term partnership in the way many men might have hoped for.

 

So why do you care?

 

It isn't your problem, and you are not affected by it.

 

A snip from your post.

 

"I can’t imagine ever marrying one of them".

[Hummin]

54 minutes ago, brewsterbudgen said:

Yawn.  Another thread full of ridiculous generalisations!

Click bait, and we suck it up! 

[henryford1958]

Most women are duplicitous money grabbers. They can't be any worse than western women.

[Will B Good]

12 minutes ago, henryford1958 said:

Most women are duplicitous money grabbers. They can't be any worse than western women.

 

Where as men, pure as the driven snow, just want to love and protect that one special person in their lives......55555

[Jim Blue]

Seems I got confused between the Thai words for short and long time ,,,,,all those years ago !

[KhaoTakiab]

10 hours ago, JK-Trilly said:

Their education is often minimal, and they generally know little about the world

Like most farangs living in Thailand...