Are you happy with your life in Thailand?

[JakeC]

Sometimes...a girlfriend may be a bit anxious. Snappy even. But when asked, assures that she is calm. Because she feels that she is masking her anxiety enough to appear calm on the outside. But to the people observing, she is obviously not. 

When anxious, she is convinced that what she is thinking and doing is right, that there is no other possibility.

This, for me, sums up  a certain character's posts here. Tone deaf. Just doesn't get it.

 

Doesn't EVER stop to think that he might not be right in every situation, but instead ready to post a reply in seconds.

Everyone else is wrong, because he studied this and that. Nutrition, psychology, misogyny...you name it and he is an expert or he will find a link, even if it doesn't support his POV at all, he will insist that it does. He is the fittest, strongest and most knowledgeable. His are the facts, whilst everyone else has mere opinions and assumptions.

 

Every statement is a definitive one. Not, "childhood was the best time for me, as now life is more difficult", but instead we have, "It is impossible to have the same feeling about life now than when you were young, as it was much easier, unless you had a terrible childhood" But yet he believes "I just tell things as they are."

 

No, he tells things as they appear to him, but assumes that it applies to everyone.  Assume being one of his favourite words.

It's something he does often, but doesn't seem to understand that he is doing it, but can only 'see' when he assumes that others are doing it. 

Ironic when he tells that people should not speak for others. Then goes on to use the royal We when it suits him.

In his mind he is not ever wrong and will argue nonsensically to the end. Yet, it was his partner who was a narcissist....because in his mind she fit the definition. But is blind to how he is seen by others. Does not understand that the behaviour that WE see here, constitutes narcissism. Looking in the mirror and seeing this wonderful person who isn't ever wrong, smarter and knows more than everyone else.....you get the picture.

 

There is so much more, but why bother? They will ignore the evidence and try to deflect by attacking the messenger.

 

Just a perspective. Maybe others see the same. From the replies that he is getting, it seems that I'm not the only one who has noticed it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

[fredwiggy]

Just now, save the frogs said:

 

I don't need to waste time reading links.

 

Common sense dictates that you are making wildly exaggerated claims about molestation rates.

It's mathematically impossible. 

 

That's why you need to read to know he truth. There are many besides the ones I posted. I don't lie, exaggerate or make opinions as they all mean nothing. I go by evidence and data, gathered by experts in the field, so coming at me isn't the proper response. Reading is how anyone gets more knowledge about anything after you graduate high school. Unless of course you listen to videos of other's opinions, which aren't but more opinions. I always research before I make up my own mind, and see what more than one study says.

[Yellowtail]

1 minute ago, save the frogs said:

 

I don't need to waste time reading links.

 

Common sense dictates that you are making wildly exaggerated claims about molestation rates.

It's mathematically impossible. 

 

If 70% of girls in Thailand were molested in school by the time they are 18, not a father, much less a mother, in Thailand would put their daughters in school. 

 

 

[fredwiggy]

5 minutes ago, Yellowtail said:

Rediculous. Without an opinion, you have no idea when someone might be blowing smoke. 

 

If you told me your pickup got 10km to the liter, I would believe that. 

 

If you told me your pickup got 100km to the liter, I would not believe that. I would not call you a liar, but I would ask you to support your claim. 

 

So, when I see your claim that 70% of girls are molested in school before they are 18 (as I understand molestation) I do not believe you. I did not call you a liar, but I did ask you to support your claim.

 

You refused to support or rescind your claim, now I know what you are. 

No, without proper research, and evidence from that research, what anyone says can be dismissed or disputed. I provided a link, and have in earlier posts. It's easy to look up. I already know the evidence. It's there for anyone to see. You need to read them and not just come back with the same retorts.

[Yellowtail]

Just now, fredwiggy said:

No, without proper research, and evidence from that research, what anyone says can be dismissed or disputed. I provided a link, and have in earlier posts. It's easy to look up. I already know the evidence. It's there for anyone to see. 

 

 

[Harrisfan]

8 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

 

I don't need to waste time reading links.

 

Common sense dictates that you are making wildly exaggerated claims about molestation rates.

It's mathematically impossible. 

 

He knows everything that guy. He will argue a losing side for 2 days then report you if you dont agree.

[fredwiggy]

5 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

He knows everything that guy. He will argue a losing side for 2 days then report you if you dont agree.

No one knows everything and I never myself claimed that. Like most everyone else that has an open mind and READS, researches and looks for evidence without using an opinion. You on the other hand, always take the side of the same usual suspects here.

 

I make a claim about treating women right, and some argue because they aren't ones who do, so they voice their opinions here just to argue, because they haven't enough knowledge on the subject nor care. I post links about how many girls here are molested in schools, and they, with no research on it, feel the need to dispute it. How do you dispute anything if you haven't any data on it? That's trolling, so if the shoe fits.

 

I say I have a girlfriend I help, and some will say , "all men pay for the women here", because that's all they do.

 

Many won't bother to read links and are only here to again, troll. Funny how again, it's the same 5-7 here that are the ones who not only dispute evidence, but come back and put a thumbs down on all of your posts, which is of course childish.

[Harrisfan]

4 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

No one knows everything and I never myself claimed that. Like most everyone else that has an open mind and READS, researches and looks for evidence without using an opinion. You on the other hand, always take the side of the same usual suspects here.

 

I make a claim about treating women right, and some argue because they aren't ones who do, so they voice their opinions here just to argue, because they haven't enough knowledge on the subject nor care. I post links about how many girls here are molested in schools, and they, with no research on it, feel the need to dispute it. How do you dispute anything if you haven't any data on it? That's trolling, so if the shoe fits.

 

I say I have a girlfriend I help, and some will say , "all men pay for the women here", because that's all they do.

 

Many won't bother to read links and are only here to again, troll. Funny how again, it's the same 5-7 here that are the ones who not only dispute evidence, but come back and put a thumbs down on all of your posts, which is of course childish.

You know it all. 

[Yellowtail]

4 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

No one knows everything and I never myself claimed that. Like most everyone else that has an open mind and READS, researches and looks for evidence without using an opinion. You on the other hand, always take the side of the same usual suspects here.

 

I make a claim about treating women right, and some argue because they aren't ones who do, so they voice their opinions here just to argue, because they haven't enough knowledge on the subject nor care. I post links about how many girls here are molested in schools, and they, with no research on it, feel the need to dispute it. How do you dispute anything if you haven't any data on it? That's trolling, so if the shoe fits.

 

I say I have a girlfriend I help, and some will say , "all men pay for the women here", because that's all they do.

 

Many won't bother to read links and are only here to again, troll. Funny how again, it's the same 5-7 here that are the ones who not only dispute evidence, but come back and put a thumbs down on all of your posts, which is of course childish.

No, you make ridiculous claims and refuse to back them up. 

 

And you post link do not support the ridiculous claims you make. 

[fredwiggy]

7 minutes ago, Yellowtail said:

No, you make ridiculous claims and refuse to back them up. 

 

And you post link do not support the ridiculous claims you make. 

And again, you're saying the same thing over and over and are wrong. You asked a question. I provided a link, which you probably didn't read and call BS. You wanted an opinion on this matter. I said I don't make opinions. Do you understand yet? Stick to one thing at a time. Ridiculous "claims" I make means nothing unless you are talking about a specific one. I explained this one. If you don't understand something, it doesn't mean others are making ridiculous claims. If you want to know more about something, you have the internet, so research. 

[JakeC]

Just taking his latest reply...

 

Many won't bother to read links and are only here to again, troll. Assumption

 

 it's the same 5-7 here that are the ones who not only dispute evidence, but come back and put a thumbs down on all of your posts. Assumption

 

I say I have a girlfriend I help, and some will say , "all men pay for the women here", because that's all they do. Looks like he is paying for his girlfriend. What's the problem? Oh...he is just 'helping' as he is 'different' from those who pay.

 

I make a claim about treating women right... That's just his claim and his opinion. History tells us they aren't too enamoured with him.

 

How do you dispute anything if you haven't any data on it? Indeed. That's why he cannot discuss the content within the links that he posts, as he doesn't have any depth of knowledge or data beyond the headline.

 

 

That's just one post.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Harrisfan]

3 minutes ago, JakeC said:

Just taking his latest reply...

 

Many won't bother to read links and are only here to again, troll. Assumption

 

 it's the same 5-7 here that are the ones who not only dispute evidence, but come back and put a thumbs down on all of your posts. Assumption

 

I say I have a girlfriend I help, and some will say , "all men pay for the women here", because that's all they do. Looks like he is paying for his girlfriend. What's the problem? Oh...he is just 'helping' as he is 'different' from those who pay.

 

I make a claim about treating women right... That's just his claim and his opinion. History tells us they aren't too enamoured with him.

 

How do you dispute anything if you haven't any data on it? Indeed. That's why he cannot discuss the content within the links that he posts, as he doesn't have any depth of knowledge or data beyond the headline.

 

 

That's just one post.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

He loves himself and is never wrong. Claims he knows a lot due to books. Well he should read a book on being more humble.

[fredwiggy]

4 minutes ago, JakeC said:

Just taking his latest reply...

 

Many won't bother to read links and are only here to again, troll. Assumption

 

 it's the same 5-7 here that are the ones who not only dispute evidence, but come back and put a thumbs down on all of your posts. Assumption

 

I say I have a girlfriend I help, and some will say , "all men pay for the women here", because that's all they do. Looks like he is paying for his girlfriend. What's the problem? Oh...he is just 'helping' as he is 'different' from those who pay.

 

I make a claim about treating women right... That's just his claim and his opinion. History tells us they aren't too enamoured with him.

 

How do you dispute anything if you haven't any data on it? Indeed. That's why he cannot discuss the content within the links that he posts, as he doesn't have any depth of knowledge or data beyond the headline.

 

 

That's just one post.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

No, they've said they don't bother to read links.

 

It is the same select few who always are arguing for the sake of arguing, trolling, and answer with a few words, baiting.

 

I give my girlfriend money to help her family. Paying for sex is quite different to most of us.

 

If you bothered to read all of a post instead of nitpicking or skimming, I've always explained my situation with all honesty and what happened, but some will refuse to believe the truth because they are the ones who assume.

 

Again, if you read all of a topic instead of coming in at the end or near the end, you would possibly understand why everything is said. When someone asks for evidence and I post a link, it's up to them to read the evidence posted so they can see what the truth might be. If they don't bother to read it, it' s not up to me to further post more evidence which they probably won't read either. If they want to discuss further, they need to read the link to see why I posted it. Opinions mean nothing. Evidence does.

[Harrisfan]

1 minute ago, fredwiggy said:

No, they've said they don't bother to read links.

 

It is the same select few who always are arguing for the sake of arguing, trolling, and answer with a few words, baiting.

 

I give my girlfriend money to help her family. Paying for sex is quite different to most of us.

 

If you bothered to read all of a post instead of nitpicking or skimming, I've always explained my situation with all honesty and what happened, but some will refuse to believe the truth because they are the ones who assume.

 

Again, if you read all of a topic instead of coming in at the end or near the end, you would possibly understand why everything is said. When someone asks for evidence and I post a link, it's up to them to read the evidence posted so they can see what the truth might be. If they don't bother to read it, it' s not up to me to further post more evidence which they probably won't read either. If they want to discuss further, they need to read the link to see why I posted it. Opinions mean nothing. Evidence does.

You read books full of opinions. Even statistics are just opinions at one point in time. Like a political poll.

[fredwiggy]

6 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

He loves himself and is never wrong. Claims he knows a lot due to books. Well he should read a book on being more humble.

Practice what you preach. All of us know what you do here, and your one liners aren't convincing or helpful, unlike my written words, which again, come from knowledge on certain subjects or links that are evidence of same. How often are you here helping? Seems we all know that answer. Most of the people here post replies from knowledge they have, just as I do. No difference. Everyone knows a little about some things, and most have a lot of knowledge on certain subjects and little about others. Is that easy enough for you to understand?

[fredwiggy]

1 minute ago, Harrisfan said:

You read books full of opinions. Even statistics are just opinions at one point in time. Like a political poll.

No, I read books that are factual, with data and proven evidence. You, again, are assuming what I read without ever asking.

[Harrisfan]

Just now, fredwiggy said:

Practice what you preach. All of us know what you do here, and your one liners aren't convincing or helpful, unlike my written words, which again, come from knowledge on certain subjects or links that are evidence of same. How often are you here helping? Seems we all know that answer. Most of the people here post replies from knowledge they have, just as I do. No difference. Everyone knows a little about some things, and most have a lot of knowledge on certain subjects and little about others. Is that easy enough for you to understand?

You are wasting your life arguing nonsense and beyond help. So arrogant and full of yourself.

[Harrisfan]

Just now, fredwiggy said:

No, I read books that are factual, with data and proven evidence. You, again, are assuming what I read without ever asking.

You're full of crap. So called facts are often estimates and every decade the world changes a lot.

[Yellowtail]

1 minute ago, fredwiggy said:

No, I read books that are factual, with data and proven evidence. You, again, are assuming what I read without ever asking.

You claim that God said he wants them to love their neighbor, and they asked you to show them, would you just throw them a bible and tell them to read it? 

 

That's what posting a link is. If you want to post a link to support your position, you should cut and paste the portion if the article that supports your claim and then link to article.  

[fredwiggy]

8 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

You're full of crap. So called facts are often estimates and every decade the world changes a lot.

Assuming again. If you bothered to read instead of just arguing with people who have proven you wrong time and again, you would have more knowledge on things and respond in a more positive way. Facts are proven. That's why they're called facts. Hypotheses are another thing. They can change over time with more factual evidence applied. And if anyone's full of crapola, it's you.

[fredwiggy]

Just now, Yellowtail said:

You claim that God said he wants them to love their neighbor, and they asked you to show them, would you just throw them a bible and tell them to read it? 

 

That's what posting a link is. If you want to post a link to support your position, you should cut and paste the portion if the article that supports your claim and then link to article.  

Where did I claim that? That's what it says in scriptures. I do agree with the statement. If you want to see love, you show love. 

[fredwiggy]

2 minutes ago, Yellowtail said:

You claim that God said he wants them to love their neighbor, and they asked you to show them, would you just throw them a bible and tell them to read it? 

 

That's what posting a link is. If you want to post a link to support your position, you should cut and paste the portion if the article that supports your claim and then link to article.  

I have cut and pasted many times parts of links I posted, including here.

[fredwiggy]

11 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

You are wasting your life arguing nonsense and beyond help. So arrogant and full of yourself.

And again, you are posting your one liners trying to bait. That isn't just arrogance but very disturbed behavior. I don't argue nonsense but your arguments ARE nonsense.

[fredwiggy]

42 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

You know it all. 

No, but you know very little.

[Harrisfan]

2 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

And again, you are posting your one liners trying to bait. That isn't just arrogance but very disturbed behavior. I don't argue nonsense but your arguments ARE nonsense.

You need help. Federer is a high achiever yet 100x more humble.

[JakeC]

Let's take a look....

 

If you bothered to read all of a post instead of nit-picking or skimming, Assumption

 

I've always explained my situation with all honesty and what happened, but some will refuse to believe the truth because they are the ones who assume. It's not the truth, it's a perspective. An OPINION.

 

Again, if you read all of a topic instead of coming in at the end or near the end, you would possibly understand why everything is said. Assumption

 

It's only 'nit-picking' and 'skimming' when someone other than he is doing it.

 

Blind to his own faults. Prefers to attack the messenger. 

 

To conclude, if one is surrounded by their peers, they will quickly understand what behaviour is acceptable to other humans. One can only assume that this person has no real friends in close proximity. All that deep reading and research leaves little time for interactions with their peers, other than on AseanNow where they don't get on with anyone at all. Just an observation.

 

 

 

 

[Yellowtail]

2 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

I have cut and pasted many times parts of links I posted, including here.

No, you did not. Not for the 70% of girls molested, and not for the Santa question. 

 

And you seem to miss the part of: "That's what posting a link is. If you want to post a link to support your position, you should cut and paste the portion of the article that supports your claim and then link to article." that says: "...the portion of the article that supports your claim...".   

[Harrisfan]

1 minute ago, fredwiggy said:

No, but you know very little.

I know far more than you ever will. You're wasting your life arguing nonsense based on imperfect studies.

[Harrisfan]

6 minutes ago, JakeC said:

Let's take a look....

 

If you bothered to read all of a post instead of nit-picking or skimming, Assumption

 

I've always explained my situation with all honesty and what happened, but some will refuse to believe the truth because they are the ones who assume. It's not the truth, it's a perspective. An OPINION.

 

Again, if you read all of a topic instead of coming in at the end or near the end, you would possibly understand why everything is said. Assumption

 

It's only 'nit-picking' and 'skimming' when someone other than he is doing it.

 

Blind to his own faults. Prefers to attack the messenger. 

 

To conclude, if one is surrounded by their peers, they will quickly understand what behaviour is acceptable to other humans. One can only assume that this person has no real friends in close proximity. All that deep reading and research leaves little time for interactions with their peers, other than on AseanNow where they don't get on with anyone at all. Just an observation.

 

 

 

 

I see nobody likes him. 

[fredwiggy]

4 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

You need help. Federer is a high achiever yet 100x more humble.

No, you need help, but are too dense to understand just why. Defending my position isn't arrogance. Again, if things here are too complex for you to understand, better you stay out of most discussions. It's you and those other 5 or 6 that are always acting the same way here. And amusing to us that you always stick up for each other. Birds of a feather.

 

I get along with most everyone here. Yes, we butt heads and argue, but in a constructive manner, as they know more than I in some things and vice-versa. That you know very little shows and that you feel the need to argue about things you obviously know nothing about, also shows why you're here. Better you look at he definition of humble before you point it another way.