why always thai women pay at the cashier?

[SAFETY FIRST]

15 hours ago, Jack1988 said:

 boyfriend and girlfriend. Why is always the thai women that pays and not the thai man?

Early mornings when the bars close its common to see the young sexy gogo girl buying beers and smokes for Thai boyfriends in convenient stores from her hard earned money received from foreigner earlier that night. 

 

[Hummin]

14 hours ago, bkk6060 said:

I see a lot of expats gf or wife paying.

Obviously, they are giving the lady the money to pay probably due to their stupidity, financial incompetence or inability to add.  The same guys that brag their spouses handle all the financial management in their household which to me is the ultimate weak simp embarrassment.

Everything I transfer to Thailand my wife have access to. 

 

Simple ass that. What make you to judge others how we handle the financial daily life? 

 

She go marked, she go pays the electricity, she go big shopping twice a month without me. Why is that so strange? We are married right? She doesnt need a baby sitter, she is a responsible grown up woman.

 

 

[unblocktheplanet]

15 hours ago, Jack1988 said:

So, it's like that here in thailand? It's a part of the thai culture?😦

Thailand, in case you haven't noticed or only been here 15 minutes, is a matriarchal culture. Women rule the roost.

 

As for me, I don't even have a bank account and haven't seen a bill in 33 years. Good wife, good life...

[Moonlover]

1 hour ago, Jack1988 said:

People that comment negatively and nonsense,I think because they are married to a Thai women and give all money to her. No need to attack me just because I say the truth 😂

Nobody is attacking because you 'say the truth'. (although how you come to that conclusion is anyone's guess)

 

You are under attack because of your contemptuous attitude to how other people live their lives.

[ElwoodP]

Flame removed.

[Jack1988]

2 hours ago, Hummin said:

Everything I transfer to Thailand my wife have access to. 

So, she also knows your pin code? 🤣. I don't understand how these foreigners in Thailand can be so foolish. Just for an extension to be able to remain in Thailand. Lucky me I'm not into this trap 

[Hummin]

2 minutes ago, Jack1988 said:

So, she also knows your pin code? 🤣. I don't understand how these foreigners in Thailand can be so foolish. Just for an extension to be able to remain in Thailand. Lucky me I'm not into this trap 

 

What is it about marriage  you do not understand? 

 

Read my post again, the one you replied to.

 

 

[Jack1988]

6 minutes ago, Hummin said:

 

What is it about marriage  you do not understand? 

 

Read my post again, the one you replied to.

 

 

I have only understood that your Thai wife has access to your money and she pays everything using your money. I have never did that 

[Hummin]

3 minutes ago, Jack1988 said:

I have only understood that your Thai wife has access to your money and she pays everything using your money. I have never did that 

 

Then something wong with your marriage then.

 

Read again, you missing something essentially.

 

What I transfer she have access to here in Thailand. 

 

She have her own card on my bank account. Others have joint accounts. 

 

If you are married? Do you follow your wife around and control everything she buys? And what she do. Great marriage, if you at all manage to keep one

 

 

[KhunLA]

16 minutes ago, Jack1988 said:

I have only understood that your Thai wife has access to your money and she pays everything using your money. I have never did that 

OK, we get it.   You've never been in a relationship with someone you trust.   Then good to keep your finances separate.

 

Others, inclusive, simply wish to live a different lifestyle, more shared and trusting.  If I have to think about where, with who, buying what, or any why or what she is doing, then I really don't want to be with her.

 

Choose Wisely & Live with Your Choices  

 

To add ... we only use my finances, because I asked her to stop working.  Before living together, she used her money for herself, and even buying me birthday gifts.  Completely independent of my finances.

 

I guess if she worked, it would be slightly different, though not sure how, due to age difference.   I could l keel over any day, or decades away, so to avoid filling out FBAR form every year, or stuffing pillows at the house, (one is enough), then simply transfer most incoming to her account.

 

I don't want to crap out with a sh!t load of money in my account, that she has to pay death tax on to access.

[Upnotover]

Never mind who pays the cashier, who gets the change?  9 times out of 10 if I pay the bill in cash the cashier hands the change to the other half.

[josephbloggs]

18 hours ago, hotandsticky said:

You obviously didn't live in a north England town 80 years ago.

 

 

It was the norm for the husband to hand over his weekly pay packet. The wife would hand a small amount back so he could go out for a beer.

Still the same in many cases. My younger brother salary and his wife's salary go in to a joint account and she holds the purse strings. He gets a bit of money to go out now and again but everything is budgeted and controlled by his wife. 

I couldn't live like that personally but it works for them and they are happy. Plus they'll probably save way more than I ever have.........but I would say I have had more fun.

[mangkut70]

4 hours ago, KhunLA said:

It's not my money, simply because it goes to my bank account first.  It's 'our' money.  Same as 'our' house, land lots, car, MB, pedal bikes or anything else 'we' own.  ....

I totally agree. The idea of "yours" and "mine" changes, especially once you have kids. It's about building something together to pass on to them. Everything in Thailand is in her name, everything in the west in mine but IMO it does not really matter. Generally I do control the finances, which gives my wife an excellent excuse when there are expectations from her family. Every now and then, we naturally have discussions about certain expenditures. I've offered several times for her to take over all of it—the whole money-related package including tax filing, investing, booking holidays, insurances, planning, all the paper work etc. For whatever reason, so far she has always politely declined.😉

 

[Asean Tiger]

18 hours ago, Jeff the Chef said:

 

It was the same in North London where I grew up 65 years ago, the "old man" dropped his pay packet on the kitchen table and Mum sorted out the family finances.

How did he get the mum to perform her marital duty if she already had his money?

[Keeps]

I still prefer to use cash for the majority of day to day purchases. I normally have around 50k baht kicking around as ready cash.

 

Mrs knows where it is and when she goes shopping just goes to the 'pot' for what she needs plus a little extra just in case. When she comes back the change (if any) goes back where it came from.

 

Larger purchases we discuss and agree on a budget. We just spent over 50k baht on a new bed/mattress. She was happy with a cheaper one but I knew it wouldn't do my back any favours so I made the final call.

 

The bulk of the money is originally mine but I don't see it like that. We are a partnership so the money is ours. We trust each other and have never knowingly let each other down and that is good enough for me.

[richard_smith237]

Wife generally makes the payment with her card because I can’t be bothered dealing with that stuff…

 

We have two cards from the same Credit Card account that gets paid off in full every month. 
 

While our child is still young - she’s a stay at home mum - driver - chef - house master - gym freak etc…  & an amazing wife dedicated to her family.

 

 

Before children she had her career and money… what was hers was hers and mine was mine - we both had our own cars etc… now she has the house, the car… The dynamic changes after children…  a happy compromise for someone so doting & responsible…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Jack1988]

1 hour ago, KhunLA said:

You've never been in a relationship with someone you trust

I trust only myself, especially here in Thailand 

[Jack1988]

27 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

The dynamic changes after children… 

I'm single and I don't have children 

[Liverpool Lou]

20 hours ago, Jack1988 said:

I am talking about thai couples, married or just boyfriend and girlfriend. Why is always the thai women that pays and not the thai man?

That's just not true.

[Liverpool Lou]

19 hours ago, Jack1988 said:

So, it's like that here in thailand? It's a part of the thai culture?😦

No, and no.

[Jack1988]

People that are putting the finger down 👎 probably because they are married and give all money to their Thai wife 

[Liverpool Lou]

14 hours ago, hotandsticky said:

 

Excellent. We need more selfish b4stards like you............ Oh Wait..... no we don't.

Why is spending one's own money being a "selfish bastard"?

[connda]

20 hours ago, Jack1988 said:

I often see this thing when i am in thailand. I am talking about thai couples, married or just boyfriend and girlfriend. Why is always the thai women that pays and not the thai man? I read some thai stories online, the thai husband gets a salary but he must give it all to his wife, so she pay everything but with his husband's money 🤨😆. I feel like: you gotta be kidding me lol

The last time I checked, I'm not a Thai woman.  Nope - pasty white and I've got external equipment. 

[BLMFem]

11 minutes ago, Jack1988 said:

People that are putting the finger down 👎 probably because they are married and give all money to their Thai wife 

I get the sneaking feeling you have a deep fondness for balloons. Am I right?

[1FinickyOne]

Happy Jack wasn't old, but he was a man
He lived in the sand at the Isle of Man
The kids would all sing, he would take the wrong key
So they rode on his head on their furry donkey

 

Wow. We must be living in a world far far from home. It is traditionally a matriarchal society and

the ladies are more concerned with the needs of the family, and so, mostly they control the purse strings...

Go, drink your pint and wonder why... 

[BLMFem]

To the OP's question, these are my observations based on living in Thailand for a long time:

 

1. Yes, it's common in Thailand for the wife to handle the economy in the relationship, with the husband being given a stipend, pocket money, whatever you wanna call it. It's a cultural thing, and who are we to judge.

2. This is much less common among Farang/Thai couples, although some Farangs in long term relationships where trust is established gladly leave the paying of bills to their wives. As per point one the wives certainly don't mind.

3. Lots of farangs leave paying the bill in restos and bars to their Thai partner for several reasons;

- The Thais speak and read thai (duh). This has obvious benefits when dealing with a Thai waiter who, more often than not, presents a bill all written in Thai and speaks little to no English.

- Occasionally, when some unscrupulous Thais see farangs paying the bill some cashiers get "creative". Having the Thai pay the bill will in most cases prevent this.

- Some farangs are very "careful" with their money, and let their Thai partner pay the bill simple to avoid the embarrassment of leaving a 5 baht tip.

[Peter Crow]

I have a joint account with my wife, to which I make weekly transfer, weekly because some arse decided that foreigners couldn't make transfers larger than 50K. With that she makes most of the payments.

[Peter Crow]

2 minutes ago, BLMFem said:

Some farangs are very "careful" with their money, and let their Thai partner pay the bill simple to avoid the embarrassment of leaving a 5 baht tip.

Wifey is rather stingy, so in many instances when a young alluring waitress was a bit flirty I palm her a couple of hundred, better half always gets a bit aggravated, just a show probably, but the sex is always a bit wilder that night...

[Hummin]

33 minutes ago, BLMFem said:

To the OP's question, these are my observations based on living in Thailand for a long time:

 

1. Yes, it's common in Thailand for the wife to handle the economy in the relationship, with the husband being given a stipend, pocket money, whatever you wanna call it. It's a cultural thing, and who are we to judge.

2. This is much less common among Farang/Thai couples, although some Farangs in long term relationships where trust is established gladly leave the paying of bills to their wives. As per point one the wives certainly don't mind.

3. Lots of farangs leave paying the bill in restos and bars to their Thai partner for several reasons;

- The Thais speak and read thai (duh). This has obvious benefits when dealing with a Thai waiter who, more often than not, presents a bill all written in Thai and speaks little to no English.

- Occasionally, when some unscrupulous Thais see farangs paying the bill some cashiers get "creative". Having the Thai pay the bill will in most cases prevent this.

- Some farangs are very "careful" with their money, and let their Thai partner pay the bill simple to avoid the embarrassment of leaving a 5 baht tip.

Even the Vikings let their wives handle the household, farm and economy. Thats why the Vikings was successful. Lasted until Religion ruined everyone and  made women second class. 

 

The ironi 😁

 

Small men need  controlling everything 😉

 

I understand not everyone have the trust, or the right woman who actually are responsible enough to handle the economy, but from we where together, she have never proven herself wrong, or done anything stupid. 

 

First thing I gave her one of my credit cards if she needed something, and in 3 months asked for the total amount of 8k. 

 

If I was not sure about her, I wouldn't had married her. 

[BLMFem]

9 minutes ago, Peter Crow said:

Wifey is rather stingy, so in many instances when a young alluring waitress was a bit flirty I palm her a couple of hundred, better half always gets a bit aggravated, just a show probably, but the sex is always a bit wilder that night...

Respect!😄