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Can a Bar Girl Ever Really Understand Kind Generosity?

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2 hours ago, BritManToo said:

I doubt there's any woman that loves a guy she's been with for two years.

It's always the same after two years the sex stops.

 

That's when they need a talking to. 

 

Sex with a smile 2x a week 

 

Or 

 

You join adopt-a-gik program. Payment comes out of anything you leave behind for her and BTW no trips abroad. No monthly stipend - she works.

 

Or 

 

Divorce

 

 

Smart women choose #1

15 minutes ago, EVENKEEL said:

Pleasure to have you back Walker.


BINGO!  We have a winner!

 

A leopard never changes her spots.

 

He had another alias too.

For the record, I am perfectly fine with bar girls. Wish there were more fluttering about these days. Trouble now is they are older, tired looking, mercenary. Many are still good fun. I'm perfectly ok buying drinks for them just not 200b tea.

18 hours ago, Kyoto Kyle said:

Kindness gets taken fully for granted and becomes an expected obligation. Generosity starts to look less like caring and more like payment.

 

So you would describe yourself as "kind and generous"? Lol ... 

 

There's that popular saying "You can take a girl out of a bar but you can't take the bar out of the girl". It's obviously true in many cases but the real obstacle to a successfull long-term relationship or marriage is the fact that the worlds that most bar girls and westerners come from are so far apart (i.e. the farm girl from the village in Nakhon Nowhere and the guy from a western city like London/New York etc. but meet in the environment the foreigner recogizes and feels comfortable in), in reality, they might as well be on different planets... and have different rules/expectations/accepted norms/differing perceptions of human values/survival behaviours to all sorts of stuff. I'm not saying they are insurmountable differences, but many westerners do not give it proper consideration/critical thinking and inevitably take a gung-ho running jump into the abyss with a "devil may care" approach and the inherent issues that go along with it. Choices have consequences, I'm afraid. The woman you decide you be with long term here is one of the most crucial decisions you make in Thailand... and a pragmatic and realistic approach is recommended, even if you are only honest with yourself.

1 hour ago, ThreeCardMonte said:


You old timers are always jaded against anyone new.  Why is that?

 

 

Really, I hadn't noticed, but if you have, perhaps it's because of the reincarnations, eh...:whistling:

I mean, how long have you been on here to notice, is it 3 months......😂

2 hours ago, Cameroni said:

 

Of course they are lazy and want easy money. And yes they get it. But at what price? They know 80% percent of the population, excluding BritManToo mercifully, look down on them and ostracise them.

 

Thailand is not like the UK where Bonnie Blue can make 24 million GBP a year by doing gangbangs and many accept and admire her, in Thailand bar girls are very much viewed with disdain and disgust by most people.

I believe Bonnie Blue made her money on OnlyFans, which Thai women can do if they choose. Why feel bad for prostitutes? There's millions of broke single mothers working jobs like 7/11 and CJ and Makro and Hotels and all number of different things. No one forces these women into the bars to bang old nasty or mean men. Complaining that men look down on prostitutes is pointless, those women could go work at 7/11 if they care so much about what people think. They clearly don't care because they proudly brand themselves as bar ladies with giant tattoos.

 

9 hours ago, Kyoto Kyle said:

Years spent in the nightlife definitely changes people.

 

Try weeks, instead.

 

Can a Bar Girl Ever Really Understand Kind Generosity ?

 

Is this before or after you pay them for sexual gratification, in the mutually inclusive, predatory situation and setting in which you happen to meet ?

 

On average - no, not the kind a foreign male or female perceives or projects.

 

Pretty much like you would expect from a hooker anywhere - especially when stretch marked baggage, high expectation, limited education and a language barrier enters into the equation.

 

Even if they could understand it, the line of family, friends, relatives all joining the conga for the unlimited, all you can eat Western buffet probably wouldn't, nor allow them to.

 

The notable exceptions are few.

37 minutes ago, captain_shane said:

Why feel bad for prostitutes? There's millions of broke single mothers working jobs like 7/11 and CJ and Makro and Hotels and all number of different things. No one forces these women into the bars to bang old nasty or mean men. Complaining that men look down on prostitutes is pointless, those women could go work at 7/11 if they care so much about what people think. They clearly don't care because they proudly brand themselves as bar ladies with giant tattoos.

 

You may have a point here. I just view it as stupidity and circumstances that impel a woman to become a bar girl, I may be too generous, but when you see how they KNOW that they are not liked by anyone for selling their box to obese smelly men, you do feel kind of sorry for them. Maybe it's just me.

2 hours ago, Wingate said:

If I thought you had any money, I'd be happy to wager any sum you want.

 

Heck, I'd even spot you 100 lbs on the bench press at the gym, and I'd still crush whatever you can lift. In fact, pick two other MAGAnistas and I'll let you combine your PBs, and I'll still out lift you. I'm a totally natty guy, too.

 

I know MAGAs tend toward obesity and lack of muscular definition. They think imitation (of their messiah) is the sincerest form of flattery.

This thread is supposed to be discussing Thai prostitutes 

 

Nothing to do with Trump.

 

He likes Eastern European prostitutes 

1 hour ago, captain_shane said:

They clearly don't care because they proudly brand themselves as bar ladies with giant tattoos.

They are not the brightest.

50 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

 

You may have a point here. I just view it as stupidity and circumstances that impel a woman to become a bar girl, I may be too generous, but when you see how they KNOW that they are not liked by anyone for selling their box to obese smelly men, you do feel kind of sorry for them. Maybe it's just me.

Some of them are nymphomaniacs who love sex.

They are are often the ones that seek out Indians to run a train on them.

1 hour ago, transam said:

Really, I hadn't noticed, but if you have, perhaps it's because of the reincarnations, eh...:whistling:

I mean, how long have you been on here to notice, is it 3 months......😂

Fancy seeing you here on a bar prostitute thread.

At least you are consistent.

Just now, MalcolmB said:

They are not the brightest.

Hmmm, well, you could try a bit more upmarket venue to your usual hang-outs, eh.......🤗

Just now, MalcolmB said:

Fancy seeing you here on a bar prostitute thread.

At least you are consistent.

I read all your posts, what ever the subject........😉

2 hours ago, Sir Dude said:

There's that popular saying "You can take a girl out of a bar but you can't take the bar out of the girl". It's obviously true in many cases but the real obstacle to a successfull long-term relationship or marriage is the fact that the worlds that most bar girls and westerners come from are so far apart (i.e. the farm girl from the village in Nakhon Nowhere and the guy from a western city like London/New York etc. but meet in the environment the foreigner recogizes and feels comfortable in), in reality, they might as well be on different planets... and have different rules/expectations/accepted norms/differing perceptions of human values/survival behaviours to all sorts of stuff. I'm not saying they are insurmountable differences, but many westerners do not give it proper consideration/critical thinking and inevitably take a gung-ho running jump into the abyss with a "devil may care" approach and the inherent issues that go along with it. Choices have consequences, I'm afraid. The woman you decide you be with long term here is one of the most crucial decisions you make in Thailand... and a pragmatic and realistic approach is recommended, even if you are only honest with yourself.

I think for the vast majority of men who have married prostitutes they simply didn’t have the looks or money or personality to get anyone else.

Just now, transam said:

I read all your posts, what ever the subject........😉

Keep it up, you have a lot to learn.

I would have forgotten more about Thailand than you will ever know.

Just now, MalcolmB said:

I think for the vast majority of men who have married prostitutes they simply didn’t have the looks or money or personality to get anyone else.

Don't be too hard on yourself.........:sad:

Just now, MalcolmB said:

Keep it up, you have a lot to learn.

I would have forgotten more about Thailand than you will ever know.

I've also forgotten more than I ever knew!

Just now, MalcolmB said:

Keep it up, you have a lot to learn.

I would have forgotten more about Thailand than you will ever know.

I know, you have files from all your usernames, eh......:guitar:

2 hours ago, BarraMarra said:

Another member changing his identity, makes a post gets a few replies then disapears till next time and you fall for it all the Time.

Wondering how you know this?

2 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

I think for the vast majority of men who have married prostitutes they simply didn’t have the looks or money or personality to get anyone else.

What do I need in the way of looks/money/ personality to get a virgin spinner 40 years younger than myself?

OK, Prince Charles managed it, prince Andrew not so much!

Can suss them out Easily Malcolm if your a long termer. He is not the only one who does this on here.

6 hours ago, save the frogs said:

 

Yeah, but its all about Keeping Up With the Joneses. Married couples all go to social gatherings and compare to see which couple has the nicest house, car, fancy vacations. 

 

If you dont have a good salary, it will be hard to find a decent wife as women do not like to date down and are comparing themselves to what their friends are getting.

 

And there are endless things to spend money on, including lavish vacations. And if you don't have the coin, it will limit your options.

 

I've had some lean years where I was broke. I didn't even bother trying to find a girlfriend then. 

 

 

Good points all.

Breaking it way down...

Say you lost your income, your savings and investments, your property and had poor employment prospects....

The other guy countered that this was the idea of the unloved and loveless, let's see how lovable he would be if skint.

 

 

Not saying that transactional relationships are bad, nor do they exclude love as some seem to think.

But that is the largely the nature of male-female relationships.

 

 

1 minute ago, BritManToo said:

What do I need in the way of looks/money/ personality to get a virgin spinner 40 years younger than myself?

OK, Prince Charles managed it, prince Andrew not so much!

 

Camilla was a virgin? She doesn't look it, kudos King Charles.

11 minutes ago, transam said:

I know, you have files from all your usernames, eh......:guitar:

let he who has less than 45 official warnings cast the first stone!

1 minute ago, BritManToo said:

iMHO anyone with 45 official warnings should be banned.

If all in a year or two year, sure, and, a couple of names come to mind on here, too........🤭

11 hours ago, Kyoto Kyle said:

Years spent in the nightlife definitely changes people. When every smile, every touch, and every late-night conversation is tied to money, it’s hard not to see the rest of the world through that lens. Men become walking wallets. Kindness gets taken fully for granted and becomes an expected obligation. Generosity starts to look less like caring and more like payment.

 

So what happens when one of those women leaves the bar scene and settles down with a man who once sat on the other side of it with his wallet out? Does she ever learn to see his gestures as real acts of affection and caring, or is it always filtered through the old rules of the game? Some might believe the mindset never fades. Others assume people can reset, that love or stability changes the way you see things.

 

The reality is, there’s no clear answer. Some people will argue it’s impossible to shake off years of conditioning, others might say people are capable of change if they want it badly enough. Perhaps it depends less on the past and more on what kind of future both people are trying to pursue.

 

Or maybe it’s just one of those uncomfortable truths of the nightlife world, you can leave the bar, but the bar never fully leaves you.

 

I doubt that marriage ever made any woman more agreeable......nor any man.

 

The expats that I know who are married to ex-BGs seem to wear pretty much the same expression as any of the men I know that are married to "nice" English women.

 

I have yet to see an advertisement convincing enough for me to buy into official wedlock.

 

 

 

8 hours ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

Why have a bar girl when the west have so many ethical young woman available. 

 

I'm sure this girl understands kind generosity. 😂😂😂😂

 

 

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You believe everything you see on FaceBook?

 

Whatamugumustb.

 

 

 

 

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